Ever crushed it at work yet stared at the ceiling at 2 a.m., replaying what you couldn’t control? We dive into the hidden cost of over-ownership through a vivid story: a brilliant doctor who saves lives by day and battles insomnia by night. His turning point—and ours—starts with a deceptively simple idea: wisdom and discretion can make your sleep sweet, not because outcomes are guaranteed, but because responsibility is right-sized. We unpack how this shift reframes excellence. Rather than dialing down care, we turn it up where it counts—process, preparation, character, and clear decisions—while releasing what never belonged to us: other people’s choices, market whims, and life’s final outcomes. You’ll hear how a seasoned leader stopped micromanaging, invested in her team, and paradoxically became more effective with less anxiety. We ground these insights in practical moves: define your circle of control, codify “what good looks like,” close loops before bed, and build rhythms that convert worry into focused work. Across medicine, business, parenting, teaching, and creative work, the same pattern holds: influence is real; control is partial. When we align with that reality, we gain more than calm—we gain power that’s actually usable. The result is a lighter heart, clearer decisions, and rest that doesn’t depend on perfect outcomes. If you’re carrying burdens that were never yours, this conversation offers language, tools, and courage to set them down and still do your best work. If this resonates, follow the show, share it with a friend who needs better sleep, and leave a quick review so others can find it. Tell us: where will you trade control for focused influence this week? Support the show Genesis 5:2