Spill the Milk Breastfeeding Podcast

Nicki Davis
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Welcome to the Spill the Milk Podcast with Nicki Davis, BSN, RN, IBCLC — aka The Babywhisperer! With 20 years of helping moms and babies, I’m here to keep it real about breastfeeding, pumping, and everything in between. Expect expert tips, myth-busting, and plenty of laughs to make feeding your baby feel less overwhelming and a lot more doable. Grab your coffee (or pump parts) and let’s spill the milk together! 💛

  1. 3d ago

    Breastfeeding Moms Are Drowning in Information but Starving for Context

    Welcome to Season 2 of Spill the Milk. 🥛 And fair warning—you may notice I'm a little spicier this season. After more than 20 years of working with moms and babies, I've become pretty protective of you and your feeding goals. I'm not here to convince you to breastfeed. I'm here to help you understand what's happening, make informed decisions, and fight for the feeding experience you want. And sometimes that means I have a few things to say. 😉 We're starting Season 2 with something I see all the time: moms who are terrified they aren't making enough milk. We have more breastfeeding information available to us than ever before. We can track ounces, minutes, feeds, diapers, sleep, pump output, freezer stashes, weight, and just about everything else. Then we open social media and see another mom pumping eight ounces, a freezer overflowing with breast milk, or a baby following a picture-perfect feeding schedule. But here's the problem: You're seeing the data. You're not seeing the context. In this episode, we're talking about supply anxiety, pump output, unrealistic expectations, conflicting breastfeeding advice, social media comparison, and why one number—or one TikTok—cannot tell you the whole story of a breastfeeding relationship. Sometimes we need to stop staring at one feed, one pump session, or one number and zoom out. How is your baby doing?How are you doing?What does feeding look like over 24 hours?And is there actually evidence that something isn't working—or are you afraid because your experience doesn't look like what someone told you breastfeeding was supposed to look like? Your baby is an individual. So are you. Let's look at the whole picture. 🥛 Spill the Milk with Baby Whisperer NickiNicki Davis, RN, BSN, IBCLCHelping Families Feed with Confidence. 🌐 Visit Baby Whisperer Nicki: babywhisperernicki.com

  2. Jun 29

    Stop Saying this to Breastfeeding Moms

    What if some of the most common breastfeeding advice isn't helping moms at all? In this episode, we're talking about the things we need to stop telling breastfeeding mothers. From "feed 8–12 times a day" and "don't feed your baby to sleep," to "pump to see how much milk you have" and "just push through the pain," we're taking a closer look at where these messages come from, why they can be misleading, and what evidence and normal infant behavior actually tell us. We'll cover topics like: Feeding by the clock vs. feeding your babyWhy "full feeds" aren't as simple as they soundNormal night waking and cluster feedingWhy pump output doesn't measure your milk supplyThe problem with routine triple feedingPain during breastfeedingTongue tie referralsFeeding to sleepAnd more...My goal isn't to shame parents or healthcare providers—it's to replace fear and rigid rules with practical, evidence-based information that helps you better understand your baby and trust your instincts. Whether you're expecting your first baby, currently breastfeeding, or supporting a breastfeeding family, this episode will help you separate breastfeeding facts from breastfeeding myths. Connect with me:Find my breastfeeding classes, virtual consultations, podcast episodes, and resources here:https://linktr.ee/babywhisperer77 If you enjoyed this episode, please follow the podcast, leave a rating and review, and share it with another parent who could use evidence-based breastfeeding support.

  3. Mar 30

    Unfiltered & Raw: The Breastfeeding Advice I’m Calling B******t On Moms Aren’t Failing. The Advice Is.

    Moms Aren’t Failing. The Advice Is. Let’s be honest — a lot of breastfeeding advice out there is just plain wrong. In this unfiltered, no-sugarcoating episode, I’m calling out the most common advice that leaves moms overwhelmed, confused, and questioning their bodies. From “feed every 3 hours” to “your baby should only nurse for 20 minutes” — we’re breaking down what’s actually happening and why this kind of guidance sets moms up to struggle. After 20+ years as an IBCLC, I can tell you this with confidence:most moms aren’t failing breastfeeding — they were failed by the advice they were given. This episode is raw, honest, and yes… a little spicy.But it comes from one place: making sure moms get the truth and the support they deserve. If you’ve ever felt like breastfeeding “just didn’t work,” this one’s for you. You’re not broken.Your body didn’t fail.You probably just got bad advice. For all my breastfeeding help visit my website

  4. Mar 9

    Who told you that? Let’s Talk About the Advice Moms Never Question (But Should)

    New parents receive breastfeeding advice everywhere — from the hospital, family members, social media, and even well-meaning professionals. The problem? Much of that advice is given without anyone actually watching the baby feed. In this episode, Nicki Davis, RN, BSN, IBCLC, breaks down some of the most common breastfeeding advice parents hear and explains why so many of these rules create more stress than solutions. We talk about: Why pumping more isn’t always the answer The truth about babies “using you as a pacifier” Why pain during breastfeeding should never be ignored How weight checks without context can create unnecessary panic Why triple feeding is often suggested far too quickly Breastfeeding isn’t about rigid rules or watching the clock — it’s about understanding your baby, milk transfer, and feeding patterns. If you’ve ever followed advice and thought, “Why does breastfeeding suddenly feel harder?” this episode will help you understand why — and what actually matters instead. Visit my links below for more Consultations Website Virtual Events Find everything HERE

  5. Feb 3

    “Pumping Isn’t the First Step (Breastfeeding Is)”

    This episode is for pregnant moms who are already worried about pumping and returning to work. Let me be clear right from the start:There is nothing wrong with choosing to be an exclusive pumper from day one. That is a valid, intentional feeding choice. But this episode is specifically for those of you who plan to breastfeed and know pumping will eventually be part of your journey—most often because you’ll be returning to work. And let’s also clear this up: not everyone needs to pump.Pumping is a tool, not a requirement. In this episode, I break down why pumping works best when breastfeeding has a strong foundation first—and why trying to “prepare for pumping” without understanding breastfeeding often leads to unnecessary stress, disappointment, and confusion. We talk about: Why pumping struggles often start before pumping even begins How early breastfeeding sets your milk supply and pumping success Why breastfeeding education belongs in pregnancy Why pumping education makes more sense after baby arrives The order that actually supports working moms long-term If pumping has been weighing on your mind already, this episode will help you reset, refocus, and prepare in a way that actually supports your body and your goals. The Breast Start – Breastfeeding Class (During Pregnancy)👉 Click here Responsive Pumping Class (After Birth)👉 Click here 🌐 Website:👉 www.babywhisperernicki.com 🔗 Linktree:

  6. 12/22/2025

    Before You Hire a Lactation Consultant, Listen to This

    Not all lactation consultants practice the same—and choosing the wrong support can make breastfeeding feel harder than it ever needed to be. In this episode of Spill the Milk, I walk parents through the exact questions to ask when choosing a lactation consultant—before you’re exhausted, overwhelmed, or doubting yourself. We talk about credentials, experience, how many babies a consultant has actually seen, what ages they work with, how they teach latch, growth charts, timed feeds, triple feeding plans, tools like nipple shields, tongue-tie referrals, follow-up care, and the red flags that matter. This episode isn’t about finding “perfect” breastfeeding.It’s about finding evidence-based, compassionate support that works for you and your baby—without guilt, pressure, or burnout. If you’re pregnant, newly postpartum, pumping, combo feeding, or feeling unsure about the help you’re getting, this episode is for you. You don’t have to figure this out alone. 👉 Schedule a virtual lactation consultation:https://babywhisperernicki.janeapp.com/#/staff_member/019efff8-f422-7d71-ae15-bf7e92650066 Website: www.babywhisperernicki.com Instagram: @babywhisperer77 TikTok: @babywhisperer77 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@BabywhispererNicki Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/c/BabyWhisperer Linktree: https://linktr.ee/babywhisperer77

  7. 12/01/2025

    Your Milk Isn’t the Problem — The Advice Is.

    Are you feeling like your body is failing because breastfeeding isn’t going “how it’s supposed to”?In this episode, I’m breaking down the bad breastfeeding advice I’ve heard in my consultations this week — the kind of harmful, outdated nonsense that makes moms doubt themselves, sabotage their supply, and think their babies are “too much.” We’ll talk about: Why cluster feeding is not a sign your milk is low How “feed every 3 hours” advice wrecks breastfeeding and your sanity Why pain is a red flag, not a “toughen up” moment The truth about pumping, bottles, flange sizing, and “lazy” babies How moms are being failed by the system, not by their bodies If you’ve ever been told your milk isn’t enough, your baby eats too often, or you’re creating bad habits by responding to your baby… this one’s for you. You deserve real talk, evidence-based support, and zero shame. Work with me & stay connected: 🌐 Website: www.babywhisperernicki.com📧 Email: spillthemilklactation@gmail.com🔗 Linktree: https://linktr.ee/babywhisperer77🩺 Book a virtual consultation: https://calendly.com/d/cns4-cr4-2c6

  8. 11/24/2025

    “Why Am I Not Okay? Postpartum Depression & Anxiety with Linda Perry, PMHNP-BC, CNM”

    I’m Nicki Davis, RN, BSN, IBCLC — an International Board Certified Lactation Consultant with 20 years supporting breastfeeding families — and today we’re tackling something far too many new moms suffer through silently: postpartum depression and postpartum anxiety. Society tells moms to “enjoy every moment.” Meanwhile, inside, they’re overwhelmed, terrified, and ashamed to say they’re not okay. This episode is here to cut through that silence. I’m joined by Linda Perry, MSN, PMHNP-BC, CNM — a dual-certified Psychiatric-Mental Health Nurse Practitioner and Certified Nurse Midwife. Linda started her career delivering babies and later shifted into perinatal psychiatry when she saw firsthand how deeply mental health shapes recovery, bonding, and breastfeeding. Together, we break down: What postpartum depression and anxiety actually look like (not just what the brochures say) What causes postpartum mood changes — hormones, sleep loss, identity shift, trauma, birth interventions, unrealistic expectations, feeding pressure The question every mom asks: “Isn’t it safer to avoid medication while breastfeeding?” — and what the research actually says Which medications may be compatible with breastfeeding What else can help — therapy, lactation support, nervous-system support, sleep strategy, partner direction, and community How anxiety/depression can interfere with breastfeeding and why it is NOT a mom’s fault When postpartum depression becomes dangerous and what to do immediately One message Linda wants every struggling mom to hear before the episode ends — and it’s powerful We also talk honestly about three supplements Linda uses often — L-theanine, Lion’s Mane, and Lavela  — what the evidence says, where the gaps are, and why no supplement should replace real mental-health care when a mom is suffering. If you’re listening with a lump in your throat or tears in your eyes because this sounds like you — you are not broken. You deserve support just as much as your baby does. You don’t need to wait until it becomes unbearable to ask for help. 📌 Postpartum Support International (PSI) — 1-800-944-4773or text 800-944-4773Website: PostpartumSupportInternational.org 📌 National Maternal Mental Health Hotline (24/7) — 1-833-TLC-MAMA(1-833-852-6262) If you’re having thoughts of harming yourself or your baby, go to the nearest emergency department or call emergency services immediately. Your safety matters. 🌐 Website — www.SensiblePsychMeds.com📧 Email — Linda@SensiblePsychMeds.org📞 Phone — 862-453-9229🎥 TikTok — @SensiblePsychMeds / Linda Perry Psych NP📸 Instagram — Sensible Psych Meds | @lindaperrypsychnp 🎙 Podcast — Spill the Milk🌐 Website — www.babywhisperernicki.com📸 Instagram — @babywhisperer77🎥 TikTok — @babywhisperer77▶️ YouTube — https://www.youtube.com/@BabywhispererNicki💛 Patreon — https://www.patreon.com/c/BabyWhisperer🗓 Schedule a 1:1 lactation consultation:https://calendly.com/lactationhelp77/lactation-consult-new Support & Crisis ResourcesConnect with LindaConnect with Nicki (The Babywhisperer)

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Welcome to the Spill the Milk Podcast with Nicki Davis, BSN, RN, IBCLC — aka The Babywhisperer! With 20 years of helping moms and babies, I’m here to keep it real about breastfeeding, pumping, and everything in between. Expect expert tips, myth-busting, and plenty of laughs to make feeding your baby feel less overwhelming and a lot more doable. Grab your coffee (or pump parts) and let’s spill the milk together! 💛

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