I AM SELF-ISH

Will Wright
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I Am Self-ish: This podcast is your daily dose of inspiration and motivation, designed to remind you that prioritizing yourself isn’t selfish—it’s essential. Tune in to discover how putting yourself first can transform your life, empowering you to show up as your best self in every area. Whether you're looking for a spark of motivation or a fresh perspective, "I Am Self-ish" is here to help you reclaim your power and embrace the idea that you deserve to be at the top of your own priority list.

  1. 1d ago

    Turning Lead Into Gold The foundation of the E-R-D™ Framework

    Episode 81 – Turning Lead Into Gold Frank Mesa on Turning Pain Into Power with the E-R-D™ Framework-I Am Self-ish Podcast What if the hardest parts of your life did not have to become the rest of your life? In this episode, Will Wright sits down with Frank Mesa, author, leadership strategist, and creator of the E-R-D™ Framework, to explore how adversity can become a source of growth instead of a life sentence. Frank shares his story of growing up in Queens in a volatile immigrant household, becoming his mother's translator, and learning to survive environments shaped by violence, drugs, fear, and loss. He reflects on carrying a gun to school, the teacher who challenged him to choose a different path, and how education eventually helped him begin breaking destructive patterns. Frank went on to build a 31-year career with the New York State MTA, earning 11 promotions. But professional success did not mean every part of his life was thriving. He speaks candidly about three marriages, three divorces, heavy drinking, declining health, diabetes, and moments of deep despair. Those experiences became the foundation of the E-R-D™ Framework: Evolve, Revolve, Devolve. Frank explains how our choices either move us forward, keep us repeating familiar patterns, or pull us backward. He and Will discuss fear, emotional triggers, comfort zones, accountability, identity, and why awareness without the right tools does not always create change. At the center of the conversation is one powerful reminder: The next decision matters. Instead of trying to solve your entire life at once, pause and ask: “Is this choice helping me evolve, keeping me revolving, or causing me to devolve?” Frank Mesa is an author, leadership strategist, and creator of the E-R-D™ Framework. Drawing on more than three decades of executive leadership experience, his work focuses on self-leadership, behavioral patterns, intentional decision-making, accountability, and examining what he calls “the receipts on ourselves.” He is also the author of Alchemy: It’s As Easy As E-R-D, Turning Pain into Power and helps individuals and leaders recognize the patterns shaping their decisions so they can create better results in life and business. LinkedIn: Frank A. MesaInstagram: @frankmesaerdTikTok: @frankmesa_e_r_dFacebook: Frank MesaYouTube: Frank Mesa E-R-D™ Download Frank’s complimentary E-R-D™ Life Assessment Workbook, a 12-page self-assessment designed to help you identify where you are evolving, revolving, or devolving in your health, finances, relationships, and career. https://e-r-d.com/resources/erd-life-assessment-workbook Produced and Edited by Will Wright William WrightCertified Master PractitionerCareer & Leadership Coach📧 Will@iamself-ish.com📞 646-645-1509🌐 www.iamself-ish.com Be bold. Be SELF-ISH.Less stress, more choice.

  2. Aug 11

    Stop Pushing Through

    Episode 80 – Stop Pushing ThroughI Am Self-ish Podcast We are often taught that strength means pushing through. Push through the pain. Push through the grief. Push through the stress. Keep moving. Keep functioning. Do not let anything slow you down. But what happens when pushing through becomes the very thing keeping us from actually healing? In this episode of the I Am Self-ish podcast, Will Wright explores the difference between pushing through a difficult experience and actually going through it. Pushing through can sometimes be necessary. There are moments when life requires us to keep moving despite what we are feeling. The problem begins when pushing through becomes our only response. Will explains that pushing through often means using our energy to get past a feeling as quickly as possible. Going through something means staying present with the experience long enough to understand what it may be trying to show us. The difference is not speed. It is presence. When grief, sadness, stress, or emotional pain is repeatedly pushed aside, it does not always disappear. It can return later as anger, numbness, heaviness, resentment, exhaustion, or patterns we cannot seem to understand. Sometimes what we call strength is simply avoidance with better branding. Going through an experience does not mean becoming stuck in it. It means giving yourself permission to acknowledge what is happening before immediately trying to manage it, fix it, or convince yourself that you should be over it. Will encourages listeners to replace suppression with curiosity and begin asking: “What is this feeling trying to tell me?” Hard experiences often carry information. They can reveal what matters to us, what we need, what we value, where our boundaries have been crossed, and what truths we may have been avoiding. Real resilience is not simply the ability to keep moving. Real resilience is the ability to keep growing. The next time life gets difficult, instead of automatically asking yourself how quickly you can push through it, pause long enough to ask: “What is this trying to teach me?” You do not have to fix every feeling immediately. Sometimes the work is simply being willing to stay present long enough to hear what the experience has been trying to say. Produced and Edited by Will Wright William WrightCertified Master PractitionerCareer & Leadership Coach📧 Will@iamself-ish.com📞 646-645-1509🌐 www.iamself-ish.com Be bold. Be SELF-ISH.Less stress, more choice.

  3. Aug 4

    Stop The Stigma-A Mental Health Conversation

    Episode 79 – Stop the Stigma A Mental Health ConversationI Am Self-ish Podcast Mental health affects how we think, connect, make decisions, and move through the world, yet too many people still feel pressured to hide when they are struggling. In this episode of the I Am Self-ish podcast, Will Wright speaks openly about his experiences with depression, anxiety, and body dysmorphia. He reflects on the opportunities, joy, and connection that can be lost when mental health concerns are ignored, minimized, or treated as something to be ashamed of. Will also challenges the idea that good mental health means feeling happy all the time. Good mental health can look like allowing yourself to experience difficult emotions without being completely overtaken by them. It can mean maintaining honest relationships, asking for support, and showing up as yourself instead of constantly pretending to be okay. The conversation explores what can happen when mental health struggles remain unaddressed. Isolation, emotional overwhelm, harmful coping patterns, and staying in unhealthy environments can begin to feel normal. Over time, shame and silence can affect relationships, opportunities, and the way we see ourselves. Will examines how mental health stigma is often inherited through family, culture, and community. In many cases, silence began as a survival strategy. People were taught to remain strong, keep personal matters private, or depend on faith alone. While faith can be a powerful source of comfort and strength, Will emphasizes that faith, therapy, coaching, and medication do not have to exist in conflict with one another. Doing the inner work is not a sign that something is wrong with you. It is a commitment to understanding yourself, healing what has been carried, and creating more space to show up authentically for the people you love. Mental health care is also part of the legacy we leave behind. Material success matters, but so does teaching future generations that they are allowed to feel, speak honestly, ask for help, and receive support without shame. Stopping the stigma begins with the conversations we are willing to have. It begins by recognizing mental health as an essential part of caring for ourselves and choosing to live fully. If you or someone you know is experiencing a mental health crisis, call or text 988 to connect with the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. You can also speak with a licensed mental health professional or search for a provider through Psychology Today. Produced and Edited by Will Wright William WrightCertified Master PractitionerCareer & Leadership Coach📧 Will@iamself-ish.com📞 646-645-1509🌐 www.iamself-ish.com Be bold. Be SELF-ISH.Less stress, more choice.

  4. Jul 28

    I'm Still Here. The Story Behind My Purpose.

    Episode 78 – I'm Still Here.The Story Behind My Purpose I Am Self-ish Podcast This is one of the most personal episodes Will Wright has ever recorded. For years, listeners have heard Will talk about stress, self-trust, boundaries, and living intentionally. In this episode, he shares the experiences that shaped those conversations and the pain that nearly kept him from ever having them. Will opens up about his lifelong battle with depression, anxiety, body dysmorphia, and suicidal thoughts. He talks honestly about what it has been like to carry emotional pain while still trying to show up for other people, and why he believes vulnerability is one of the greatest acts of courage we can offer. He also reflects on rejection from the very communities he hoped to serve, the loneliness that followed, and the difficult process of finding purpose when it feels like no one is listening. Rather than allowing those experiences to define him, Will explains how they became the reason he continues coaching, speaking, and creating this podcast. This conversation is not about having all the answers or pretending that healing is a straight line. It is about choosing to keep going, even when life feels impossibly heavy. It is about recognizing that strength is often quiet, that asking for help is never weakness, and that surviving can become the beginning of something meaningful. If you've ever questioned your worth, wondered whether anyone would miss you, or felt exhausted from carrying emotional pain in silence, this episode is for you. Will closes with a reminder he believes everyone deserves to hear: You deserve to still be here. If you or someone you know is struggling, please don't carry it alone. Reach out to someone you trust, a licensed mental health professional, or your local crisis resources. Asking for help is a sign of courage, and support is available. Produced and Edited by Will Wright William WrightCertified Master PractitionerCareer &Leadership Coach 📧 Will@iamself-ish.com📞 646-645-1509🌐 www.iamself-ish.com Be bold. Be SELF-ISH.Less stress, more choice.

  5. Jul 21

    The Way I See It: You Woke Me Up!

    Episode 77 – The Way I See It: You Woke Me Up!I Am Self-ish Podcast In this episode of The Way I See It, Will Wright explores the moral questions at the heart of the movie Passengers. What begins as a science fiction love story quickly becomes a deeper conversation about loneliness, consent, choice, and the stories we tell ourselves to justify our actions. Will examines Jim's decision to wake Aurora from hibernation without her knowledge or permission, ultimately taking away the future she had chosen for herself. While the film presents the relationship as a love story, Will asks listeners to look beyond the romance and consider the ethical cost of that decision. The conversation explores how loneliness can influence judgment and how desperation can blur the line between what we need and what we have the right to take from someone else. Will reflects on the difference between loving someone and believing they owe us something simply because of our circumstances. Rather than portraying Jim as a villain, Will encourages listeners to recognize the complexity of being human. Good intentions do not erase harmful choices, and emotional pain does not justify removing another person's ability to choose. The discussion challenges us to think about how often we create stories that make our decisions easier to live with while overlooking their impact on others. At its core, this episode is about respecting autonomy. Love is not proven by possession or sacrifice. It is demonstrated by honoring another person's freedom, even when doing so is painful. This episode is an invitation to think differently about one of the most talked-about moments in modern science fiction and to ask a simple but powerful question: When does love stop being love and start becoming entitlement? Produced and Edited by Will Wright William WrightCertified Master PractitionerCareer & Leadership Coach📧 Will@iamself-ish.com📞 646-645-1509🌐 www.iamself-ish.com Be bold. Be SELF-ISH.Less stress, more choice.

  6. Jul 14

    Inside the Session: The Power of Honoring Your Needs

    Episode 76 – Inside the Session: The Power of Honoring Your Needs I Am Self-ish Podcast In this episode of the I Am Self-ish podcast, Will Wright takes listeners behind the scenes of a real coaching session to explore what can happen when we begin paying attention to our needs instead of automatically pushing them aside. The session focuses on a client named Mike, who had been practicing a simple exercise: after honoring a personal need, he would pause and notice what happened next. What he discovered was powerful. He could feel himself breathing differently. He noticed a release of stress and tension and began to recognize what his body had been trying to communicate all along. Will explores how these quiet moments of awareness can become the foundation for greater self-trust. Each time we recognize a need and respond to it intentionally, we make another deposit into our relationship with ourselves. Over time, those choices can influence how we set boundaries, make decisions, and show up in our relationships. The conversation also examines the difference between reacting to stress and becoming curious about what the stress may be telling us. Instead of immediately trying to fix or escape the feeling, we can begin asking what we actually need in that moment. At the heart of this session is a simple but important truth: honoring your needs is not about ignoring other people or making everything about yourself. It is about developing enough honesty and self-awareness to make choices that are healthier, clearer, and more intentional. Will leaves listeners with a question to reflect on: “What did this moment show me about my ability to respond to myself? Sometimes growth does not arrive through a dramatic breakthrough. Sometimes it begins with noticing that you can breathe a little easier because, this time, you listened to yourself. Produced and Edited by Will Wright William WrightCertified Master PractitionerCareer & Leadership Coach 📧 Will@iamself-ish.com📞 646-645-1509🌐 www.iamself-ish.com Be bold. Be SELF-ISH.Less stress, more choice.

  7. Jul 7

    Why Do We Do This?

    Episode 75 – Why Do We Do This?I Am Self-ish Podcast In this episode of the I Am Self-ish podcast, Will Wright explores one of the most important questions we can ask ourselves: Why do we continue doing things that once hurt us? The conversation examines how beliefs, traditions, and emotional patterns are often passed from one generation to the next without ever being questioned. Many of the rules we live by were inherited long before we had the opportunity to decide whether they truly reflected who we are. Over time, those beliefs become so familiar that they feel like truth, even when they create shame, guilt, fear, or control. Will reflects on how unhealed experiences can quietly shape the way we parent, communicate, and build relationships. He challenges listeners to consider whether they are passing down wisdom or simply repeating patterns that were handed to them. Children, he explains, are quick to recognize the difference between authenticity and contradiction, making it even more important to model the values we hope to teach. The episode also explores the grief that often comes with breaking generational cycles. Letting go of inherited beliefs is not about rejecting your family or your past. It is about creating enough awareness to choose what you want to carry forward and what no longer belongs in your life. At its core, this conversation is an invitation to pause before passing something on. Every belief, tradition, and expectation deserves to be examined. When we choose intentionally instead of automatically, we create the opportunity to leave our children something greater than inherited pain. We leave them the freedom to become themselves. Produced and Edited by Will Wright William WrightCertified Master PractitionerCareer & Leadership Coach📧 Will@iamself-ish.com📞 646-645-1509🌐 www.iamself-ish.com Be bold. Be SELF-ISH.Less stress, more choice.

  8. Jun 16

    Letting Your Guard Down

    Episode 74 –Letting Your Guard DownI Am Self-ish Podcast In this episode of the I Am Self-ish podcast, Will Wright opens the door to a real coaching conversation as part of the Inside the Session series. Through the story of one client, Will demonstrates how coaching often goes far beyond the problem someone brings into the room. What began as a conversation about stress quickly revealed something deeper. As Will listened beneath the words, a pattern emerged. The client had spent years protecting himself behind emotional armor, believing that staying guarded was the safest way to move through life. The stress he was experiencing was not the root issue. It was a symptom of something much deeper. Throughout the session, Will explores the connection between safety, vulnerability, and authenticity. He highlights how many people spend their lives trying to manage stress without ever addressing the fear that sits underneath it. By naming the client's "guard," Will helps make the invisible visible, creating awareness around a pattern that had quietly shaped relationships, emotions, and self-expression for years. The conversation shifts away from fixing stress and toward a more meaningful question: What do I want, need, and deserve? That simple question becomes an invitation to move beyond survival and toward emotional honesty. This episode is a powerful reminder that vulnerability is not weakness. It is courage. Real change begins when we stop hiding behind the versions of ourselves we created for protection and allow ourselves to be seen for who we truly are. At its core, this session is about letting your guard down long enough to discover that what you have been protecting may be the very thing keeping you stuck. Produced and Edited by Will WrightCreator of the I AM SELF-ISH Method 📧 will@iamself-ish.com 🌐 iamself-ish.com 📸 Instagram: @selfish.will 💼 linkedin.com/in/selfish-will Be bold. Be SELF-ISH.Less stress, more choice.

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I Am Self-ish: This podcast is your daily dose of inspiration and motivation, designed to remind you that prioritizing yourself isn’t selfish—it’s essential. Tune in to discover how putting yourself first can transform your life, empowering you to show up as your best self in every area. Whether you're looking for a spark of motivation or a fresh perspective, "I Am Self-ish" is here to help you reclaim your power and embrace the idea that you deserve to be at the top of your own priority list.

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  • Creator
    Will Wright
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    82
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Will Wright
  • Show Website
    I AM SELF-ISH

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