Parents & Teens Rising: Practical Tools for Raising Confident, Connected Teens

Jasmyne Chandler, Teen & Parent Coach and Rites of Passage Guide
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Welcome to Parents and Teens Rising, the podcast where we dive deep into the challenges and triumphs of raising teens and young adults in today’s world. Hosted by Teen and Parent coach Jasmyne Chandler, this show is all about empowering parents, teens, and young adults to step into confidence, connection, and courage.Through practical tools, real conversations, and inspiring stories, you’ll learn how to build stronger relationships, support your teen’s authenticity, and navigate everything from anxiety and self-esteem to purpose and independence.Whether your teen feels stuck, stressed, or simply different from the “norm,” this podcast will help you show up with more clarity, compassion, and confidence—while giving your teen the tools they need to rise.

  1. Aug 12

    Ep 50. How to Send Your Kid to College Without Losing Your Mind (or Your Money) with Shellee Howard

    In today's episode I'm joined by Shellee Howard, founder and CEO of College Ready, and named the 2026 Global Educational Consultant of the Year. Shellee is a two-time best-selling author, has been featured on Fox, NBC, CBS, and US News and World Report, and over the past 18 years she and her team have helped more than 3,000 families secure college acceptances, including 327 Ivy League placements and over $80 million in scholarships earned. She's also a mom of four whose own kids have graduated from schools ranging from Harvard to the University of Alabama, most of them debt free. This conversation was so illuminating for me, and honestly could not have come at a more perfect time as I navigate this exact process with my own kids. Here's what we cover: The story of how a painful conversation with a high school counselor turned Shellee into "the mom on a mission" who started College ReadyWhy getting into college and getting out without debt are actually two separate goals, and why families need a plan for bothThe number one thing colleges want to know about your teen, and why so many teens genuinely can't answer itWhy college should be thought of as a stepping stone to adulthood rather than the end goal, and how that reframe changes everythingWhy picking a major before picking a college (not after) can save families tens of thousands of dollarsThe four "buckets" of college money, including one of the most overlooked sources of fundingHow independent scholarships work, why kids as young as fourth grade can start applying, and how this strategy can help close the "gap" even after a student has already committed to a schoolWhat one step to take this week if you're feeling behind or overwhelmed about the college processThis episode is for any parent who wants to help their teen find their best-fit college and walk away with real scholarship money, without draining their own retirement to get there. Shellee Howard Links Free 30-Minute College Clarity Call a gift to listeners  www.collegereadyplan.info Free Resources — 7 tools you can use at no cost, including help finding your child's core values and calculating your student aid index www.collegereadyplan.com/resources Nonprofit: Empower Education www.empowereducation.world Books: How To Send Your Student To College Without Losing Your Mind or Your Money amazon.com/dp/1546749624 The College Admissions PLAN Simplified: A Busy Parent's P.L.A.N. to a Debt-Free Degree amazon.com/dp/B0DQ48NLLV Connect with Jasmyne: Instagram: @jasmyne.guidedpassages 🔗https://guided-passages.com/

    Ep 50. How to Send Your Kid to College Without Losing Your Mind (or Your Money) with Shellee Howard

  2. Aug 5

    Ep 49. Is Your High Achieving Teen Stressed and Anxious? Here's How to Help

    In today's episode I'm talking about something I see so often in my coaching work: high-achieving teens and young adults who aren't struggling with big mental health crises, but with the everyday juggle of holding themselves to an incredibly high bar. I love their drive and their goals, but so many of them are quietly overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed because they haven't yet learned how to manage everything on their plate. Here's what we cover: Why high-achieving teens can suffer significantly higher rates of anxiety, depression, and substance use than the national average, even when they look like they have it all togetherThe difference between perfectionist strivings and perfectionist concerns, and why it's the fear underneath the standards, not the standards themselves, that does the damageWhy failure isn't the opposite of success, it's the actual mechanism that gets your teen therePractical regulation tools for when your teen is spiraling, including naming the emotion and box breathingTangible systems like breaking big projects into smaller tasks, spreading work out, and building an organized space to reduce unnecessary stressWhy celebrating wins and shifting self-talk matters just as much as the achievement itselfThe two ways parents accidentally get support wrong (over-rescuing and under-supporting), and what "high expectations, high support" actually looks like insteadWhy sitting down with your teen to audit their commitments, and giving them permission to let some go, might be one of the most supportive things you can doThis episode is for any parent of a high-achieving teen who wants to help them go after their big goals in a way that's sustainable, confident, and doesn't come at the cost of their wellbeing. Connect with Jasmyne: Instagram: @jasmyne.guidedpassages 🔗https://guided-passages.com/ Schedule a Free Discovery Call Sources for this Episode:  The Washington Post, "Students in high-achieving schools are now named an 'at-risk' group, study says" — https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/2019/09/26/students-high-achieving-schools-are-now-named-an-at-risk-groupCarolina Journal, "The secrets of success: More sadness, anxiety in high achievers" (citing Luthar, Kumar, & Zillmer, American Psychologist) — https://www.carolinajournal.com/opinion/the-secrets-of-success-more-sadness-anxiety-in-high-achievers/Frontiers in Psychology, "Perfectionism and psychological well-being in adolescents with high intellectual abilities" — https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/psychology/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2025.1617755/fullOxJournal, "Striving to be the Best: The prevalence of perfectionism in young people and the impact on their achievement and well-being" — https://www.oxjournal.org/striving-to-be-the-best/PAR Blog, "Anxiety and High-Performing Teens: The Pressures of Perfectionism" — https://www.parinc.com/learning-center/par-blog/detail/content-hub/2024/11/12/anxiety-and-high-performing-teens--the-pressures-of-perfectionismAmerican Psychological Association, "Perfectionism and the high-stakes culture of success: The hidden toll on kids and parents" — https://www.apa.org/monitor/2024/10/antidote-achievement-culture

    Ep 49. Is Your High Achieving Teen Stressed and Anxious? Here's How to Help

  3. Jul 29

    Ep 48. How to Help Your Children Achieve Their Dreams with Margot Machol Bisnow

    In today's episode I'm joined by a very special guest, Margot Machol Bisnow, author of Raising an Entrepreneur: How to Help Your Children Achieve Their Dreams, 99 Stories from Families Who Did. Margot spent 20 years in government, including as an FTC commissioner, before turning her focus to raising fearless, creative, and resilient kids. Her own sons went on to found the band Magic Giant and the international Summit conference series, and her book is built on interviews with 70+ entrepreneurs and their parents. We had such a rich conversation about what it actually takes to help our teens find their passion and become the best version of themselves. Here's what we cover: What inspired Margot to write her book after hearing the same answer over and over from young entrepreneurs about who believed in themThe number one thing that showed up across every single family she interviewed, no matter how different their backgrounds wereWhy the specific passion almost never matters as much as the skills kids build by pursuing itThe two ways parents commonly get failure wrong, and what these families did insteadWhy letting go of our own expertise and agenda can actually be a gift to our kidsHow to support a child who hasn't found their passion yet, and what it looks like to really watch and let them exploreThis episode is for any parent who wants to help their teen find what lights them up, without getting in the way of the process. You can learn more about Margot and her book at her website: https://raisinganentrepreneur.com/ or connect with her on Instagram: @margotbisnow Connect with Jasmyne: Instagram: @jasmyne.guidedpassages 🔗https://guided-passages.com/ Schedule a Free Discovery Call

    Ep 48. How to Help Your Children Achieve Their Dreams with Margot Machol Bisnow

  4. Jul 22

    Ep 47. Parenting Pep Talk: Change the way you Think to Change the way you Feel

    In today's episode I'm coming to you fresh off the trail from our high school girls' wilderness rite of passage backpacking trip, and I'm still processing all the beauty and depth that came out of that week together. But today isn't a full recap, it's a pep talk. Because I think as parents we can get so deep in the everyday slog of parenting that we lose sight of how much control we actually have over how we're viewing our challenges, our teens, and our relationship with them. Here's what we cover: A quick behind-the-scenes glimpse into the wilderness trip and what it reaffirmed for me about this next generationWhy the way we view a challenging moment has a direct impact on how we experience it, and how we show up in itThe difference between labeling our kid and labeling their behavior, and why that distinction changes everythingWhy focusing on what's going wrong tends to bring us more of what's going wrongHow to create a calm inner landscape by separating your teen's experience from your ownA reminder that this is one of the hardest jobs you'll ever do, and why giving yourself grace matters just as much as anything you do for your teenPlus, a simple reset for parents who are feeling off track: Notice the thoughts you're thinking, and question the ones that aren't serving you or the relationshipLook for the small sparks of good, the little laugh, the little hug, and let those count for somethingRemember your teen's struggles don't define who they areMake space for connection, even in small everyday waysThis episode is for any parent who's feeling the weight of the everyday moments and needs a reminder to reset, refocus, and remember they're doing better than they think. 🔗https://guided-passages.com/ Connect with Jasmyne: Instagram: @jasmyne.guidedpassages Schedule a Free Discovery Call

    Ep 47. Parenting Pep Talk: Change the way you Think to Change the way you Feel

  5. Jul 15

    Ep 46. Your Teen Broke the Rules, Now What?

    In today's episode I'm talking about how to rebuild trust after your teen breaks a rule, lies, or does something that damages the trust between you. These steps can also be beneficial when the situation is reversed and you're the one working to repair trust with your teen. Here's what we cover: Why punishment alone teaches kids to avoid getting caught instead of teaching them to understand impactHow restorative justice offers a different path, one that holds your teen accountable without shutting down the relationshipThe real difference between shame and accountability, and why that distinction changes everythingPlus, I walk you through five steps to help your teen rebuild trust after a misstep in a way that actually creates change instead of just delaying the next incident: Create safety before you address what happenedUnderstand what need was underneath the behaviorName the impact honestlyCo-create the repair plan togetherFollow through and revisit itThis episode is for any parent standing in that uncomfortable place after trust has taken a hit, wondering how to move forward in a way that actually builds something stronger on the other side. https://guided-passages.com/ Connect with me on Instagram: @jasmyne.guidedpassages

    Ep 46. Your Teen Broke the Rules, Now What?

  6. Jul 8

    Ep 45. 5 Steps to Decode What Your Teen's Behavior Is Actually Communicating

    In today's episode I'm talking about something that comes up in nearly every single coaching call I have with parents: understanding what's actually going on beneath your teen's outward behavior. I get into why the slammed door, the "I'm fine" that clearly isn't, and the out-of-nowhere snap at dinner are never really about what they seem to be about, and why treating them as the whole problem keeps parents stuck in the same fight over and over. Here's what we cover: Why behavior is never the whole story, it's a message, and what your teen's nervous system might actually be trying to tell youThe all-too-common scenario of a teen who snaps at the same time every day after school, and what's really happening underneath itWhy the parent often becomes "the safest place to fall apart" and how that reframes the whole dynamicPlus, I walk you through five steps to help you decode what's actually being communicated so you can respond to the real thing instead of just the surface: Pause before you react to the behavior itselfAsk what need isn't getting met in that momentLook for the pattern, not just the momentGet curious instead of correctiveRespond to the need instead of just the behaviorThis episode is for any parent who's ever been thrown off by their teen's behavior and wanted a way back to connection instead of another power struggle. Connect with me on Instagram: @jasmyne.guidedpassages

    Ep 45. 5 Steps to Decode What Your Teen's Behavior Is Actually Communicating

  7. Jul 1

    Ep 44. Inside a Teen Rites of Passage Trip: 6 Truths About Who Teenagers Really Are

    In today's episode I'm taking you behind the scenes of our first wilderness rite of passage trip of the summer, a five day backpacking journey into the backcountry with a group of ten middle schoolers. I just got back last week and I'm still processing everything that happened out there, but I couldn't wait to come on and share it with you while it's all still fresh. Here's what we cover: The full story of our time on the trail, including the challenges, the breakthroughs, and the moments that left the guides in tearsHow asking for help became the unexpected theme of the entire tripWhat happened during solo time and the powerful ritual that followedThe appreciation circle that cracked every single heart wide openThe welcome home ceremony with parents that brought it all full circlePlus, I break down six myths about teenagers that got completely shattered out there: That teens can't or won't go deepThat they need constant stimulation and can't handle stillnessThat their social lives are all about image and performanceThat they're too proud or self-conscious to ask for helpThat they're entitled or checked outThat they resist ritual and being witnessed by the adults in their livesThis episode is for any parent who has ever wondered what their teenager is really capable of when they're given the right container. Register by Friday the 3rd for the last spot in our High School Girls Rite of Passage Trip into the Marble Mountains (We hit the trail on July 8th!): https://youth.guided-passages.com/high-school-girls-wilderness-quest Connect with me on Instagram: @jasmyne.guidedpassages

    Ep 44. Inside a Teen Rites of Passage Trip: 6 Truths About Who Teenagers Really Are

  8. Jun 17

    Ep 43. The Science of Confidence: How Thoughts Create Results for You and Your Teen

    In this episode, I explore how our thoughts shape our emotions, behaviors, and ultimately the results we create in our lives. Drawing from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), neuroscience, and real-life examples, I share practical tools that parents and teens can use to break free from negative thought patterns, build confidence, reduce anxiety, and create a more empowered mindset. Whether you're parenting a teenager, coaching young people, or working through your own challenges, this episode will help you understand how changing your thoughts can transform the way you experience life. What You'll Walk Away With: What Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is and why it's so effective  The TEB Cycle: How Thoughts → Emotions → Behaviors → Results  How neuroplasticity allows the brain to rewire itself through intentional thinking  Why teenagers have a unique advantage when it comes to mindset development  Lessons from Olympic champion Eileen Gu on mental performance and self-belief  Common thinking traps that fuel anxiety, low confidence, and a lack of motivation  Practical thought replacements that help teens feel more capable and resilient  How parents' thought patterns directly impact their relationships with their teens  The role of the Reticular Activating System (RAS) in shaping what we notice and focus on  Why mindset work is a daily practice, not a one-time fixMemorable Quote "You can control how you think, and therefore you can control who you are." — Eileen Gu Resources Mentioned  Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)  Aaron Beck's work on cognitive therapy  Byron Katie's "The Work"  Episode 10: 5-Minute Guided Meditation for Teens and ParentsIf this episode resonated with you, please share it with another parent, educator, or teen who could benefit from these tools. Every conversation about mindset helps create stronger, more resilient young people. Ready to Help Your Teen Build Confidence, Purpose, and Resilience? If you're looking for deeper support beyond the podcast, I offer coaching, programs, and transformative wilderness experiences designed to help teens develop confidence, self-awareness, leadership skills, and a stronger sense of purpose. Explore available programs and resources, and take the next step toward helping your teen thrive. 🔗https://guided-passages.com/ Connect with Jasmyne: Instagram: @jasmyne.guidedpassages

    Ep 43. The Science of Confidence: How Thoughts Create Results for You and Your Teen
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Welcome to Parents and Teens Rising, the podcast where we dive deep into the challenges and triumphs of raising teens and young adults in today’s world. Hosted by Teen and Parent coach Jasmyne Chandler, this show is all about empowering parents, teens, and young adults to step into confidence, connection, and courage.Through practical tools, real conversations, and inspiring stories, you’ll learn how to build stronger relationships, support your teen’s authenticity, and navigate everything from anxiety and self-esteem to purpose and independence.Whether your teen feels stuck, stressed, or simply different from the “norm,” this podcast will help you show up with more clarity, compassion, and confidence—while giving your teen the tools they need to rise.

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