Mothers, Lies and DNA Surprises

Stacy Porter

Welcome, I’m Stacy, the host of Mothers, Lies & DNA Surprises podcast, where we will discuss our relationships with our mothers including how they were growing up, leading up to our discovery, during our discovery and since learning our truths. We will have unfiltered conversations about our struggles with our mothers and dive into how we’ve uncovered who we are after her lies! Thank you for being here, you are not alone! I am an NPE, actually a double NPE, which means Not Parent Expected or Non Paternity Event.  I found out that the man listed on my birth certificate isn’t my biological father, twice.  For many of us we learn through at home DNA tests, others hear rumors of family secrets and confirm through a DNA test.   Within the community of DNA Surprises there are thousands of NPEs, Late Discovery Adoptees (LDAs) and Donor Conceived People (DCPs) learning their truths.  The ongoing thing I hear is how many of us had struggles with our mothers most of our lives, while others had struggles since discovery.  For a number of people learning our truths answered so many questions and for others it opened up so many wounds, unanswered questions or left them feeling so alone.  After finding the large community of others who have gone through this the common struggle I hear from so many is the relationship with our mothers.   I wanted to create a space where we can share the struggles we have with our mothers, helping others to know they are not alone and supporting each other. For some this is the first time they are sharing their stories and for others we’ve shared our stories but now are ready to discuss the relationships with our mothers more in depth. Thank you for joining us and for supporting this community!

  1. 3D AGO

    Colleen's NPE Story

    Send us a text Hello, I’m Stacy, the host of Mothers, Lies and DNA Surprises Podcast. Thank you for being here.  Today I am sharing Colleen’s story!    Colleen will share how, from a very young age, that she noticed she didn’t look like anyone in her family and even said she thought she was switched at birth.  We hear this often, that from a  young age so many NPEs noticed something was off, of course we couldn’t have known what secrets were being kept from us but proves that it does make a difference, even to young children.  Here is a trigger warning-Colleen will mention date rape as part of her story, please proceed with caution if this is a trigger for you.   Colleen’s story includes an initial connection with a ½ sister and from this ½ sister she learns about their father but later learns she has discovered another NPE. As Colleen discusses her relationship with her mother she will also talk about setting boundaries and no longer allowing things to be swept under the rug anymore. For anyone who knows me you know that forgiveness in a difficult topic for me but Colleen speaks so nicely about forgiveness & releasing, surrounding herself with people she can be vulnerable with and we also talk about how being vulnerable helps build connections both within the DNA surprise community as well as with others in our lives.  Colleen is open to connecting via email as well as calling or texting her, if you would like to connect with Colleen by phone or text please email me at mothersliesanddnasurprises@gmail.com and I will be happy to give you her number. Thank again Colleen for sharing your story for the first time with us! Music is "Drown in your Lies" by NoxAwake via Pixabay

    1h 12m
  2. JAN 6

    Elizabeth's NPE Story

    Send us a text Hello, I’m Stacy, the host of Mothers, Lies and DNA Surprises Podcast. Thank you for being here.  Today I am sharing Elizabeth’s story and our conversation!   You will hear Elizabeth share how she always felt different and even asked “why am I so different”.  Through my journey and I’m sure so many of us NPE’s have we hear so many times how different so many felt as children, these feelings are real, unexplainable and is proof that even as very young children we understand what I call the nature vs nurture maybe. Elizabeth’s story has an origin story that may be hard to hear for some as well as abuse, so here is a trigger warning for everyone.  She shares in a very respectful way though. Elizabeth also shares how she is taking care of herself and what outlets she is using to help not only herself but also others.  She is working on a long journey of writing her memoir and wanting to give back to the community. If you are looking for another great resource she is offering a free virtual post-holiday trauma-informed Yoga Nidra Sunday January 11th for the DNA surprise community.  You can find and sign up for this free event on her website: VIPYoga-noco.com under the events page:  https://www.vipyoga-noco.com/general-9 Email: ekvipyoga@gmail.com Elizabeth's 3 part interview on DNA Surprises Podcast with Alexis Hourselt: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/elizabeths-dna-surprise-part-1/id1598395367?i=1000708323476 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/elizabeths-dna-surprise-part-2/id1598395367?i=1000708323594 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/elizabeths-dna-surprise-part-3/id1598395367?i=1000706627656 Thank you Elizabeth for your vulnerability, honesty and for sharing your story with us! Music is "Drown in your Lies" by NoxAwake via Pixabay

    1h 39m
  3. 12/23/2025

    Lily's Story-Host of the NPE Stories Podcast

    Send us a text Hello, I’m Stacy, the host of Mothers, Lies and DNA Surprises Podcast.  Thank you for being here.  Today I am sharing Lily’s story and our conversation!  Lily is the host of the NPE Stories podcast and I am honored to have had this time with Lily!  Lily’s honest conversation about what her relationship was like with her mother leading up to her discovery and how it has been since is something that hit home personally while also showing Lily’s strength, growth and how she used that to do better for herself and her family! Another thing that I found interesting was hearing Lily talk about not only the emotional toll this takes on us but also how our bodies feel, hold on to past emotions and continue to feel those traumas. Lily gives some great advice on taking care of your own mental health and wellbeing, and giving yourself permission to focus inward.  If you haven’t already make sure you find and follow Lily’s podcast, NPE Stories.  Lily will be sharing my conversation with her on her podcast this week also! Thank you Lily for your vulnerability, honesty and for sharing your story with us! Links to additional information regarding Lily's interviews as well as resources: Lily's Podcast:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/npe-stories/id1464478802 NPE Stories - Lily's Story:   https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lilys-story/id1464478802?i=1000464979607 The Secret In My DNA - Lily's Story:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/episode-11-a-sounding-board-lilys-story/id1545020186?i=1000550662444 DNA Surprises - Lily's Story:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lilys-dna-surprise/id1598395367?i=1000632441313 Everything's Relative with Eve Sturges - Lily's Story:   https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lily-wood-npe-stories-special-crossover-episode/id1459167540?i=1000500770908 Missing Pieces - NPE Life - Lily is interviewed along with 3 other pillars within the community:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/4-pillars-4-women-answer-4-questions/id1621877452?i=1000565074218 Missing Pieces - NPE Life - Lily interviews Don Anderson's wife and Don interviews Lily's Husband:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-spouses-speak/id1621877452?i=1000598569890 The Reverend & The Reprobate:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dna-tests-family-trees-and-npe-stories-the-lily/id1525591938?i=1000568331336 Email:            npestories@gmail.com Instagram:     npestories Facebook:     NPE Stories Additional Facebook groups:  Hiraeth Hope & Healing or Togetherness Heals-NPE Only Website: https://www.hiraethhopeandhealing.com/

    1h 2m
  4. 12/02/2025

    Rebecca's Story Part 2

    Send us a text Hello, I’m Stacy, the host of Mothers, Lies and DNA Surprises Podcast. Thank you for being here.  Today I am sharing part two of Rebecca’s story and the rest of our conversation!   As Rebecca’s story continues, she shares that first phone call with her raised father after he was told the truth about Rebecca’s paternity.  Rebecca talks about getting her control back after conforming her whole life for her mother. How she decided to do better than her mother at any cost, she wants to be a better human. The one thing I thought while I listened to Rebecca talk about her interaction with her raised mother and father is that it is like standing up to a bully really. They are manipulators that we’ve always had in our lives.  She will also share how therapy is invaluable. We talk about the grief of losing somebody that is still alive, which is very powerful to say that out loud. Those of us with our Mothers still alive ask ourselves “how will I feel when I get the call that my mother died?  Each of us have to answer this question for ourselves, Rebecca has a great perspective on this. She wants others to know that you can come out the other side. That it’s ok to grieve the mother you never had. As a bonus you will hear one of her pups interject during our interview. Thank again Rebecca for sharing your story and for everyone who is here and knowing that we are not alone!  If you would like to connect with Rebecca you can find her on Facebook at Rebecca Neale or you can email me at mothersliesanddnasurprises@gmail.com. Music is "Drown in your Lies" by NoxAwake via Pixabay

    1h 4m
  5. 11/18/2025

    Rebecca's Story Part 1

    Send us a text Hello, I’m Stacy, the host of Mothers, Lies and DNA Surprises Podcast. Thank you for being here.  Today I am sharing part one of Rebecca’s story and our conversation!   As you will hear in her story there is conversation about mental health and some struggles she had and that I hear from so many NPEs so as a trigger warning if you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis there is free, confidential help available 24/7 by calling or texting 988 or chatting on line at 988lifeline.org.   Rebecca is going to speak openly and honestly about her relationship with her mother that she had with her for her entire life.  How she has always committed to protecting her own children and to do better and to be a better mother. She will also share how she felt like she was living 2 lives-therapy/work and still continuing her weekly phone calls with her mother.   Rebecca has learned a lot about herself and her mother through this journey and through therapy.  The control, the manipulation, realizing that she was trauma bonded with her mother and finally she talks about getting her control back!! So thank you Rebecca for sharing your story and for everyone who is here and knowing we are not alone! If you would like to share your story please email me at mothersliesanddnasurprises@gmail.com. You can share anonymously if you prefer. I would love to hear from you with any questions, comments, feedback or show ideas. Also, please follow, leave a review or join the private on Facebook Page at Mothers, Lies and DNA Surprises Podcast. Thank you for being here with us, where we are not alone in our struggles with our mothers. Music is "Drown in your Lies" by NoxAwake via Pixabay

    1h 2m
  6. 11/04/2025

    Beth's Story

    Send us a text Hello, I’m Stacy, the host of Mothers, Lies and DNA Surprises Podcast. Thank you for being here.  Today I am sharing Beth’s story and our conversation!   Beth will share how dark her emotions got early in her discovery so this is a trigger warning for anyone who struggles with depression, suicidal thoughts or mental health  If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis there is free, confidential help available 24/7 by calling or texting 988 or chatting on line at 988lifeline.org.   As Beth shares, and so many I hear from, her Mother held her to a higher standard throughout her life and while growing up her mother would preach not to lie or else, yet those same mothers held the biggest lie! Beth will share that it wasn’t the affair that hurt, it’s the lifetime of lying about who her father was.  These secrets protects them, not us, the children, the innocent children. Beth has lived her life putting herself in other people’s shoes and she can’t make this ok, she is stuck.  Working towards moving forward and forgiving but she’s not there yet. Beth gave some great advice in our conversation, she talks about allowing yourself the “whoa is me days”, room to cry, grieve, ask for help and so importantly giving yourself permission to say “NO”. Thank you Beth for your vulnerability, honesty and for sharing your story with us! If you would like to reach out to Beth email me at mothersliesanddnasurprises@gmail.com and put Beth's Story in the subject line and I will share your message with her.  Thank you! Music is "Drown in your Lies" by NoxAwake via Pixabay

    1h 37m
  7. 10/21/2025

    Jenny's Story

    Send us a text Hello, I’m Stacy, the host of Mothers, Lies and DNA Surprises Podcast. Thank you for being here.   Today I am sharing my conversation with Jenny regarding her story!  First I want to share a few trigger warnings with Jenny’s conversation, part of her story includes childhood sexual abuse and mental health struggles.  If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis there is free, confidential help available 24/7 by calling or texting 988 or chatting on line at 988lifeline.org.  There is also 24/7 support available through the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 800-656-HOPE or text Hope to 64673. Jenny had a feeling of being different as a child, rough childhood and as I can relate to she always daydreamed about a better life.  As a teenager she actually confronted her mother about her father.  She was really close with her mother during this time, trusting that her mother would never lie about her paternity. Once she married and moved away from her childhood environment and started her family she realized the toxicity within her raised family.   As you will hear in her story when she went no contact, broke that no contact to try and get answers and then back to no contact for her mental health.  Jenny is very honest about her mental health struggles during her NPE discovery and the work she’s done. She will tell us about where she is with her new paternal family.  Thank you Jenny for being very vulnerable, honest and for sharing your story with us! Jenny Lynn links: Email: thejenbuehler@gmail.com Music is "Drown in your Lies" by NoxAwake via Pixabay

    1h 2m

Ratings & Reviews

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About

Welcome, I’m Stacy, the host of Mothers, Lies & DNA Surprises podcast, where we will discuss our relationships with our mothers including how they were growing up, leading up to our discovery, during our discovery and since learning our truths. We will have unfiltered conversations about our struggles with our mothers and dive into how we’ve uncovered who we are after her lies! Thank you for being here, you are not alone! I am an NPE, actually a double NPE, which means Not Parent Expected or Non Paternity Event.  I found out that the man listed on my birth certificate isn’t my biological father, twice.  For many of us we learn through at home DNA tests, others hear rumors of family secrets and confirm through a DNA test.   Within the community of DNA Surprises there are thousands of NPEs, Late Discovery Adoptees (LDAs) and Donor Conceived People (DCPs) learning their truths.  The ongoing thing I hear is how many of us had struggles with our mothers most of our lives, while others had struggles since discovery.  For a number of people learning our truths answered so many questions and for others it opened up so many wounds, unanswered questions or left them feeling so alone.  After finding the large community of others who have gone through this the common struggle I hear from so many is the relationship with our mothers.   I wanted to create a space where we can share the struggles we have with our mothers, helping others to know they are not alone and supporting each other. For some this is the first time they are sharing their stories and for others we’ve shared our stories but now are ready to discuss the relationships with our mothers more in depth. Thank you for joining us and for supporting this community!

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