The Fathers Guild

Pat Barber

A deep dive into the beautiful chaos of fatherhood. Fatherhood. It’s the one job that doesn’t come with a manual, but also comes with 10,000 opinions. we’re tring to cut through the noise with real talk, goods laughs, and the occasional “oh man, same” moment. Each episode, we dive into the beautifully messy world of being a dad. Along the way, we bring in guests. guys who are in, or have been in the trenches, learning, failing, and winning just like the rest of us. This isn’t a lecture series. It’s a series of conversations. The kind you’d have around a backyard fire pit with a cold beer in hand. It’s honest, unfiltered, and full of those “I thought I was the only one!” stories. If you’re a dad (or just curious about what makes dads tick), consider this a dose of encouragement, humor, and a run back of real-life applications. Fatherhood is challenging. It might be exhausting, but it’s also the best thing you’ll ever do.

  1. 6d ago

    How to Become a Bigger Influence in Your Kids’ Lives? | Podcast with lamont lomax

    In this episode, Lamont Lomax, known as Real Dope Daddy, shares his journey as a father, his perspectives on relationships, masculinity, and social media's impact on modern life. We explore his experiences raising three children with three different women, his views on possessiveness, curiosity, and personal growth. Keywords fatherhood, masculinity, relationships, social media, personal growth, father, single dad, social media boundaries, maturity, curiosity Key  topics Lamont's journey as a single father of three His perspective on possessiveness and boundaries in relationships The role of social media in shaping perceptions and behaviors The importance of curiosity and self-awareness in growth His views on maturity and evolving from a 'player' to a leader Sound bites "As long as it's in a safe way, I think possessiveness is okay" "Social media can swing an election or build a business" "Be curious, ask questions, and don't jump to conclusions" Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Lamont Lomax and his background 02:02 Lamont's journey as a single father of three children 05:02 His perspective on relationships and possessiveness 10:00 The impact of social media on perceptions of love and loyalty 15:03 Personal growth and maturity from a 'player' to a leader 19:55 The importance of curiosity and asking questions 24:49 His views on social media boundaries and respect in relationships 29:47 The role of ownership and possessiveness in love 35:00 His message to young men about responsibility and growth 39:59 The influence of culture and upbringing on his worldview 44:55 Final thoughts on curiosity, growth, and social media

  2. Oct 16

    The Difference Between Controlling Your Child and Teaching Them | Podcast with Brennan Falks

    In this episode, Pat Barber and Brennan Fawkes explore the principles of personal growth, biblical lifestyle, and effective parenting. They discuss how to live authentically, avoid common mistakes, and raise resilient children. Keywords personal development, biblical lifestyle, parenting, honesty, discipline, nutrition, growth mindset, emotional regulation Key  topics The importance of living according to principles, not just rules How honesty and self-awareness drive personal growth Biblical dietary laws and their relevance today Discipline as teaching self-control, not punishment Parenting strategies for emotional regulation and boundaries The significance of modeling behavior for children The impact of overstimulation and technology on kids The value of humility and continuous learning in life Sound bites "Mistakes are part of learning" "Honesty reveals the gaps between words and actions" "Humility and repair strengthen relationships" Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Pat's Purpose 03:31 The role of pain and change in personal development 06:39 Common pains and mistakes in personal and parenting life 10:55 Biblical dietary laws and their application 15:54 Balancing wisdom and modern living 19:28 Living a lifestyle aligned with beliefs 23:34 Rules versus principles in life and parenting 27:33 The process of changing beliefs and practices 31:16 The art of communication and perception in relationships 32:14 The importance of tone and delivery in coaching 33:41 Tools and emotional regulation in parenting 35:11 Self-sculpting and continuous personal growth 36:20 Parenting and childhood development insights 37:14 Parenting mistakes and societal influences 38:51 Common parenting pitfalls and biblical perspectives 39:54 Discipline, authority, and natural consequences 44:24 Handling extreme child behaviors with patience 45:43 The importance of repair and humility in relationships 55:20 The ongoing journey of personal and parenting growth 56:41 Final thoughts and encouragement for listeners

  3. Oct 1

    Parenting strategies for emotional resilience | Podcast with Michael Mahoney

    In this episode, Michael Mahoney shares insights on parenting, mindset, emotional regulation, and the importance of self-awareness for personal growth and effective fatherhood. Pat Barber and Michael explore practical tools for managing emotions and building a resilient family life. Keywords parenting, mindset, emotional regulation, self-awareness, personal development, fatherhood, mental performance, growth, resilience Key  topics The music analogy for life and emotional regulation The 'Come Back to Now' protocol for managing triggers The importance of self-awareness and internal work Parenting strategies for emotional resilience The role of exposure and diverse belief systems in child development The impact of public education on thinking skills The importance of being proactive versus reactive in life and parenting The influence of mentors and external role models Sound bites "Power of social media." "My family is my North Star." "Learning to direct the music in your head." Chapters 00:00 Introduction and guest background 02:25 Michael's fatherhood journey and family background 04:23 Financial growth, gratitude, and evolving goals 07:45 The importance of self-awareness and internal work 12:00 Managing triggers and emotional responses 19:01 The music analogy and conducting your inner orchestra 22:08 Practical tools: Come Back to Now protocol 28:08 Testing tools with children and personal development 33:52 The education system and teaching how to think 40:01 Balancing belief systems and exposure for children 48:01 Mentors, influence, and the power of example 55:03 Addressing societal systems and collective impact 56:46 Final thoughts and resources

  4. Sep 17

    The Hard Truth About Parenting and Personal Responsibility | Jamie Glowacki

    In this episode, Pat Barber and Jamie Glowacki explore the deep roots of parenting, boundaries, and masculinity. They discuss how societal shifts have impacted authority in the home, the importance of understanding individual children, and practical approaches to effective parenting and self-growth. In this episode, Pat Barber and The Fathers Guild explore the nuances of effective communication, masculinity, and relationship dynamics. They share practical insights on emotional expression, mental load, and building trust in relationships. Keywords parenting, boundaries, masculinity, authority, social media, child development, personal growth, parenting strategies, mental health, societal change masculinity, communication, relationships, emotional intelligence, mental load, fatherhood, vulnerability, personal growth Key  topics The history of mom authority and societal shifts since the 1950s The impact of social media and short-form content on parenting Understanding boundaries as rules versus responses The importance of context in parenting decisions The role of personal responsibility and self-awareness in parenting The balance between authority and autonomy in raising children Men's role in parenting and emotional expression The influence of cultural narratives on masculinity and parenting Practical strategies for setting and holding boundaries The importance of community and in-person connection in parenting Effective communication and avoiding the four horsemen of poor communication The importance of honesty and transparency in relationships Understanding and managing the mental load and invisible labor The role of masculinity and emotional expression in fatherhood Building trust through vulnerability and effective boundaries The impact of childhood stories and perceptions on adult behavior The significance of curiosity and ongoing self-improvement in relationships The influence of stories and hero's journey in shaping masculine identity Sound bites "Honest communication is the foundation of trust" "Boundaries are what you will do, not just rules."

  5. Sep 5

    Fatherhood and the Work of Knowing Yourself : Podcast with Jason Lewis

    In this episode, Jason Lewis shares his personal journey through childhood, the impact of therapy and the Hoffman Process, and his insights on parenting, emotional awareness, and personal growth. Discover practical lessons on raising resilient, curious children and the importance of self-awareness for fathers. In this episode, Jason Lewis and Pat Barber explore the complexities of parenting, the importance of self-awareness, and the value of stories and literature in understanding life and fatherhood. They share personal insights, challenges, and philosophies that can help parents and individuals grow.   Keywords   fatherhood, parenting, emotional intelligence, therapy, Hoffman Process, resilience, curiosity, personal growth, mental health, fatherhood journey parenting, self-awareness, fatherhood, literature, personal growth, mental models, stories, philosophy, relationships, emotional intelligence   Key Topics   Childhood and family background Impact of therapy and the Hoffman Process Parenting philosophies and practices Emotional awareness and accountability The importance of curiosity in growth Modeling behavior for children Balancing discipline and support The importance of understanding each child's unique personality The role of self-awareness in effective parenting Using stories and literature to teach life values The challenges of co-parenting and separation The significance of accountability and responsibility in fatherhood The impact of personal history on parenting styles The value of humility and continuous self-reflection The influence of literature and fiction on understanding human nature   Sound Bites   "Trauma is an experience you can't process." "Thinking alone can't heal trauma." "Each of your kids is just that awareness."   Chapters   00:00 – Welcome to Beautiful Chaos 03:40 – Jason Lewis' Childhood & His Story 07:52 – Healing From Childhood Trauma 13:19 – The Hoffman Process & Somatic Healing 17:00 – The Anger Inside Men 22:57 – Why Men Struggle With Emotions 31:27 – Take What Works, Leave What Doesn't 35:16 – Why Curiosity Is Essential to Parenting 42:26 – Kids Never Asked to Be Here 47:00 – Toughness vs. Connection in Parenting 52:55 – Your Child Can't Be Your Only Source of Happiness 55:24 – Every Child Needs a Different Parent 1:06:16 – Why Jason and Huck's Mom Separated 1:15:01 – You Don't Have to Have Life Figured Out 1:22:26 – Why Fiction Can Teach Truth Better Than Facts 1:32:04 – What Makes a Good Father? 1:35:23 – The Hardest Part of Fatherhood: Letting Go 1:37:25 – Be Worthy of Your Child's Love 1:39:19 – Final Thoughts   Guest Links   Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/jason.c.lewis/?hl=en#

  6. Aug 12

    Master Your Masculinity: 7 Systems to Unlock Your Potential By: Donovan Owens

    In this insightful conversation, Donovan Owens shares his philosophy on mastering masculinity through systems, principles, and daily routines. Discover how intentional practices and mindset shifts can elevate your life and unlock your full potential.   Keywords masculinity, mastery, systems thinking, daily routines, personal development, leadership, self-improvement, masculinity frameworks, success principles, mental resilience   Key  topics Repetitive excellence produces success Mastery morning routines for men Principles vs rules in personal development The energetic nature of masculinity System thinking applied to life and growth   Sound bites "Life is Reps, man." "Repetitive excellence produces success." "Masculinity is an energetic way of being."   Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Life is Reps 01:36 The Concept of Reps and Success 04:21 The Peaceful Rebellion for Men 09:48 Consumption: A Societal Downfall 13:55 The Complexity of Actions 20:26 Mastery and Masculinity 23:20 The Mastery Morning Routine 32:46 Morning Rituals and Intentional Living 35:04 Principles vs. Rules in Personal Development 37:21 The Reps Operating System 39:11 Implementation and Accountability in Coaching 44:39 The Balance of Providing Value and Financial Sustainability 46:40 Defining Masculinity: An Energetic Way of Being 56:49 The Importance of True Self and Purpose   Resources Life Is Reps Website - https://www.lifeisreps.com Steven Pressfield - The War of Art - https://www.amazon.com/War-Art-Through-Creativity-Resistance/dp/1936891026   Guest links Website - https://www.lifeisreps.com YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@lifeisreps   lifeisreps.com Life is REPS   amazon.com The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles: Pressfield, Steven, Coyne, Shawn: 8601420220232: Amazon.com: Books   The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles [Pressfield, Steven, Coyne, Shawn] on Amazon.com. FREE shipping on qualifying offers. The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles   YouTube Life is REPS Men, it's time for a revival of the mastery of masculinity. This is where us freedom-driven men grow stronger, connect deeper, and create a life of success... on our own terms.    Join the Peaceful Rebellion against society's strategic system of traps. We're gonna make some noise, and the foundation of everything we do will be peace, truth, and love.   Life is REPS!   So, it's time to put the REPS in, because Repetitive Excellence Produces Success.

  7. Jul 31

    First Impressions in 0.3 Seconds : The Power of Appearance : Phil Tarling

    In this engaging interview, Phil Tarling, a seasoned stylist and image consultant, shares insights on the psychology of appearance, the differences between being a parent and a grandparent, and practical advice for men to improve their style and confidence. Discover how first impressions are formed in seconds and the profound impact of dressing intentionally.   Keywords style, perception, first impressions, grooming, fatherhood, grand fatherhood, confidence, image consulting, psychology of appearance, personal development   Key Topics The impact of clothing on first impressions and trust Differences between being a parent and a grandparent The science behind style and perception Practical tips for men to improve their wardrobe The importance of being present with loved ones   Sound Bites "The old banger gets tooted at first" "Perception is someone else's issue" "Style obsession is a red flag"   Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Phil Tarling and His Expertise 01:57 The Evolution of Image Consulting 04:41 The Science of First Impressions 11:36 Cultural Conditioning and Perception 18:51 The Importance of Dressing for Success 24:11 Personal Style and Subjectivity 29:16 The Swag Gap: Style and Relationships 32:11 Transitioning to Grandfatherhood 33:16 The Differences Between Parenting and Grandparenting 38:48 The Value of Time in Parenting 47:29 Parting Wisdom for Fathers   Resources Phil Tarling's Website - https://www.philtarling.com Instagram - Phil Tarling - https://www.instagram.com/phil_tarling/   Guest Links Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/phil_tarling/ Website - https://www.philtarling.com

  8. Jul 15

    From CrossFit to Consciousness: Stefanos Sifandos' Journey

    In this engaging conversation, Pat Barber and Stefanos Sifandos explore personal growth, self-reflection, maturity, and the importance of relational and spiritual development. They share insights from their journeys, practical tools for transformation, and discuss how to navigate life's initiations and challenges.   Keywords self-reflection, maturity, personal growth, relationships, spiritual development, coaching, life transitions, emotional healing   Key  topics Self-reflection as a catalyst for growth The difference between maturity and immaturity Relational and spiritual healing practices Life initiations and rites of passage The role of honesty and vulnerability in transformation   Sound bites "Self-reflection and action are key to growth" "Grieve what was and what wasn't" "Presence creates micro initiations"   Chapters 00:00 Reconnecting Through Shared History 03:05 Evolving Through Self-Reflection 06:00 Maturity and Immaturity in Life 08:53 Navigating Relationships and Growth 11:54 The Role of a Coach and Mirror 14:44 Empowerment and Control 17:52 Grieving and Healing Past Wounds 20:40 Initiation and Daily Practices 23:52 The Journey to Coaching 26:49 Self-Reflection and Codependency 29:45 The Shift from Aesthetics to Performance 32:51 The Importance of Presence in Parenting 39:08 The Chameleon Effect: Adapting to Fit In 40:30 The Importance of Honesty: A Core Value 40:59 The Struggle with Authenticity: Lies and Exaggerations 43:28 Childhood Experiences: The Roots of Insecurity 47:56 Navigating Emotions: Anger, Happiness, and Abandonment 51:34 Unpacking Loneliness: A Journey to Self-Discovery 56:50 The Role of Relationships: Co-dependence vs. Devotion 01:02:57 Tuned In and Turned On: The Book and Its Insights   Resources Stefanos Sifandos' Book: Tuned In and Turned On - tunedinandturnedonbook.com Coach with Stefanos Sifandos - coachwithstef.com Stefanos Sifandos' Instagram - instagram.com/stefanos.sifandos Stefanos Sifandos' YouTube Channel - youtube.com/stefanossifandos   Guest links Instagram - instagram.com/stefanos.sifandos Website - coachwithstef.com

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A deep dive into the beautiful chaos of fatherhood. Fatherhood. It’s the one job that doesn’t come with a manual, but also comes with 10,000 opinions. we’re tring to cut through the noise with real talk, goods laughs, and the occasional “oh man, same” moment. Each episode, we dive into the beautifully messy world of being a dad. Along the way, we bring in guests. guys who are in, or have been in the trenches, learning, failing, and winning just like the rest of us. This isn’t a lecture series. It’s a series of conversations. The kind you’d have around a backyard fire pit with a cold beer in hand. It’s honest, unfiltered, and full of those “I thought I was the only one!” stories. If you’re a dad (or just curious about what makes dads tick), consider this a dose of encouragement, humor, and a run back of real-life applications. Fatherhood is challenging. It might be exhausting, but it’s also the best thing you’ll ever do.

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