1D AGO

Process anger optimistically for personal growth

Dear soul, welcome to the Lightbearer's Library! Can you truly embrace optimistic anger and use difficult emotions as a powerful catalyst for profound personal growth and self-building? In this journal entry, I share my journey of processing anger and grief during an intense holiday season, and how it has led to an internal reorganization of my core values. I unpack why anger can be a good thing—not when it's destructive, but when it fuels the deliberate work of building a life aligned with conscious choices. If you are also navigating an intense emotional period, you are not alone, and I hope the following topics may be of use to you in your own journey: Setting Boundaries: The necessity of creating space—like stepping away from family expectations during the holidays—to protect our peace and begin emotional healing.Shifting Values: Why letting go of old values or relationships that no longer serve us is uncomfortable, yet vital for spiritual self-discovery.Conscious Choice: I dive into the philosophy of whether we are discovering our identity or building the self we choose to become.The Emotional Workout: Viewing the intense process of grief and anger as an "emotional workout" that ultimately makes us stronger and "fitter" on the other side.This episode offers a new perspective on how to move through challenging feelings with a sense of hopeful anticipation for what comes next. XOXO, Kate Harmony 📖 Journal Notes 0:00 Processing Anger in a Kind Way with Optimism 2:08 What if We're Exactly Where We Need to Be 2:45 The Philosophical Question: Building vs. Discovering Who We Are 3:32 Navigating Internal Reorganization and Shifting Values 4:40 The Optimism of What's On The Other Side 5:21 Nature vs. Nurture, and the Free Will Debate 6:27 Letting Go of the Old and Embrace Optimistic Anger 8:53 The Emotional Workout: Using Anger for Personal Growth 11:08 Final Thoughts on Self-Building and New Year's Resolutions #optimisticanger #healingjourney #personalgrowth #grief #settingboundaries #selfdiscovery #emotionalhealing #values #emotionalintelligence #consciousliving #selfcompassion #shadowwork #reparenting #infp #introvert #lightbearerslibrary #journaling 🌿 About Kate Harmony 🌿 My main channel (Hack Music Theory) has over 250K subscribers and 10 million views. I've been a full-time YouTuber since 2017 and launched this personal channel (Lightbearer's Library) in 2025, where I'm making video versions of my journal entries. Some of my favourite topics to talk about are practical philosophy, positive psychology, and personality type (I'm an INFP). But honestly, my journals contain counter-cultural thoughts about everything, so expect the unexpected! I also share practical ways I'm improving my mental health, with the hope that you might find them useful too. I deleted all my social media accounts over 10 years ago, so I offer a loving perspective that's free from the divisive language commonly found in feeds nowadays. If this sounds like your cup of tea, then I warmly welcome you into the Lightbearer's Library. Stay for a while, and please remember to subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCV2wps4NID9rrO08OuwZ5Lg?sub_confirmation=1

12 min

2D AGO

Kind Anger: Anger management, the INFP way

Hello, dear soul, and welcome to the Lightbearer's Library! In today’s journal entry I’m tackling one of the most uncomfortable emotions for an INFP: Anger. As an INFP, I often find anger difficult to express, especially when it arises from deep sadness over being mistreated or misunderstood by a loved one. The pain of maintaining external harmony is shattering my internal harmony, so this video is my real-time process for figuring out how to negotiate those. The challenge is learning how to honor our truth and set firm boundaries without creating drama or sacrificing our core values of love, kindness, and forgiveness. It’s about accepting that anger is a true feeling that needs a loving expression. I share the one practical action I’m taking: rejecting the story of why it's "okay" to be treated poorly and sending a short, three-line email to put up a gentle, non-negotiable boundary. This action is not about changing the other person (in my case, my ESTJ mother); it's entirely about protecting my own inner peace. I also explore the deep feeling that some of this intense anger may not be mine—that as a sensitive soul I may be called to transmute some of the collective energetic anger in the world. If you’re struggling to find a path through your own anger, especially if you are an INFP or INFJ navigating family dynamics and boundary setting, know that you are not alone. If this video resonated with you, please give it a thumbs up and subscribe to the channel. Thank you for being here on this journey with me. Next ▶️ Check out [Why the Golden Rule doesn’t work] https://youtu.be/ZDQd-hFtUkM for a look at why treating others the way they want to be treated—not the way you want to be treated—is the foundation of healthy relationships and self-aware boundaries, which is essential for managing your anger kindly. XOXO, Kate Harmony 📖 Journal Notes 0:00 Welcome to the Lightbearer's Library: INFP Anger Management 0:35 The unexpressed anger that causes internal suffering 1:21 The INFP vs. ESTJ family boundary conflict 2:45 Why I can’t "make up a story" for forgiveness anymore 4:00 The problem with trying to maintain external harmony 5:05 Kind Anger: How to express anger with love and kindness 6:10 The 3-line email: Setting a simple, non-dramatic boundary 7:00 Practical Tip: Catharsis through an unsent email 8:45 How to harmonize love and anger 9:40 A spiritual thought: Why your anger is not all your own 11:00 You are not alone on this journey #angermanagement #infp #kindanger #boundaries #innerpeace #forgiveness #familydynamics #hsp #mbti #emotionalexpression #angerresolution #infj #estj #introvert #journaling #lightbearerslibrary 🌿 About Kate Harmony 🌿 My main channel (Hack Music Theory) has over 250K subscribers and 10 million views. I've been a full-time YouTuber since 2017 and launched this personal channel (Lightbearer's Library) in 2025, where I'm making video versions of my journal entries. Some of my favourite topics to talk about are practical philosophy, positive psychology, and personality type (I'm an INFP). But honestly, my journals contain counter-cultural thoughts about everything, so expect the unexpected! I also share practical ways I'm improving my mental health, with the hope that you might find them useful too. I deleted all my social media accounts over 10 years ago, so I offer a loving perspective that's free from the divisive language commonly found in feeds nowadays. If this sounds like your cup of tea, then I warmly welcome you into the Lightbearer's Library. Stay for a while, and please remember to subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCV2wps4NID9rrO08OuwZ5Lg?sub_confirmation=1

16 min

3D AGO

Feeling unseen and unheard? Do this (INFP Secret Fix)

The feeling of being unseen and unheard is painful, but it doesn't have to overwhelm us. This journal entry is for any sensitive, introverted intuitive—especially if you identify as an INFP—who is currently feeling isolated, like no one cares, and is experiencing the specific form of overwhelm known as Grip Stress. When the weight of the world feels heavy and lonely, we can slip into an existential panic that manifests as a frantic need to organize or control small, external things. This video shares the three simple yet profound self-care techniques you can implement right now to calm your nervous system, move out of that panicked state, and reassure yourself that you matter: Self-Affirmation and Grounding: A physical technique (based on the Havening touch) to immediately interrupt the panic and send care to yourself.Introverted Sensing (Si) Healing: Learn how to tap into your safe, inner space using powerful calming sounds, smells (like lavender), or comfort items that are connected to peaceful memories.Journaling: Use this simple writing practice not just to release the panic, but to actively write yourself into a state of self-love and reassurance, solving the problem of isolation from within. You are not alone in this feeling, and you deserve care.✨ Dear soul, if you're feeling brave, I'd love it if you'd share one sound, scent, or picture that instantly brings you back to a place of feeling safe and calm? Next ▶️ In [It's okay to say no to Christmas] https://youtu.be/__K0vqfHwnU, I dive into the essential conversation about setting boundaries to protect your peace and mental health during the holiday season. XOXO, Kate Harmony 📖 Journal Notes 0:00 Welcome to the Lightbearer's Library 0:27 The INFP Grip Stress panic explained 1:59 How to relieve the initial grip stress 2:43 The first self-care step: Hug yourself & affirm "I care" 4:22 Calming your nervous system with the Havening technique 5:09 How INFPs use Introverted Sensing (Si) to find calm 6:20 Scent Therapy and Calming Smells (Lavender & Tea) 7:33 Finding safe memories with Calming Sounds (Rain on Leaves) 9:00 The power of a comfort item (Teddy) 10:18 Rereading an old book or watching a favorite movie 10:55 Journaling to write out the panic & loving affirmations 11:40 Reach out: The relief of asking for a hug or calling someone 12:38 Final message: You are not alone & I care #infp #gripstress #unseen #nervoussystem #anxietyrelief #emotionalregulation #cognitivefunctions #introvert #sensitiveperson #hsp #selfcare #mentalhealth #emotionalhealing #journaling #copingskills #healingjourney #lightbearerslibrary 🌿About Kate Harmony🌿 My main channel (Hack Music Theory) has over 250K subscribers and 10 million views. I've been a full-time YouTuber since 2017 and launched this personal channel (Lightbearer's Library) in 2025, where I'm making video versions of my journal entries. Some of my favourite topics to talk about are practical philosophy, positive psychology, and personality type (I'm an INFP). But honestly, my journals contain counter-cultural thoughts about everything, so expect the unexpected! I also share practical ways I'm improving my mental health, with the hope that you might find them useful too. I deleted all my social media accounts over 10 years ago, so I offer a loving perspective that's free from the divisive language commonly found in feeds nowadays. If this sounds like your cup of tea, then I warmly welcome you into the Lightbearer's Library. Stay for a while, and please remember to subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCV2wps4NID9rrO08OuwZ5Lg?sub_confirmation=1

16 min

4D AGO

A Christmas message to the lonely

Hello, dear soul. If you are struggling with sadness, grief, anger, or deep loneliness this holiday season—especially because you've had to put up necessary boundaries with family—please know you are not alone. My heart is with you. It's okay to not feel "merry and bright" when you are dealing with real pain. In this Christmas journal entry, I'm sharing my own experience of moving through the anger and hurt that comes from rejection and mistreatment. I also discuss my tendency as an INFP to idealize situations, and why self-love is the kindest thing you can do for yourself right now. I see you, I hear you, and I’m sending you so much love. Hang in there. XOXO, Kate Harmony 📖 Journal Notes 0:00 Welcome to the Lightbearer's Library (A Message for the Lonely) 0:53 You Are Not Alone (Grief, Sadness, and Loneliness) 1:50 INFP Struggles: Idealism vs. Reality 3:19 Why Excusing Bad Behavior Hurts Your Self-Worth 4:45 Honoring Your Own Feelings: Why I'm Done Pretending 5:33 Dealing with Family Anger at Christmas 6:36 Processing Anger as a Stage of Grief 7:07 Self-Love: Protecting Yourself with Boundaries 7:49 Emotional Containment (The Plexiglass Analogy) 9:34 Hang In There, Dear Soul 🌿 About Kate Harmony 🌿 My main channel (Hack Music Theory) has over 250K subscribers and 10 million views. I've been a full-time YouTuber since 2017 and launched this personal channel (Lightbearer's Library) in 2025, where I'm making video versions of my journal entries. Some of my favourite topics to talk about are practical philosophy, positive psychology, and personality type (I'm an INFP). But honestly, my journals contain counter-cultural thoughts about everything, so expect the unexpected! I also share practical ways I'm improving my mental health, with the hope that you might find them useful too. I deleted all my social media accounts over 10 years ago, so I offer a loving perspective that's free from the divisive language commonly found in feeds nowadays. If this sounds like your cup of tea, then I warmly welcome you into the Lightbearer's Library. Stay for a while, and please remember to subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCV2wps4NID9rrO08OuwZ5Lg?sub_confirmation=1

11 min

6D AGO

Angry? Blast metal to move through it

Are you struggling with anger that seems to be poisoning your mental, physical and energetic fields? You're not alone, dear soul. In today's journal entry, I’m sharing how to navigate intense emotions through the "age-old" method of blasting metal music! Song mentioned in the video: At the Bottom by Leprous @leprouschannel https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T-Fa84wau4g ✨What is one song—heavy or not—that helps you move emotional energy through your body? Let me know in the comments below :) Next ▶️ In [ Music soothes the soul: Grief playlist guide ], I dive into the discussion of why your daily soundtrack is programming your mind and shaping your mental health. Watch here: https://youtu.be/LOFs27Qt6PM XOXO, Kate Harmony 📖 Journal Notes 0:00 Welcome to the Lightbearer's Library 0:45 The Danger of Internalized Anger (Self-Anger) 2:04 Heavy Music for Emotional Release: Viewer Question 3:00 My Unexpected Tool: Blast Metal Music for Anger 4:32 Leprous Lyrics: Finding Inner Strength at the Bottom 6:08 The Practice of Infinite Forgiveness (70x7) 7:24 Don't Let the Sun Go Down on Your Anger 10:00 The Ultimate Litmus Test for True Forgiveness 11:09 Final Thoughts & Asking for Your Songs #angerrelease #forgiveness #metalmusictherapy #emotionalhealth #shadowwork #introvert #lightbearerslibrary #journaling #emotionalhealing #personalgrowth #spiritualjourney 🌿 About Kate Harmony 🌿 My main channel (Hack Music Theory) has over 250K subscribers and 10 million views. I've been a full-time YouTuber since 2017 and launched this personal channel (Lightbearer's Library) in 2025, where I'm making video versions of my journal entries. Some of my favourite topics to talk about are practical philosophy, positive psychology, and personality type (I'm an INFP). But honestly, my journals contain counter-cultural thoughts about everything, so expect the unexpected! I also share practical ways I'm improving my mental health, with the hope that you might find them useful too. I deleted all my social media accounts over 10 years ago, so I offer a loving perspective that's free from the divisive language commonly found in feeds nowadays. If this sounds like your cup of tea, then I warmly welcome you into the Lightbearer's Library. Stay for a while, and please remember to subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCV2wps4NID9rrO08OuwZ5Lg?sub_confirmation=1

12 min

DEC 22

How to kindle the light within

The power to kindle the light within and stop the downward spiral into darkness is all about consciously choosing what we focus on. This is the only thing we truly control. In this journal entry, we explore a transformative practice that can change your life, without having to change anything else. The practice of choosing what you place your attention on. Have you noticed how much time you spend dwelling on the dark? That is time and energy you could be using to build self-trust and healthy habits. Join me as we discover how to: - Recognize when we're dwelling on darkness and how to gently guide our minds back to the light. - Understand why positive thinking is a daily habit, not an avoidance of reality. - Cultivate light-bearing through simple practices like mindful meditation and breath awareness. - Encourage ourselves to cut out negative inputs (news, social media) that drain our mental health. This isn't about ignoring the bad; it's about valuing your soul enough to choose the path of spiraling upwards. Are you ready to make that choice? ✨ If this message resonated with you and you're ready to kindle the light within, reply with a 🌞 (sun emoji) in the comments below. Next ▶️ In "Stop quitting your goals, change your identity" (https://youtu.be/Snq4f3Jr-VM) I dive into the foundational identity work necessary to not give up on your goals, reinforcing how the light-focus habit helps you build the self-trust needed for lasting change. XOXO, Kate Harmony 📖 Journal Notes 0:00 Solstice Reflection: Light vs. Darkness 0:52 Your Attention is the One Thing You Control 2:52 Breaking the Downward Spiral 4:45 Why Positive Thinking is a Habit, Not a Lie 7:20 Simple Meditation: Cultivating Presence 9:02 Breath Awareness & Grounding 9:52 Listen to Peaceful Music 10:29 Cutting Negative Inputs (Social Media & News) 11:35 Why Self-Trust is the First Step #consciousfocus #mindsetshift #personaldevelopment #spiritualpractice #mindfulness #healingjourney #selfcompassion #selfcare #mentalhealth #solstice #dailymeditation #introvert #lightbearerslibrary #journaling #selfhelp 🌿 About Kate Harmony 🌿 My main channel (Hack Music Theory) has over 250K subscribers and 10 million views. I've been a full-time YouTuber since 2017 and launched this personal channel (Lightbearer's Library) in 2025, where I'm making video versions of my journal entries. Some of my favourite topics to talk about are practical philosophy, positive psychology, and personality type (I'm an INFP). But honestly, my journals contain counter-cultural thoughts about everything, so expect the unexpected! I also share practical ways I'm improving my mental health, with the hope that you might find them useful too. I deleted all my social media accounts over 10 years ago, so I offer a loving perspective that's free from the divisive language commonly found in feeds nowadays. If this sounds like your cup of tea, then I warmly welcome you into the Lightbearer's Library. Stay for a while, and please remember to subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCV2wps4NID9rrO08OuwZ5Lg?sub_confirmation=1

14 min

DEC 21

Have a good cry and don't give up

Sometimes, dear soul, we need to show up and share our vulnerability just to prove to ourselves—and each other—that we are not alone in feeling like the world is falling apart. In today's journal entry, I share my own personal struggle with feeling like giving up and offer simple, actionable self-care tips and coping strategies to help you keep going. If you are navigating grief and anger from difficult family relationships, exhaustion from lack of sleep, or that chaotic inner voice telling you "What's the point?", this video is for you. We explore the powerful connection between our physical body (sleep, nutrition, exercise) and our mental health, discussing how managing small sensory details can bring calm when your world feels chaotic. Together, let's breathe deep, find a path forward, and remember that tomorrow is a new day. You are not crazy, and you are not alone. ✨ If this message resonated with you, simply reply with a ❤️ in the comments below. It helps me know you're out there. Next ▶️ We talk about moving through the challenging emotions from difficult relationships in this journal entry. Check out [What is a toxic family?] https://youtu.be/LOFs27Qt6PM for a candid look at identifying and defining unhealthy dynamics in family relationships. If you are struggling to manage overwhelming feelings like grief and anger, check out [Music soothes the soul: Grief playlist guide] https://youtu.be/O_I5hYI7MAM for a guide on creating a custom playlist to help soothe your soul. XOXO, Kate Harmony 📖 Journal Notes 0:00 How to Feel Like Giving Up and Still Show Up 0:49 The Physical Root of Mental Chaos (lack of sleep, nutrition, self-care) 2:46 Using Exercise and Movement to Stay Grounded 3:25 Processing Grief and Anger in Family Relationships 5:23 The Power of Showing Up & Being Accountable to Yourself 6:40 Practical Tools to Manage Overwhelm (crying, 5-minute tidy) 8:10 Finding Hope: Solstice, New Year, and Moving Onward #notgivingup #mentalhealth #grief #selfcare #emotionalhealing #introvert #journaling #copingstrategies #emotionalrelease #lightbearerslibrary New to the Library? Start Here: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLc92wjOKEZyEm1zOQ9XqjaFIa3E_lP7mS 🌿 About Kate Harmony 🌿 My main channel (Hack Music Theory) has over 250K subscribers and 10 million views. I've been a full-time YouTuber since 2017 and launched this personal channel (Lightbearer's Library) in 2025, where I'm making video versions of my journal entries. Some of my favourite topics to talk about are practical philosophy, positive psychology, and personality type (I'm an INFP). But honestly, my journals contain counter-cultural thoughts about everything, so expect the unexpected! I also share practical ways I'm improving my mental health, with the hope that you might find them useful too. I deleted all my social media accounts over 10 years ago, so I offer a loving perspective that's free from the divisive language commonly found in feeds nowadays. If this sounds like your cup of tea, then I warmly welcome you into the Lightbearer's Library. Stay for a while, and please remember to subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCV2wps4NID9rrO08OuwZ5Lg?sub_confirmation=1

9 min

DEC 20

Music soothes the soul: Grief playlist guide

Hello dear soul, welcome to the Lightbearer's Library 🕊️ Music has the power to heal, especially when we're going through grief. In this journal entry I guide you through a process for creating your own grief playlist—one that can help you navigate all those big emotions. Whether you need songs that acknowledge your sadness, calming instrumental tunes, or comforting familiar melodies, we walk through the different types of music that can offer emotional support. We also discuss how to tailor your playlist to specific times of day or emotional states, so it’s always there when you need it most. Grieving is a process, and this guide will help you use music as a therapeutic tool to soothe your soul. ✨ I'd be honoured if you would share one song that has served to soothe you in times of grief. I would love to give it a listen, and it may give others ideas for their grief playlists. 🎶 My Recommended Albums Solace by Patrick Dexter @PatrickDexterCello Mise Sibéal by Sibéal @sibealmusicofficial8433 Constellation by Caoilfhionn Rose @CaoilfhionnRose Meditations - Chant & Piano by Tim Allhoff @timallhoff Next: ▶️ In Rethink the songs you listen to (https://youtu.be/582adujXZpY), I dive into the discussion of why your daily soundtrack is programming your mind and shaping your mental health. Remember, you are not alone in this. I'd love to hear your thoughts and insights in the comments below. XOXO, Kate Harmony 📖 Journal Notes 0:00 Welcome to the Lightbearer's Library 0:57 Contemplating What You Need 5:11 Instrumental vs. Lyrics 6:19 Familiar vs. New Songs 7:24 Singles vs. Playlists vs. Albums 10:45 The Essential "Soothe or Overwhelm" Gauge #griefplaylist #grief #griefjourney #griefsupport #musictherapy #emotionalhealing #sensitiveperson #hsp #infp #introvert #lightbearerslibrary #journaling #mentalhealth #selfcare #emotionalregulation #copingskills #healingjourney #musicplaylist New to the Library? Start Here: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLc92wjOKEZyEm1zOQ9XqjaFIa3E_lP7mS 🌿 About Kate Harmony 🌿 My main channel (Hack Music Theory) has over 250K subscribers and 10 million views. I've been a full-time YouTuber since 2017 and launched this personal channel (Lightbearer's Library) in 2025, where I'm making video versions of my journal entries. Some of my favourite topics to talk about are practical philosophy, positive psychology, and personality type (I'm an INFP). But honestly, my journals contain counter-cultural thoughts about everything, so expect the unexpected! I also share practical ways I'm improving my mental health, with the hope that you might find them useful too. I deleted all my social media accounts over 10 years ago, so I offer a loving perspective that's free from the divisive language commonly found in feeds nowadays. If this sounds like your cup of tea, then I warmly welcome you into the Lightbearer's Library. Stay for a while, and please remember to subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCV2wps4NID9rrO08OuwZ5Lg?sub_confirmation=1

13 min

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Process anger optimistically for personal growth

Kind Anger: Anger management, the INFP way

Feeling unseen and unheard? Do this (INFP Secret Fix)

A Christmas message to the lonely

Angry? Blast metal to move through it

How to kindle the light within

Have a good cry and don't give up

Music soothes the soul: Grief playlist guide

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