Have you ever had the experience of feeling like a ghost? You can be there, listening, participating, being kind, and somehow still feel like they don't really see you. I've been thinking about what it means to be seen, and how different it can feel when someone is actually curious about what's underneath the part of us they can see. I think of myself as an iceberg in this way. There is the part of me that I can easily share with the world, and then there are all these values, ideas, feelings, and ways of seeing things that I sometimes keep close to my chest, especially when I'm afraid they won't be welcomed. And maybe this is part of why certain people can feel so nourishing to us. Someone who listens closely. Someone who asks curious questions. Someone who seems willing to go a little further beneath the surface. For me, I don't feel like a ghost when I can share my values and my inner world without feeling judged. And so I've been wondering: when do you feel like a ghost, and when do you not? Is it with particular people, or in particular circumstances? ✨ If this reflection resonates, I’d love to hear from you. And if words feel like too much today, a simple 🕯️ is enough to let me know you were here. 🍂 A Quiet Continuation If you've ever felt like a ghost because the deeper parts of you seem to go unseen, this next reflection stays with that feeling of being invisible, and with the quiet relief that can come when someone finally sees something real in you: "When a highly sensitive man feels invisible..." (https://youtu.be/cgv_MNNj-8Q) XOXO, Kate Harmony 💌 P.S. If you’re somewhere in the middle of figuring out who you are and what comes next, I’d love to welcome you to The Men’s Sanctuary (October 7-28). The same small group of no more than six highly sensitive men meets for four consecutive Tuesdays, giving everyone time to become familiar with one another and to let the conversation unfold naturally. You don’t need to know what you want to say. You can listen, take your time, or speak when something feels ready to be spoken. Come as you are. We’ll keep your seat waiting. You can learn more here: 🌿 https://ko-fi.com/lightbearerslibrary/commissions 💌 P.P.S. If the Lightbearer's Library has become a meaningful place for you, and you'd like to help me keep creating these videos, please consider contributing via Paypal: https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/revolutionharmony Or if you prefer, through Ko-fi: https://ko-fi.com/lightbearerslibrary Every contribution, whatever the amount, helps me keep the Library going. I'm so grateful for your support, and for being here with me. ❤️ 📖 Journal Notes 0:00 When you feel like a ghost 2:35 The parts of ourselves we learned to hide 4:20 When being seen means being understood 7:14 Who makes you feel less invisible? 8:46 What it feels like to be truly seen 11:22 Where you don't have to feel like a ghost #highlysensitivemen #HSP #INFJ #INFP #beingseen #feelingunseen #ghostmen #emotionalconnection #innerworld #sensitivemen #lightbearerslibrary 🌿 About 🌿 Welcome to Lightbearer’s Library — a quiet place for highly sensitive men who feel deeply, notice deeply, and wonder why it has sometimes felt difficult to simply be themselves. The Library exists to help men reconnect with the parts of themselves they may have had to set aside. Their curiosity, creativity, intuition, sensitivity, and the qualities that make them who they are. Through reflective video journal entries, I explore sensitivity, masking, childhood experiences, belonging, and what it means to come home to yourself. I share from my own life as an INFP HSP, and from what I’ve learned through my 11 years with my INFJ HSP husband and this community. If you’ve ever felt unseen, misunderstood, or like you had to make yourself smaller to fit into the world, you’re welcome here. Stay for a while. Kate Harmony 🌺
