Marriage, Intimacy & Healing with Andrew & Lara Pilcher

Andrew and Lara Pilcher
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If your marriage feels more like a roommate situation than a real connection… if stress, parenting, or unspoken tension has crept in… or if you’ve wondered, “Is this really all we have left?” — this podcast is for you. Marriage, Intimacy & Healing is a real-couple podcast for partners who want honest conversations, practical marriage advice, and a path to deeper connection — without therapy-speak or oversimplified tips. Each week, you’ll get grounded guidance to help you: ✨ Rebuild trust, intimacy, and emotional closeness ✨ Communicate with more honesty, less shutdown ✨ Navigate marriage stress (including parenting challenges) ✨ Find calm together — even when life feels overwhelming 👩‍🦰 Lara is an ICF Professional Certified Life Coach (PCC), specializing in emotional alignment and relationship growth. 👨‍🦱 Andrew is a Doctor of Physical Therapy (equiv.), an international educator in performance health and pain science, specializing in how stress, burnout, and disconnection show up in the body — and how couples can return to calm. Together, we bring real tools, real stories, and real hope to couples who want more than surface-level connection. As best friends, happily married for 20+ years, raising kids, and navigating international moves, we know what it’s like to build a thriving marriage under real-life stress. Whether you’re in a tough season or just feeling stuck in the day-to-day, this podcast is here to help you move forward — with practical strategies, nervous system insights, and the reminder that you’re not alone. Because marriage was never meant to be disconnected, and healing is possible — even if it feels hard right now.

  1. 1D AGO

    Why Your Marriage Feels “Off” (Even If Nothing’s Wrong)

    Nothing is “technically” wrong —but something doesn’t feel right. You’re functioning. You’re showing up. You’re not in crisis. And yet the closeness feels thinner… quieter… harder to reach. This episode is for couples who aren’t falling apart — but can feel the drift. 🎁 START HERE — FREE GUIDE Download the 3-Minute Marriage Reset: https://andrewandlara.com/ ✨ In this episode, we explore: 🧭 Why emotional drift can happen without conflict, betrayal, or big blow-ups 🧠 The difference between being “fine” and actually feeling connected ⚠️ Early signs distance is becoming normal — not temporary ✅ What to do when the problem feels vague and hard to name 🤝 How to rebuild closeness without pressure, fixing, or overwhelm 👫 About your hosts We’re Andrew & Lara — married for over 20 years — a Doctor of Physical Therapy and an ICF PCC-certified coach — sharing psychologically informed, practical tools that support your marriage alongside the wider ecosystem of help, including therapy, mentoring, and community. 🔁 If this episode resonated, share it with another couple who might feel “off” but don’t know how to talk about it yet. 💛 Our wider mission Andrew & Lara lead marriage and family restoration through Creative Restoration International, a registered non-profit bringing long-term healing tools and resources to couples and families. Learn more: https://creativerestorationinternational.com/ 🔗 Links Free 3-Minute Marriage Reset: https://andrewandlara.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andrewandlara Website: https://andrewandlara.com/ #marriage #relationships #emotionalconnection #intimacy #couples #marriagehelp

    15 min

  2. FEB 11

    The Silent Marriage Killer: Unspoken Expectations

    Some of the most damaging moments in marriage don’t come from fights — they come from silence. If you’ve ever thought, “They should just know,” this episode helps you see what’s really happening underneath that assumption — and how to bring clarity before resentment quietly takes root. 🎁 START HERE — FREE GUIDE Download the 3-Minute Marriage Reset: https://andrewandlara.com/ In this episode, we explore: 💬 What unspoken expectations actually look like in everyday marriage 🧠 Why silence creates emotional distance — even in “good” relationships ⚠️ The subtle signs resentment is quietly building ✅ A simple shift that restores clarity and connection without conflict 👫 About your hosts We’re Andrew & Lara — a real-life married couple of over 20 years — a Doctor of Physical Therapy and an ICF PCC-certified coach — sharing psychologically informed, practical tools that support your marriage alongside the wider ecosystem of help, including therapy, mentoring, and community. 🔁 If this episode resonated, share it with another couple who might be feeling the drift but don’t know how to name it. 💛 Our wider mission Andrew & Lara lead marriage and family restoration through Creative Restoration International, a registered non-profit bringing long-term healing tools and resources to couples and families. Learn more: https://creativerestorationinternational.com/ 🔗 Links Free 3-Minute Marriage Reset: https://andrewandlara.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andrewandlara Website: https://andrewandlara.com/ #marriage #relationships #communication #emotionalconnection #marriagehelp #couples

    14 min

  3. FEB 4

    Keeping Marriage Alive While Raising Kids

    Parenthood doesn’t ruin marriages — exhaustion does. Most couples don’t fall out of love after kids… they fall into survival mode. And when you’re depleted, connection becomes harder, not because you don’t care — but because your capacity is maxed out. In this episode, Andrew & Lara unpack what actually happens to marriage after kids, why drift is so common, and how to build real closeness again without guilt or unrealistic pressure. In this episode you’ll learn… Why couples drift after kids (even when love is real)What exhaustion does to communication and intimacyHow to redefine connection for this season (without pressure)A simple regulation-first approach that improves conversationsSmall, realistic ways to keep marriage alive right now Free 3-Minute Marriage Reset: https://andrewandlara.com/ If this episode encouraged you, share it with another couple who might need hope today. Free BMH Marriage Reset: https://andrewandlara.com/ And if this episode resonated with you and you want to support the deeper work we’re doing to restore marriages and creative lives, we’d love for you to consider partnering with us through Creative Restoration International. Your support helps us bring healing tools, resources, and hope to families and creative souls around the world. Learn about Creative Restoration International: https://creativerestorationinternational.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andrewandlara Website: https://andrewandlara.com/

    31 min

  4. JAN 28

    Micro-Moments of Love: Why the Small Stuff Matters Most

    Most couples don’t drift because they stopped loving each other. They drift because the small moments that build connection go unnoticed — and over time, intimacy gets replaced by routine. In this episode, Andrew & Lara unpack “micro-moments of love”: the tiny, daily interactions that build emotional safety, closeness, and trust. You’ll learn why the small stuff matters most — and how to turn toward each other again in simple, realistic ways. In this episode you’ll learn… Why intimacy fades quietly (not dramatically)What “micro-moments” actually are (and why they matter)How to stop the roommate dynamic from taking overSimple daily tools to build closeness without pressureHow emotional safety is built in ordinary life Free 3-Minute Marriage Reset: https://andrewandlara.com/ If this episode encouraged you, share it with another couple who might need hope today. Free BMH Marriage Reset: https://andrewandlara.com/ And if this episode resonated with you and you want to support the deeper work we’re doing to restore marriages and creative lives, we’d love for you to consider partnering with us through Creative Restoration International. Your support helps us bring healing tools, resources, and hope to families and creative souls around the world. Learn about Creative Restoration International: https://creativerestorationinternational.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andrewandlara Website: https://andrewandlara.com/

    19 min

  5. JAN 21

    From Criticism to Curiosity: The #1 Shift That Changes Communication

    Criticism doesn’t just hurt feelings — it signals threat. And once your partner feels attacked, defensiveness takes over and real communication becomes almost impossible. In this episode, Andrew & Lara unpack the #1 shift that changes communication: moving from criticism to curiosity. You’ll learn why “harsh starts” create shutdown and escalation, and how curiosity restores emotional safety so you can actually talk again. In this episode you’ll learn… Why criticism triggers defensiveness so fastThe hidden “harsh start” pattern that breaks conversationsThe curiosity shift that lowers conflict immediatelyA simple tool to stop escalation before it startsHow to repair tone and rebuild emotional safety Free 3-Minute Marriage Reset: https://andrewandlara.com/ If this episode encouraged you, share it with another couple who might need hope today. Free BMH Marriage Reset: https://andrewandlara.com/ And if this episode resonated with you and you want to support the deeper work we’re doing to restore marriages and creative lives, we’d love for you to consider partnering with us through Creative Restoration International. Your support helps us bring healing tools, resources, and hope to families and creative souls around the world. Learn about Creative Restoration International: https://creativerestorationinternational.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andrewandlara Website: https://andrewandlara.com/

    25 min

  6. JAN 14

    The Science of Touch: How Your Body Builds Connection

    Touch isn’t just physical — it’s one of the fastest ways your body signals safety, trust, and emotional closeness. In this episode, Lara and Andrew unpack why touch matters, what happens in your nervous system when you reach for your spouse, and how simple daily practices can strengthen your marriage. Download the free 3-Minute Marriage Reset: https://andrewandlara.com In this episode, you’ll learn: Why touch increases emotional closeness and trust The nervous-system science behind physical connectionHow small touch rituals lower stress and strengthen communicationTwo daily tools couples can use to feel closer immediately If this episode encouraged you, share it with another couple who might need hope today. Free BMH Marriage Reset: https://andrewandlara.com/ And if this episode resonated with you and you want to support the deeper work we’re doing to restore marriages and creative lives, we’d love for you to consider partnering with us through Creative Restoration International. Your support helps us bring healing tools, resources, and hope to families and creative souls around the world. Learn about Creative Restoration International: https://creativerestorationinternational.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andrewandlara Website: https://andrewandlara.com/

    16 min

  7. JAN 7

    Healing After Betrayal: Can You Really Trust Again?

    Betrayal breaks more than trust — it shatters a sense of safety. Whether the betrayal was sexual, emotional, financial, or a pattern of hidden truths, the path forward can feel overwhelming. In this episode, we unpack what it really takes to heal, rebuild trust, and create a safer marriage than you had before. ⭐️ In This Episode You'll Learn:Why betrayal creates long-term emotional + physical triggersThe real reason apologies aren’t enoughHow to rebuild safety through honesty, consistency, and reassuranceHow the nervous system responds to betrayalThe simple steps couples can use to begin healing today ⭐️Start rebuilding trust today with the 3-Minute Marriage Reset: https://andrewandlara.com ⭐️Healing after betrayal is possible — but it requires rebuilding trust with wisdom, not wishful thinking. This episode gives you clear tools, compassionate guidance, and a grounded view of what healing actually involves. If this conversation spoke to you, share it with your spouse so you can grow together. ⭐️Free BMH Marriage Reset: https://andrewandlara.com/ And if this episode resonated with you and you want to support the deeper work we’re doing to restore marriages and creative lives, we’d love for you to consider partnering with us through Creative Restoration International. Your support helps us bring healing tools, resources, and hope to families and creative souls around the world. Learn about Creative Restoration International: https://creativerestorationinternational.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andrewandlara Website: https://andrewandlara.com/

    24 min

  8. 12/31/2025

    Why Your Marriage Feels Distant — and How to Get Close Again

    Do you ever feel like you’re living alongside your spouse instead of truly with them? Marriage drift happens quietly — not through conflict, but through the gradual loss of emotional presence. You’re functioning, you’re managing the home, but the warmth feels thinner than it used to. In today’s episode, Lara and Andrew unpack why drift happens, the nervous-system patterns behind emotional distance, and the simple shifts that help couples feel close again. Download your free 3-Minute Marriage Reset: https://andrewandlara.com In this episode, you’ll learn: Why marriages drift even when nothing is wrongThe subtle body cues that signal emotional distanceTwo simple tools that rebuild closenessHow to reconnect in small, everyday moments If this episode encouraged you, share it with another couple who might need hope today. 🔗 Show Notes Free BMH Marriage Reset: https://andrewandlara.com/ And if this episode resonated with you and you want to support the deeper work we’re doing to restore marriages and creative lives, we’d love for you to consider partnering with us through Creative Restoration International. Your support helps us bring healing tools, resources, and hope to families and creative souls around the world. Learn about Creative Restoration International: https://creativerestorationinternational.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andrewandlara Website: https://andrewandlara.com/

    25 min
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If your marriage feels more like a roommate situation than a real connection… if stress, parenting, or unspoken tension has crept in… or if you’ve wondered, “Is this really all we have left?” — this podcast is for you. Marriage, Intimacy & Healing is a real-couple podcast for partners who want honest conversations, practical marriage advice, and a path to deeper connection — without therapy-speak or oversimplified tips. Each week, you’ll get grounded guidance to help you: ✨ Rebuild trust, intimacy, and emotional closeness ✨ Communicate with more honesty, less shutdown ✨ Navigate marriage stress (including parenting challenges) ✨ Find calm together — even when life feels overwhelming 👩‍🦰 Lara is an ICF Professional Certified Life Coach (PCC), specializing in emotional alignment and relationship growth. 👨‍🦱 Andrew is a Doctor of Physical Therapy (equiv.), an international educator in performance health and pain science, specializing in how stress, burnout, and disconnection show up in the body — and how couples can return to calm. Together, we bring real tools, real stories, and real hope to couples who want more than surface-level connection. As best friends, happily married for 20+ years, raising kids, and navigating international moves, we know what it’s like to build a thriving marriage under real-life stress. Whether you’re in a tough season or just feeling stuck in the day-to-day, this podcast is here to help you move forward — with practical strategies, nervous system insights, and the reminder that you’re not alone. Because marriage was never meant to be disconnected, and healing is possible — even if it feels hard right now.

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