Feelings I'd Rather Not

Tash
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Feelings I'd Rather Not Podcast explores the everyday patterns, triggers, and quiet uncomfortable truths that shape our mental health. From personal and professional experience, with a Masters in Psychology, Mental Health & Well-Being, Tash blends psychology with real-life reflection. We unpack topics that require discomfort; self-sabotage, emotional regulation, people-pleasing, boundaries, and inner criticism. Through simple tools and guided self-inquiry, listeners learn how to understand their reactions, build emotional awareness, strengthen self-trust and confront those uncomfortable realisations within ourselves and our lives. Whether you love psychology, are curious about your own mind or are on a road to self-discovery and acceptance, this podcast offers a grounded space to feel seen, gain insight, and reflect on things you may never have paused to consider. The Feelings You'd Rather Not are the reflections we avoid, the patterns we repeat, and the truths that change everything.

  1. 6D AGO

    Your emotions only need to make sense to you (stop seeking validation & start self-trust)

    Many people struggle with seeking validation for their emotions from others, leading to self-doubt and emotional abandonment.  In Snack Size Deep Dive 12 on the Feelings I'd Rather Not Podcast, we dive into: Why your feelings don’t need to make logical sense to anyone but youWhy relying on external approval can harm youThe childhood wounds that condition us to seek emotional validationLearn practical tools to resist the urge to seek emotional validationPerfect for anyone looking to improve emotional resilience, cultivate internal validation, and heal from the pain of being misunderstood. Keywords: emotional validation, self-trust, people-pleasing, self-abandonment, mental health, emotional healing, self-reflection.  Tell us why you love the show! Support the show 🎙️NEW EPISODES EVERY MONDAY AND THURSDAY!! Follow so that you don’t miss an episode! I📖f you are struggling with your health, please don't go through it alone. View this: international mental health helpline directory 🌳Linktree: https://linktr.ee/thingswesayintherapy 📺YouTube: https://youtube.com/@feelingsidrathernotpodcast?si=Hswo7kvUoq7mchhz 📲Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/feelingsidrathernotpodcast/ 📲TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@feelingsidrathernotpod?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc 👩‍💻RSS Feed (Buzzsprout Website): https://feelingsidrathernot.buzzsprout.com ☕️Buy Me a Coffee: https://www.https://buymeacoffee.com/feelingsidrathernotpod

    20 min

  2. MAR 1

    Is it 'brutal honesty' or just being rude? (emotional intelligence & healthy communication)

    Ever met someone who says, “I’m just being honest,” but it somehow always feels like an attack? In Episode 23 of Things We Say in Therapy, I’m breaking down the difference between healthy honesty and using “brutal honesty” as an excuse to avoid accountability. We’re talking about communication skills, emotional intelligence, nervous system regulation, and what emotional maturity actually looks like in real relationships. This episode covers: The psychology behind brutal honestyEmotional dysregulation and why people lash outHealthy communication vs identity attacksThe difference between impact and intentionHow to give honest feedback without shamingHow to respond when someone hides behind “I’m just being honest”Setting boundaries around communication stylesThe difference between healthy discomfort and disrespectBrutal honesty can be healthy when it’s rooted in growth, empathy, and emotional regulation. But when honesty is used for superiority, emotional relief, or control, it damages connection and erodes trust in relationships. If you’ve ever: Felt shut down by someone’s harsh deliverySaid something in the heat of the moment and regretted itBeen called “too sensitive”Struggled with conflict in romantic relationships, friendships, or family dynamicsWanted to improve your communication without becoming avoidant or people-pleasingYou’re in the right place. Being honest is necessary for growth. Being harsh isn’t. Tell us why you love the show! Support the show 🎙️NEW EPISODES EVERY MONDAY AND THURSDAY!! Follow so that you don’t miss an episode! I📖f you are struggling with your health, please don't go through it alone. View this: international mental health helpline directory 🌳Linktree: https://linktr.ee/thingswesayintherapy 📺YouTube: https://youtube.com/@feelingsidrathernotpodcast?si=Hswo7kvUoq7mchhz 📲Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/feelingsidrathernotpodcast/ 📲TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@feelingsidrathernotpod?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc 👩‍💻RSS Feed (Buzzsprout Website): https://feelingsidrathernot.buzzsprout.com ☕️Buy Me a Coffee: https://www.https://buymeacoffee.com/feelingsidrathernotpod

    24 min

  3. FEB 25

    What to do when they don't see an issue with their behaviour

    What do you do when someone refuses to see the issue with their behaviour? In Snack Size Deep Dive 11, we unpack one of the most frustrating relationship dynamics: repeatedly explaining your feelings to someone who won’t take accountability. Whether it’s a partner, friend, or family member, being dismissed, gaslit, or met with defensiveness can slowly erode your self-trust. You start questioning yourself. You wonder if you’re too sensitive, you over-explain, you shrink yourself.  But here’s the uncomfortable truth:  Sometimes they genuinely don’t understand.  Sometimes they understand and don’t care enough to change.  And sometimes not seeing the issue protects their identity. In this episode, we explore: Why people avoid accountabilityEmotional unavailability and fragile self-imageHow lack of accountability causes cognitive dissonance Gaslighting (and why it isn’t always intentional)The emotional impact of chronic dismissalWhen to stop explaining and start decidingHow to set boundaries that don’t require agreementThe difference between lack of awareness and lack of willingnessThis episode is about self-respect, emotional regulation, boundaries, and choosing what you’re willing to accept in relationships. Tell us why you love the show! Support the show 🎙️NEW EPISODES EVERY MONDAY AND THURSDAY!! Follow so that you don’t miss an episode! I📖f you are struggling with your health, please don't go through it alone. View this: international mental health helpline directory 🌳Linktree: https://linktr.ee/thingswesayintherapy 📺YouTube: https://youtube.com/@feelingsidrathernotpodcast?si=Hswo7kvUoq7mchhz 📲Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/feelingsidrathernotpodcast/ 📲TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@feelingsidrathernotpod?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc 👩‍💻RSS Feed (Buzzsprout Website): https://feelingsidrathernot.buzzsprout.com ☕️Buy Me a Coffee: https://www.https://buymeacoffee.com/feelingsidrathernotpod

    18 min

  4. FEB 22

    The comfort of the victim mindset (why it's so hard to let go)

    Why does the victim mindset feel so comforting, even when it’s destroying your relationships and keeping you stuck? In Episode 22 of Things We Say in Therapy, we explore the psychology behind the victim mentality, how unresolved trauma turns into identity, and why externalising blame can feel safer than taking responsibility. We break down the difference between real victimisation and subconscious victim mindset patterns, including external locus of control, shame avoidance, defensiveness, emotional reasoning, and trauma responses. If you’ve ever thought: “Why does this always happen to me?”“People are always attacking or misunderstanding me.”This episode will reveal why. You’ll learn: Why the victim mindset starts as self-protectionHow trauma shapes identity and coping mechanismsThe psychological benefits of staying in victimhoodHow chronic externalisation impacts relationshipsWhy accountability can feel threateningThe difference between subconscious patterns and weaponised victimhoodHow to begin shifting toward agency without shameThis is not about blaming people who have experienced trauma. It’s about recognising when pain has turned into a protective cage, and how to gently take responsibility for your healing. If this episode feels uncomfortable, that might mean something resonates. Tell us why you love the show! Support the show 🎙️NEW EPISODES EVERY MONDAY AND THURSDAY!! Follow so that you don’t miss an episode! I📖f you are struggling with your health, please don't go through it alone. View this: international mental health helpline directory 🌳Linktree: https://linktr.ee/thingswesayintherapy 📺YouTube: https://youtube.com/@feelingsidrathernotpodcast?si=Hswo7kvUoq7mchhz 📲Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/feelingsidrathernotpodcast/ 📲TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@feelingsidrathernotpod?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc 👩‍💻RSS Feed (Buzzsprout Website): https://feelingsidrathernot.buzzsprout.com ☕️Buy Me a Coffee: https://www.https://buymeacoffee.com/feelingsidrathernotpod

    26 min

  5. FEB 18

    Why holding people accountable can cost you relationships

    What happens when you stop enabling people and start holding them accountable? In Snack Size Deep Dive 10 we explore the uncomfortable truth that emotional honesty and accountability can cost you relationships. When you stop participating in denial, toxic coping patterns, or self-destructive dynamics, some people won’t grow with you, they’ll distance themselves instead. This episode covers: The psychology behind why accountability triggers shameDefensiveness and withdrawal in emotionally avoidant peopleWhat it means to “hold up a mirror"Why growth can feel lonelyHow outgrowing people is often a painful but necessary part of healing.If you’ve ever been called too intense, too honest, too harsh, or “not fun anymore” after setting boundaries or speaking truth, this conversation is for you. Tell us why you love the show! Support the show 🎙️NEW EPISODES EVERY MONDAY AND THURSDAY!! Follow so that you don’t miss an episode! I📖f you are struggling with your health, please don't go through it alone. View this: international mental health helpline directory 🌳Linktree: https://linktr.ee/thingswesayintherapy 📺YouTube: https://youtube.com/@feelingsidrathernotpodcast?si=Hswo7kvUoq7mchhz 📲Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/feelingsidrathernotpodcast/ 📲TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@feelingsidrathernotpod?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc 👩‍💻RSS Feed (Buzzsprout Website): https://feelingsidrathernot.buzzsprout.com ☕️Buy Me a Coffee: https://www.https://buymeacoffee.com/feelingsidrathernotpod

    14 min

  6. FEB 15

    Why cringing feels terrible (and what it says about you)

    Why do you cringe at things you said years ago? Why do other people’s awkward moments make you physically recoil? Cringing is a self-conscious emotion tied to shame, belonging, and internalised social rules. It’s your nervous system trying to protect you from rejection. In Episode 21 I talk about: What cringing actually is from a psychological perspectiveWhy you judge yourself so harshly for past behaviourWhy you cringe at other people for being “too much” or "embarrassing"How conditional approval shapes your internal rulebookThe shame loop: rumination, replaying, and self-punishmentWhy highly empathetic or hyper-vigilant people cringe moreHow to respond with curiosity instead of self-abandonment and judgementCringing doesn’t mean you’re cruel.  It means something inside you learned that being visible wasn’t safe. This is honest, uncomfortable self-reflection. Sit with it.  Tell us why you love the show! Support the show 🎙️NEW EPISODES EVERY MONDAY AND THURSDAY!! Follow so that you don’t miss an episode! I📖f you are struggling with your health, please don't go through it alone. View this: international mental health helpline directory 🌳Linktree: https://linktr.ee/thingswesayintherapy 📺YouTube: https://youtube.com/@feelingsidrathernotpodcast?si=Hswo7kvUoq7mchhz 📲Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/feelingsidrathernotpodcast/ 📲TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@feelingsidrathernotpod?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc 👩‍💻RSS Feed (Buzzsprout Website): https://feelingsidrathernot.buzzsprout.com ☕️Buy Me a Coffee: https://www.https://buymeacoffee.com/feelingsidrathernotpod

    18 min

  7. FEB 11

    Am I emotionally dismissive? Signs you might be without realising it

    Most people don’t think of themselves as emotionally dismissive. But if emotional conversations make you uncomfortable, overwhelming, or something you instinctively try to shut down, this episode will help you figure out why. In Snack Size Deep Dive 9 of the Things We Say in Therapy Podcast, we explore emotional dismissiveness: what it actually looks like, why it happens, and how it’s often rooted in a low tolerance for emotional discomfort rather than a lack of care. This episode covers: What emotionally dismissive behaviour looks like in everyday interactionsWhy minimising, fixing, joking, or changing the subject is often a defence mechanismHow dismissiveness slowly damages emotional safety and connectionThe difference between being dismissive because you care vs being emotionally unsafeHow to catch yourself in real time without shame or self-abandonmentHow to respond to other people’s emotions with validation instead of avoidanceDismissing emotions doesn’t make you a bad person.  It’s usually something you learned to survive. But awareness is what turns protection into connection. If this episode feels uncomfortable, that’s not a problem, it’s information. Sit with it. Tell us why you love the show! Support the show 🎙️NEW EPISODES EVERY MONDAY AND THURSDAY!! Follow so that you don’t miss an episode! I📖f you are struggling with your health, please don't go through it alone. View this: international mental health helpline directory 🌳Linktree: https://linktr.ee/thingswesayintherapy 📺YouTube: https://youtube.com/@feelingsidrathernotpodcast?si=Hswo7kvUoq7mchhz 📲Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/feelingsidrathernotpodcast/ 📲TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@feelingsidrathernotpod?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc 👩‍💻RSS Feed (Buzzsprout Website): https://feelingsidrathernot.buzzsprout.com ☕️Buy Me a Coffee: https://www.https://buymeacoffee.com/feelingsidrathernotpod

    16 min

  8. FEB 8

    Why you get defensive (and how it's ruining your relationships)

    Why do we get defensive during conflict even when we’re self-aware?  In Episode 20 of Things We Say in Therapy, we break down defensiveness as a nervous system response rather than a personality flaw, and explore why feedback can feel like a personal attack. This episode covers: What defensiveness actually is and why it shows up during conflictThe role of the nervous system, amygdala, and fight-flight-freeze responsesHow childhood attachment, shame, and fear of abandonment shape defensivenessWhy over-explaining, sarcasm, shutting down, and “brutal honesty” are often self-protectionThe difference between being misunderstood and being wrongedHow to separate intent from impact in difficult conversationsThe hidden cost of defensiveness on relationships and emotional safetyHow to notice defensiveness in real time and respond without self-abandonmentWhen defensiveness is actually a signal of being shamed or manipulatedIf you struggle with accountability, conflict, emotional regulation, people-pleasing, or feeling unsafe receiving feedback, this episode offers honest self-reflection, psychology insights, and practical tools to help you build healthier, more authentic relationships. Discomfort isn’t a threat, it’s information. Sit with it.  Tell us why you love the show! Support the show 🎙️NEW EPISODES EVERY MONDAY AND THURSDAY!! Follow so that you don’t miss an episode! I📖f you are struggling with your health, please don't go through it alone. View this: international mental health helpline directory 🌳Linktree: https://linktr.ee/thingswesayintherapy 📺YouTube: https://youtube.com/@feelingsidrathernotpodcast?si=Hswo7kvUoq7mchhz 📲Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/feelingsidrathernotpodcast/ 📲TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@feelingsidrathernotpod?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc 👩‍💻RSS Feed (Buzzsprout Website): https://feelingsidrathernot.buzzsprout.com ☕️Buy Me a Coffee: https://www.https://buymeacoffee.com/feelingsidrathernotpod

    29 min
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Feelings I'd Rather Not Podcast explores the everyday patterns, triggers, and quiet uncomfortable truths that shape our mental health. From personal and professional experience, with a Masters in Psychology, Mental Health & Well-Being, Tash blends psychology with real-life reflection. We unpack topics that require discomfort; self-sabotage, emotional regulation, people-pleasing, boundaries, and inner criticism. Through simple tools and guided self-inquiry, listeners learn how to understand their reactions, build emotional awareness, strengthen self-trust and confront those uncomfortable realisations within ourselves and our lives. Whether you love psychology, are curious about your own mind or are on a road to self-discovery and acceptance, this podcast offers a grounded space to feel seen, gain insight, and reflect on things you may never have paused to consider. The Feelings You'd Rather Not are the reflections we avoid, the patterns we repeat, and the truths that change everything.

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  • Creator
    Tash
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    35
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2026 ThingsWeSayinTherapy
  • Show Website
    Feelings I'd Rather Not