Things We Say in Therapy

Tash
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The Things We Say in Therapy Podcast explores the everyday patterns, triggers, and quiet truths that shape our mental health. Each episode blends psychology with real-life reflection; unpacking topics like self-sabotage, emotional regulation, people-pleasing, boundaries, and inner criticism. Through simple tools and guided self-inquiry, listeners learn how to understand their reactions, build emotional awareness, and strengthen self-trust. Whether you love psychology, are curious about your own mind or are on a road to self-discovery, this podcast offers a grounded space to feel seen, gain insight, and reflect on things you may never have paused to consider, supporting genuine growth and lasting self-improvement. The Things We Say in Therapy are the reflections we avoid, the patterns we repeat, and the truths that change everything.

  1. 11H AGO

    Why holding people accountable can cost you relationships

    What happens when you stop enabling people and start holding them accountable? In Snack Size Deep Dive 10 we explore the uncomfortable truth that emotional honesty and accountability can cost you relationships. When you stop participating in denial, toxic coping patterns, or self-destructive dynamics, some people won’t grow with you, they’ll distance themselves instead. This episode covers: The psychology behind why accountability triggers shameDefensiveness and withdrawal in emotionally avoidant peopleWhat it means to “hold up a mirror"Why growth can feel lonelyHow outgrowing people is often a painful but necessary part of healing.If you’ve ever been called too intense, too honest, too harsh, or “not fun anymore” after setting boundaries or speaking truth, this conversation is for you. Tell us why you love the show! Support the show 🎙️NEW EPISODES EVERY MONDAY AND THURSDAY!! Follow so that you don’t miss an episode!💚💛 I📖f you are struggling with your health, please don't go through it alone. View this: international mental health helpline directory 🌳Linktree: https://linktr.ee/thingswesayintherapy 📺YouTube: https://youtube.com/@thingswesayintherapypodcast?si=Q_9A2cnWL0ceLooM 📲Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thingswesayintherapypodcast/ 📲TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thingswesayintherapypod?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc 👩‍💻RSS Feed (Buzzsprout Website): https://thingswesayintherapy.buzzsprout.com ☕️Buy Me a Coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/thingswesayintherapy

    14 min

  2. 3D AGO

    Why cringing feels terrible (and what it says about you)

    Why do you cringe at things you said years ago? Why do other people’s awkward moments make you physically recoil? Cringing is a self-conscious emotion tied to shame, belonging, and internalised social rules. It’s your nervous system trying to protect you from rejection. In Episode 21 I talk about: What cringing actually is from a psychological perspectiveWhy you judge yourself so harshly for past behaviourWhy you cringe at other people for being “too much” or "embarrassing"How conditional approval shapes your internal rulebookThe shame loop: rumination, replaying, and self-punishmentWhy highly empathetic or hyper-vigilant people cringe moreHow to respond with curiosity instead of self-abandonment and judgementCringing doesn’t mean you’re cruel.  It means something inside you learned that being visible wasn’t safe. This is honest, uncomfortable self-reflection. Sit with it.  Tell us why you love the show! Support the show 🎙️NEW EPISODES EVERY MONDAY AND THURSDAY!! Follow so that you don’t miss an episode!💚💛 I📖f you are struggling with your health, please don't go through it alone. View this: international mental health helpline directory 🌳Linktree: https://linktr.ee/thingswesayintherapy 📺YouTube: https://youtube.com/@thingswesayintherapypodcast?si=Q_9A2cnWL0ceLooM 📲Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thingswesayintherapypodcast/ 📲TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thingswesayintherapypod?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc 👩‍💻RSS Feed (Buzzsprout Website): https://thingswesayintherapy.buzzsprout.com ☕️Buy Me a Coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/thingswesayintherapy

    18 min

  3. 6D AGO

    Things We Say in Therapy Trailer

    Hi, I'm Tash. Welcome to the Things We Say in Therapy Podcast!  This podcast is uncomfortable… on purpose. Here, we talk about the honest truths. The thoughts you whisper in therapy but rarely say out loud. The patterns, the triggers, the relationships, the self-sabotage, all of it. If you’re on a self-growth journey, curious about psychology, or just trying to understand yourself (and the people around you) a little better… you’re in the right place. Some of these conversations might confront you. They might challenge you. They might even sting a little. But discomfort isn’t a sign you’re doing it wrong, it’s often a sign you’re growing. So I invite you to lean in. Stay curious. And be gentle with yourself along the way. We release new episodes every Monday and Thursday, your double dose of self-reflection. Let’s navigate it together. See you there. Tell us why you love the show! Support the show 🎙️NEW EPISODES EVERY MONDAY AND THURSDAY!! Follow so that you don’t miss an episode!💚💛 I📖f you are struggling with your health, please don't go through it alone. View this: international mental health helpline directory 🌳Linktree: https://linktr.ee/thingswesayintherapy 📺YouTube: https://youtube.com/@thingswesayintherapypodcast?si=Q_9A2cnWL0ceLooM 📲Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thingswesayintherapypodcast/ 📲TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thingswesayintherapypod?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc 👩‍💻RSS Feed (Buzzsprout Website): https://thingswesayintherapy.buzzsprout.com ☕️Buy Me a Coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/thingswesayintherapy

    1 min

  4. FEB 11

    Am I emotionally dismissive? Signs you might be without realising it

    Most people don’t think of themselves as emotionally dismissive. But if emotional conversations make you uncomfortable, overwhelming, or something you instinctively try to shut down, this episode will help you figure out why. In Snack Size Deep Dive 9 of the Things We Say in Therapy Podcast, we explore emotional dismissiveness: what it actually looks like, why it happens, and how it’s often rooted in a low tolerance for emotional discomfort rather than a lack of care. This episode covers: What emotionally dismissive behaviour looks like in everyday interactionsWhy minimising, fixing, joking, or changing the subject is often a defence mechanismHow dismissiveness slowly damages emotional safety and connectionThe difference between being dismissive because you care vs being emotionally unsafeHow to catch yourself in real time without shame or self-abandonmentHow to respond to other people’s emotions with validation instead of avoidanceDismissing emotions doesn’t make you a bad person.  It’s usually something you learned to survive. But awareness is what turns protection into connection. If this episode feels uncomfortable, that’s not a problem, it’s information. Sit with it. Tell us why you love the show! Support the show 🎙️NEW EPISODES EVERY MONDAY AND THURSDAY!! Follow so that you don’t miss an episode!💚💛 I📖f you are struggling with your health, please don't go through it alone. View this: international mental health helpline directory 🌳Linktree: https://linktr.ee/thingswesayintherapy 📺YouTube: https://youtube.com/@thingswesayintherapypodcast?si=Q_9A2cnWL0ceLooM 📲Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thingswesayintherapypodcast/ 📲TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thingswesayintherapypod?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc 👩‍💻RSS Feed (Buzzsprout Website): https://thingswesayintherapy.buzzsprout.com ☕️Buy Me a Coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/thingswesayintherapy

    16 min

  5. FEB 8

    Why you get defensive (and how it's ruining your relationships)

    Why do we get defensive during conflict even when we’re self-aware?  In Episode 20 of Things We Say in Therapy, we break down defensiveness as a nervous system response rather than a personality flaw, and explore why feedback can feel like a personal attack. This episode covers: What defensiveness actually is and why it shows up during conflictThe role of the nervous system, amygdala, and fight-flight-freeze responsesHow childhood attachment, shame, and fear of abandonment shape defensivenessWhy over-explaining, sarcasm, shutting down, and “brutal honesty” are often self-protectionThe difference between being misunderstood and being wrongedHow to separate intent from impact in difficult conversationsThe hidden cost of defensiveness on relationships and emotional safetyHow to notice defensiveness in real time and respond without self-abandonmentWhen defensiveness is actually a signal of being shamed or manipulatedIf you struggle with accountability, conflict, emotional regulation, people-pleasing, or feeling unsafe receiving feedback, this episode offers honest self-reflection, psychology insights, and practical tools to help you build healthier, more authentic relationships. Discomfort isn’t a threat, it’s information. Sit with it.  Tell us why you love the show! Support the show 🎙️NEW EPISODES EVERY MONDAY AND THURSDAY!! Follow so that you don’t miss an episode!💚💛 I📖f you are struggling with your health, please don't go through it alone. View this: international mental health helpline directory 🌳Linktree: https://linktr.ee/thingswesayintherapy 📺YouTube: https://youtube.com/@thingswesayintherapypodcast?si=Q_9A2cnWL0ceLooM 📲Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thingswesayintherapypodcast/ 📲TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thingswesayintherapypod?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc 👩‍💻RSS Feed (Buzzsprout Website): https://thingswesayintherapy.buzzsprout.com ☕️Buy Me a Coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/thingswesayintherapy

    29 min

  6. FEB 4

    Why we self-sabotage peace and keep choosing chaos

    Why do some of us keep choosing chaos over calm?  In Snack Size Deep Dive 8 we explore why people who grew up in chaotic or emotionally unavailable environments often find drama familiar and peace uncomfortable. Learn how our nervous system can become addicted to chaos, how drama serves as emotional regulation, and why calm can feel suspicious, boring, or even anxiety-inducing. This episode is about understanding patterns in ourselves and our relationships, recognising how trauma shapes our reactions, and learning how to sit with discomfort and grow.  This episode includes: Introduction: Chaos vs Calm – Why the nervous system craves dramaWhy calm can feel uncomfortable and trigger anxietyAvoidance and discomfortNervous system conditioning and hyper-vigilanceConfusing intensity with intimacy and its impact on relationshipsHealing and self-awarenessRecognising your own toxic patternsSelf-sabotage and accountability: How we maintain chaos to feel safeSelf-Reflection Questions: What does calm bring up for you?How do you avoid being left alone with your thoughts?Are you able to sit in stillness without confusing peace with boredom? Tell us why you love the show! Support the show 🎙️NEW EPISODES EVERY MONDAY AND THURSDAY!! Follow so that you don’t miss an episode!💚💛 I📖f you are struggling with your health, please don't go through it alone. View this: international mental health helpline directory 🌳Linktree: https://linktr.ee/thingswesayintherapy 📺YouTube: https://youtube.com/@thingswesayintherapypodcast?si=Q_9A2cnWL0ceLooM 📲Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thingswesayintherapypodcast/ 📲TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thingswesayintherapypod?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc 👩‍💻RSS Feed (Buzzsprout Website): https://thingswesayintherapy.buzzsprout.com ☕️Buy Me a Coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/thingswesayintherapy

    12 min

  7. FEB 1

    Performative empathy: When ‘caring’ is just emotional avoidance

    Most people believe they’re empathetic, but real empathy isn’t comfortable or easy. In Episode 19 of Things We Say In Therapy, we unpack performative empathy: the habit of wanting to appear caring, supportive, and emotionally safe without actually being present in someone’s pain. We explore why many people: Perform care instead of offering real emotional connectionRush to fix, reframe, or validate to avoid discomfortUse toxic positivity and emotional bypassing without realisingStruggle to sit with difficult emotions, their own and others’We also break down the psychology behind performative empathy, including nervous system avoidance, people-pleasing, trauma responses, and fragile self-identity, expanding on how these patterns quietly damage connection and trust in relationships. This episode isn’t about blame or shame, it’s about awareness, emotional honesty, and learning how to sit with discomfort instead of escaping it. If this feels uncomfortable, that’s the point. Sit with it. Tell us why you love the show! Support the show 🎙️NEW EPISODES EVERY MONDAY AND THURSDAY!! Follow so that you don’t miss an episode!💚💛 I📖f you are struggling with your health, please don't go through it alone. View this: international mental health helpline directory 🌳Linktree: https://linktr.ee/thingswesayintherapy 📺YouTube: https://youtube.com/@thingswesayintherapypodcast?si=Q_9A2cnWL0ceLooM 📲Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thingswesayintherapypodcast/ 📲TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thingswesayintherapypod?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc 👩‍💻RSS Feed (Buzzsprout Website): https://thingswesayintherapy.buzzsprout.com ☕️Buy Me a Coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/thingswesayintherapy

    21 min

  8. JAN 21

    Why you feel competitive with your friends (even when you love them)

    In Snack Size Deep Dive 7, we talk about one of the most uncomfortable truths in adult friendships: loving your friends deeply while secretly feeling competitive, jealous, or resentful when they get things you want. This short, snackable episode unpacks why these feelings are far more common than we admit and why they don’t mean you’re a bad friend or a bad person. Through psychology-backed insights on social comparison, self-esteem, scarcity mindset, and identity threat, you’ll learn why your friends’ success can feel like a personal failure, and how to turn that discomfort into self-awareness instead of shame. In this episode, we cover: Why jealousy and love can coexistThe psychology behind comparison in close friendshipsHow low self-worth fuels competitivenessWhy your friends’ wins trigger insecurityHow to stop letting comparison damage meaningful relationships Tell us why you love the show! Support the show 🎙️NEW EPISODES EVERY MONDAY AND THURSDAY!! Follow so that you don’t miss an episode!💚💛 I📖f you are struggling with your health, please don't go through it alone. View this: international mental health helpline directory 🌳Linktree: https://linktr.ee/thingswesayintherapy 📺YouTube: https://youtube.com/@thingswesayintherapypodcast?si=Q_9A2cnWL0ceLooM 📲Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thingswesayintherapypodcast/ 📲TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thingswesayintherapypod?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc 👩‍💻RSS Feed (Buzzsprout Website): https://thingswesayintherapy.buzzsprout.com ☕️Buy Me a Coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/thingswesayintherapy

    14 min
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The Things We Say in Therapy Podcast explores the everyday patterns, triggers, and quiet truths that shape our mental health. Each episode blends psychology with real-life reflection; unpacking topics like self-sabotage, emotional regulation, people-pleasing, boundaries, and inner criticism. Through simple tools and guided self-inquiry, listeners learn how to understand their reactions, build emotional awareness, and strengthen self-trust. Whether you love psychology, are curious about your own mind or are on a road to self-discovery, this podcast offers a grounded space to feel seen, gain insight, and reflect on things you may never have paused to consider, supporting genuine growth and lasting self-improvement. The Things We Say in Therapy are the reflections we avoid, the patterns we repeat, and the truths that change everything.

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  • Creator
    Tash
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    32
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2026 ThingsWeSayinTherapy
  • Show Website
    Things We Say in Therapy