The Inner Work Diary

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The Inner Work Diary, where we explore the journey of self discovery, healing, and relationships. As coaches and as a couple, we share raw and relatable moments from our own experiences, offering practical insights to improve your mindset, relationships to help you do the inner work. Real conversations that inspire change and deepen connections.

  1. 2d ago

    When Being Strong Becomes Your Armour: From Self-Protection to Deeper Intimacy

    This week we are unpacking what happens when being strong, capable and independent becomes a kind of armour and how that can impact our ability to be vulnerable, receive support and experience deeper intimacy in our relationships. We talk about the patterns we've learnt to rely on to feel safe, how hyper-independence and constant performance can become part of our identity and what it takes to start putting those layers down.  We dive into: Hyper-independence, performance and the armour we build to feel safe Why vulnerability, receiving support and letting our guard down can feel uncomfortable How emotional safety creates deeper intimacy and connection Communicating our emotions instead of hiding or suppressing them Taking responsibility for our patterns and creating change, both in and outside of relationships Want to go deeper? We support individuals and couples through emotional patterns, personal growth, and building deeper, more connected relationships. Send us a DM if you'd like to explore working together. Connect with us on socials: The Inner Work Diary - https://www.instagram.com/theinnerworkdiary/Pete - https://www.instagram.com/petejmclean/Gee - https://www.instagram.com/gee_gniel/ Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/light-prism/stellar

  2. Oct 21

    Are Your Standards Too High or Are You Avoiding Discomfort?

    Welcome back guys! In this episode, we unpack the difference between having high standards and using them to avoid discomfort, vulnerability and taking responsibility for ourselves. We talk about how easy it is to focus on what others aren't doing, judge them for it, and overlook where we might need to show up differently ourselves. From dating and relationships to business and personal growth, we explore why building our capacity to sit with discomfort is just as important as knowing what we want. We dive into: High standards vs. avoiding discomfort Holding ourselves to the same standards we have for others How judgment can reflect our own insecurities Taking ownership instead of blaming others Building capacity for rejection, pressure and difficult conversations Finding the balance between challenging ourselves and giving ourselves grace Want to go deeper? We support individuals and couples through emotional patterns, personal growth, and building deeper, more connected relationships. Send us a DM if you'd like to explore working together. Connect with us on socials: Pete - InstagramGee - Instagram Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!):Light Prism – Stellar

  3. Oct 14

    Losing Myself in an Abusive Relationship | Pete’s Story

    Content warning: This episode includes references to suicide and sexual assault. Welcome back guys! This week Pete shares his personal story and the experiences that shaped who he is today, from growing up with the pressure to get things right to navigating difficult relationships and finding his way into coaching. Content warning: This episode includes references to suicide and sexual assault. We talk about how we can build our identity around being the good one, keeping everyone happy and putting other people's needs first. Pete also opens up about an abusive relationship, what it was like to lose himself trying to save someone else, and the process of figuring out who he was outside of everything he'd known. We dive into: Growing up with the pressure to be good and get things right How we learn to put other people's needs before our own The need to fix, save and make everyone happy Pete's experience with relationship trauma Losing yourself in a relationship The impact of shame and keeping things to yourself Learning who you are outside of the roles you've taken on How Pete's experiences led him into men's coaching Want to go deeper? We support individuals and couples through emotional patterns, personal growth, and building deeper, more connected relationships. Send us a DM if you'd like to explore working together. Connect with us on socials: Pete - Pete on Instagram Gee - Gee on Instagram Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):

  4. Oct 7

    How to Ask for What You Need in a Relationship

    Welcome back guys! In this ep, we talk about why it can be so hard to ask for what you need in a relationship. We get into where this can come from, how childhood can shape the way we relate to our own needs, and why vulnerability, rejection and the fear of not getting what we ask for can make it easier to stay quiet, over-give or expect our partner to just know. We also talk about how this can show up through resentment, loneliness, criticism, withdrawal and disconnection, and what it actually looks like to take ownership of your needs and bring them into your relationship. We're Diving Into: Why we struggle to express our needs How childhood shapes this The vulnerability and fear behind asking How over-giving can lead to resentment What’s being said vs what’s actually being felt How to communicate your needs without attacking Taking ownership of your needs Creating more connection and teamwork Want to go deeper? We support individuals and couples through emotional patterns, personal growth, and building deeper, more connected relationships. Send us a DM if you’d like to explore working together. Connect with us on socials: Pete - https://www.instagram.com/petejmclean/ Gee - https://www.instagram.com/gee_gniel/ Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):https://uppbeat.io/t/light-prism/stellar

  5. Sep 25

    Why Men Struggle to Step Up in Relationships

    In this ep, we talk about what can get in the way of a man fully stepping into his own life and relationships. We get into the transition from boyhood to manhood, how our relationship with our parents can shape the way we show up as adults, and what can happen when a man hasn’t psychologically separated from his family. We also talk about how this can show up through indecision, withdrawal, people pleasing, difficulty with boundaries and taking responsibility and what it actually takes to build the capacity to face discomfort, make decisions and step into your own life. We Dive Into: Moving from boyhood to manhood How parents can shape adult relationships Psychological separation and healthy boundaries Why some men struggle with decisions and responsibility How withdrawal and people-pleasing can show up Building capacity through challenge and discomfort How women can unintentionally take over or manage relationships Creating space for men to lead and take responsibility Our own experiences navigating these dynamics together Want to go deeper? We support individuals and couples through emotional patterns, personal growth, and building deeper, more connected relationships. Send us a DM if you’d like to explore working together. Connect with us on socials: Pete - https://www.instagram.com/petejmclean/ Gee - https://www.instagram.com/gee_gniel/ Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/light-prism/stellar

  6. Sep 17

    How Your Childhood Shapes Your Relationships | Understanding Your Patterns & Triggers

    A lot of what plays out in our adult relationships started long before the relationship did. In this ep, we talk about how our childhood experiences can shape our emotional home, nervous system and the way we respond in relationships. We get into how the environment we grew up in can influence the patterns we carry, why we can react from younger parts of ourselves when we’re triggered and what it actually looks like to work through these patterns instead of continuing to repeat them. We also share some of our own experiences and what we’ve had to navigate together around anger, withdrawal, abandonment, emotional expression, safety and repair. We Dive Into: How childhood patterns show up in adult relationships How your emotional home is formed The role your nervous system plays in relationship triggers Why we can react from younger parts of ourselves How coping mechanisms develop How unmet emotional needs can continue to play out in relationships Why understanding your patterns is only the beginning Creating more safety and emotional capacity in relationships Our own experiences of triggers, withdrawal and abandonment How repair and connection can create new evidence for your nervous system What it actually looks like to work through these patterns Want to go deeper? We support individuals and couples through emotional patterns, personal growth, and building deeper, more connected relationships. Send us a DM if you’d like to explore working together. Connect with us on socials: Pete - https://www.instagram.com/petejmclean/ Gee - https://www.instagram.com/gee_gniel/ Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):

  7. Sep 9

    You Understand Your Patterns. So Why Are You Still Repeating Them? | Personal Development, Nervous System & Relationships

    What happens when you’ve done all the learning, understand your patterns and still find yourself repeating them? In this ep, we talk about how personal development can actually become another way of avoiding what’s underneath, especially when we get stuck in our heads trying to understand, fix or figure everything out. We get into the gap between knowing something and actually living it, what relationships can bring to the surface that you thought you’d already worked through and what it looks like to actually meet those parts of yourself instead of just finding another book, podcast or framework to explain them. We Dive Into: Why self-awareness doesn’t always lead to change The gap between knowing your patterns and actually changing them When personal development becomes another form of avoidance Why understanding your nervous system isn’t the same as building capacity What relationships can bring to the surface that you thought you’d already worked through Using labels and theory to make sense of your partner instead of looking at what’s happening within you Why feeling and experiencing something can be more important than understanding it Taking action and building new evidence through real-life experiences What it actually means to keep doing the work as life and relationships continue to change Want to go deeper? We support individuals and couples through emotional patterns, personal growth, and building deeper, more connected relationships. Send us a DM if you’d like to explore working together. Connect with us on socials: Pete - https://www.instagram.com/petejmclean/ Gee - https://www.instagram.com/gee_gniel/ Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/light-prism/stellar

  8. Sep 2

    Staying Connected When You Feel Like You Have Nothing Left

    Today’s episode is a pretty real conversation about what happens to your relationship when life gets really full. We’ve both been in a season where work, training, life and everything in between have taken up a lot of our capacity and we’ve noticed what that can bring up between us - feeling disconnected, resentment and sometimes unmet expectations. We talk about what’s actually underneath those moments, how easy it is to make your partner the problem when you’re both just trying to get through a lot, and what changes when you actually communicate what you’re feeling and needing rather than letting it build. We Dive Into: What busy seasons can bring up in a relationship Resentment and the expectations we don’t always realise we’re carrying Feeling unseen while also knowing your partner is trying How to communicate what you actually need without it coming out as criticism Why sometimes the practical thing you’re arguing about isn’t actually the real issue Learning to appreciate your partner’s effort while still being honest about what you need Creating connection when you don’t feel like you have much capacity left The bigger conversation around work, achievement, pressure and what we’re actually creating our lives around Want to go deeper? We support individuals and couples through emotional patterns, personal growth, and building deeper, more connected relationships. Send us a DM if you’d like to explore working together. Connect with us on socials: @petejmclean @gee_gniel

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The Inner Work Diary, where we explore the journey of self discovery, healing, and relationships. As coaches and as a couple, we share raw and relatable moments from our own experiences, offering practical insights to improve your mindset, relationships to help you do the inner work. Real conversations that inspire change and deepen connections.

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  • Creator
    Gee and Pete
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    34
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Gee and Pete
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    The Inner Work Diary