Hey girl, I got your message and your invitation. I'm going to be honest with you: I will not be joining you for that vision board party workshop. First of all, we're in the first week of February. I know we are never too late, but why are we having this vision board workshop right now in February? But that's not even the real reason. The real reason is: vision boards have never worked for me. And I'm going to tell you the truth—in my experience, vision boards are a surefire way to keep people confused and broke and just jacked up. Sitting around staring at pictures on a wall has never moved a single needle in my life or my business. So I won't be joining you. But I genuinely wish you all the best and I hope everything on your board comes true. For me, I do something completely different. I write a contract with myself. A real one. I draft it the same way I draft any serious contract, line by line, term by term. It's between the current version of me (who I am right now) and the future version of me. And I've been doing this for years. In fact, I started doing it when I hit rock bottom. Remember that time I told you I was down in the pits? Once I stopped throwing myself pity parties and decided I was going to pick myself up, I wrote a contract with myself. And I've been doing it ever since. I set the terms, the conditions, KPIs, standards, boundaries, expectations, rules, responsibilities and everything. I lay it out just like a serious commercial contract. When I'm leading a major project, that contract sits on my desk 24/7. It's like the project Bible. And that's how I treat my self contract. I keep it beside me like my little Bible. My personal life contract guidance system. It governs how I show up, who I let into my life, what I tolerate, and what I don't. I've been updating it for 2026. I started last month to review and make changes. I review it quarterly. I renegotiate where I need to, amend what I need to, update what I need to. I have a whole framework that I use in my life. I have a self contract that I use to bring that framework to life. And that's how I dug myself out of the hole. It has paid off immensely. That's how I was able to pay off my student loans. I remember when I saw my aunt (who was my guarantor) years later after I'd paid off my student loan and she was like, "Girl, you can borrow money from me anytime." Because she knows I'm good for it. I honor my contracts. So no, I won't be sitting around doing vision boards with you. That is just not my gig. But if you want me to come and help you draft a personal self contract, I am there. Because for me, I don't need any more pictures on my wall. Honestly, I've done the vision boards. I used to be the Queen of them. But sitting there and just staring at them didn't move anything. I needed action. I needed my feet on the ground. I think in pictures too, I absolutely do. But if I don't move, nothing moves. And I need the needle to move every day. This one's for you if: 1. You've made vision boards that never materialized into anything real 2. You're tired of manifesting without action and accountability 3. You want a framework that actually governs how you show up 4. You're ready to treat your life like the serious contract it is Skip the vision board. Draft the contract. This podcast is for women who are done performing. If you want more of this energy, the kind of conversation that reminds you who you actually are visit wwdaglobal.com and step into the room. You'll get weekly insights, frameworks I don't share anywhere else, and a community of women who've stopped asking for permission. About Women Who Don't Apologise: Over 150 episodes exploring power, boundaries, capacity, and what it means to live on your own terms. Hosted by Patricia Haywood, lawyer, The Queen of Construction Contracts, Top 100 Woman in Construction, GC, and chief unapologetic mistress. For women 40+ who are exhausted from following everyone else's blueprint.
