This Wasn't the Plan with Tara Resnick

Tara Resnick
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This Wasn’t the Plan is a podcast for women whose lives took an unexpected turn -and who are learning how to rebuild, redefine, and fully trust themselves again. Hosted by Tara Resnick (@tararesnick), the show is a space for honest conversations about resilience, starting over, and becoming yourself after disappointment, loss, or major life transitions. From infertility and IVF journeys to relationship endings, career shifts, burnout, identity changes, and living childfree by circumstance, this podcast meets you in the seasons most people do not talk about—and reminds you that timelines are made-up, and you are not behind. Each episode blends real-life stories with expert insight from women who have navigated change firsthand, alongside coaches, therapists, and wellness professionals sharing practical mindset tools, emotional coping strategies, and grounded guidance for moving forward with clarity and self-trust. This podcast is for women who feel behind, untethered, or unsure of what comes next—but who still believe there is more waiting for them. You do not need to have it all figured out. You just need a place that reminds you that you are not broken, not alone, wildly capable, and that your next chapter can be more magical than you ever imagined. Because sometimes this wasn’t the plan—but it becomes the beginning of something more aligned, more honest, and unapologetically you. For more conversations and tools on resilience, mindset, and rebuilding your life, visit www.tararesnick.com or follow Tara on Instagram (@tararesnick) and TikTok (@tararesnick1).

  1. FEB 2

    Season Finale. Season 2 starts March 2 - Childfree by Circumstance - Choosing Yourself After IVF, Miscarriage, and Letting Go of the Plan

    What happens when you stop chasing the life you were told to want and choose yourself instead? In this episode of This Wasn’t the Plan, Tara sits down with Victoria for an honest, deeply validating conversation about being childfree by circumstance after infertility. After four years of trying to conceive, two rounds of IVF, and four miscarriages, Victoria and her husband made the conscious decision to stop trying - not because it hurt less, but because continuing came at too high a cost. Together, they talk about the grief no one prepares you for, the pressure to keep going, and the strength it takes to walk away from a dream that once defined your future. This episode explores what it really means to choose yourself after infertility, how to navigate life without the timeline you imagined, and why being childfree by circumstance does not make your life smaller, less meaningful, or incomplete. This conversation is for anyone experiencing infertility, IVF burnout, pregnancy loss, miscarriage grief, or redefining their identity and purpose after life takes an unexpected turn. It is also for women who are tired of being asked intrusive questions like “Do you have kids?” without space for the reality of what they have endured. If you are learning how to rebuild, redefine your future, or trust yourself again after loss, this episode will remind you that your life still matters - and that choosing yourself is not giving up. Season 2 launches March 2, 2026! Connect with Tara: Instagram: @tararesnick TikTok: @tara_resnick https://tararesnick.com/ Connect with Victoria: Instagram: @victoriamahoney29

    56 min

  2. JAN 26

    When Life Does Not Follow the Plan - Letting Go of Timelines, Fertility Curveballs, and Unexpected Resilience with Laura Behnke

    In this episode, I sit down with writer and creator of The Life Actually Company, Laura Behnke, for an honest conversation about releasing societal timelines and learning how to meet the life you never saw coming....multiple times. Laura shares how her 30s unfolded in ways she never expected - from letting go of pressure around marriage and milestones, to meeting her now husband later than planned, to navigating unimaginable loss when both of their fathers were diagnosed with cancer and passed away in the same year. We talk about fertility struggles, needing IVF due to a rare genetic disorder, the emotional toll of trying to conceive, and the curveballs that continued long after she thought the hardest part was over. Laura also opens up about what it was like to finally become a mother - and then face another life-altering diagnosis just months later. This episode is not about overcoming for the sake of inspiration. It is about reality. About grief, uncertainty, resilience, and what it means to live a life that looks nothing like the one you imagined - and still find meaning inside it. If you have ever felt behind, blindsided, or deeply exhausted by trying to control an uncontrollable life, this conversation will meet you exactly where you are. Connect with Tara: Instagram: @tararesnick TikTok: @tara_resnick https://tararesnick.com/ Connect with Laura: Instagram: @laurabehnke https://www.laurabehnke.com/

    1h 14m

  3. JAN 19

    Jessica Field on Infertility, Miscarriage & Life’s Unplanned Pivots

    In this episode, Jessica Field opens up about navigating life’s unexpected turns - from moving across the continent and starting over, to facing infertility and multiple miscarriages. She shares how trusting herself, embracing change, and building resilience have shaped her journey. Tune in for an honest, empowering conversation about strength, resilience, and finding your path through life’s unplanned challenges. Connect with Tara: Instagram: @tararesnick TikTok: @tara_resnick Join The Unplanned Life Community: https://tararesnick.com/the-unplanned-life-community-childfree-women Connect with Jessica: Instagram: @yourspiritualwellnesscoach https://www.yourspiritualwellnesscoach.com/

    50 min

  4. JAN 12

    Childfree Not by Choice - How I Learned I Would Be Ok and Chose Life After Infertility

    What happens when you are childfree not by choice and forced to grieve a life you deeply wanted? In this solo episode, I speak honestly about infertility, choosing to stop trying, and what it actually means to be ok after letting go of the dream of motherhood. This is not a conversation about positivity, manifestation, or silver linings. It is about grief, agency, boundaries, and learning how to live fully on the other side of loss. I share how traveling to Paris helped reconnect me to my body and reminded me that life does not end when one dream does. I also address the pressure women face to stay hopeful, trust the law of attraction, consider adoption, or continue trying at all costs - and why deciding to stop is an act of self love, not failure. This episode is for women navigating childlessness not by choice, infertility grief, or the complicated reality of choosing peace after years of striving. You are not broken. Your life is not a consolation prize. And you are allowed to choose yourself. Connect with Tara Resnick: Instagram: @tararesnick TikTok: @tara_resnick https://tararesnick.com/

    31 min

  5. JAN 5

    No New Episode This Week - Pause, Reflect, and Start Over

    Tara here! I’m on vacation this week, but this quick placeholder episode is perfect for women looking to start over, boost self confidence, and focus on personal growth. Take a moment to revisit past episodes, reflect on your journey, and recharge your mindset. Even a small pause can spark clarity, motivation, and positive change. I'll resume regularly scheduled episodes next Mon. Jan. 12, 2026. Happy New Year!

    3 min

  6. 12/29/2025

    Starting Over, Modern Dating and Self Confidence: A Conversation with Aleeza Ben Shalom

    Dating after major life changes like breakups, divorce or infertility can feel confusing and overwhelming - but it doesn’t have to. In this episode, Aleeza Ben Shalom from the Netflix series Jewish Matchmaking, shares her insights on modern dating, starting over, and building self-confidence. You’ll discover how to: Navigate dating with clarity and intentionAvoid repeating old patterns that keep you stuckHandle sensitive questions about children with confidenceEmbrace your story as a source of strength and attractionBuild self-confidence and find meaningful connections Whether you’re reinventing your love life, healing from setbacks, or ready to date with purpose, this conversation offers practical strategies, mindset shifts, and encouragement to help you find love again on your own terms. Connect with Tara Resnick: Instagram: @tararesnick TikTok: @tara_resnick https://tararesnick.com/ Connect with Aleeza Ben Shalom: Instagram: @aleezabenshalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/

    47 min

  7. 12/22/2025

    Childfree by Circumstance - Grief, Healing, and Finding Joy in Plan B with Healing Roots Together

    What does it really mean to be childfree by circumstance - and how do you grieve the life you thought you would have while still creating one that feels meaningful and joyful? In this episode, I’m joined by Adriana Rodriguez-Baptiste and Caroline Bloss from Healing Roots Together, a support community for women who are childfree by circumstance and navigating life after infertility, pregnancy loss, or unexpected childlessness. We talk openly about the grief that doesn’t have a timeline, the identity shifts that come with letting go of Plan A, and how to find purpose, connection, and joy in a life that looks different than expected. Adriana and Caroline share how mindfulness, community support, and intentional healing practices can help women move from survival mode to actually thriving. If you are childfree by circumstance, struggling with unresolved grief, or trying to figure out who you are after infertility, this conversation will help you feel less alone and more grounded in what comes next. Topics we cover: What it means to be childfree by circumstanceGrieving the loss of motherhood and Plan AFinding joy and meaning in Plan BMindfulness tools to support healing after infertilityWhy community and support groups matterHow Healing Roots Together helps women thrive after loss This episode is for women who want to honor their grief without letting it define their future. Connect with Tara Resnick: https://tararesnick.com/ Instagram: @tararesnick TikTok: @tara_resnick Connect with Adriana and Caroline: https://healingrootstogether.com/ Instagram: @healing.roots.together

    52 min

  8. 12/15/2025

    Healing, Self-Care, and Life as Childfree After Infertility – Vulnerable Update with Tara Resnick

    In this personal update episode of This Wasn’t the Plan, Tara shares her journey of grief, healing, and growth after infertility, embracing life as childfree. She discusses taking time off for therapy, self-care, and processing, along with her experiences with hormone health and slowing down to honor herself. You’ll hear insights on: Healing and reclaiming your energy after infertilityPrioritizing self-care and mental wellbeingEmbracing life as childfree with acceptance and clarityLessons on compassion for yourself while navigating growth Connect with Tara Resnick: Website: https://tararesnick.com/ Instagram: @tararesnick TikTok: @tara_resnick

    24 min
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This Wasn’t the Plan is a podcast for women whose lives took an unexpected turn -and who are learning how to rebuild, redefine, and fully trust themselves again. Hosted by Tara Resnick (@tararesnick), the show is a space for honest conversations about resilience, starting over, and becoming yourself after disappointment, loss, or major life transitions. From infertility and IVF journeys to relationship endings, career shifts, burnout, identity changes, and living childfree by circumstance, this podcast meets you in the seasons most people do not talk about—and reminds you that timelines are made-up, and you are not behind. Each episode blends real-life stories with expert insight from women who have navigated change firsthand, alongside coaches, therapists, and wellness professionals sharing practical mindset tools, emotional coping strategies, and grounded guidance for moving forward with clarity and self-trust. This podcast is for women who feel behind, untethered, or unsure of what comes next—but who still believe there is more waiting for them. You do not need to have it all figured out. You just need a place that reminds you that you are not broken, not alone, wildly capable, and that your next chapter can be more magical than you ever imagined. Because sometimes this wasn’t the plan—but it becomes the beginning of something more aligned, more honest, and unapologetically you. For more conversations and tools on resilience, mindset, and rebuilding your life, visit www.tararesnick.com or follow Tara on Instagram (@tararesnick) and TikTok (@tararesnick1).

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