If not now, then when...? (The Midlife Experiment)

Sonja McKaiser
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Welcome to "If not now, then when...?", a podcast for midlife women who crave conversations that feel like a voice note from your bestie. We'll talk about the wild, beautiful process of reinventing yourself in midlife, from menopause & identity shifts to sensuality, grief & the radical act of becoming who you were always meant to be. Sprinkle in a little witchiness, some astrology, a touch of humour & a whole lot of truth! If something inside you has been whispering that it's time to stop playing small & start expressing yourself fully, this is your reminder. Coz if not now, then when...?

  1. 5d ago

    EP31: Permission to be REAL and RAW [S3E7]

    It’s eclipse season! And in this week's voice note, I share why I want this podcast to become a space for real, raw vulnerability. A place where I can navigate my next evolution in real time. Unfiltered, and maybe even a little unhinged. Social media can feel so performative. We're surrounded by highlight reels and people who seem to have everything figured out. I'm no longer interested in adding to that. Instead, I want to create a space where I can bring my weird, share my frustrations and my joys, and let you witness the process while I'm still in it. My hope is that, in doing so, it gives you permission to do the same. If you've been feeling the pull to stop censoring yourself, and to take one messy, courageous step without having all the answers, then this episode is for you. Maybe this eclipse season is your invitation to create your very own plot twist... Talking about plot twists, my Plot Twist sessions are still available at R850 ($55) for a limited time. If you're feeling a little uncertain, and need some direction moving forward, then book your call today. https://calendly.com/sonjamcoaching/plottwist Sending so much love!  PS: come follow me on⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠,⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠SUBSTACK⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!

  2. Aug 7

    EP30: Are you forcing the timeline? [S3E6]

    Coming to you from my bed for this week's voicenote. I'm recovering from a flu bug, so no notes or talking points this week. Yep, I've gone rogue… I found myself in conversation with my future self, who told me that sharing my experience is enough. So this is a riff about birthday month reflections and the impatience of wanting a breakthrough. Apparently not every episode needs deep meaning or profundity. Sometimes the experience itself is the wisdom... My Plot Twist sessions are still available at R850 ($55) for a limited time. If you know that you're getting in your own way and would like some direction moving forward, then book your call today: https://calendly.com/sonjamcoaching/plottwist Sending so much love!  PS: come follow me on⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠,⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠SUBSTACK⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!

  3. Jul 31

    EP29: Finding a portal in the crisis [S3E5]

    "Repair is possible!"  In this beautiful conversation with multidisciplinary artist Yvette Hess, we explore what happens when the life you've carefully built no longer feels like it fits. We talk about letting go of the "good girl", finding your way back to yourself, creativity as a path to healing, belonging, courage, and learning to trust the unknown. Yvette also shares the journey that led her to the TEDx stage, and why saying yes before you feel ready can change the trajectory of your life. If you've been questioning who you are, where you're headed, or what's waiting on the other side of this midlife experiment, this conversation is for you. You can find Yvette on: Instagram, Facebook and on her website. My Plot Twist sessions are still available for a limited time. If you know that you're getting in your own way and would like to get to the bottom of the pattern or story, then book your call. For the rest of birthday month it'll cost R850 ($55). Click this link to book your spot: https://calendly.com/sonjamcoaching/plottwist Sending so much love!  PS: come follow me on⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠,⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠SUBSTACK⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!

  4. Jul 17

    EP28: There is no second draft! [S3E4]

    How much of your life are you putting on hold? In this week's voice note, I'm reflecting on courage, getting out of our own way, and why so many of us keep postponing the lives we're longing to live. We all have stories we tell ourselves about someday. Are you still waiting for someday before you take that step, start that thing, or trust yourself? Today is someday. And the waiting is YOU getting in your own way! This isn't a rehearsal, this is your life. Be brave, coz if not now, then when...?  My Plot Twist sessions are still available. If you know that you're getting in your own way and would like to get to the bottom of the pattern or story, then book your call. For the rest of birthday month it'll cost R850 ($55). Click this link to book your spot: https://calendly.com/sonjamcoaching/plottwist Sending so much love!  PS: come follow me on⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠,⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠SUBSTACK⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!

  5. Jul 10

    EP27: You've been living in survival mode and you probably don't even know it... [S3E3]

    Nervous system regulation has become one of those phrases we hear everywhere, yet so few of us actually understand what it means. In this week's episode, Aimee Isaacs joins me to unpack what nervous system regulation really is, why so many women in midlife feel stuck in survival mode, and how our hormonal changes can make everything feel even more intense. We also explore why perimenopause can leave us feeling anxious, exhausted, irritable and overwhelmed, and why pushing through isn't the answer anymore. In this episode we chat about: What nervous system regulation actually meansHow chronic stress impacts your body and your healthThe difference between reacting and respondingSmall, practical ways to support your nervous system every daySensory snacksWhy taking care of yourself is no longer optional in midlife If you enjoyed this conversation be sure to follow Aimee on YouTube and Instagram. And because it’s birthday month, I’ve got something delicious just for you! Plot Twist, my once-off 1:1 coaching session, is for you if you're so over your own BS. We identify the pattern or the story that's been keeping you in the same loop, and we find what needs to shift so you can get out of your own way. The cost is R850 / $55. Click this link to book your spot: https://calendly.com/sonjamcoaching/plottwist Sending so much love!  PS: come follow me on⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠,⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠SUBSTACK⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!

  6. Jul 3

    EP26: Your midyear reset - the plot twist you didn't know you needed [S3E2]

    Can you believe the first half of 2026 is done!? I love me some affirmations. I love writing them in my journal and saying them out loud... But sometimes I tend to do them haphazardly. This month I'm committing to doing them every day. How about you?  In case you needed a reminder, you have the power to change the trajectory of your life. This week's episode is a reset of sorts. Press play on a walk, during your morning coffee, or while you're driving. Come back to these affirmations as often as you need. Allow them to become your July practice. Write them in your journal everyday. Choose your favourite ones and say them out loud. And if you loved this episode, then share it with all your friends! I know this year is flying by. And I also know we tend to say this every year. But you get to create your own PLOT TWIST instead of wishing for it. If you're continuously getting on your own way, and you need support taking a step or a leap forward, there are a few ways we can work together. Plot Twist is my once-off 45-minute 1:1 coaching session at R850 ($55). We identify the pattern or the story that's been keeping you in the same loop, and we find what needs to shift so you can get out of your own way. Click this link to book your spot: https://calendly.com/sonjamcoaching/plottwist Threshold is my 3 month 1:1 coaching container for the womxn who's done hovering at the edge of her next evolution and is ready to cross the threshold and go deeper with proper support. Literally me in your pocket for 3-months.  A Radical Revolution is my 6 month 1:1 container for the kind of transformation that takes sustained commitment, deep excavation, and me supporting you and rooting for you every step of the way.  Sending so much love!  PS: come follow me on⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠,⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠SUBSTACK⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!

  7. Jun 26

    EP25: The Messy Middle of Becoming [S3E1]

    Welcome to Season 3! In today's yummy voice-note-style episode I share what's been coming up for me as I step into my next evolution. I talk about the messy middle of becoming, the parts of the journey we don't always share online, and why I'm done with the performative highlight reel that is social media. This season is about real conversations, real challenges, and creating a space where we can show up as our whole selves. Buckle up, baddie. We're doing this together! If you're still sitting on the promise you made to yourself at the beginning of this year, and need support taking one step forward, then listen up. The Plot Twist is my once-off 45-minute 1:1 coaching session where we look at what's getting in your way, and what needs to shift so that this year actually gets to be different. Sometimes we cannot see our own blind spots, and that's precisely what this is for. The cost is R850 ($55). Click this link to book your spot: https://calendly.com/sonjamcoaching/plottwist Sending so much love!  PS: come follow me on⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠,⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠SUBSTACK⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!

  8. May 1

    EP24: Is your need for approval holding you back? [S2E12]

    Full Moon Blessings and happy May! This episode lands on the Full Moon in Scorpio, so if things have been feeling intense, you're not imagining it. As we close out Season 2, I'm going a little deeper into why you may be getting on your own way, and how to move through it. Because it's definitely not lack of trying but possibly your need for approval that's keeping you in the same loop. In this short reflection, I talk about how deeply this pattern can run, why it trips us up even when we're ready for change, and the very important role support plays in actually moving through it. If you're still sitting on the promise you made yourself at the beginning of this year, this one's for you. And if something in this episode resonates, I want you to know that you don't have to do this alone. Drop me an email and let’s chat! Or send me a DM on social media. You get to be supported as you embrace and embody the womxn you were born to be. Sending so much love!  PS: come follow me on⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠,⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠ and⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠SUBSTACK⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!

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Welcome to "If not now, then when...?", a podcast for midlife women who crave conversations that feel like a voice note from your bestie. We'll talk about the wild, beautiful process of reinventing yourself in midlife, from menopause & identity shifts to sensuality, grief & the radical act of becoming who you were always meant to be. Sprinkle in a little witchiness, some astrology, a touch of humour & a whole lot of truth! If something inside you has been whispering that it's time to stop playing small & start expressing yourself fully, this is your reminder. Coz if not now, then when...?

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