Charisma lifestyles with Joseph Shinton

Joseph Shinton
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Men's performance Coach | Helping men achieve peak performance in relationships, social connections and personal mastery through proven systematic approaches.

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  1. JAN 2

    The "Therapist Effect" (That Makes You More Loved) | Ep. 11

    Join The Connection OS Newsletter: https://relentless-originator-4677.kit.com/a5356f4385 Everyone's fighting to be heard. Nobody's actually listening. You're stuck in conversations where people just wait for their turn to talk. There's a skill that makes you incredibly rare. The ability to actually listen. When you unlock this, people bond with you deeply because you give them something they can't get anywhere else. In this episode, you'll learn why listening is a genuine superpower, how to build deep connections fast, and the critical mistake most people make (giving endlessly to takers). You'll get the framework for filtering out people who drain you from those who actually build with you. You'll understand the therapist effect, why vulnerability creates powerful bonds, and how to use presence as a filter for quality relationships. Want proven frameworks to build deeper connections? Join here: https://relentless-originator-4677.kit.com/a5356f4385 Episode Title Ideas (for the algo): Why Nobody Listens (And How It Makes You Powerful)The Listening Superpower That Builds Deep ConnectionsStop Talking: How Listening Changed EverythingEveryone Wants to Be Heard—Be the One Who ListensHow to Build Real Connections in a World That Only TakesThe One Skill That Makes People Bond With You DeeplyWhy Listening Is More Valuable Than Being InterestingListen on Apple Podcasts & Spotify Connect with me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/josephshintonLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/joseph-shinton-bb602024bTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@joseph_shintonTwitter/X: https://x.com/JosephShinton Timestamps:00:00 - Why nobody actually listens to you01:00 - The trap everyone's stuck in02:00 - What it costs you in relationships03:00 - The listening superpower unlocked04:18 - How to create space for vulnerability05:12 - The therapist effect explained05:34 - The boundary mistake that drains you06:32 - Filter takers from givers07:29 - Heaven vs hell: the two spoons parable08:29 - Read people through their behaviour09:24 - Fill your cup before showing up #charismalifestyles #connectioncrisis #socialmastery #listeningskills #relationships #personaldevelopment

    10 min

  2. 12/18/2025

    The 'Crab Barrel' Effect (And Why People Try to Keep You Stuck) | Ep. 10

    Get The Connection Breakthrough: https://relentless-originator-4677.ki...Join The Newsletter: https://relentless-originator-4677.ki... In this episode, you'll discover why the people around you fight your growth—and how to escape. You're building your charisma Lifestyle. Taking drastic steps to improve your life. Doing the hard things that actually matter. But the people closest to you are pushing back hard. Friends mock you. Family questions you. Even people stuck in worse positions feel entitled to tell you you're wrong. Every time you try to climb, someone's there to drag you back down. The crab barrel effect: when one crab escapes, the others pull it straight back in. They're terrified. If you succeed, what does that say about them? People disconnected, stuck in the connection crisis need you to fail. Your success threatens their comfort. Their rationalisations. Their excuses for staying exactly where they are. You'll learn exactly how to break free from approval-seeking, stop giving your energy to the wrong people, and surround yourself with those who've already climbed out. Want the system that gets you out? Join here: https://relentless-originator-4677.kit.com/a5356f4385 Episode Title Ideas (for the Algorithm)Why Everyone Around You Wants You to Fail (And How to Escape)The Crabs Pulling You Down: Why People Fight Your SuccessStop Seeking Approval From People Who Want You StuckWhy Miserable People Give You the Worst AdviceThey Don't Want You to Escape (Here's Why)The People Holding You Back Aren't Who You ThinkWhy Your Friends Secretly Need You to Fail Connect with me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/josephshintonLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/joseph-shinton-bb602024bTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@joseph_shintonTwitter/X: https://x.com/JosephShinton Timestamps:00:00 - Why people fight your success01:36 - The crab barrel mechanism revealed01:50 - The freezer job guy who needed me to fail03:03 - Why unqualified people give the worst advice05:04 - The counsellor who showed me where my energy was going05:49 - Building the operating system to escape07:00 - What happens when you stop seeking approval08:25 - The choice: will you climb out anyway? #charismalifestyles #connectioncrisis #socialmastery #personaldevelopment #selfimprovement #growthmindset

    9 min

  3. 12/04/2025

    The Real Reason Elite People Stay Ahead (And How You Catch Up) | Ep. 9

    Get The Connection Breakthrough: https://relentless-originator-4677.kit.com/6f13e97b54 Join The Newsletter: https://relentless-originator-4677.kit.com/a5356f4385 In this episode, I break down the path from illiterate to self-taught. Left school barely reading. Couldn't name the months. Didn't know the alphabet. Every conversation with educated people reminded me how behind I was. Blaming my background didn't close the gap—druggie dad, conspiracy theories, unstable home. None of that changed the reality. One book did. Then another. The difference between people who transform and people who stay stuck is whether you actually do something with what you learn. Apply it. Fail. Adjust. Repeat. This episode walks through why most people are making it up as they go, why the bar is lower than you think, and why disadvantage is secretly your advantage. Want proven frameworks to turn learning into results? Join here: https://relentless-originator-4677.kit.com/a5356f4385 Episode Title Ideas (for algo) From Illiterate to Self-Taught: How I Closed the Education GapWhy Self-Education Beats Formal Education (And How to Start)The One Skill That Compounds Into Everything ElseHow I Went From Feeling Stupid to Overtaking "Smart" PeopleSelf-Education: Your Unfair Advantage When Life Starts You BehindWhat Privileged People Don't Tell You About LearningThe Uncomfortable Truth About Why You're Still Stuck Connect with me: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/josephshinton LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/joseph-shinton-bb602024b TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@joseph_shinton Twitter/X: https://x.com/JosephShinton Timestamps: 00:00 - Looking like an idiot 00:43 - The grammar school kids who had everything I didn't 01:18 - Why I stopped blaming my background 02:03 - Rock bottom and the book that started everything 02:37 - Meditation and controlling my anxiety 03:12 - Dale Carnegie, Alan Watts, Richard La Ruina—the compound effect 03:52 - Applying their paths to my own life 04:35 - How every book opens doors to the next level 05:12 - Arnold's self-education from poverty to governor 05:52 - Why self-education is your navigation system 06:38 - Most people don't actually know what they're doing 07:18 - Rockefeller's quote: disadvantage creates hunger 07:48 - The reality nobody sells you—years of hard work 08:47 - Real knowledge comes from failing and doing reps 09:24 - Years wasted when the information was already there 10:14 - The choice: blame your circumstances or build 10:52 - You have to build it and walk through the door yourself #charismalifestyles #connectioncrisis #socialmastery #selfeducation #personaldevelopment #lifelonglearning

    12 min

  4. 11/27/2025

    This One Phrase Is Why You're Still Anxious | Ep. 8

    Get The Connection Breakthrough: https://relentless-originator-4677.kit.com/6f13e97b54 Join The Newsletter: https://relentless-originator-4677.kit.com/a5356f4385 In this episode, I break down why saying "I am anxious" is the single phrase keeping you trapped — and how changing this one thing unlocks everything. I'll show you the gap between what your body thinks is real and what's actually real, why anxiety thrives on disconnection (from yourself, from others, from reality), and the exact mindset shift that separates people who stay stuck from those who break free. You'll learn why courage isn't the absence of fear, why radical responsibility is non-negotiable, and how to stop making anxiety part of your identity so you can finally start living. This isn't about managing symptoms. It's about reconnecting to your power, your relationships, and your purpose. Want proven frameworks to beat anxiety and build authentic connection? Join here: https://relentless-originator-4677.kit.com/a5356f4385 Episode title ideas (for the algo):This One Phrase Is Why You're Still AnxiousWhy You Can't Stop Being Anxious (It's Not What You Think)Never Say "I Am Anxious" — Say This InsteadThe Real Reason You're Still Anxious (Everyone Misses This)Stop Saying This — It's Keeping You TrappedHow Anxiety Keeps You Disconnected (And What To Do)You're Not Anxious, You're Disconnected Connect with me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/josephshintonLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/joseph-shinton-bb602024bTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@joseph_shintonTwitter/X: https://x.com/JosephShinton 00:00 - Anxiety Isn't Protecting You, It's Cutting You Off00:30 - Anxiety Is Time Travel to a Future That Doesn't Exist01:15 - The Staff Room Moment (My Body Locking Up)01:45 - The Gap Between What's Real and What Your Body Thinks02:30 - Words Come Out Jumbled (The Embarrassment Loop)03:15 - What Real Losing Looks Like (Becoming Invisible)04:15 - How Anxiety Destroys Your Relationships04:50 - The Festival Dancer Story (My Relationship Anxiety)06:15 - Anxiety About Having Anxiety (Two Levels Deep)07:15 - Never Call Yourself "An Anxious Person"08:15 - How Labels Trap You in Identity09:15 - Separate Experience From Identity10:00 - Courage Is Action Despite Fear11:00 - The Two Paths (Coward vs Warrior)12:00 - Radical Responsibility (No More Blaming)13:00 - Your Best Self Is On The Other Side #charismalifestyles #connectioncrisis #socialmastery #anxiety #selfmastery #personaldevelopment

    14 min

  5. 11/21/2025

    Why Your Attention Is a Weapon Pointed at Yourself | Ep. 7

    Here's your podcast description: Get The Connection Breakthrough: https://relentless-originator-4677.kit.com/6f13e97b54 Join The Newsletter: https://relentless-originator-4677.kit.com/a5356f4385 In this episode, I break down the real reason you're exhausted, stressed, and never satisfied — and it's not your circumstances. I'll show you how gratitude isn't some fluffy mindset trick, but a neurological tool that redirects your mental energy from constant dissatisfaction to actual progress. You'll learn why most people wake up already drained (they're scanning for problems, not blessings), how to retrain your mind like an algorithm, and the exact daily practices I use to stop wasting hours on resentment and start building with clarity and calm. This isn't about toxic positivity. It's about changing the lens so you can actually enjoy what you're building whilst you build it. Want proven frameworks to build social mastery and personal power? Join here: https://relentless-originator-4677.kit.com/a5356f4385 Episode title ideas:Why You're Always Exhausted (It's Not What You Think)Gratitude Isn't Fluffy — It's Neurological FuelHow to Stop Wasting Mental Energy on ResentmentThe Real Reason You're Never SatisfiedChange the Lens, Change Your Life (Gratitude System)Why Successful People Use Gratitude as FuelHow I Stopped Being Miserable (And You Can Too) Connect with me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/josephshintonLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/joseph-shinton-bb602024bTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@joseph_shintonTwitter/X: https://x.com/JosephShinton 00:00 - The Trap of Constant Dissatisfaction01:00 - Your Mind Is a Camera (Choosing Your Filter)02:00 - The Social Skills Paradox (What I Learned)03:13 - The Mechanism: Gratitude Blocks Resentment04:46 - Thailand vs Manchester (The Material Wealth Illusion)06:00 - Why "I'll Be Happy When" Never Works07:35 - Gratitude as Active Training (Retraining Your Algorithm)09:00 - The Daily Practices That Actually Work10:08 - The Broken Guitar (What Almost Passed Me By)11:00 - You Control the Frame #connectioncrisis #yourcharismalifestyle #mentalmastery

    12 min

  6. 11/11/2025

    Why Success Feels Empty (And What Actually Fills the Void) | Ep. 6

    Get the Authentic Connection Breakthrough: https://relentless-originator-4677.kit.com/6f13e97b54Join the newsletter: https://relentless-originator-4677.kit.com/a5356f4385 In this episode, I break down the most fundamental mistake I made in my twenties - and the one most men are still making today. I spent years chasing success, women, status, and validation, believing these things would finally make me feel good enough. And here's the wild part: I actually got them. But the moment I did, everything changed. I'll walk you through my complete journey from desperate self-improvement junkie to understanding what actually builds lasting confidence. You'll learn about the six pillars of genuine self-esteem, why most "success" is just elaborate compensation, and the difference between building confidence on solid foundations versus rotten ones. This isn't theory - this is the hard-won wisdom from someone who took the path of excess and came out the other side. This isn't about abandoning your goals. This is about understanding what you're really chasing - and building the foundation that makes real achievement possible. Want proven frameworks for building authentic confidence? Join here: https://relentless-originator-4677.kit.com/a5356f4385 Episode title ideas: (algorithm)The Self-Esteem Trap (Why Success Won't Fix You)I Got Everything I Wanted and It Changed NothingThe Six Pillars of Genuine Self-EsteemWhy Most Men Are Chasing the Wrong ThingHow to Build Confidence That Can't Be Taken AwayStop Chasing Validation (Build This Instead)The Foundation Every Man Needs Before Success Connect with me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/josephshintonLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/joseph-shinton-bb602024bTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@joseph_shintonTwitter/X: https://x.com/JosephShinton 00:00 - Introduction: The Struggle Years00:44 - Turning to Self-Improvement (And Getting What I Wanted)01:26 - The Moment Everything Changed02:05 - Finding My First Breakthrough02:36 - The 180 Degree Life Transformation03:02 - What I Was Really Chasing03:43 - The Path of Excess Leads to Wisdom04:16 - False Pillars of Self-Esteem05:01 - Why Most Problems Come From Low Self-Esteem05:40 - What Changes When You Actually Have Self-Esteem06:34 - The Gym Rat Trap (Compensating vs. Building)07:48 - The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem08:00 - Pillar 1: Living Consciously08:10 - Pillar 2: Self-Acceptance08:27 - Pillar 3: Personal Responsibility08:55 - Pillar 4: Self-Assertiveness09:14 - Pillar 5: Living With Purpose09:28 - Pillar 6: Personal Integrity09:52 - The Common Thread (It All Comes From Within)10:15 - The Confidence-Competence Connection10:34 - Knowledge → Applied Knowledge → Skill → Confidence11:00 - The Three Traps That Keep You Stuck11:17 - Trap 1: The Hacks (Avoiding Effort)11:26 - Trap 2: The Knowledge Trap (Endless Research)12:02 - Trap 3: Fear of Failure (And Why You Need to Embrace It)13:04 - High Self-Esteem Attracts High Self-Esteem13:47 - A Full Glass vs. An Empty Glass14:18 - What I'd Tell My Younger Self15:15 - The Ultimate Goal: Freedom15:51 - Start Here: Build the Foundation First #charismalifestyles #connectioncrisis #socialmastery #selfesteem

    17 min

  7. 11/01/2025

    The "Chocolate Cake Principle" That Makes People Want You Around | Ep. 5

    Get my FREE guide on authentic connections here: https://relentless-originator-4677.kit.com/a5356f4385 Want to unlock your personal power and transform your relationships? Email: Team@charismalifestyles.com In this episode, I break down the complete framework that transformed my social life after years of struggling - the exact principle that lets naturally likeable people connect effortlessly whilst most people push others away without realising it. I'll walk you through the entire system - from understanding the law of relationships and why people enter them, to the "chocolate cake principle" that changes everything, to the active listening framework that actually works, to how I went from judgemental and isolated to someone people genuinely want around. This isn't about manipulation or fake tactics. This is about systematic value-giving that creates genuine relationships, not just surface-level connections. Want to LEARN proven systems for better relationships and peak performance? Go here: https://relentless-originator-4677.kit.com/a5356f4385 Connect with me: Email: Team@charismalifestyles.com  00:00 - Why some people seem effortlessly liked 01:00 - The law of relationships 03:00 - Be the chocolate cake (not vegetables) 05:00 - Speaking people's actual language 07:00 - Active listening framework 08:00 - Value exchange and game theory 10:00 - Implementation steps #socialskills #charisma #relationships #menscoaching #peakperformance

    12 min

  8. 10/24/2025

    It's Not Too Late to Change Your Life (Here's Why You Should) | Ep. 4

    It's Not Too Late to Change Your Life (Here's Why You Should) | Ep. 4 I wasted 10 years in a job I had zero interest in. Graduated university at 28. Only started pursuing what I actually wanted at 30. For years, I convinced myself I'd missed my chance. Everyone else seemed 10-20 years ahead. How could I possibly catch up? But here's what I've learnt: that feeling is incredibly common. So many people in their 30s and 40s who took the "safe path" early on are now realising they need to make a change too. The truth is simple: You shouldn't waste your life wishing you'd done something differently because you're too afraid or too comfortable to take the risk. Life is long, but it goes fast. Avoid the pressure of conforming to other people's timelines—when you should be qualified, have a house, be married, have kids. Your life is different to theirs. You're younger than you think. The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago, but the second best time is now. 📧 Join the weekly newsletter for advice on living better + FREE guide on authentic connections: https://relentless-originator-4677.kit.com/6f13e97b54📺 Watch on YouTube [https://youtu.be/JAB8jC9ox1w?si=ukvVpXQjDDQfdX11]💬 Email: Team@charismalifestyles.com If you found this helpful, please share it with someone who needs to hear it—it helps the podcast grow and lets me create more useful content

    6 min

  9. 10/18/2025

    How to never run out of things to say | Ep. 3

    I spent most of my twenties standing at parties, nursing a drink, watching everyone else connect whilst I felt like an alien. Girls had zero interest in me. When I tried to connect, I'd embarrass myself. I actively avoided strangers because every interaction felt clumsy and uncomfortable. Sound familiar? In this episode, I break down the exact 3-step framework I used to go from chronically anxious and socially invisible to someone who connects effortlessly—and how these skills transformed my entire life. You'll learn: How to let others lead (the listening skill that makes you instantly valuable)The conversation threading technique that prevents awkward silencesWhy 80% of communication is non-verbal (and how to use it) Here's what nobody tells you: Missing out on social development doesn't mean you're broken. It means you need a different approach. I developed these skills through meetup groups, travel, and thousands of interactions. Now I help ambitious men master conversation, build genuine connections, and create lives full of opportunity. Stop being invisible. Start being unforgettable. 📧 Weekly newsletter + FREE PDF: https://relentless-originator-4677.kit.com/6f13e97b54📺 Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/Y0oSAW1-y0I 💬 Ready to transform your social skills? Team@charismalifestyles.com

    14 min

  10. 10/09/2025

    #2 Why you feel stuck (and how to find your calling)

    I share 3 things that rob people of their calling and how you can reclaim the life you were meant to live. This video will show you what’s silently killing your sense of meaning and the exact steps to break free and discover your true purpose. Check out the weekly newsletter: https://relentless-originator-46… For weekly wisdom bombs and a FREE pdf to help you stop drifting through life and start living with genuine purpose and direction.

    13 min

  11. 10/09/2025

    Three things you need to learn to avoid being creepy

    I share 3 creepy things that guys do and how you can avoid being creepy. This video will show you how you might accidentally fall into this category and what you can do to fix it.Check out the weekly newsletter: https://relentless-originator-4677.ki...For weekly wisdom bombs and a FREE pdf to help you start building better relationships and improve your ability to connect with and influence others.

    12 min
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