Securely You

CT Kaupp
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Most of us were never taught how to love. We simply mirror what we grew up around, for better or worse. Securely You is about understanding your attachment style, recognizing your patterns, and learning to feel secure in yourself so you can create relationships that feel real in your soul. Each episode helps you reconnect with yourself and live more fully in alignment with who you truly are. 

  1. 3D AGO

    Compatibility VS Capacity

    This episode explores the difference between compatibility and capacity in relationships. It’s something I’m seeing everywhere in modern dating, myself included. You can feel deeply aligned with someone and still hit a wall if they don’t have the capacity to truly show up. No amount of compatibility can make up for a lack of consistency or follow-through. If the capacity isn’t there on both sides, it’s never going to work, no matter how compatible you feel.  Send CT a text! Check out our website: TheMindfulSPX.com Connect on social: @TheMindfulSPX

    8 min

  2. 12/19/2025

    Have You Experienced Flaw-Finding?

    Flaw-finding can show up when emotional closeness starts to grow and a partner suddenly seems more focused on what is wrong than what is working. In this short episode, we talk about a pattern called flaw-finding and why it is often linked to avoidant attachment. It is less about your shortcomings and more about how someone creates space when connection begins to feel uncomfortable. If you have ever felt confused, criticized, or quietly pushed away, this episode offers language for an experience that can be hard to make sense of in real time. Send CT a text! Check out our website: TheMindfulSPX.com Connect on social: @TheMindfulSPX

    9 min

  3. 12/11/2025

    Have You Experienced the Depth Trap With a Fearful Avoidant?

    Have you ever connected deeply with someone in the first few days, only for them to suddenly pull away? Fearful avoidants (FAs) love deep conversations, emotional growth, and self development. But when that depth becomes real and relational, their nervous system hits its limit. In this episode, I break down why FAs bond intensely, pull away just as fast, and create that confusing 'fast connection to fast exit' cycle. I also share what you can do to avoid falling into the trap and what FAs can do to grow beyond it. Send CT a text! Check out our website: TheMindfulSPX.com Connect on social: @TheMindfulSPX

    11 min

  4. 12/03/2025

    From “Why Don’t I Have That?” to “I Can’t Wait for That”

    There’s a big difference between dating from a place of fear/desperation and dating from a place of possibility/excitement. In this episode, I break down what lack VS abundance looks like in real life, and how shifting into an abundance mindset can completely change the energy you bring into dating. Send CT a text! Check out our website: TheMindfulSPX.com Connect on social: @TheMindfulSPX

    8 min

  5. 11/26/2025

    A 5-minute Reflection For YOU

    As you may be traveling to your Thanksgiving destination, let's switch it up here. While recording a recent episode, I ended with reflection questions that landed deeper than I expected, so I turned it into a standalone episode. You can use these questions as a quick reset to reconnect with yourself, to get clear about where you’re at, and how you want to show up moving forward. Send CT a text! Check out our website: TheMindfulSPX.com Connect on social: @TheMindfulSPX

    5 min

  6. 11/19/2025

    Flame Fast or Burn Slow – Why It’s Not Either/Or

    We love to label connections as either “too fast” or “too slow,” but what if the truth lives somewhere in the middle? In this episode, I break down how society talks about pacing and why the real magic comes from co-creating the rhythm together, not following a predetermined script. Send CT a text! Check out our website: TheMindfulSPX.com Connect on social: @TheMindfulSPX

    8 min

  7. 11/12/2025

    Resonance: The Unspoken Language of Connection

    Have you ever met someone and instantly felt like you’d known them forever? No small talk. No effort. Just flow. In this episode, I share the story of a 8+ hour redeye flight where time disappeared and the conversation never stopped. The kind that reminds you what it feels like to be fully seen, heard, and in sync with another human being. Send CT a text! Check out our website: TheMindfulSPX.com Connect on social: @TheMindfulSPX

    9 min

  8. 11/05/2025

    Fearful Avoidant vs Dismissive Avoidant – Attachment Styles 101

    The fearful avoidant and dismissive avoidant attachmen styles can seem similar on the surface – distant, independent, or hard to reach, but what’s happening underneath is very different. In this episode, we unpack the key differences between these two styles, why they’re often confused, and how each responds to closeness and connection. You’ll learn what drives their behaviors, what they both need to feel safe, and how to tell them apart in yourself or someone you love. Send CT a text! Check out our website: TheMindfulSPX.com Connect on social: @TheMindfulSPX

    11 min
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Most of us were never taught how to love. We simply mirror what we grew up around, for better or worse. Securely You is about understanding your attachment style, recognizing your patterns, and learning to feel secure in yourself so you can create relationships that feel real in your soul. Each episode helps you reconnect with yourself and live more fully in alignment with who you truly are. 

Information

  • Creator
    CT Kaupp
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    13
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Securely You brought to you by The Mindful Soulpreneur
  • Show Website
    Securely You