Notes to My Nervous System: regulation, relationships, and real life.

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What happens when you understand your stress instead of fighting it? Notes to My Nervous System is a podcast about regulation, relationships, mental health, and the messy reality of being human. Hosted by therapist and former educator Erin Vandermore, LCMHC-S, the show brings together honest conversations about stress, burnout, parenting, relationships, attachment, boundaries, behavior, and the patterns we fall into when life becomes overwhelming. You’ll also hear Mom Therapy, a recurring series about the mental load, overstimulation, relationships, guilt, parenting, identity, ..life

  1. 11h ago

    Nervous System & Burnout: Stop Fighting Your Body | Jessica Maguire

    Welcome to real conversations about mom therapy, over-functioning, and nervous system regulation. Join Erin Vandermore and author Jessica Maguire to explore why anxiety isn't a character flaw. What You'll Discover:• The car analogy for your autonomic states.• Why quick vagus nerve hacks miss true healing.Your body is not betraying you - it is trying to protect you. Jessica Maguire breaks down why stress, anxiety, shutdown, and even chronic symptoms often start with nervous system states, not character flaws, and why that changes everything for healing. Host Erin Vandermore and Jessica Maguire, author of The Nervous System Reset, make the science feel practical and human. They unpack the autonomic nervous system through a simple car analogy, showing how the "gas," the "brake," and the "handbrake" map to mobilization, regulation, and immobilization - and why your thoughts are often following your state, not causing it. You'll discover how nervous system patterns can show up as agitation, people-pleasing, digestive issues, insomnia, fatigue, pain, and hopelessness. Jessica shares why IBS is now understood as a disorder of gut-brain interaction, how chronic symptoms can reflect lingering dysregulation, and why "it's all in your head" is not only wrong, but deeply disempowering.Need a quick reset? Start here with the Mind Circuit App: Ease and its Bilateral Brain Stimulation (BLS) “Brain Flossing™ — a one-minute reset for your nervous system.” Mom TherapyThe conversations moms are having in therapy but not always saying out loud. Disclaimer: Mom Therapy is educational, not clinical advice. This isn't therapy or a how-to show—it's two real humans noticing what's showing up and trying to be kinder to ourselves. If you're tired of perfectly staged mom content and want authentic conversation about women's health, mental health, and motherhood, this is your space. This conversation speaks to women navigating stress, advocacy for their own health, and the invisible nervous-system load so many carry quietly. Support the Show:If this episode helped you understand your wiring a little better, please follow the show and leave a 5-star review. It helps us reach more people looking for their own "Aha!" moments. Disclaimer: "Mom therapy" discussions are purely educational and do not replace clinical advice.  © 2025 Mind Circuit Inc. All right reserved.  YouTube → @erin_notestomynervoussystem Website → ⁠⁠https://mindcircuit.org⁠⁠  Notes to My Nervous System is hosted by Erin Vandermore, founder of Mind Circuit™—a regulation-first platform developing brief, practical tools for schools. For adults who want access to these kinds of reset tools in everyday life, the adult version is available through the EASE™ app on the App Store and Google Play. Learn more at MindCircuit.org.

  2. Sep 8

    Nervous System & Attachment: Feeling Safe When Therapy Stalls | Patty Montanino, LCSW

    Welcome to real conversations about mom therapy, burnout, and nervous system regulation. If past therapy caused exhaustion, your body may just be trying to survive. Join Patty Montanino, LCSW to explore why.What You'll Discover: • Why rhythmic input creates nervous system safety.• 30-second micro-exposures vs. emotional overwhelm. Licensed clinical social worker Patty Montanino has spent more than 20 years in the field, and she breaks down why she built the I-Brito Method to do something many trauma approaches miss - help people feel safer without leaving them opened up and overwhelmed.Patty shares how her own clinical frustration led her from traditional talk therapy into accelerated resolution therapy, EMDR, and eventually internal family systems, where she found the missing piece for complex trauma: reconnection to self. She explains why single-event trauma and complex trauma cannot always be treated the same way, and why a method that updates memory is not enough if it does not also help you rebuild who you are underneath the coping. You’ll discover: Why patterned, repetitive, predictable, rhythmic input can calm the nervous system How memory reconsolidation works, and why it can change the emotional charge of a memory Why Patty uses six structured parts and 30-second micro-exposures instead of long, intense processing How IFS adds the self-connection that many trauma methods leave out Why so many clinicians struggle to explain therapies like EMDR and ART in a way the public can actually trust We also get honest about the barriers inside mental health itself - the pressure to sound evidence-based, the fear of causing harm, the weight of imposter syndrome, and the conditioning that keeps women and helpers from naming what they know works. Need a quick reset? Start here with the Mind Circuit App: Ease and its Bilateral Brain Stimulation (BLS) “Brain Flossing™ — a one-minute reset for your nervous system.” Disclaimer: Mom Therapy is educational, not clinical advice. This isn't therapy or a how-to show—it's two real humans noticing what's showing up and trying to be kinder to ourselves. If you're tired of perfectly staged mom content and want authentic conversation about women's health, mental health, and motherhood, this is your space. This conversation speaks to women navigating stress, advocacy for their own health, and the invisible nervous-system load so many carry quietly. Support the Show:If this episode helped you understand your wiring a little better, please follow the show and leave a 5-star review. It helps us reach more people looking for their own "Aha!" moments. Mom TherapyThe conversations moms are having in therapy but not always saying out loud. Disclaimer: "Mom therapy" discussions are purely educational and do not replace clinical advice.  © 2025 Mind Circuit Inc. All right reserved.  YouTube → @erin_notestomynervoussystem Website → ⁠⁠https://mindcircuit.org⁠⁠

  3. Sep 1

    Nervous System & Tantrums: Rethinking Child Meltdowns | Jessica Bloom

    Trying to logic a child out of a tantrum is a losing battle when their nervous system is in overdrive. In this episode of mom therapy, we dive into what actually works during a meltdown: regulating your own nervous system first so you can connect before correcting. This podcast serves as the audio companion to the Mind Circuit App. Because parenting can often trigger our own childhood stress, you can pair today’s insights with the app’s Bilateral Brain Stimulation (BLS) and AI-powered mood tracking to actively process your triggers, reset your internal state, and show up as the grounded parent you want to be. Today, host Erin sits down with therapist Jessica Bloom, co-owner of In Bloom Counseling. Jessica breaks down why big feelings are not bad behavior, why traditional "consistency" often makes power struggles worse, and how to use simple language that helps kids feel seen without abandoning your boundaries. Why trying to logic a child out of big feelings almost never works. The play therapy "ACT" framework: Acknowledge the feeling, Communicate the boundary, and Target alternatives. How sleep, food, movement, and routine shape a child's ability to handle disappointment. Why many parents are unknowingly reacting to their own childhood triggers during public tantrums. The difference between behavior and communication, and the danger of talking too much during a dysregulated moment. How to say "no" and teach discipline without shame, guilt, or escalation. If you are a parent or therapist trying to understand why a steadier, kinder approach changes everything for both kids and adults, this episode is essential listening. Download the Mind Circuit App today to access somatic resets and guided emotional regulation tools. By learning to co-regulate with your child and manage your own triggers, you can build emotional safety from the ground up. This isn't therapy or a how-to show—it's two real humans noticing what's showing up and trying to be kinder to ourselves. If you're tired of perfectly staged mom content and want authentic conversation about women's health, mental health, and motherhood, this is your space. This conversation speaks to women navigating stress, advocacy for their own health, and the invisible nervous-system load so many carry quietly. Support the Show: If this episode helped you understand your wiring a little better, please follow the show and leave a 5-star review. It helps us reach more people looking for their own "Aha!" moments. Disclaimer: "Mom therapy" discussions are purely educational and do not replace clinical advice.  © 2025 Mind Circuit Inc. All right reserved.  YouTube → @erin_notestomynervoussystem Website → ⁠⁠https://mindcircuit.org⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠@Mindcircuit  Notes to My Nervous System is hosted by Erin Vandermore, founder of Mind Circuit™—a regulation-first platform developing brief, practical tools for schools. For adults who want access to these kinds of reset tools in everyday life, the adult version is available through the EASE™ app on the App Store and Google Play. Learn more at MindCircuit.org.

  4. Aug 25

    Nervous System & Chronic Pain: Rethinking Physical Recovery | Dr. Bloom

    Does the way you think about pain, trauma, and healing actually keep you stuck? In this episode, we explore how your nervous system state; directly shapes physical pain, bringing the somatic tools you rely on in the Mind Circuit App to a deeply validating real conversation. Host Erin, your guide for mom therapy and intentional living, sits down with Dr. Bloom—an LMFT and professor—to completely shift how we understand recovery, emotional stress, and body-based healing. Dr. Bloom has his own podcast "Therapy Sucks" . Dr. Bloom brings a rare mix of clinical insight and mind-body curiosity, sharing how trauma therapies like EMDR shift the physical body. We also bridge the gap between adult chronic pain and childhood emotional safety, exploring how to support kids in the classroom before dysregulation turns into deeper public health issues. Why MRI scans often cannot distinguish between people in pain and those without. How stress, fear, and nervous system dysregulation can amplify or generate physical pain.  The surprising reasons why some structural surgeries fail to deliver expected outcomes. How mind-body approaches reveal the links between chronic symptoms, trauma, and inflammation. Why spirituality, mindfulness, and "zooming out" help reduce physical resistance. The long-term impact of teaching children how their own biological systems work. This episode is for therapists, educators, parents, and anyone who has felt dismissed by a medical system that only looks at one piece of the puzzle. If you are ready to move from a state of "performance" to genuine internal safety, this podcast is your audio companion to the Mind Circuit App. Pair today’s insights with the app’s Bilateral Brain Stimulation (BLS) and AI-powered mood tracking to actively process stress, recalibrate your body, and reclaim your peace. This isn't therapy or a how-to show—it's two real humans noticing what's showing up and trying to be kinder to ourselves. If you're tired of perfectly staged mom content and want authentic conversation about women's health, mental health, and motherhood, this is your space. This conversation speaks to women navigating stress, advocacy for their own health, and the invisible nervous-system load so many carry quietly. Support the Show:If this episode helped you understand your wiring a little better, please follow the show and leave a 5-star review. It helps us reach more people looking for their own "Aha!" moments. Disclaimer: "Mom therapy" discussions are purely educational and do not replace clinical advice.  © 2025 Mind Circuit Inc. All right reserved.  YouTube → @erin_notestomynervoussystem Website → ⁠⁠https://mindcircuit.org⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠@Mindcircuit https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/therapy-sucks/id1896254242

  5. Aug 24

    Nervous System & Burnout: Rethinking Productivity & Rest | Jill Wright

    What if your exhaustion is not a lack of discipline, but a direct signal from your nervous system? In this episode of mom therapy, we dive into how high-functioning productivity can leave you running on empty, and how true nervous system regulation is the key to reclaiming your baseline. This podcast is the audio companion to the Mind Circuit App, where we turn these real conversations into action. If today's episode resonates, you can use the app’s Bilateral Brain Stimulation (BLS) and AI-powered mood tracking to actively reset your internal state, process stress, and find genuine safety in your body. Today, host Erin sits down with Jill Wright—a nervous system educator, mother of four, and time management guide. Jill shares her story of navigating a pandemic-era leap into entrepreneurship, postpartum depression, and an unexpected autism diagnosis for her son. Together, they unpack why "productive" can sometimes be a form of avoidance, and how to untangle your self-worth from your to-do list. Why self-care cannot replace deep rest when you are already running on empty.  The seven types of rest and why sleep is only one piece of the puzzle. How to spot the signs that your baseline has shifted before burnout takes over. The "time confetti" method: using scattered daily minutes for deep breathing and regulation instead of squeezing in more tasks. Why many “Type A” tendencies are less about personality and more about survival. How to build flexible boundaries and trust your own instincts over social media experts. If you are a busy mom, a high-achieving woman, or anyone who has tried every productivity trick and still feels overwhelmed, this episode offers a calmer, more sustainable way forward. Download the Mind Circuit App to access guided emotional regulation tools and somatic resets that fit your actual season of life. You do not need to abandon yourself to get things done. This isn't therapy or a how-to show—it's two real humans noticing what's showing up and trying to be kinder to ourselves. If you're tired of perfectly staged mom content and want authentic conversation about women's health, mental health, and motherhood, this is your space. This conversation speaks to women navigating stress, advocacy for their own health, and the invisible nervous-system load so many carry quietly. Support the Show:If this episode helped you understand your wiring a little better, please follow the show and leave a 5-star review. It helps us reach more people looking for their own "Aha!" moments. Disclaimer: "Mom therapy" discussions are purely educational and do not replace clinical advice.  © 2025 Mind Circuit Inc. All right reserved.  YouTube → @erin_notestomynervoussystem Website → ⁠⁠https://mindcircuit.org⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠@Mindcircuit What You Will DiscoverConnect With The Mind Circuit Ecosystem

  6. Aug 4

    Nervous System & Math Anxiety: Transforming Student Stress | Jennifer Corbett

    Most teachers unintentionally overlook how anxiety and the nervous system sabotage learning — but not Jennifer Corbett. With over 25 years in education, she reveals the simple yet powerful ways to create a classroom where students feel safe, confident, and ready to learn—even when math seems impossible. How can teachers and parents help students overcome math anxiety?  In this episode, educator Jennifer Corbett explores the vital role the nervous system plays in learning. She shares practical strategies for turning classroom stress into growth by prioritizing emotional safety and vulnerability. Key takeaways: Recognize the signs: Understand how the nervous system triggers fight, flight, or freeze responses in students. Use vulnerability as a tool: Learn how teacher transparency can foster resilience, connection, and self-compassion. Reframe math: Discover how to help students view mistakes as opportunities for discovery rather than failure. Prioritize safety: Learn why creating a supportive, emotionally intelligent environment is essential for long-term engagement. Perfect for educators, parents, and mentors who care deeply about emotional well-being and meaningful learning, this episode will inspire you to rethink what’s possible in educational spaces. It’s time to unlock the full potential of every learner — starting with the power of feeling safe and seen.  Guide these emotional shifts with the Mind Circuit App: Ease; its BLS features offer a grounding solution for school stress. Disclaimer: "Mom Therapy" discussions are purely educational and are not a substitute for professional clinical care. Im a mom whose a therapist its just that simple.  Support the Show:If this episode helped you understand your wiring a little better, please follow the show and leave a 5-star review. It helps us reach more people looking for their own "Aha!" moments. Disclaimer: "Mom therapy" discussions are purely educational and do not replace clinical advice.  © 2025 Mind Circuit Inc. All right reserved.  YouTube → @erin_notestomynervoussystem Website → ⁠⁠https://mindcircuit.org⁠⁠

  7. Jul 29 ·  Bonus

    Mom Therapy & Daily Chaos: Adapting Under Pressure | Regulated ish July

    Welcome to real conversations about meeting daily chaos with nervous system regulation. When tech glitches cause overwhelm, we turn to mom therapy to simply adapt. Gently support your baseline with the Mind Circuit App (Ease)—its BLS features offer a grounding presence. This episode is perfect for overwhelmed moms, busy professionals, or anyone struggling to keep it together when everything’s falling apart. If you’re ready to turn chaos into clarity and find humor in the mess, tune in now—because resilience is just a mindset away.About Meghan: Meghan is a seasoned parent and mental health advocate, sharing her journey through the ups and downs of family life with humor and honesty. What You'll Discover: Navigating rigidity Reclaiming mental space Timestamps:00:00 Tech overwhelm12:20 Easing routines Disclaimer: "Mom therapy" discussions are purely educational and do not replace professional clinical advice. This isn't therapy or a how-to show—it's two real humans noticing what's showing up and trying to be kinder to ourselves. If you're tired of perfectly staged mom content and want authentic conversation about women's health, mental health, and motherhood, this is your space. This conversation speaks to women navigating stress, advocacy for their own health, and the invisible nervous-system load so many carry quietly. Support the Show:If this episode helped you understand your wiring a little better, please follow the show and leave a 5-star review. It helps us reach more people looking for their own "Aha!" moments. Disclaimer: "Mom therapy" discussions are purely educational and do not replace clinical advice.  © 2025 Mind Circuit Inc. All right reserved.  YouTube → @erin_notestomynervoussystem Website → ⁠⁠https://mindcircuit.org⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠@Mindcircuit Meghan Samaras (@embracing_my_weirdness)  Regulated-ish: To moms, two cities one frequency   Two moms regulated in real time so you don’t have to do it alone

  8. Jul 28

    Nervous System & Nonprofit Leadership: Simple Habits to Regain Calm | Bess Newton

    Welcome to these real conversations about how nervous system regulation supports us through leadership and parenting. While this isn't clinical mom therapy, it’s a space to nurture resilience and find calm amidst life's chaos without the pressure to perform. Most companies and organizations overlook one of the most powerful tools for managing stress and burnout—your nervous system. In this candid conversation, Erin sits down with Bess, the executive director of the Guilford Green Foundation and LGBTQ Center, to share practical ways to nurture your nervous system in high-stress, high-impact roles. Bess opens up about her personal journey balancing a demanding career, parenting teenagers, and navigating community trauma with grace and groundedness. Whether you are seeking innovative approaches to flexible schedules, learning how to shift perceptions around self-care, or just needing permission to take a quick nap, this episode offers a compassionate, science-based roadmap for prioritizing your well-being. When nonprofit, work, or family chaos peaks, the Mind Circuit App (formerly Ease) can help. Using its Bilateral Brain Stimulation (BLS) and mood tracking features is a low-burden way to gently anchor your nervous system back into a state of clarity. **** Welcome & why your nervous system is the most overlooked leadership tool. **** Why nonprofits struggle with mental health & how leaders can champion a self-care culture. **** The hidden challenges of parenting teenagers and reconnecting families during collective stress. **** The surprising power of a nap, a snack, and a quick walk to reset your nervous system. **** Navigating community trauma and external stressors with groundedness. Bess is a dedicated nonprofit leader with decades of experience advocating for LGBTQ rights and well-being. Her work as an executive director and her personal journey parenting teenagers provides invaluable insights into managing stress and nurturing resilience in complex, high-pressure environments. Disclaimer: The term "Mom Therapy" is used for educational and discoverability purposes only. This podcast is not a replacement for clinical treatment, psychotherapy, or professional medical advice. Social Media Links https://www.facebook.com/bess.goodhead/ https://www.newtonandmyers.com/about https://www.linkedin.com/in/bess-newton-011a096 This isn't therapy or a how-to show—it's two real humans noticing what's showing up and trying to be kinder to ourselves. If you're tired of perfectly staged mom content and want authentic conversation about women's health, mental health, and motherhood, this is your space. This conversation speaks to women navigating stress, advocacy for their own health, and the invisible nervous-system load so many carry quietly. Support the Show:If this episode helped you understand your wiring a little better, please follow the show and leave a 5-star review. It helps us reach more people looking for their own "Aha!" moments. © 2025 Mind Circuit Inc. All right reserved.  YouTube → @erin_notestomynervoussystem Website → ⁠⁠https://mindcircuit.org⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠@Mindcircuit Disclaimer: "Mom therapy" discussions are purely educational and do not replace clinical advice.

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What happens when you understand your stress instead of fighting it? Notes to My Nervous System is a podcast about regulation, relationships, mental health, and the messy reality of being human. Hosted by therapist and former educator Erin Vandermore, LCMHC-S, the show brings together honest conversations about stress, burnout, parenting, relationships, attachment, boundaries, behavior, and the patterns we fall into when life becomes overwhelming. You’ll also hear Mom Therapy, a recurring series about the mental load, overstimulation, relationships, guilt, parenting, identity, ..life

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