Send us Fan Mail Forgiveness is not pretending it didn’t happen. It’s the hard, holy work of sending the offense away, releasing retaliation, and learning how to trust God again when your heart has been hurt. Christy Dragotta sits down with biblical counselor and podcast host Mey Deras for a deeply practical conversation about what forgiveness really is - and what it is not. If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re dealing with a true sin against you or a wound that has been amplified by past pain, this episode will help you slow down, grieve honestly, and find clarity without rushing past the hurt. You’ll discover: why forgiveness is often confused with reconciliationhow to tell the difference between an offense, a preference, and a real sinwhy lament matters before forgivenesswhat Mey means by a “vertical commitment” to trust Godhow “holy imagination” can help you revisit painful memories through truth, not fearMey shares from 15+ years of biblical counseling, plus her own journey of learning how deep wounds, trauma, and perceived offense can shape the way we interpret relationships. She explains why “slapping Bible verses” on pain is not healing, and why the church needs more space for lament, validation, and gentle truth-telling. Christy also opens up about her own experiences with offense, unhealed wounds, and the power of asking God to show up inside painful memories. Together, they unpack the cost of forgiveness, the difference between forgiveness and taking away consequences, and why real restoration takes time, humility, and the Holy Spirit. Mey is a biblical counselor, Spanish-language podcaster, and founder of Los Detalles de tu vida, a podcast based on Psalm 37 and God’s care for every detail of our lives. She also leads an online forgiveness challenge designed to help women work through the heart work of release, repentance, and healing. Essential listening if you’ve been carrying bitterness, trying to forgive too fast, or longing for a more honest and biblical path to freedom. To reach Mey Deras: https://hihello.com/p/8e457409-3c9e-4278-ba26-c00764abc78d Forgiveness Workshop: https://www.meyderas.com/freetoforgive or tune into her podcast: https://www.losdetallesdetuvida.com/ Support the show Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/get.honest.pod/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61583228011586 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@get.honest.pod Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5qID1W7aiLOFkfnv1LcIc5 Apple Pods: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/get-honest/id1847656941 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Gethonestpod If you'd like to buy me a cup of coffee, click here: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2539292/support
