BodyJoy: After Office Hours Podcast

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The After Office Hours podcast is a grounded, playful, and anything-goes space for exploring relational dynamics, somatic healing, and conscious connection. We interview leading practitioners, therapists, bodyworkers, and performers on how they integrate mindfulness, consent, and deep self-work into their practices. Join the professional-grade conversation to understand how to cultivate maturity, confidence, and trust in every dynamic—from therapeutic work to retreats and radical self-expression. Tune in every two weeks to feel empowered, normalized, and understood in your pursuit of profound intimacy.

  1. 1D AGO

    Scar Tissue, Shame & Restoring Pelvic Sensation with Makia Mullen

    What happens when sexual healing moves beyond the mind and into the tissues of the body? In this episode of BodyJoy After Hours, Melissa sits down with somatic sexologist and pelvic floor specialist Makia Mullin to explore the powerful intersection of nervous system regulation, sexual health, and embodied pleasure. Drawing on two decades of experience in pelvic care and somatic sexuality, Makia shares how emotional states, trauma, shame, and cultural conditioning can live directly in our tissues, shaping sensation, arousal, and our relationship to pleasure. Together they dive into topics that are rarely discussed openly, including foreskin restoration, circumcision scarring, Peyronie’s disease, pelvic trauma, and the role of scar tissue in sexual dysfunction. The conversation also explores how healing often begins not with intense erotic practices, but with something much simpler: learning to listen to the body’s language of sensation and bringing small moments of pleasure back into everyday life. Melissa and Makia a also discuss: why talk therapy alone often isn’t enough for sexual healinghow nervous system states shape pelvic tension and arousalthe surprising prevalence of foreskin-related conditions like phimosishow shame can live in the tissues of the bodythe role of pleasure practices and community spaces in erotic healingwhy learning to appreciate a soft c**k can be a powerful shift for men after prostate proceduresThis episode is a thoughtful, nuanced look at how sexual health, nervous system regulation, and embodied awareness are deeply intertwined. If you’ve ever felt disconnected from your body, your pleasure, or your erotic aliveness, this conversation offers a compassionate place to begin. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Makaya Mullin 02:00 Household “pervertibles” and playful erotic exploration 04:20 Why the body is the doorway to sexual healing 06:30 Limits of talk therapy for sexual dysfunction 08:30 Shame, nervous system states, and pelvic tension 10:50 Peyronie’s disease explained 13:30 Scar tissue, inflammation, and erectile tissue health 14:20 Phimosis and foreskin-related conditions 16:30 Emotional patterns behind genital conditions 17:00 Circumcision scarring and pelvic work 19:00 Teaching clients to work with their own tissues 21:30 Foreskin restoration practices 23:00 Prostate surgery, erections, and adapting to change 25:00 Learning the language of the body 26:30 Micro-doses of pleasure in daily life 28:00 Discovering sexological bodywork and Joseph Kramer 31:00 From polyamory to monogamy: Makia’s personal journey 31:40 Group pleasure practices and erotic community spaces 35:30 The healing power of witnessing bodies without sexualization 36:00 Self-pleasure retreat in Spain Connect with Makia @eroticabotanica https://www.makiamullen.com somatic sexology pelvic floor healing sexual healing sexological bodywork foreskin restoration circumcision scar tissue peyronie’s disease phimosis nervous system regulation embodied sexuality shame prostate surgery pleasure practices erotic embodiment sexual wellness podcast intimacy and nervous system

    38 min

  2. MAR 5

    Excruciatingly Slow: The Power of Sacred Intimacy with Uma James

    What happens when intimacy slows down enough for the body to truly land? In this rich and intimate conversation, Melissa sits down with Uma James to explore the transformative power of slowness, sacred erotic work, and building a sustainable, integrity-based business in the world of sensual and somatic practice. Uma shares her journey from holistic sex education and fertility awareness into hands-on somatic intimacy work, revealing how witnessing sexual pain and disconnection led her toward deeper body-based healing modalities. Through extensive training, mentorship, and entrepreneurial instinct, she crafted a practice rooted in presence, permission, and pace. Together, we explore: Why “excruciatingly slow” intimacy can feel uncomfortable at first — and why that’s exactly the pointThe three foundations of Uma’s work: presence, permission, and slownessWhat truly nourishes touch-starved nervous systemsWhy fantasy fulfillment alone often isn’t what clients are actually seekingThe difference between transactional energy and generative relational exchangeThe stigma around paying for intimacy work — and why investing in care makes senseHow to build a sustainable, high-integrity erotic businessWhy mentorship is essential in sacred, sensual professionsUma’s personal exploration of prolonged high-arousal states and slow-sex devotionUma speaks candidly about maintaining practitioner integrity, honoring authentic yeses, and referring clients when desires move outside her mastery. She also introduces her upcoming Priestess Business Model Project, designed to mentor women in building thriving, sustainable intimacy-based practices. This episode is a deep dive into what becomes possible when eroticism meets devotion, when business meets sacred structure, and when intimacy becomes a journey rather than a peak experience. If you’ve ever wondered: What real somatic intimacy work looks likeWhy slowness can unlock altered statesHow to create a regenerative, long-term client practiceOr how to build an integrity-driven sensual businessThis conversation will open doors. Connect with Uma James www.umajames.comwww.instagram.com/umajamestouch

    50 min

  3. FEB 18

    How to Stay Present and Confident During Sex with Stephanie Ganowski

    In this engaging conversation, Melissa D and Stephanie Ganowski explore the intricacies of men's sexual health and relationships. Stephanie shares her journey from a challenging relationship to becoming a coach for men, emphasizing the importance of understanding and communication. They discuss common issues men face, the role of vulnerability, and the impact of pornography. The conversation also touches on the benefits of masturbation, the dynamics of open relationships, and practical advice for men seeking to improve their sexual experiences. Takeaways Understanding men requires empathy and curiosity.Communication is key to resolving relationship issues.Masturbation can enhance sexual health and awareness.Vulnerability fosters deeper connections in relationships.Many men struggle with performance anxiety and communication.Sexual experiences should focus on pleasure, not just performance.Exploring open relationships can enhance intimacy.Pornography can negatively impact real-life sexual experiences.Regular check-ins can improve relationship dynamics.Humor and lightness can ease sexual tension.Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Background03:58 Journey to Understanding Men06:49 The Shift to Sexual Coaching09:35 Common Issues Men Face12:19 Communication Challenges in Relationships15:14 Frameworks for Healthy Conversations18:06 Addressing Erection Issues20:54 Masturbation and Sexual Health23:47 The Role of Pornography26:35 Controversies in Sexual Practices26:54 The Impact of NoFap on Sexual Health28:59 Exploring Personal Sexual Journeys30:14 Adventures in Swinging: A New Experience35:45 Navigating Open Relationships41:50 Tools for Men: Building Confidence in SexualityKeywords sexual health, men's coaching, relationships, communication, vulnerability, masturbation, pornography, open relationships, sexual psychology, coaching men Where to find Stephanie Ganowski: Website Instagram YouTube Podcast — What I Love About Sex App — Ronan (Sex Meditations for Men)

    47 min

  4. FEB 5

    Exploring the Depths of Intimacy with Philippe Lewis

    Summary In this conversation, Philippe Lewis shares insights on the evolution of play events, the importance of creating safe spaces for exploration, and the role of attunement in relationships. He discusses the significance of emotional intelligence and attachment theory in navigating modern relationships, emphasizing the journey to secure attachment and the concept of considerate non-monogamy. Philippe also highlights his upcoming events and retreats that focus on fostering community and connection. Takeaways Philippe Lewis discusses the evolution of play events in the Bay Area.Creating safe spaces is essential for exploration and intimacy.Attunement is crucial for understanding others' needs and boundaries.Sensitivity in relationships requires deeper engagement beyond verbal consent.Primal play helps individuals connect with their inner animal and emotional intelligence.Attachment theory plays a significant role in how we relate to others.The journey to secure attachment involves self-awareness and emotional regulation.Considerate non-monogamy emphasizes care and consideration in relationships.Safety in relationships allows for deeper exploration and connection.Philippe's upcoming events focus on creating safe and nurturing environments.Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Philippe Lewis and Club Exotica04:27 The Evolution of Play Events and Community07:10 Creating Safe Spaces for Exploration09:48 The Importance of Attunement in Relationships12:54 Navigating Sensitivity and Consent15:24 Primal Play and Emotional Intelligence18:14 Exploring Attachment Theory and Relationships20:58 The Journey to Secure Attachment23:47 Considerate Non-Monogamy and Community26:23 The Role of Safety in Relationships29:08 Upcoming Events and RetreatsKeywords Philippe Lewis, Club Exotica, play events, safe spaces, attunement, emotional intelligence, attachment theory, non-monogamy, community, relationships Find Philippe + Upcoming Events Main hubInstagramUpcoming Events & Retreats Club Exotica Immersive, curated play parties rooted in safety, attunement, and connection 🌐 https://clubexoticapresents.com 📅 Midsummer Event: August 1 Coming Home to Love (Attachment Repair Retreat) A deeply regulating retreat focused on safety, grounding, and secure attachment 📍 Hawaii 📅 April 🌐 https://cominghometo.love Firelight (Micro Festival) An intimate, play-possible gathering with music, movement, and connection 📍 Near Yosemite, California 📅 Late May 🌐 https://firelight.love

    1 hr

  5. JAN 15

    Beyond Safe & Social with Eros Ocean

    What if “safe and social” isn’t the highest expression of nervous system regulation? In this episode of BodyJoy After Office Hours, Melissa D. sits down with entrepreneur, somatic pleasure artist, and product designer Josh Eros Ocean Rosenfield for a rich, embodied conversation about sacred touch, sensation play, pleasure without performance, and what it truly means to feel held, nourished, and safe in the body. Broadcasting from his eco-village home in the Costa Rican jungle, Eros shares his personal journey into somatic work, the origins of sacred (non-sexual) touch, and how intentional sensation, tools, and affirmations can radically rewire the nervous system. Together, Melissa and Eros explore vagal nerve theory, islands of pleasure, boundary literacy, couples work, and why the body—not the intellect—is often the missing link in healing and intimacy. This episode is a deep dive into pleasure as regulation, touch as language, and intimacy as a skill that can be practiced, learned, and embodied. Whether you’re a practitioner, a curious human, or someone longing for more connection in your body or relationships—this conversation opens new worlds of possibility. Topics We Explore Why “safe and social” may not be enoughSacred, sensual, non-sexual touch and nervous system healingTouch as our first language and its role in early developmentIslands of Pleasure™ and asking for what you wantRe-learning consent, boundaries, and embodied yes/noCouples work beyond talk therapyPleasure stacking, sensation play, and altered statesMasculine presence, reverence, and repairing gendered woundsUsing tools, ritual, and affirmations to deepen connectionCreating containers for intimacy with integrityLinks & Resources Lit (Love & Intimacy Tools)Free Lit Ebook & Guided Practices (Available via QR codes included with Lit tools)Lit Workshops & Events Hosting opportunities available — reach out via the Lit websiteBodyJoy Somatic education, workshops, and private sessions

    59 min

  6. 12/30/2025

    Kink as a Path to Healing with Tigress Lily

    In this episode of BodyJoy After Office Hours, Melissa sits down with Tigress Lily, certified Erotic Blueprints coach and somatic practitioner, for a wide-ranging conversation on kink, power dynamics, and presence as tools for healing and connection. Tigress shares her unconventional path from the corporate world into erotic leadership, including how intensive therapy, somatic work, and BDSM helped her work through control, grief, and trauma. Together, they explore how kink can function as nervous-system regulation, why presence—not pain or performance—is often the real medicine, and how Erotic Blueprints can radically transform intimacy inside and outside the bedroom. The conversation also dives into: Using kink consciously and responsibly for healingErotic vs. sexual energy (and why confusing them limits pleasure)Submission, responsibility fatigue, and the relief of surrenderVetting professionals and understanding when support is neededDesire mismatches and Erotic Blueprints in long-term relationshipsHow slow, attuned touch can heal where force or speed failsThis episode offers a trauma-informed, deeply human look at eroticism that goes far beyond stereotypes—centering consent, attunement, and care. Guest Links Tigress Lily’s Website: https://awakeneddomme.com Instagram: https://instagram.com/tigress_lily

    55 min

  7. 12/17/2025

    Pleasure as God: A Conversation with Casia Sobolewski

    In this intimate, laughter-filled, deeply honest episode, Melissa “Mango” from BodyJoy sits down with erotic educator, practitioner, and long-time collaborator Casia Sobolewski for a conversation that travels through motherhood, boundaries, non-monogamy, erotic integrity, and the sacred art of pleasure. Together, they unpack how years of exploration, sex-positive community, and somatic practice have shaped Casia’s work with individuals and couples. They explore the evolution from youthful erotic curiosity to raising a family within an open, devotional partnership, and how that lived experience informs the immersive work she and her husband Cosmo offer today. This episode touches everything from:  • staying connected to desire through major life transitions  • open relating while parenting and building a sacred partnership  • the nuances of “taking” and “being taken” in heterosexual dynamics  • why many women need tension, not collapse, for erotic polarity • somatic cues, boundaries, and the physiology of “floppiness” • men’s fear of doing it wrong — and how that affects intimacy • porn literacy and re-sensitizing the body to real-time pleasure • desire, fantasy, the Anatomy of Desire model, and honest reflection • pleasure as a spiritual doorway and the portal-like power of erotic connection • havening, presence, and the small sensory practices that open the body • the axial age, the erotic mother, and why women’s boundaries are holy Casia also shares a behind-the-scenes look at her and Cosmo’s upcoming offering, “The Art of Touching Women: How Men Touch & Why It Matters,” plus stories from years of leading immersive erotic retreats with Melissa—where deep nervous system repair, erotic awakening, and life-changing relational shifts take place. This is a rich, layered, beautifully human conversation about embodiment, consent, relational devotion, erotic intelligence, and the sacredness of tending to your own pleasure. FIND CASIA Website: honeyandwater.ca Instagram: @casiasobolewski Himeros Project: himerosproject.com The Art of Touching Women Course: April 29 - July 1, 2026 WORK WITH MELISSA / BODYJOY bodyjoy.org

    55 min

  8. 12/03/2025

    Restoring Pleasure & Somatic Healing with Rahi Chun

    In this episode, Melissa has the absolute privilege and honor of speaking with Rahi Chun, a somatic sex educator, sexological body worker, and genital de-armoring specialist. Rahi and Melissa dive deep into the research and common experience of women who feel numb, disconnected, or lack desire internally. They discuss how somatic sex education and de-armoring work to restore more pleasure, sensation, and orgasm. In this powerful conversation, you will explore: The Healing Power of Sensation: Why talk therapy alone may not be enough. If a rupture affects the body, it needs to be repaired through the body, as the body remembers everything. Rahi shares how somatic work helps repair ruptures that cannot be reached through talking.De-Armoring and Trauma: How Rahi's work can unlock sensations and restore pleasure, even for those who have experienced significant trauma or years of numbness and pain.The Clitoral Stimulation Debate: They discuss studies that suggest a large percentage of women prefer clitoral stimulation and how this information might be deceiving if it doesn't account for trauma and numbness in the intravaginal space.The Truth About Vibrators: Rahi shares his research on vibrator use, confirming that extensive use leads to short-term desensitization, but not long-term. They discuss the challenge of relying on a toy that cannot be replicated by a human partner.The Somatic Healing Process: Learn about Rahi’s comprehensive approach, including downregulating the nervous system, neuro-affective touch, full-body active consent, genital mapping, and the de-armoring process itself, which focuses on letting go of unmetabolized emotions.Homework for Deepening Connection: Rahi stresses the importance of prioritizing the intimate relationship with your own body, offering practices like vaginal steaming combined with castor oil scar tissue remediation to increase blood flow and restore sensation.Tune in for a fascinating and vital conversation on restoring connection, sensation, and pleasure in your body. About the Guest: Rahi Chun is a somatic sex educator and genital de-armoring specialist dedicated to helping people reclaim and expand pleasure. Learn more about his signature course, The Three Keys to Genital Dearmoring for Reclaiming and Expanding Pleasure, at RahiChun.com. Links & Resources: Rahi Chun's Course: Three Keys to Genital Dearmoring

    55 min
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The After Office Hours podcast is a grounded, playful, and anything-goes space for exploring relational dynamics, somatic healing, and conscious connection. We interview leading practitioners, therapists, bodyworkers, and performers on how they integrate mindfulness, consent, and deep self-work into their practices. Join the professional-grade conversation to understand how to cultivate maturity, confidence, and trust in every dynamic—from therapeutic work to retreats and radical self-expression. Tune in every two weeks to feel empowered, normalized, and understood in your pursuit of profound intimacy.

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  • Creator
    BodyJoy Intimacy School
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    22
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © 2026 BodyJoy: After Office Hours Podcast
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