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The After Office Hours podcast is a grounded, playful, and anything-goes space for exploring relational dynamics, somatic healing, and conscious connection. We interview leading practitioners, therapists, bodyworkers, and performers on how they integrate mindfulness, consent, and deep self-work into their practices. Join the professional-grade conversation to understand how to cultivate maturity, confidence, and trust in every dynamic—from therapeutic work to retreats and radical self-expression. Tune in every two weeks to feel empowered, normalized, and understood in your pursuit of profound intimacy.

  1. 1D AGO

    Exploring the Depths of Intimacy with Philippe Lewis

    Summary In this conversation, Philippe Lewis shares insights on the evolution of play events, the importance of creating safe spaces for exploration, and the role of attunement in relationships. He discusses the significance of emotional intelligence and attachment theory in navigating modern relationships, emphasizing the journey to secure attachment and the concept of considerate non-monogamy. Philippe also highlights his upcoming events and retreats that focus on fostering community and connection. Takeaways Philippe Lewis discusses the evolution of play events in the Bay Area.Creating safe spaces is essential for exploration and intimacy.Attunement is crucial for understanding others' needs and boundaries.Sensitivity in relationships requires deeper engagement beyond verbal consent.Primal play helps individuals connect with their inner animal and emotional intelligence.Attachment theory plays a significant role in how we relate to others.The journey to secure attachment involves self-awareness and emotional regulation.Considerate non-monogamy emphasizes care and consideration in relationships.Safety in relationships allows for deeper exploration and connection.Philippe's upcoming events focus on creating safe and nurturing environments.Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Philippe Lewis and Club Exotica04:27 The Evolution of Play Events and Community07:10 Creating Safe Spaces for Exploration09:48 The Importance of Attunement in Relationships12:54 Navigating Sensitivity and Consent15:24 Primal Play and Emotional Intelligence18:14 Exploring Attachment Theory and Relationships20:58 The Journey to Secure Attachment23:47 Considerate Non-Monogamy and Community26:23 The Role of Safety in Relationships29:08 Upcoming Events and RetreatsKeywords Philippe Lewis, Club Exotica, play events, safe spaces, attunement, emotional intelligence, attachment theory, non-monogamy, community, relationships Find Philippe + Upcoming Events Main hubInstagramUpcoming Events & Retreats Club Exotica Immersive, curated play parties rooted in safety, attunement, and connection 🌐 https://clubexoticapresents.com 📅 Midsummer Event: August 1 Coming Home to Love (Attachment Repair Retreat) A deeply regulating retreat focused on safety, grounding, and secure attachment 📍 Hawaii 📅 April 🌐 https://cominghometo.love Firelight (Micro Festival) An intimate, play-possible gathering with music, movement, and connection 📍 Near Yosemite, California 📅 Late May 🌐 https://firelight.love

    1 hr

  2. JAN 15

    Beyond Safe & Social with Eros Ocean

    What if “safe and social” isn’t the highest expression of nervous system regulation? In this episode of BodyJoy After Office Hours, Melissa D. sits down with entrepreneur, somatic pleasure artist, and product designer Josh Eros Ocean Rosenfield for a rich, embodied conversation about sacred touch, sensation play, pleasure without performance, and what it truly means to feel held, nourished, and safe in the body. Broadcasting from his eco-village home in the Costa Rican jungle, Eros shares his personal journey into somatic work, the origins of sacred (non-sexual) touch, and how intentional sensation, tools, and affirmations can radically rewire the nervous system. Together, Melissa and Eros explore vagal nerve theory, islands of pleasure, boundary literacy, couples work, and why the body—not the intellect—is often the missing link in healing and intimacy. This episode is a deep dive into pleasure as regulation, touch as language, and intimacy as a skill that can be practiced, learned, and embodied. Whether you’re a practitioner, a curious human, or someone longing for more connection in your body or relationships—this conversation opens new worlds of possibility. Topics We Explore Why “safe and social” may not be enoughSacred, sensual, non-sexual touch and nervous system healingTouch as our first language and its role in early developmentIslands of Pleasure™ and asking for what you wantRe-learning consent, boundaries, and embodied yes/noCouples work beyond talk therapyPleasure stacking, sensation play, and altered statesMasculine presence, reverence, and repairing gendered woundsUsing tools, ritual, and affirmations to deepen connectionCreating containers for intimacy with integrityLinks & Resources Lit (Love & Intimacy Tools)Free Lit Ebook & Guided Practices (Available via QR codes included with Lit tools)Lit Workshops & Events Hosting opportunities available — reach out via the Lit websiteBodyJoy Somatic education, workshops, and private sessions

    59 min

  3. 12/30/2025

    Kink as a Path to Healing with Tigress Lily

    In this episode of BodyJoy After Office Hours, Melissa sits down with Tigress Lily, certified Erotic Blueprints coach and somatic practitioner, for a wide-ranging conversation on kink, power dynamics, and presence as tools for healing and connection. Tigress shares her unconventional path from the corporate world into erotic leadership, including how intensive therapy, somatic work, and BDSM helped her work through control, grief, and trauma. Together, they explore how kink can function as nervous-system regulation, why presence—not pain or performance—is often the real medicine, and how Erotic Blueprints can radically transform intimacy inside and outside the bedroom. The conversation also dives into: Using kink consciously and responsibly for healingErotic vs. sexual energy (and why confusing them limits pleasure)Submission, responsibility fatigue, and the relief of surrenderVetting professionals and understanding when support is neededDesire mismatches and Erotic Blueprints in long-term relationshipsHow slow, attuned touch can heal where force or speed failsThis episode offers a trauma-informed, deeply human look at eroticism that goes far beyond stereotypes—centering consent, attunement, and care. Guest Links Tigress Lily’s Website: https://awakeneddomme.com Instagram: https://instagram.com/tigress_lily

    55 min

  4. 12/17/2025

    Pleasure as God: A Conversation with Casia Sobolewski

    In this intimate, laughter-filled, deeply honest episode, Melissa “Mango” from BodyJoy sits down with erotic educator, practitioner, and long-time collaborator Casia Sobolewski for a conversation that travels through motherhood, boundaries, non-monogamy, erotic integrity, and the sacred art of pleasure. Together, they unpack how years of exploration, sex-positive community, and somatic practice have shaped Casia’s work with individuals and couples. They explore the evolution from youthful erotic curiosity to raising a family within an open, devotional partnership, and how that lived experience informs the immersive work she and her husband Cosmo offer today. This episode touches everything from:  • staying connected to desire through major life transitions  • open relating while parenting and building a sacred partnership  • the nuances of “taking” and “being taken” in heterosexual dynamics  • why many women need tension, not collapse, for erotic polarity • somatic cues, boundaries, and the physiology of “floppiness” • men’s fear of doing it wrong — and how that affects intimacy • porn literacy and re-sensitizing the body to real-time pleasure • desire, fantasy, the Anatomy of Desire model, and honest reflection • pleasure as a spiritual doorway and the portal-like power of erotic connection • havening, presence, and the small sensory practices that open the body • the axial age, the erotic mother, and why women’s boundaries are holy Casia also shares a behind-the-scenes look at her and Cosmo’s upcoming offering, “The Art of Touching Women: How Men Touch & Why It Matters,” plus stories from years of leading immersive erotic retreats with Melissa—where deep nervous system repair, erotic awakening, and life-changing relational shifts take place. This is a rich, layered, beautifully human conversation about embodiment, consent, relational devotion, erotic intelligence, and the sacredness of tending to your own pleasure. FIND CASIA Website: honeyandwater.ca Instagram: @casiasobolewski Himeros Project: himerosproject.com The Art of Touching Women Course: April 29 - July 1, 2026 WORK WITH MELISSA / BODYJOY bodyjoy.org

    55 min

  5. 12/03/2025

    Restoring Pleasure & Somatic Healing with Rahi Chun

    In this episode, Melissa has the absolute privilege and honor of speaking with Rahi Chun, a somatic sex educator, sexological body worker, and genital de-armoring specialist. Rahi and Melissa dive deep into the research and common experience of women who feel numb, disconnected, or lack desire internally. They discuss how somatic sex education and de-armoring work to restore more pleasure, sensation, and orgasm. In this powerful conversation, you will explore: The Healing Power of Sensation: Why talk therapy alone may not be enough. If a rupture affects the body, it needs to be repaired through the body, as the body remembers everything. Rahi shares how somatic work helps repair ruptures that cannot be reached through talking.De-Armoring and Trauma: How Rahi's work can unlock sensations and restore pleasure, even for those who have experienced significant trauma or years of numbness and pain.The Clitoral Stimulation Debate: They discuss studies that suggest a large percentage of women prefer clitoral stimulation and how this information might be deceiving if it doesn't account for trauma and numbness in the intravaginal space.The Truth About Vibrators: Rahi shares his research on vibrator use, confirming that extensive use leads to short-term desensitization, but not long-term. They discuss the challenge of relying on a toy that cannot be replicated by a human partner.The Somatic Healing Process: Learn about Rahi’s comprehensive approach, including downregulating the nervous system, neuro-affective touch, full-body active consent, genital mapping, and the de-armoring process itself, which focuses on letting go of unmetabolized emotions.Homework for Deepening Connection: Rahi stresses the importance of prioritizing the intimate relationship with your own body, offering practices like vaginal steaming combined with castor oil scar tissue remediation to increase blood flow and restore sensation.Tune in for a fascinating and vital conversation on restoring connection, sensation, and pleasure in your body. About the Guest: Rahi Chun is a somatic sex educator and genital de-armoring specialist dedicated to helping people reclaim and expand pleasure. Learn more about his signature course, The Three Keys to Genital Dearmoring for Reclaiming and Expanding Pleasure, at RahiChun.com. Links & Resources: Rahi Chun's Course: Three Keys to Genital Dearmoring

    55 min

  6. 11/19/2025

    Sex as Nourishment, Not Work: Reclaiming Desire and Connection with Cosmo of Himeros Project

    In this powerful conversation, Melissa and Cosmo dive deep into the unexpected but natural transition from the world of being a chef to becoming a leading pleasure and intimacy guide. Cosmo explains that the crossover makes perfect sense: both roles involve curating people's desire and finding unobstructed paths to feeling nourished. Cosmo shares his own personal journey, including the profound "Aha moment" at an intimacy training where the simple question, "How would you like to be touched today?" fundamentally shifted his life and led him to realize he was meant to do this work. Key Topics Discussed: Sex as Nourishment, Not Work: Learn how approaching intimacy as connection, nervous system regulation, and nourishment allows for daily play, rather than seeing it as a performance or another job.The "Wedge of the Pie": Why focusing solely on a hard cock and intercourse is just "one little wedge" when intimacy includes closeness, touching, tickling, spanking, loving, and so much more.The Art of Touching Women: Cosmo announces his new system, highlighting that for women, care, presence, attention, and safety come first—competency is not the priority.The Himeros Project (Men's Work): Discover the unique container that focuses on "what men are like," not what they should be like, helping men build emotional bonds with each other to reduce the burden on their female partners.Expression vs. Containment: The critical importance of practicing both expressing your deepest desires and using containment (choosing when, with who, where, and how much to express) to prevent desires from being driven back into repression.Re-patterning Trauma: The transformative power of recreating traumatic dynamics in a safe space to reclaim lost elements and add a voice to say "stop".Find all of Cosmo's work and upcoming events here: Himeros Project (Men's Work & Virtual Course):Upcoming Men's Retreats 2026: March (Joshua Tree, CA) and July (BC, Canada)Free Workshop: Subscribe to the mailing list for notifications about the free "Art of Touching Women" workshop (First one is December 3rd, 2025).Back to the Body (Sensual Retreats for Women)Anatomy of Desire: Cosmo's six-part system for bringing desires to the world with integrity.

    1h 2m

  7. 11/05/2025

    Daddyhood, Ropes, and the Joy of Control: A Conversation with JD (Lifestyle Dom)

    Join Melissa of Body Joy After Office Hours as she sits down with JD, a lifestyle Dom, Daddy, and one half of the internationally acclaimed rope bondage duo Two Knotty Boys. A teacher of interactive rope bondage and restraint for over two decades, JD co-authored the bestselling books Two Knotty Boys Showing the Ropes and Two Knotty Boys Back on the Ropes. In this deep-dive conversation, JD redefines the "daddy-dom, baby-girl dynamic" as a structured, honorific sub-type of BDSM focused on mentorship, direction, and a hot, fantastic exchange—not age play. He shares candid insights on: BDSM Misconceptions: Why the lifestyle is more about joy, connection, and "love and light" than being dark or sinister.The Power of Belts: How common household items like belts can be versatile, inexpensive tools for expressing control and spicing up a scene.The Daddy Disposition: How being a Dom is a personality trait—being self-assured, consistent, safe, and communicative—that you bring to all aspects of life, not just the bedroom.Overcoming Awkwardness: Advice on how to authentically embody a BDSM role and make the shift from feeling "contrived" or "silly" to finding pleasure in the dynamic.Processing Trauma: The importance of patience in transforming a negative association with an object (like a belt) into a source of sensual, virtuous connection.Hoods and Sensory Release: The psychological comfort and "complete release" a submissive can find in sensory deprivation, wiping away life's noise and distractions.The FRIES of Consent: JD breaks down the essential acronym for healthy BDSM negotiation: Freely given, Revocable, Informative, Enthusiastically given, and Specific.The Art of Negotiation: How to move beyond academic checklists and fetishize negotiation by incorporating specific requests and expectations into dirty talk and directorial voice.Listen in to learn how to build deep trust, communicate clearly, and find the joy and safety within BDSM play. Connect with JD Co-author: Two Knotty Boys Showing the Ropes and Two Knotty Boys Back on the RopesFollow JD: @roperigger

    1h 1m
  8. 🔥From Conflict to Connection: Dr. Hazel-Grace's Process | AOHS2 Episode 1 - season premier

    01/25/2024

    🔥From Conflict to Connection: Dr. Hazel-Grace's Process | AOHS2 Episode 1 - season premier

    Welcome to the season premier of Season 2 of After Office Hours with me, Melissa D! Tonight is extra special as we have the incredible Dr. Hazel-Grace Yates joining us!  With 13 years as a relationship coach, they've uncovered a game-changing insight – unresolved emotional hurts often stand as a barrier to the intimacy couples desire. Dr. Hazel-Grace's approach is nothing short of innovative, fun, and educational, transforming communication and enhancing intimacy both in and out of the bedroom. Bringing a unique blend of professional expertise, an extensive background, and playful curiosity to their practice. Stay tuned as we embark on their journey, share some laughs, and discover why the transformative power of their 6-step process, 'The Repair Process,' is not just vital but downright badass.  Ready to dive in? Visit Drhazelgrace.com for more info about their work  Visit Bodyjoyintimacyschool.org for more about Melissa’s projects Podcast edited by Ferocecity.com

    45 min
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The After Office Hours podcast is a grounded, playful, and anything-goes space for exploring relational dynamics, somatic healing, and conscious connection. We interview leading practitioners, therapists, bodyworkers, and performers on how they integrate mindfulness, consent, and deep self-work into their practices. Join the professional-grade conversation to understand how to cultivate maturity, confidence, and trust in every dynamic—from therapeutic work to retreats and radical self-expression. Tune in every two weeks to feel empowered, normalized, and understood in your pursuit of profound intimacy.

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    BodyJoy Intimacy School
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    19
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