Leading Ain't Easy

Ryan Calkins and Erny Epley

Leadership looks shiny on social media. But the reality is it’s messy, isolating, and full of self-doubt. Leading Ain’t Easy pulls back the curtain on the side of leadership nobody puts on their résumé. Hosted by Ryan Calkins (Marine Corps veteran, career/leadership coach, and founder of Reframe & Rise) and Erny Epley (public-sector leader and founder of Bus Pro Network), this show dives into the raw, unfiltered truths of leading others; whether it’s in the military, the public sector, or the private world of business. We’re not here with corporate buzzwords or textbook definitions. Instead, you’ll hear: Honest stories about the challenges and failures that shaped us.Real conversations about the doubts and decisions leaders wrestle with every day.Lessons, frameworks, and laughs that remind you you’re not alone in the struggle. Episodes run 45-60 minutes (long enough to go deep, short enough for a commute) and drop weekly. Some weeks it’s just us, other weeks we’ll bring in guests (current and aspiring leaders) to share their own unfiltered journeys. If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re cut out for this role, questioned yourself after making a hard call, or felt like a fraud even with the title… this podcast is for you. Because leading ain’t easy, but you don’t have to do it alone.

  1. 2D AGO

    Episode 20 - Addressing Management Inaction (feat. John Moore)

    What do you do when the same person keeps causing problems and management does not seem to be doing anything about it? In this episode of Leading Ain’t Easy, Ryan Calkins and Erny Epley are joined by returning guest John Moore to unpack a workplace issue that frustrates employees and leaders alike: repeated complaints, little visible action, and the slow erosion of trust that follows. Together, they explore: why leadership action is not always visible to employees when management may be building a case behind the scenes when inaction is real and leaders are avoiding the hard call how “productive” bad actors often get protected why unresolved issues spread and poison culture what leaders should consider when inheriting a broken team and how to communicate clearly without violating confidentiality The conversation also takes a personal turn as Erny shares that he will be stepping back from regular co-hosting duties, with John stepping in as Ryan’s new ongoing co-host. This is an honest conversation about accountability, leadership pressure, team morale, and the cost of letting known problems linger too long. If workplace frustration has ever made you wonder whether leadership sees what is happening, this episode will hit home. Leading Ain’t Easy is hosted by Ryan Calkins and Erny Epley. Ryan is the founder of Reframe & Rise, a career and leadership coaching practice helping veterans and other professionals realign their work and lead with purpose.Erny runs Bus Pro Network, supporting school transportation leaders across California with training and development.Subscribe to the show on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you listen. Follow us on LinkedIn and Instagram for clips, prompts, and behind-the-scenes updates. If this episode resonated, please leave a review, as it helps more leaders find us.

    41 min
  2. MAR 17

    Episode 19 - Respect vs Likability

    Do you need to be liked to be an effective leader? In this episode of Leading Ain’t Easy, Ryan and Erny sit down with Rene Guerrero, Assistant Public Works Director for the City of Ontario, to talk through one of the most common tensions leaders face: the balance between being respected and being liked. Rene brings nearly 30 years of experience in engineering and public works leadership and shares what he has learned about credibility, trust, transparency, and tough decisions. Together, they explore how leaders can build real respect without becoming cold, rigid, or disconnected from their teams. The conversation covers: the difference between wanting to be liked and needing to be likedwhy respect is built through consistency and integrityhow transparency helps people understand hard decisionswhy authenticity matters when stepping into leadershipand how to avoid drifting into fear-based or approval-based leadershipThey also share personal stories about being the face of difficult decisions, navigating leadership transitions, and learning that it is okay if not everyone likes you. If you have ever struggled with trying to be a “good” leader without becoming a people pleaser, this episode will hit home. Leading Ain’t Easy is hosted by Ryan Calkins and Erny Epley. Ryan is the founder of Reframe & Rise, a career and leadership coaching practice helping veterans and other professionals realign their work and lead with purpose. Erny runs Bus Pro Network, supporting school transportation leaders across California with training and development. Subscribe to the show on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you listen. Follow us on LinkedIn and Instagram for clips, prompts, and behind-the-scenes updates. If this episode resonated, please leave a review, as it helps more leaders find us.

    49 min
  3. MAR 10

    Episode 18 - PIPs Aren't the End of the World

    A Performance Improvement Plan (PIP) can feel like a career death sentence. For a lot of people, getting put on a PIP feels deeply personal. It can hit your confidence, make you question your future, and leave you wondering whether you are already halfway out the door. In this episode, Ryan and Erny talk about PIPs from both sides. Ryan shares what it was like to be put on a PIP himself, including how hard it hit when it felt personal instead of productive. Erny talks about how leaders should approach performance issues before they ever get to that point, and why no employee should be blindsided by critical feedback at evaluation time. They also get into: when a PIP is being used the right waywhen it starts to feel weaponizedwhy accountability mattershow leaders can communicate clearly and empatheticallyand why a PIP does not automatically mean your career is overThis episode is for leaders who want to handle performance issues better, and for employees who need the reminder that one hard moment does not define the rest of their career. A PIP may be a setback, but it does not have to be the end. Leading Ain’t Easy is hosted by Ryan Calkins and Erny Epley. Ryan is the founder of Reframe & Rise, a career and leadership coaching practice helping veterans and other professionals realign their work and lead with purpose.Erny runs Bus Pro Network, supporting school transportation leaders across California with training and development.Subscribe to the show on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you listen. Follow us on LinkedIn and Instagram for clips, prompts, and behind-the-scenes updates. If this episode resonated, please leave a review, as it helps more leaders find us.

    45 min
  4. FEB 24

    Episode 16 - Executive Presence (feat. Frank Hopkins)

    A lot of people think “executive presence” means being polished, charismatic, or loud. It doesn’t. In this episode, we’re joined by executive coach Frank Hopkins, who works with CEOs and executive teams (primarily community banks across the Southeast). Together, we break down what executive presence actually is: carrying authority before you speak; and reinforcing it through judgment, composure, clarity, and behavior under pressure. We get into the difference between authority and credibility, why “confidence theater” fails, and why the leaders people trust most are the ones who stay regulated when the stakes go up. Frank also explains a hard truth middle managers live every day: you’re accountable up and you’re responsible down — and if you complain down, you’ll lose trust fast. And then we land on the line that should be taped to every leader’s wall: “If you’re in charge, you’re responsible for everything.” What we cover: What executive presence is (and what it is not)“Authority without force” and getting people to follow you even when they don’t have toComposure under pressure: calm isn’t passive, it’s containmentClear decisions without hedging and over-explainingWhy consistency is the hardest part (especially when you’re tired)Middle management reality: translating top-down changes without losing trustTaking responsibility and shielding your team (and why it builds loyalty fast)If you’re trying to lead at a higher level (or you’re already there and feel the weight of it) this one’s for you. "Leading Ain’t Easy, but you don’t have to do it alone." Leading Ain’t Easy is hosted by Ryan Calkins and Erny Epley. Ryan is the founder of Reframe & Rise, a career and leadership coaching practice helping veterans and other professionals realign their work and lead with purpose.Erny runs Bus Pro Network, supporting school transportation leaders across California with training and development.Subscribe to the show on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you listen. Follow us on LinkedIn and Instagram for clips, prompts, and behind-the-scenes updates. If this episode resonated, please leave a review, as it helps more leaders find us.

    44 min
  5. FEB 17

    Episode 15 - Leadership Mistakes That Can Negatively Impact Culture

    If we're being real, workplace culture doesn’t live in mission statements or speeches, it lives in what happens every day. In Episode 15, Ryan and Erny break down the leadership mistakes that can erode culture over time: preaching standards but tolerating contradictions, avoiding tough conversations, playing favorites, and overvaluing performance while ignoring behavior. They also talk through two real-world culture scenarios: the “impossible situation” where morale is already in the toilet, and the “good culture on paper” situation where a lack of accountability eventually creates serious problems. A big theme throughout this one: culture is what you allow... and if you want it to improve, you can’t ignore it. In this episode: Why culture starts at the top (and how inconsistency kills trust)The danger of chasing numbers while ignoring behaviorWhy accountability protects your high performers (and your team’s morale)How to hold standards without becoming a micromanagerWhy recognition matters more than people think (kudos/shoutouts)The burnout trap: trying to change what you can’t controlIf you’ve ever stepped into a messy team, inherited a culture problem, or felt yourself burning out trying to fight upstream, this one’s for you. "Leading Ain’t Easy, but you don’t have to do it alone." Leading Ain’t Easy is hosted by Ryan Calkins and Erny Epley. Ryan is the founder of Reframe & Rise, a career and leadership coaching practice helping veterans and other professionals realign their work and lead with purpose.Erny runs Bus Pro Network, supporting school transportation leaders across California with training and development.Subscribe to the show on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you listen. Follow us on LinkedIn and Instagram for clips, prompts, and behind-the-scenes updates. If this episode resonated, please leave a review, as it helps more leaders find us.

    46 min
  6. FEB 10

    Episode 14 - Leading When You're the Youngest on the Team

    What do you do when you’re the newest leader… and everyone you’re leading is older than you? In this episode of Leading Ain’t Easy, we get real about what it feels like to lead without seniority, including the anxiety, the imposter thoughts, the pressure to prove yourself, and the temptation to overplay authority just to feel “legit.” Ryan shares what it was like being the youngest in the Marine Corps and then again in the workplace, including an early-career mistake that created an instant credibility problem. Erny breaks down what it means to be “new to power,” why “because I said so” backfires, and how humility and ownership are often the fastest path to real respect. If you’re the youngest manager in the room right now, this one’s for you. Key takeaways: How to earn respect without demanding itWhy proving yourself through posturing kills credibilityThe role of listening, consistency, and authenticityHow to introduce change without triggering resistanceWhy “I was wrong” is one of the hardest (and most powerful) sentences in leadership"Leading Ain’t Easy, but you don’t have to do it alone." Leading Ain’t Easy is hosted by Ryan Calkins and Erny Epley. Ryan is the founder of Reframe & Rise, a career and leadership coaching practice helping veterans and other professionals realign their work and lead with purpose.Erny runs Bus Pro Network, supporting school transportation leaders across California with training and development.Subscribe to the show on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you listen. Follow us on LinkedIn and Instagram for clips, prompts, and behind-the-scenes updates. If this episode resonated, please leave a review, as it helps more leaders find us.

    48 min
  7. FEB 3

    Episode 13 - Being the FNG (F’ing New Guy): Earning Trust From the Start

    Being the "new guy" is hard. Being the new leader is harder. In this episode, Ryan Calkins and Erny Epley sit down with special guest, Matt Quinn, to talk about what it really takes to earn trust when you walk into a new job with zero social capital; especially when the people around you have been doing the work longer than you’ve been alive. They cover what to do (and more importantly, what NOT to do) in your first stretch, how to listen without getting played, why “past practice” can be a trap, and the surprisingly powerful leadership habit Matt tells every new manager: clean the bathroom. In this episode: Why leaders should listen first before changing anythingHow to avoid walking into a job and “moving pieces” you don’t understandThe difference between proving yourself and performing for approvalWhy the best trust-builder is often: “I don’t know, can you teach me?”“Past practice” vs best practice (and why that distinction matters)The leadership lesson that sticks: clean the bathroom (AKA: do the job nobody wants)"Leading ain’t easy, but you don’t have to do it alone." This episode does contain some explicit language Leading Ain’t Easy is hosted by Ryan Calkins and Erny Epley. Ryan is the founder of Reframe & Rise, a career and leadership coaching practice helping veterans and other professionals realign their work and lead with purpose.Erny runs Bus Pro Network, supporting school transportation leaders across California with training and development.Subscribe to the show on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you listen. Follow us on LinkedIn and Instagram for clips, prompts, and behind-the-scenes updates. If this episode resonated, please leave a review, as it helps more leaders find us.

    47 min

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Leadership looks shiny on social media. But the reality is it’s messy, isolating, and full of self-doubt. Leading Ain’t Easy pulls back the curtain on the side of leadership nobody puts on their résumé. Hosted by Ryan Calkins (Marine Corps veteran, career/leadership coach, and founder of Reframe & Rise) and Erny Epley (public-sector leader and founder of Bus Pro Network), this show dives into the raw, unfiltered truths of leading others; whether it’s in the military, the public sector, or the private world of business. We’re not here with corporate buzzwords or textbook definitions. Instead, you’ll hear: Honest stories about the challenges and failures that shaped us.Real conversations about the doubts and decisions leaders wrestle with every day.Lessons, frameworks, and laughs that remind you you’re not alone in the struggle. Episodes run 45-60 minutes (long enough to go deep, short enough for a commute) and drop weekly. Some weeks it’s just us, other weeks we’ll bring in guests (current and aspiring leaders) to share their own unfiltered journeys. If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re cut out for this role, questioned yourself after making a hard call, or felt like a fraud even with the title… this podcast is for you. Because leading ain’t easy, but you don’t have to do it alone.