Meno moms after the pause

Menomoms after the pause

Season 1 Episode 1- Meet the meno moms Alyson and Susie welcome you to After the Pause - the podcast where women in all stages of menopause can talk unfiltered and unapologetically.

  1. May 27

    Chapter 2 Unbecoming - Episode 7 Invisible Labor Fatigue The Work Women Carry That No One Sees

    Somewhere along the way, many women became the default carrier of everything. The planner. The rememberer. The emotional regulator. The one who notices what’s running low, what’s falling apart, who needs help, what everyone forgot, and what still has to get done. And somehow… most of that work remains invisible. This week on Meno Moms: After the Pause, we’re talking about the exhaustion women carry that no one sees — the mental load, emotional labor, invisible labor, and midlife burnout so many women quietly live inside every day. Not because women are weak. Because many of us were conditioned to carry everything without asking anyone else to help hold it. Episode 7 — Invisible Labor Fatigue: The Work Women Carry That No One Sees is now live. If you’ve ever felt exhausted while everyone around you wondered “from what?”… this conversation is for you. 🎧 Listen now on Spotify & Apple Podcasts. #MentalLoad #InvisibleLabor #EmotionalLabor #MidlifeWomen #WomenOver50 #MidlifeBurnout #MarriageAndMentalLoad #MenoMoms #AfterThePause #WomenAndBurnout #InvisibleWork #MidlifePodcast #WomenSupportingWomen

    30 min

  2. May 19

    Chapter 2 Unbecoming Episode 6 Releasing Comparison

    Welcome back to Meno Moms: After the Pause. This is Chapter 2 — Unbecoming. The chapter where we start peeling back the layers of who we thought we were supposed to be… and get honest about what’s actually been driving us. And today? We’re talking about comparison. The invisible scorecard so many women have been carrying around for decades without even realizing it. Who looks younger. Whose marriage seems happier. Whose kids are thriving. Who stayed thin. Who made more money. Who “aged well.” Who somehow appears to be handling all of it effortlessly while the rest of us are reheating coffee for the third time wondering what happened to our nervous system. Because somewhere along the way, many of us learned that our value was tied to how we measured up. And social media didn’t exactly help. In this episode, we’re talking about comparison culture, social comparison psychology, and why midlife can become the exact moment women finally decide they are done performing for an imaginary scoreboard no one actually wins. We’ll unpack the quiet exhaustion that comes from constantly measuring ourselves against other women… and why releasing comparison may be one of the most freeing parts of midlife reinvention. Because maybe confidence after 50 isn’t becoming better than everyone else. Maybe it’s finally realizing you never needed to compete in the first place. Let’s get into it.

    33 min

  3. May 12

    Chapter 2-Episode 5 Perfection Detox Letting Go of the Impossible Standards

    Welcome back to Meno Moms: After the Pause — the podcast where we talk honestly about midlife, menopause, identity shifts, relationships, reinvention… and everything they forgot to warn women about. We’re your hosts, Alyson and Susie, and today we’re diving into something so many women have spent decades carrying without even realizing it: Perfection. The pressure to hold it all together. To be the good mom. The supportive wife. The organized one. The thin one. The accommodating one. The woman who makes everyone comfortable while quietly abandoning herself in the process. This is Chapter 2: Unbecoming. And today’s episode is called: Perfection Detox — Letting Go of the Impossible Standards. Because somewhere along the way, many of us confused being worthy with being flawless. And midlife has a funny way of exposing just how exhausting that bargain really was. So if you’re tired of performing, proving, people-pleasing, over-functioning, or feeling like you’re never quite enough no matter how much you do… Pull up a chair. This conversation might just feel like permission to finally exhale.

    28 min

  4. May 6

    Chapter 2 Episode 4 Adult-Child Boundaries Letting Go of Parenting Role

    It’s live. At some point, parenting quietly shifts. No milestone. No conversation. No clear line. Just a slow realization that the role you’ve lived in for decades… no longer fits the same way. And yet—letting go isn’t simple. As Esther Perel says: “The quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives.” So what happens when the relationship with your children… changes? In this episode, we’re unpacking: * how to create healthy boundaries with adult children *why midlife parenting transitions feel so disorienting * the difference between connection vs control * and how to redefine your role without losing the relationship Because this isn’t about loving them less. It’s about loving them differently. As Brené Brown reminds us: “Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves even when we risk disappointing others.”

    34 min

  5. Apr 28

    Chapter 2 Unbecoming Episode 3 Marriage Rewrites

    Before you press play… just sit with this for a second: When was the last time you actually asked yourself— “Is this relationship still working for the woman I am now?” Not the version of you from 10 years ago. Not the mom-in-the-thick-of-it version. The woman you are today. This is the conversation so many are thinking about— and so few are saying out loud. It’s the same space Esther Perel has spent years exploring— how relationships evolve, and how we’re allowed to evolve inside them. And like Brené Brown reminds us— clarity requires courage. In this episode of Meno Moms: After the Pause, we’re not here to tell you what to do. We’re here to help you see clearly: * the quiet shifts happening in midlife marriages * the emotional gaps that don’t get talked about *and the possibility of choosing your relationship again—on purpose No drama. No shame. Just awareness. Take a breath… and press play. It’s live now. Save this for your next quiet moment. Send it to someone who’s been feeling this but hasn’t found the words. #PressPlay #MidlifeMarriage #EstherPerel #BreneBrown #EmptyNestLife #MarriageAfterKids #MidlifeWomen #RelationshipClarity #EmotionalConnection #WomenOver50 #MidlifePodcast #RelationshipGrowth #ListenNow #ModernMarriage

    36 min

  6. Apr 21

    Chapter 2 Unbecoming Episode 2 Body Acceptance vs Body Love

    We’ve been told we’re supposed to love our bodies. Fully. Confidently. Unapologetically. But what if… that doesn’t feel true?” There’s this quiet pressure—especially in midlife— to arrive at some place of total body love. Like one day you just wake up, look in the mirror, and feel nothing but gratitude and admiration. And to be fair… there’s been a powerful movement pushing that idea forward. Brands like Dove changed the conversation around “real beauty.” Voices like Jameela Jamil and the I Weigh movement challenged impossible standards. And that matters. But somewhere along the way… “love your body” became another expectation. Another thing we’re supposed to get right. And for a lot of women—especially in this midlife chapter that doesn’t always feel honest. Because our bodies have changed. They’ve carried pregnancies, stress, loss, hormones, time. They don’t look the way they used to and they don’t respond the way they used to. And what researchers like Brené Brown have spent years talking about is this: our worth was never supposed to be tied to how we look in the first place. So maybe the goal isn’t love. Maybe the goal is peace. In this episode, we’re unpacking the difference between body love and body acceptance and why acceptance might actually be the more honest, more sustainable, and more freeing place to land. We’re talking about: what it means to stop fighting your body how to let go of the pressure to feel amazing all the time and how midlife gives us the opportunity to unbecome everything we were taught about beauty, worth, and identity Because this isn’t about giving up. It’s about coming home. To a body that’s lived. A body that’s changing. A body that’s still yours. Inspired by conversations started by @dove @jameelajamil @iweigh and the deeper work on worth by @brenebrown — we’re taking this into midlife, where it gets real. #BodyAcceptance #BodyNeutrality #MidlifeWomen #WomenOver50 #Unbecoming #MidlifeTransformation #SelfAcceptance #ConfidenceAtAnyAge #RealWomenRealBodies #AgingOutLoud #MenoMoms #AfterThePause

    32 min

  7. Apr 14

    Chapter 2 Unbecoming Episode 1 Grieving the Younger Version of Ourselves

    Chapter 2: Unbecoming Episode 1: Grieving Younger Versions of Ourselves “For most of our lives, we are taught to become something… But midlife asks a different question— What if the real work now is unbecoming?” This week, we’re talking about the part of midlife no one prepares you for… the quiet grief of letting go of who you used to be The young woman with endless possibility The version of you who followed the rules The identity you built your life around This isn’t a breakdown. It’s a transition. And maybe… even a beginning. Listen now if you’ve ever felt like: • you don’t recognize yourself anymore • something is shifting—but you can’t name it • you’re ready to become more… by letting go #midlifewomen #midlifeidentityshift #reinventingyourself #womenover50 #midlifetransformation #grievingyourself #emptynestidentity #menomoms #afterthepause

    29 min

  8. Mar 17

    Chapter 1 Episode 4 Child Los & Midlife Grief: The Identify Shift No One Talks About

    Welcome back to Meno Moms – After the Pause, the podcast where we talk honestly about midlife, identity shifts, and what happens when women begin reclaiming their lives. This is Chapter 1: The Great Reclamation, and today’s episode is called “The Grief We Don’t Talk About — Loss, Identity, and Reclaiming Yourself in Midlife.” When people hear the word grief, they often think only about death. But in midlife, grief can take many forms. It can be grieving a child, grieving a marriage, grieving faith, grieving health, or even grieving the life you thought you would have. In this episode, we explore what psychologists call ambiguous grief and secondary losses — the hidden ripple effects that can reshape identity, relationships, and how we see the future. Alyson shares her lived experience navigating child loss and the profound identity shift that follows, while Susie reflects on the quieter forms of grief that many women experience in midlife. We talk about coping with grief in midlife, how grief shows up in marriage, why it can feel isolating, and how many women begin reclaiming their lives after loss — not by moving on, but by learning to live forward. Because grief isn’t just about what we lost. Sometimes it’s the beginning of discovering who we are now.

    43 min
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Season 1 Episode 1- Meet the meno moms Alyson and Susie welcome you to After the Pause - the podcast where women in all stages of menopause can talk unfiltered and unapologetically.

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  • Creator
    Menomoms after the pause
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    23
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