The Low & Slow Podcast

That Girl Magic

Welcome to The Low & Slow Podcast, we're your girls Crystal and Laken! We invite you to pull up a seat to the conversation as we help women shift their mindset. Here everything is on the table for real, raw, and honest conversations about women's work. We created That Girl Magic because we’ve been where you are. By sharing our stories and experiences we want to help women see they can redefine their story and take aligned action in their life. That their stories of guilt and shame or being stuck does not have to stay their current reality. Get ready to breathe low and slow xo!

  1. 9h ago

    Ep. 31: Why You Go Silent When It Matters Most

    This episode names one of the most misunderstood and most shamed experiences in the boundaries conversation: the freeze response. The moment you know exactly what you need to say, you’ve rehearsed it, you believe it — and when the moment arrives, your body goes somewhere else entirely.  You go quiet. You go flat. You agree when you meant to hold the line. And then you spend the next three days hating yourself for it.  This episode’s central argument is that the freeze is not a failure of courage, character, or communication skill. It is a nervous system response — a protective mechanism doing exactly what it was trained to do.  Your nervous system isn’t responding to what’s happening right now. It’s responding to what it learned to expect. Those are two completely different things. Understanding that distinction doesn’t excuse the pattern.  It makes the pattern changeable.  You cannot think your way to a different nervous system response. You have to experience your way there. The body learns through evidence, not insight. The goal isn’t to never freeze. It’s to shrink the gap between the freeze and the recovery.  That gap is trainable. We hope today after listening you feel like the freeze finally makes sense — and like there is an actual path out that doesn’t require forcing yourself through it. Follow along, tune in, and let’s get into your next mindset shift! It means the world to us if you would rate, like, save, share, and most importantly hit that subscribe button! And if something you heard today hit home for you, share it with your world. There is plenty of room at our table. She looks like she has it together. But inside, she’s tired of being the strong one. Peace. Play. Love. is for her. A retreat where the armor comes off, the nervous system softens, and self-trust becomes the loudest voice in the room. June 2026. This is your pause and your pivot. Check out our Women’s Retreat we are hosting —The Peace.Play.Love Retreat  Deets: https://offers.thatgirlmagic.co/ppl-retreat Request A Remix! If you’re stuck or in a situation you want a new lens on, submit your dilemma anonymously below for a mindset remix from us on a future podcast episode! Follow us on IG: @thatgirlmagic.co - @i.am.crystal.clear - @coachlaken www.thatgirlmagic.co  Ways to work with us: Book With Crystal - Book With Laken

    47 min
  2. May 27

    Ep. 30: Their Emotional Immaturity Became Your Blueprint

    Your parents didn’t just raise you. They handed you a blueprint. For what love looks like. What safety feels like. What you have to be to belong. And most of us have been building from that blueprint for decades without ever looking at the architecture. Today we look. Specifically at the editing process — how a child learns which version of herself is safe — this episode names the specific parenting styles that drove that editing.  Here’s an opportunity to look at the map: here is the parent, here is the pattern it produced in you, here is why. The nine archetypes are introduced briefly and without judgment, then the conversation lands on the adult impact — the behaviors, the nervous system patterns, the relationship dynamics that grew directly from a parent’s emotional limits.  The reparenting framework provides the neuroscience underneath: these patterns are not personality, they are adaptive code. And adaptive code can be updated.  You are not your parents’ emotional ceiling.  You are the person who can see the ceiling — and choose to build higher. We hope today after listening you feel like the patterns you’ve been ashamed of finally have an origin story — and like that origin story is not your life sentence. Follow along, tune in, and let’s get into your next mindset shift! It means the world to us if you would rate, like, save, share, and most importantly hit that subscribe button! And if something you heard today hit home for you, share it with your world. There is plenty of room at our table. She looks like she has it together. But inside, she’s tired of being the strong one. Peace. Play. Love. is for her. A retreat where the armor comes off, the nervous system softens, and self-trust becomes the loudest voice in the room. June 2026. This is your pause and your pivot. Check out our Women’s Retreat we are hosting —The Peace.Play.Love Retreat  Deets: https://offers.thatgirlmagic.co/ppl-retreat Request A Remix! If you’re stuck or in a situation you want a new lens on, submit your dilemma anonymously below for a mindset remix from us on a future podcast episode! Follow us on IG: @thatgirlmagic.co - @i.am.crystal.clear - @coachlaken www.thatgirlmagic.co  Ways to work with us: Book With Crystal - Book With Laken

    1h 23m
  3. May 20

    Ep. 29: Finding The Girl You Learned To Hide

    You didn’t lose yourself. You learned to hide yourself. And there’s a version of you that went underground so early, so quietly, that you’ve almost forgotten she was ever there. Today’s episode is about finding her. This episode does something most personal development conversations are afraid to do: it names the editing process.  The way a child learns, piece by piece, which version of herself is safe to show — and quietly buries the rest.  The central argument is not that your parents were monsters or that your childhood was a disaster. It’s that the most ordinary, well-meaning homes still produce an edited self. Because all parents are human. All humans have limits.  And children are exquisitely wired to read what’s welcome and what isn’t — and adapt accordingly. Follow along, tune in, and let’s get into your next mindset shift! It means the world to us if you would rate, like, save, share, and most importantly hit that subscribe button! And if something you heard today hit home for you, share it with your world. There is plenty of room at our table. She looks like she has it together. But inside, she’s tired of being the strong one. Peace. Play. Love. is for her. A retreat where the armor comes off, the nervous system softens, and self-trust becomes the loudest voice in the room. June 2026. This is your pause and your pivot. Check out our Women’s Retreat we are hosting —The Peace.Play.Love Retreat  Deets: https://offers.thatgirlmagic.co/ppl-retreat Request A Remix! If you’re stuck or in a situation you want a new lens on, submit your dilemma anonymously below for a mindset remix from us on a future podcast episode! Follow us on IG: @thatgirlmagic.co - @i.am.crystal.clear - @coachlaken www.thatgirlmagic.co  Ways to work with us: Book With Crystal - Book With Laken

    1h 2m
  4. May 13

    Ep. 28: Learning to Feel Safe Without Overfunctioning

    You don’t overfunction because you want to. You overfunction because it feels safe. Being the one who: Handles everything  Figures it out  Holds it together …became your normal. And now that you’re trying to slow down, soften, or receive support… your body resists it. Because safety, for you, has always been tied to control. In this episode of The Low & Slow Podcast, Crystal and Laken explore what it actually looks like to feel safe without overfunctioning. They break down how overfunctioning becomes a nervous system pattern, why slowing down can feel destabilizing, and how to begin building safety in a new way — without abandoning yourself or forcing change. Because healing isn’t about becoming a different person overnight. It’s about teaching your body, slowly: “I don’t have to hold everything anymore.” Follow along, tune in, and let’s get into your next mindset shift! It means the world to us if you would rate, like, save, share, and most importantly hit that subscribe button! And if something you heard today hit home for you, share it with your world. There is plenty of room at our table. She looks like she has it together. But inside, she’s tired of being the strong one. Peace. Play. Love. is for her. A retreat where the armor comes off, the nervous system softens, and self-trust becomes the loudest voice in the room. June 2026. This is your pause and your pivot. Check out our Women’s Retreat we are hosting —The Peace.Play.Love Retreat  Deets: https://offers.thatgirlmagic.co/ppl-retreat Request A Remix! If you’re stuck or in a situation you want a new lens on, submit your dilemma anonymously below for a mindset remix from us on a future podcast episode! Follow us on IG: @thatgirlmagic.co - @i.am.crystal.clear - @coachlaken www.thatgirlmagic.co  Ways to work with us: Book With Crystal - Book With Laken

    43 min
  5. May 6

    Ep. 27: When You Become the Mother While Healing the Wound

    In this follow-up to Shake Off What Your Mama Gave You, Crystal and Laken explore the complex emotional terrain of becoming the nurturer while still healing maternal wounds. Because sometimes the mother wound doesn’t fully reveal itself until life asks you to become what you once needed. Whether you are raising children, building a business, leading clients, or mothering your own inner child — this episode is about the tension between caregiving and grief. Crystal and Laken unpack: why maternal wounds often intensify when women begin caregiving,the grief of realizing what you didn’t receive,how resentment can surface in unexpected ways,and how to mother yourself while becoming a safe place for others.This is a conversation about breaking cycles without perfection, grieving without shame, and learning how to nurture from overflow instead of depletion. Because healing the mother wound isn’t about becoming flawless. It’s about becoming conscious. Follow along, tune in, and let’s get into your next mindset shift! It means the world to us if you would rate, like, save, share, and most importantly hit that subscribe button! And if something you heard today hit home for you, share it with your world. There is plenty of room at our table. She looks like she has it together. But inside, she’s tired of being the strong one. Peace. Play. Love. is for her. A retreat where the armor comes off, the nervous system softens, and self-trust becomes the loudest voice in the room. June 2026. This is your pause and your pivot. Check out our Women’s Retreat we are hosting —The Peace.Play.Love Retreat  Deets: https://offers.thatgirlmagic.co/ppl-retreat Request A Remix! If you’re stuck or in a situation you want a new lens on, submit your dilemma anonymously below for a mindset remix from us on a future podcast episode! Follow us on IG: @thatgirlmagic.co - @i.am.crystal.clear - @coachlaken www.thatgirlmagic.co  Ways to work with us: Book With Crystal - Book With Laken

    38 min
  6. Apr 29

    Ep. 26: What 'The In-Between’ Actually Looks Like

    Here’s a moment no one really prepares you for— When you stop doing what you’ve always done…and suddenly, nothing feels normal anymore. You don’t jump in.You don’t fix it.You don’t over-explain.You don’t take over. And instead of feeling free…you feel uncomfortable. Restless. Questioning everything. In this episode of The Low & Slow Podcast, Crystal and Laken explore the real experience of change—not the highlight reel, but the raw moments that happen when you interrupt your patterns in real time. Because the “in-between” isn’t peaceful at first.It’s disorienting. It’s the space where your old identity no longer fits…but your new way of being hasn’t fully landed yet. This episode asks: What actually happens when you stop overfunctioning—in real life? Not in theory.Not in journaling prompts.But in the moment your body tells you to step in…and you choose not to. We explore: •Why not stepping in feels physically loud •The inner dialogue when you break patterns •Why discomfort comes from interrupting the pattern •What it looks like to witness life without inserting yourself •The identity shift of no longer being “the one who fixes everything” •How others may react when you change •Why your nervous system feels activated •How safety is built through small, quiet reps You’ll recognize this if you’ve ever: •Felt the urge to fix everything •Over-explained to avoid being misunderstood •Struggled to sit still instead of taking control •Questioned who you are without being “the responsible one” Because the in-between looks like: Not answering right away.Letting someone misunderstand you.Sitting in discomfort without fixing it.Letting things unfold without controlling the outcome. The truth: The discomfort isn’t a sign something is wrong.It’s a sign something is changing. You’re no longer reacting the same way.You’re no longer reinforcing the identity you’ve outgrown. Your nervous system is learning:“I don’t have to jump in anymore.” Follow along, tune in, and let’s get into your next mindset shift! It means the world to us if you would rate, like, save, share, and most importantly hit that subscribe button! And if something you heard today hit home for you, share it with your world. There is plenty of room at our table. She looks like she has it together. But inside, she’s tired of being the strong one. Peace. Play. Love. is for her. A retreat where the armor comes off, the nervous system softens, and self-trust becomes the loudest voice in the room. June 2026. This is your pause and your pivot. Check out our Women’s Retreat we are hosting —The Peace.Play.Love Retreat  Deets: https://offers.thatgirlmagic.co/ppl-retreat Request A Remix! If you’re stuck or in a situation you want a new lens on, submit your dilemma anonymously below for a mindset remix from us on a future podcast episode! Follow us on IG: @thatgirlmagic.co - @i.am.crystal.clear - @coachlaken www.thatgirlmagic.co  Ways to work with us: Book With Crystal - Book With Laken

    48 min
  7. Apr 22

    Ep. 25: Trying to Solve Feeling Problems with Thinking Solutions

    In this episode of Low and Slow, we explore a pattern so many of us fall into without even realizing it: trying to think our way out of what we actually need to feel our way through. When emotions rise, the mind rushes in with solutions, logic, and fixing—but what happens when the real issue isn’t a thinking problem at all, but a feeling one? This conversation introduces a new and deeply loved woman of our coaching team, Melissa Curtis. Melissa is not only an incredible addition to the work we’re doing, but also a longtime friend—and the very connection point where Laken and I originally met. Her presence brings a grounded, embodied lens to everything we talk about in this episode, especially the importance of nervous system awareness, embodiment, and creating spaces where women can actually feel safe enough to heal. Together, we unpack how often women get caught in cycles of self-doubt, overthinking, and “fixing” themselves instead of slowing down long enough to listen to what their body is communicating. We talk about healing as a spiral rather than a straight line, the power of women’s circles and community, and why vulnerability is not a weakness—but a doorway into real transformation. At the heart of this episode is a reminder: self-acceptance doesn’t come from solving yourself. It comes from learning how to be with yourself. And sometimes, the most powerful shift happens when we stop trying to think our way out—and start allowing ourselves to feel our way through. Follow along, tune in, and let’s get into your next mindset shift! It means the world to us if you would rate, like, save, share, and most importantly hit that subscribe button! And if something you heard today hit home for you, share it with your world. There is plenty of room at our table. She looks like she has it together. But inside, she’s tired of being the strong one. Peace. Play. Love. is for her. A retreat where the armor comes off, the nervous system softens, and self-trust becomes the loudest voice in the room. June 2026. This is your pause and your pivot. Check out our Women’s Retreat we are hosting —The Peace.Play.Love Retreat  Deets: https://offers.thatgirlmagic.co/ppl-retreat Request A Remix! If you’re stuck or in a situation you want a new lens on, submit your dilemma anonymously below for a mindset remix from us on a future podcast episode! Follow us on IG: @thatgirlmagic.co - @i.am.crystal.clear - @coachlaken www.thatgirlmagic.co  Ways to work with us: Book With Crystal - Book With Laken

    1h 1m
  8. Apr 15

    Ep. 24: The Pit Has A Pattern

    Why do so many women feel like they’re either all in… or completely out? One week you’re energized, committed, productive, consistent. The next? You’re exhausted, disconnected, avoiding the very things you said mattered most. And somewhere in that crash, shame creeps in: “Why can’t I just stay consistent?” “Why do I always do this?” “What’s wrong with me?” In this episode of The Low & Slow Podcast, Crystal and Laken dismantle one of the most misunderstood cycles in personal growth: the all-or-nothing pattern. And here’s the truth: This is not a discipline problem. It is not a personality flaw. And it is not proof that you’re broken. It is a predictable nervous-system pattern with a shape. A rhythm. A sequence. And once you can recognize the pattern, you stop personalizing the pit. Because the pit is not random. The pit has a pattern. In This Episode We Explore: Why the all-or-nothing cycle is biologically patterned, not personal failureThe 3 phases of the cycle: The In → The Crack → The PitHow your nervous system drives the rise and crashWhy “the crash” is not your willpower failingThe difference between your effort ceiling and your sustainable floorHow to identify your personal warning signs before the crash happensWhy awareness—not perfection—is the first foothold toward change What You’ll Learn Crystal and Laken guide listeners through the anatomy of the cycle so they can begin to recognize: THE IN: The overcommitted high-energy push where everything feels possible. THE CRACK: The subtle signals that your nervous system is overloaded. THE PIT: The withdrawal phase where shame, avoidance, and collapse set in. The goal of this episode is not to “fix” your cycle overnight. The goal is something more powerful: To help you recognize yourself so clearly in this pattern that you stop believing it’s who you are. Because when a pattern becomes visible, it becomes workable. This Episode Is For You… If you’ve ever: started strong and burned out fast,fallen off routines and judged yourself harshly,felt trapped between overdoing and shutting down—This conversation will give language to what your body has been trying to tell you. The pit is not proof you failed. It is data. And learning your pattern may be the most compassionate form of self-trust you ever build. Breathe low. We’ll meet you in the middle. Follow along, tune in, and let’s get into your next mindset shift! It means the world to us if you would rate, like, save, share, and most importantly hit that subscribe button! And if something you heard today hit home for you, share it with your world. There is plenty of room at our table. She looks like she has it together. But inside, she’s tired of being the strong one. Peace. Play. Love. is for her. A retreat where the armor comes off, the nervous system softens, and self-trust becomes the loudest voice in the room. June 2026. This is your pause and your pivot. Check out our Women’s Retreat we are hosting —The Peace.Play.Love Retreat  Deets: https://offers.thatgirlmagic.co/ppl-retreat Request A Remix! If you’re stuck or in a situation you want a new lens on, submit your dilemma anonymously below for a mindset remix from us on a future podcast episode! Follow us on IG: @thatgirlmagic.co - @i.am.crystal.clear - @coachlaken www.thatgirlmagic.co  Ways to work with us: Book With Crystal - Book With Laken

    30 min
5
out of 5
12 Ratings

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Welcome to The Low & Slow Podcast, we're your girls Crystal and Laken! We invite you to pull up a seat to the conversation as we help women shift their mindset. Here everything is on the table for real, raw, and honest conversations about women's work. We created That Girl Magic because we’ve been where you are. By sharing our stories and experiences we want to help women see they can redefine their story and take aligned action in their life. That their stories of guilt and shame or being stuck does not have to stay their current reality. Get ready to breathe low and slow xo!

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