Around the Kinky Kampfire Podcast

Julius Marques
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Kinky, Queer, Non-monogamy, some geeky, and all things in-between. Working to make Kink and Non-Monogamy no longer a stigma. New episodes Thursdays!AroundtheKinkyKampfire@yahoo.com https://www.youtube.com/@aroundthekinkykampfire We have merch now! - https://www.etsy.com/shop/SafeWordSociety

  1. 5D AGO

    Why “Date Till You Hate” Wastes Your Life | S4 EP114

    Send us a text Dating shouldn’t require stockpiling resentment just to make leaving feel easy. We take apart the “date till you hate” trend and talk honestly about why slow fading is just avoidance with better lighting. From attachment patterns to the fear of being the “bad guy,” we unpack the real drivers behind emotional checkout and show how that choice drains self-trust, confuses partners, and turns love into a holding pattern. You’ll hear a candid look at the costs of waiting for hate—how micro-withdrawals add up, why your partner likely senses the shift, and what happens to your identity when you keep ignoring your own needs. Then we pivot to solutions. We walk through a practical needs-wants-boundaries exercise, simple language for initiating a hard conversation, and a clear path to ending things with dignity when change isn’t possible. If leases, money, or shared routines keep you frozen, we outline how to plan the logistics so your courage isn’t fighting your calendar. This is a call to act, not to stew. Clarity is kinder than silence. Boundaries beat bitterness. And choosing a clean exit isn’t villainy—it’s maturity and respect for two lives. If you’ve been hovering in limbo, this conversation gives you the tools and the nudge to move. Listen, take notes, and then take one step: write your list, book the talk, or set a date for change. If this hit home, follow the show, share it with a friend who needs the push, and leave a quick review so more people find it. Your next honest move could save both of you years. 1/6/26 1/6/26 Support the show Come let us know what you think! - IG -https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/ Yahoo - aroundthekinkykampfire@yahoo.com Come check out our merch! https://www.etsy.com/shop/SafeWordSociety https://tee.pub/lic/F1PtyQ_K8kE http://www.redbubble.com/people/safewordsociety

    23 min

  2. JAN 29

    Stop Calling It Talent When It’s Really Practice You’re Avoiding | S4 EP113

    Send us a text Forget the superhero origin story. We’re getting real about talent versus skill—why one feels magical and the other does the heavy lifting—and how to stop using “natural ability” as a reason to avoid doing the work. Julius shares hard-earned lessons from podcasting without a mentor, stumbling through mic placement and camera setups, bombing on stage, and still showing up with a routine that compounds. It’s messy, honest, and a lot more useful than waiting for lightning to strike. We start by stripping talent of its myths. Yes, some people get a head start. No, that doesn’t make mastery inevitable. Skill is built through repetition, feedback, and the kind of boring consistency that makes you better even when no one’s watching. You’ll hear practical examples from audio production, social confidence, and relationship repair—proof that systems, not vibes, create momentum. The early phase will suck. Expect it. Name it. Keep going. That’s how identity shifts from dabbling to doing. Then we connect the dots: align what you’re naturally drawn to with focused practice and you’ll grow faster, but you still need habits to sustain it. We talk about comparison traps, the lie of “potential” without discipline, and the role of self-control in protecting your focus from distractions. Whether you’re launching a show, building improv chops, or unlearning patterns in love, the formula stays the same—small, repeatable commitments, tracked over time, with courage to get feedback in public. If you’re ready to swap excuses for execution, hit play. Subscribe, leave a review, and tell us one skill you’ll commit to practicing this week—we’ll hold you to it. 1/6/26 1/6/26 Support the show Come let us know what you think! - IG -https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/ Yahoo - aroundthekinkykampfire@yahoo.com Come check out our merch! https://www.etsy.com/shop/SafeWordSociety https://tee.pub/lic/F1PtyQ_K8kE http://www.redbubble.com/people/safewordsociety

    23 min

  3. JAN 22

    How A Kinky Podcaster Turned Networking Nerves Into Momentum | S4 EP112

    Send us a text Ever leave a convention both fired up and a little overwhelmed? That’s where we start: freezing Florida nights, a SeaWorld-adjacent hotel, and a whirlwind schedule that turned volunteering, panels, and hallway chats into a crash course on what this show can become. We get real about networking as an introvert with a loud voice, how a simple notebook saved dozens of names, and why clear show identities make connections stick long after the app notifications fade. From there, we dig into the craft. On the comedy panel, the biggest lesson wasn’t a trick or a template—it was honesty. Forced jokes flop; truthful stories travel. We break down how to add humor without derailing your message, how to practice until your delivery matches your personality, and how to edit for pace so the laughs and insights land together. If you’ve ever wondered how to sound funny without trying too hard, this segment gives you a grounded path forward. The episode also lays out a concrete plan to grow a taboo-friendly podcast the smart way. We talk sponsorships that fit adult-adjacent content without selling out, platform-safe language that avoids shadow bans, and session ideas for a full taboo track next year: content warnings that inform, guest screening that protects the room, ethical monetization, and live moderation that keeps it spicy yet safe. Along the way, we share the weekly cadence we’re committing to—new audio every Thursday, video on Friday—and how social strategy and simple systems will help a one-person show scale without losing the messy, human core. If you’re building a show that lives on the fringe, or if you just want sharper storytelling and honest laughs, pull up a chair at the campfire. Subscribe, share this with a creator friend who needs a boost, and drop your dream taboo-session idea—we might build it with you next year. 1/6/26 1/6/26 Support the show Come let us know what you think! - IG -https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/ Yahoo - aroundthekinkykampfire@yahoo.com Come check out our merch! https://www.etsy.com/shop/SafeWordSociety https://tee.pub/lic/F1PtyQ_K8kE http://www.redbubble.com/people/safewordsociety

    24 min

  4. JAN 15

    Congrats, You Didn’t Have Sex: Let’s Talk Gooning | Kink Trends 2025 | S4 EP111

    Send us a text The rankings are in, and the story they tell is wild: gooning has knocked chastity off the top spot, wrestling and tickling are holding steady, and ball busting and giganticism show no signs of fading. We dig into why extended arousal is resonating now, how “edging on repeat” can tip into a trance, and where that overlaps with tantric practice without erasing its differences. Along the way, we push past buzzwords to unpack what people actually do, what they feel, and how to keep minds and bodies safe during high-arousal play. We also zoom out to see how kink trends shift by region. Pegging continues its steady climb in the U.S., Canada, Brazil, the Netherlands, and the U.K., signaling a broader comfort with receptive masculinity and role fluidity. Sex fighting surges in India and Spain, blending primal struggle with erotic payoff, while France’s interest in farting underlines how deeply personal and specific fetish can be. The platform data—from Clips4Sale to media roundups—doesn’t define anyone’s desires, but it does map the currents, and those currents help us understand how communities grow, creators innovate, and language evolves. Language matters here. Whether you call it gooning, edging, orgasm control, or tantric arousal, clarity makes negotiation cleaner and consent stronger. We break down pacing, aftercare, and injury prevention for wrestling, sex fighting, pegging, and ball busting, and we talk candidly about the ongoing demand for dominant women, soft domming trends, and why switches deserve better than tired stereotypes. Two decades of online kink—from feet and bondage to taboo roleplay, fin dom, jerk‑off instruction, and superhero fantasies—set the stage for what’s rising now and where we might be heading next. If this episode made you think, laugh, or plan your next scene, tap follow, leave a review, and share it with a friend who loves great kink conversations. Your feedback shapes future deep dives, so drop your thoughts and tell us which trend surprised you most. 1/6/26 1/6/26 Support the show Come let us know what you think! - IG -https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/ Yahoo - aroundthekinkykampfire@yahoo.com Come check out our merch! https://www.etsy.com/shop/SafeWordSociety https://tee.pub/lic/F1PtyQ_K8kE http://www.redbubble.com/people/safewordsociety

    23 min

  5. JAN 8

    Ranking The World’s Most-Watched Porn Categories In 2025 | S4 EP110

    Send us a text New year, fresh data, and zero shame—we kick off 2026 by digging into the most-watched porn categories of 2025 and what they reveal about culture, power, and pleasure. From hentai’s fascinating origin story in censorship to the rise of ethical studios and the steady normalization of anal, we connect the dots between what people click and the stories we tell about bodies, desire, and boundaries. We unpack why lesbian tops the charts in places like the U.S. and Australia, why MILF and step labels just won’t fade, and how Asian femdom scenes are reframing old tropes about submission and dominance. The numbers spark bigger questions: who watches the most and when, why the Philippines reports a striking share of women viewers, and how late-night viewing windows sync across time zones. We also zoom in on formats—amateur and POV for intimacy, JOI and ASMR for sensory play, VR’s slow climb—and talk about how curation can align arousal with values through consent-forward, performer-led studios. The map offers surprises and laughs (yes, PlayStation traffic and Genshin searches are a thing), but the tone stays grounded: data is a mirror, not a verdict. We talk lube literacy, negotiation, and language that respects your limits. We celebrate trans and gender-fluid expression edging into the mainstream and imagine a future where categories feel less like fences and more like signposts. If you want a smart, funny, and sex-positive tour through the year’s trends—with practical takeaways for how to watch better—this one’s for you. If this conversation got you thinking, share it with a friend, tap follow, and leave a quick review. Tell us the stat or trend that surprised you most and what you want us to explore next. Site links - https://www.popstarlabs.com/blogs/sex-stuff/most-watched-porn-categories-of-2025-ranked-rated?srsltid=AfmBOorVx3tpaRr0SltMEvsHO24DGVrIvA1u2fS6oj2n-OnagWZ5B622 https://gigazine.net/gsc_news/en/20251211-pornhub-insights-2025/ 1/6/26 Got a burning question about kink, BDSM, relationships, and/or navigating the wild world of alternative lifestyles?  Send in your questions. No topic is too taboo, no curiosity too small! We’re all making mistakes, growing, and exploring together!Submit your questions anonymously at aroundthekinkykampfire@yahoo.com or slide into our DMs at Twitter-KinkyKampfire, YT-AroundtheKinkyKampfire, IG-KampfireKinksters. Let’s keep the fire going!  1/6/26 Support the show Come let us know what you think! - IG -https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/ Yahoo - aroundthekinkykampfire@yahoo.com Come check out our merch! https://www.etsy.com/shop/SafeWordSociety https://tee.pub/lic/F1PtyQ_K8kE http://www.redbubble.com/people/safewordsociety

    28 min

  6. 12/18/2025

    Why Dating As A Queer Switch Breaks When We Don’t Ask Clear Questions | S4 EP109

    Send us a text Ever sit across from someone you’re wildly attracted to and realize you’re both waiting for the other to start? That’s the quiet chaos of dating as a queer switch—where presentation invites assumptions, desire doesn’t follow a clock, and the hottest scenes fizzle when roles aren’t clear. We open the campfire to talk about being “single” in non‑monogamy, the pressure of labels, and why curiosity—not mind‑reading—makes kink and relationships work. Julius and Shannon share real‑world stories from clubs, apps, and long‑term dynamics that stalled because initiation fell through the cracks. We get practical about solving stalemates: assign initiation, use yes/no/maybe lists, create scene briefs, and schedule check‑ins to renegotiate roles before resentment builds. If you’re neurodivergent, you’ll hear tools that honor structure and still welcome play, from shared docs to pre‑scene mood checks. When actions don’t match promises, we talk about believing patterns, not excuses, and how polyamory can distribute needs without forcing a single relationship to be everything. Language matters here. We unpack the tangle of femdom, dominatrix, female dominant, and dominance expressed through femininity, and why asking “What does that mean to you?” prevents painful mismatches—like confusing stag/vixen with cuck dynamics. Titles and honorifics are treated like kinks themselves: opt‑in, negotiated, and revocable. We also name the digital pressure cooker—read receipts, typing bubbles, and 24/7 availability—and offer simple agreements to calm nervous systems and reduce entitlement. If you’re tired of assumptions, hungry for clarity, and ready to build scenes and relationships that actually fit, pull up a chair. Subscribe, share this with a friend who needs better questions, and leave a review telling us the one assumption you want people to stop making about you. Follow Shannon - https://www.instagram.com/authorshannonelliot?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw== https://smutsource.com/ 1/6/26 Got a burning question about kink, BDSM, relationships, and/or navigating the wild world of alternative lifestyles?  Send in your questions. No topic is too taboo, no curiosity too small! We’re all making mistakes, growing, and exploring together!Submit your questions anonymously at aroundthekinkykampfire@yahoo.com or slide into our DMs at Twitter-KinkyKampfire, YT-AroundtheKinkyKampfire, IG-KampfireKinksters. Let’s keep the fire going!  1/6/26 Support the show Come let us know what you think! - IG -https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/ Yahoo - aroundthekinkykampfire@yahoo.com Come check out our merch! https://www.etsy.com/shop/SafeWordSociety https://tee.pub/lic/F1PtyQ_K8kE http://www.redbubble.com/people/safewordsociety

    44 min

  7. 12/11/2025

    From Newbie Nerves To Kinky Belonging: How Games, Ambassadors, And Consent Culture Lower The Barrier To Entry | S4 EP108

    Send us a text Ever parked outside a munch, heart racing, and turned the car around? We’ve been there, and we built a roadmap for getting past that moment—from the first hello to feeling like you truly belong. With Shannon Elliott joining in person, we trade stories and hard-won lessons on lowering barriers to entry in kink and swinger spaces using playful design, clear consent culture, and smart hosting. We start with the real obstacles: cliques, jargon, and the fear of speaking first. Then we get tactical. Think wristbands to signal openness, craft nights that make small talk optional, and meta-games that run quietly in the background so strangers have a reason to interact. We outline the “cruise director” role—someone who seeds quick icebreakers, pairs people with shared interests, and keeps the vibe warm without being pushy. You’ll hear how a simple offer like “text us from the parking lot and we’ll walk you in” can flip anxiety into momentum. We also compare cultures across communities. Kink spaces often have heavier vetting and visible consent enforcement because the activities carry physical risk; swinger spaces lean on personal responsibility and rapid negotiation. We explore how to blend the best of both: posted policies, real-time consent education, and clear accountability that doesn’t depend on personality cults. From punitive versus restorative responses to harm, to who should be doing the vetting, we press for transparency, fair process, and a path that actually protects newcomers. If you’ve wanted a friendlier entry point—or you’re a host who wants better turnout and safer dynamics—this conversation is a toolkit. Steal the ideas, remix the games, and try the scripts. And if you loved the spark here, help us spread it: subscribe, share with a friend who’s kink-curious, and leave a quick review so more folks can find the fire. Follow Shannon - https://www.instagram.com/authorshannonelliot?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw== https://smutsource.com/ 1/6/26 Got a burning question about kink, BDSM, relationships, and/or navigating the wild world of alternative lifestyles?  Send in your questions. No topic is too taboo, no curiosity too small! We’re all making mistakes, growing, and exploring together!Submit your questions anonymously at aroundthekinkykampfire@yahoo.com or slide into our DMs at Twitter-KinkyKampfire, YT-AroundtheKinkyKampfire, IG-KampfireKinksters. Let’s keep the fire going!  1/6/26 Support the show Come let us know what you think! - IG -https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/ Yahoo - aroundthekinkykampfire@yahoo.com Come check out our merch! https://www.etsy.com/shop/SafeWordSociety https://tee.pub/lic/F1PtyQ_K8kE http://www.redbubble.com/people/safewordsociety

    45 min

  8. 12/04/2025

    Belonging Is A Practice, Not A Door Policy | S4 EP107

    Send us a text Ever walked into a new community and felt the room go quiet? Julius takes a match to clique culture and lights a clearer path to belonging, blending real talk, humor, and a little tequila to explain why groups can feel icy and how to melt the wall without losing yourself. We explore the tension between upbringing and chosen identity, the pull of religious guilt, and the liberating power of explicit consent and negotiation in kink and queer spaces. The big idea: most people aren’t gatekeepers by intent—they’re cautious, introverted, and watching to see who stays. We break down the “social probation” window that many newcomers experience across scenes—kink munches, swinger meetups, queer board game nights, theater troupes, improv teams—and why consistency beats charisma. If small talk drains you, activity-first events become the secret weapon: classes, workshops, and games create shared focus, organic conversation, and chances to contribute. Along the way, Julius names the difference between healthy vetting and toxic gossip, with a candid checklist for red flags and green flags so you can choose safer, warmer rooms. You’ll leave with practical steps: introduce yourself once, return often, share a slice of your personality, and offer a small service that lifts the space. Respect boundaries. Negotiate clearly. Keep notes on tiny wins—getting out of the car, staying five more minutes, starting one conversation—so you can see progress even when the room still feels stiff. If a group thrives on drama or leaders mock newcomers, take your energy elsewhere; the right circle exists, and it’s easier to find when you show up as your consistent, kind self. If this resonated, tap follow, share with a friend who’s finding their scene, and drop us a note with your best “day-one” advice for newcomers. Subscribe, rate, and review to help keep the fire burning. 1/6/26 Got a burning question about kink, BDSM, relationships, and/or navigating the wild world of alternative lifestyles?  Send in your questions. No topic is too taboo, no curiosity too small! We’re all making mistakes, growing, and exploring together!Submit your questions anonymously at aroundthekinkykampfire@yahoo.com or slide into our DMs at Twitter-KinkyKampfire, YT-AroundtheKinkyKampfire, IG-KampfireKinksters. Let’s keep the fire going!  1/6/26 Support the show Come let us know what you think! - IG -https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/ Yahoo - aroundthekinkykampfire@yahoo.com Come check out our merch! https://www.etsy.com/shop/SafeWordSociety https://tee.pub/lic/F1PtyQ_K8kE http://www.redbubble.com/people/safewordsociety

    26 min
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Kinky, Queer, Non-monogamy, some geeky, and all things in-between. Working to make Kink and Non-Monogamy no longer a stigma. New episodes Thursdays!AroundtheKinkyKampfire@yahoo.com https://www.youtube.com/@aroundthekinkykampfire We have merch now! - https://www.etsy.com/shop/SafeWordSociety

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  • Creator
    Julius Marques
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    112
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Around the Kinky Kampfire Podcast
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