Messy Midlife

Messy Midlife

Messy Midlife is what happens when three women, all naturopathic doctors and one a therapist, going through midlife, pull up a chair to talk honestly. It is all on the table - hormones, families, burnout, and rediscovering who we are. It’s unfiltered, funny, and healing, like eavesdropping on the table of women who just get it.

  1. Rage - The Fire of the Phoenix

    4D AGO

    Rage - The Fire of the Phoenix

    Send us a text We don't start with rage, but through a conversation about unexpected solitude and the clarity that can come from it, we get there. The stark contrast between our daily lives and our lives in ideal circumstances leads to misaligned expectations within ourselves and within our relationships. And when we reach midlife and perimenopause, the center can no longer hold.  We talk about our inner voice, wisdom, or intuition telling us something that we ignore over and over again. We talk about co-dependency and over-functioning, where they overlap, and the ways that this has just become expected of women.  And of course, we talk about rage. Not just our experience of it, but what it actually means, and the role it plays in our lives and in personal transformation. We don't all agree on things here, but we work to find common understanding, or at least to understand each other's perspective.  Book referenced: Real Self Care by Pooja Lakshmin, MD  Brene Brown essay: The Midlife Unraveling Chapters 00:00 Crawling Out from Under a Rock 03:09 The Gift of Stillness and Hibernation 06:08 Navigating Perfectionism and Efficiency 09:01 The Power of Internal Awareness 12:11 Reintegration Challenges 15:03 Emotional Labor and Family Dynamics 17:56 Finding Balance in Love and Responsibility 20:59 Integrating Retreat Insights into Daily Life 23:48 Resetting Relationships and Expectations 31:48 Listening to Our Inner Voice 35:12 The Energetic Connection Between Mothers and Children 38:54 The Pressure of Self-Care 41:36 The Importance of Saying No 46:57 Navigating Over-Functioning and Under-Functioning 52:10 Understanding Rage in Motherhood 01:01:25 The Transformative Power of Rage If our messy is your kind of messy, we would love for you to rate, review and follow or subscribe wherever you get your podcasts. We would also love to know what is on your mind. If you were to join us, what would we be talking about? Email us at messymidlifepodcast@gmail.com or message us on Instagram or TikTok @messymidlifepodcast.

    1h 5m
  2. Masking & Our Authentic Selves

    JAN 27

    Masking & Our Authentic Selves

    Send us a text Aliza jumpstarts the conversation by sharing her experience at a women's retreat that she attends every year and the challenges of trying to incorporate the insights into regular life.  Regular listeners know that Aliza has been struggling with some aspects of parenting, and one of the biggest takeaways from the retreat had a massive impact on how she relates to parenting and her daughter.  The retreat opened up a conversation on things about how we see ourselves versus how we are seen by others, and the masking that we do to try and bridge the gap. We also talked about shifts in intuition as we are reconnecting to our authentic selves and integrating it with who we have become, while also looking toward who we might be in the future.  This is another episode with some insights that we are revisiting again and again in our personal lives. We hope it connects with you too! Women's Purpose Community: https://www.womenspurposecommunity.com/ 00:00 Navigating Life's Challenges 08:39 Embracing the Divine Feminine 17:54 Reconnecting with Intuition and Authenticity 21:55 Navigating Personal Growth and Business Coaching 24:02 The Balance of Giving and Receiving 27:02 Self-Care and the Importance of Saying No 29:58 The Complexity of Midlife Transitions 35:17 The Masks We Wear and Their Impact 42:31 Embracing Discomfort and the Journey of Self-Discovery If our messy is your kind of messy, we would love for you to rate, review and follow or subscribe wherever you get your podcasts. We would also love to know what is on your mind. If you were to join us, what would we be talking about? Email us at messymidlifepodcast@gmail.com or message us on Instagram or TikTok @messymidlifepodcast.

    49 min

  3. JAN 21

    Stardust

    Send us a text Just Karen and Jenn today! This is a not to miss episode if you are dealing with ADHD, people pleasing, perimenopause, overwhelm, or like Karen and I - the times when all of these things collide.  Today we unpack a real life experience of the overlap of ADHD, perimenopause, perfectionism, and just regular mom stuff. We start with Karen's relatable experience of paralysis in just trying to get from one place to another with all the things she had to do - or in this case literally all the things she was carrying.  We tackle the ways labels serve us and also harm us, the ways our body intervenes when we get stuck in people pleasing, and the opportunity for magnificence that comes in midlife.  In this episode we touch on some strategies, mindset shifts, and therapy concepts that dramatically shift how we feel when we get stuck. Things like the concept of our future self as a different person, internal family systems, and *stardust* (you have to listen to episode to get the good stuff on this one).  Books referenced:  Real Self Care by Pooja Lakshmin, MD Hagitude: Reimagining the Second Half of Life by Sharon Blackie Chapters 00:00 Navigating Absences and Authenticity 02:36 The Inner Turmoil of Overcommitment 04:44 The Importance of Unwinding Before Vacation 06:53 The Struggle of Efficiency in Daily Tasks 09:10 Labels and Self-Identity 11:29 The Burden of Perfectionism 14:03 Future Self and Self-Care 16:24 The Complexity of Motherhood and Expectations 18:39 The Weight of Relationships and Responsibilities 25:52 Listening to Our Bodies 28:27 The Weight of Expectations 31:37 Navigating Change and Relationships 34:50 Embracing Discomfort for Growth 39:57 Opening Space for New Possibilities 44:09 Finding Relief in Perspective If our messy is your kind of messy, we would love for you to rate, review and follow or subscribe wherever you get your podcasts. We would also love to know what is on your mind. If you were to join us, what would we be talking about? Email us at messymidlifepodcast@gmail.com or message us on Instagram or TikTok @messymidlifepodcast.

    52 min
  4. Manifestation & Frustration in Parenting

    JAN 13

    Manifestation & Frustration in Parenting

    Send us a text Just Karen and Aliza again! Today we picked up with a topic we had chatted about off mic - manifesting. We have been feeling some blocks and frustration with manifesting recently, so we explore a bit about that. As we chat we realize that manifesting has taken on a fully different dimension as parents and with perimenopause. We very quickly get real about what we are trying to manifest for ourselves - from new and hopefully better parenting styles than we received, to expectations that might not be obtainable given the shifting relationships that are inherent as our children grow up.  00:00 Navigating Frustration in Manifestation 03:34 Parenting Challenges and Control 08:20 Emotional Connections and Communication 13:55 The Importance of Affection in Parenting 17:36 Letting Go of Control and Embracing Love If our messy is your kind of messy, we would love for you to rate, review and follow or subscribe wherever you get your podcasts. We would also love to know what is on your mind. If you were to join us, what would we be talking about? Email us at messymidlifepodcast@gmail.com or message us on Instagram or TikTok @messymidlifepodcast.

    21 min
  5. Perimenopause + Parenting = A Ball of Chaos

    JAN 7

    Perimenopause + Parenting = A Ball of Chaos

    Send us a text Just Karen and Aliza today! Aliza starts with some frustration she is experiencing with parenting a teenager, and we work our way through to exploring some insights on the value of frustration in parenting and perimenopause.  00:00 Navigating the Messy Midlife 02:36 Balancing Parenting and Personal Challenges 04:56 Communication and Expectations with Children 07:31 Understanding Frustration in Parenting 10:16 The Nonlinear Journey of Parenting and Midlife 12:44 Finding Comfort in Discomfort 14:45 The Chaos of Hormonal Changes 17:18 Embracing the Complexity of Emotions 19:59 Radical Acceptance in Parenting 22:30 The Serenity Prayer and Parenting 24:59 Conclusion and Reflection If our messy is your kind of messy, we would love for you to rate, review and follow or subscribe wherever you get your podcasts. We would also love to know what is on your mind. If you were to join us, what would we be talking about? Email us at messymidlifepodcast@gmail.com or message us on Instagram or TikTok @messymidlifepodcast.

    27 min
  6. New Year, No Resolutions

    12/30/2025

    New Year, No Resolutions

    Send us a text Today we have a chat about letting go of New Year's resolutions, self-acceptance, and the pressures of productivity, especially in midlife. We talk about our personal experiences with resolutions and when we let them go, the arbitrary nature of the New Year, and the importance of embracing change authentically. We remind each other and our listeners to recognize our worth without the compulsion to constantly improve or prove ourselves, especially during transitional periods like the New Year. Chapters 00:00 New Year Reflections and Resolutions 07:56 The Pressure of Productivity and Self-Worth 13:32 Authenticity vs. Performative Changes 20:41 Embracing Change and Self-Acceptance If our messy is your kind of messy, we would love for you to rate, review and follow or subscribe wherever you get your podcasts. We would also love to know what is on your mind. If you were to join us, what would we be talking about? Email us at messymidlifepodcast@gmail.com or message us on Instagram or TikTok @messymidlifepodcast.

    23 min
  7. Holidays and the Changes We Are Embracing in Midlife

    12/23/2025

    Holidays and the Changes We Are Embracing in Midlife

    Send us a text In this conversation, we chat about the evolving nature of holiday celebrations in our midlife. We share about the changes in our families, our traditions, and how that impacts us. We explore new ways of looking at things, creating new family traditions, embracing simplicity, and finding joy in the present moment while navigating feelings of nostalgia and loss. 00:00 Navigating Holiday Emotions in Midlife 02:16 Personal Holiday Traditions and Celebrations 05:09 Shifting Perspectives on Gift-Giving 07:45 Creating Holiday Magic for Children 10:13 Balancing Nostalgia and New Traditions 13:03 Embracing Change and Loss During the Holidays 15:38 Finding Joy in Simplicity 18:08 The Importance of Family Connections 20:30 Creating New Traditions 23:07 Reflecting on Expectations vs. Reality 25:33 Final Thoughts on Holiday Celebrations If our messy is your kind of messy, we would love for you to rate, review and follow or subscribe wherever you get your podcasts. We would also love to know what is on your mind. If you were to join us, what would we be talking about? Email us at messymidlifepodcast@gmail.com or message us on Instagram or TikTok @messymidlifepodcast.

    27 min
  8. Politics But Not Political - The Messy Midlife Way

    12/16/2025

    Politics But Not Political - The Messy Midlife Way

    Send us a text Today we explore the complexities of navigating personal and political challenges during midlife. We tackle the impact of political polarization on emotional well-being, the intertwining of health and politics, and the importance of authentic expression. It's us, so of course we end up finding our way to the need for radical acceptance, community connection, and intentional engagement in a world filled with uncertainty and division. We work out our next steps for finding clarity and peace amidst the chaos, without trying to bright side the reality. 00:00 Navigating the Messy Middle 01:59 The Impact of Political Polarization 04:25 Health and Politics: A Complex Relationship 06:47 Fear and Authenticity in Expression 08:37 Understanding Different Perspectives 10:52 The Emotional Toll of Current Events 13:09 Finding Clarity Amidst Chaos 13:59 Social Media's Role in Our Lives 16:21 Radical Acceptance and Personal Agency 18:46 The Spectrum of Opinions 20:49 Navigating Relationships in a Divided World 22:54 The Importance of Connection and Community 25:22 Embracing Uncertainty and Change 27:48 Finding Peace in the Midst of Turmoil 30:30 The Power of Intentional Engagement 32:44 Creating a Supportive Environment 35:09 The Balance of Awareness and Disengagement 37:21 The Emotional Landscape of Midlife 40:02 Concluding Thoughts on Connection and Action If our messy is your kind of messy, we would love for you to rate, review and follow or subscribe wherever you get your podcasts. We would also love to know what is on your mind. If you were to join us, what would we be talking about? Email us at messymidlifepodcast@gmail.com or message us on Instagram or TikTok @messymidlifepodcast.

    49 min
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Messy Midlife is what happens when three women, all naturopathic doctors and one a therapist, going through midlife, pull up a chair to talk honestly. It is all on the table - hormones, families, burnout, and rediscovering who we are. It’s unfiltered, funny, and healing, like eavesdropping on the table of women who just get it.

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  • Creator
    Messy Midlife
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    17
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Messy Midlife
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