New Me Podcast

Mashav Shelef
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This is a space for women rebuilding after divorce or major transition. We focus on clarity, self-trust, and the slow, intentional work of creating a life you want to wake up to. newmeweekly.substack.com

Episodes

  1. 11 - I Made $100K and Still Don't Have the Answer

    May 14

    11 - I Made $100K and Still Don't Have the Answer

    The most common financial question women ask after divorce isn’t about budgeting. It’s this: how do I actually support myself now? In this episode, Mashav gets honest about the income question she gets asked more than almost any other, and why she can’t give a simple answer. Four years after her own separation, her income situation still isn’t “fixed”. And she thinks the advice most women get about earning more is missing the real problem entirely. What she shares instead: what she got wrong in her own post-divorce income panic, how she accidentally stumbled into an income stream that changed everything, and what she thinks is actually blocking most women from earning what they’re capable of. This episode won’t give you a five-step income plan. It will change how you think about the question. Topics Covered * Why the income question is really a fear question * The moves women make from panic, and why they backfire * Why Mashav lasted only three days in a restaurant office job * The identity she had to grieve before anything could open up * How she stumbled onto an income stream by following curiosity * From pennies to $100K * What the book “How to Overcome Underearning” reframed for her * Why the income path probably won’t come from sitting down and figuring it out * What’s coming next: a framework built specifically for women in this transition Resources Mentioned From Panic to Power Your monthly survival number, a clear financial snapshot, and a concrete next step in 15 minutes. For women navigating divorce or separation. Overcoming Underearning by Barbara Stanny: A Five-Step Plan to a Richer Life (watch my VIDEO review) 💌 Stay Connected * 🗞 New Me Weekly: Stay connected with reflections, stories, and rebuild tools * Instagram: @hellonewme.official * TikTok: @hellonew.me * YouTube: Hello New Me Channel Chapters: 00:00 Welcome Back Update 01:20 Divorce Money Panic 01:54 Job Hunt Reality Check 03:07 Money Means Stability 04:13 Stop Forcing Solutions 05:00 Letting Go of Chef Identity 06:12 Accidental Amazon Breakthrough 07:54 Luck, Timing, and Skills 10:40 Orientation Phase Takeaway This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit newmeweekly.substack.com

    13 min
  2. 10 - Don't Start Clipping Coupons

    Apr 3

    10 - Don't Start Clipping Coupons

    After divorce, money becomes very real, very fast. But the instinct many women have to try to save as much as possible, cut everything, optimize everything. Is it really the right move? You’re not just managing money anymore.You’re managing time, energy, stress, and a life that’s already in transition. In this episode, Mashav breaks down a different way to think about cost-cutting after divorce, one that actually works in real life. Instead of asking “How do I save the most?”, she introduces a more useful question:“What is actually worth saving?” You’ll learn how to evaluate expenses based on real return on investment, across three currencies: money, time, and energy, and how to stop wasting effort on low-impact decisions that drain you. The goal is not to become frugal; it’s to have an intentional strategy. If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed, restricted, or stuck in financial anxiety… this episode will help you create space, not just savings. Topics Covered: * The three currencies you’re actually managing * How to evaluate whether a cost-cutting decision is worth it * The difference between high-ROI savings vs exhausting micro-optimizations * The biggest financial levers * The power of secondhand and community-based resources * Adjusting beauty, lifestyle, and personal care without losing yourself * Why therapy is not a luxury expense * Legal fees: how to think about it differently * Hidden financial leaks * The “one indulgence” principle and why it matters * What’s worth doing yourself vs what’s worth paying for Resources Mentioned: “From Panic to Power” — Post-Divorce Financial ChecklistA step-by-step guide with a bare minimum calculator, financial snapshot, and 23 key actions to help you stabilize and rebuild your finances after separation 💌 Stay Connected * 🗞 New Me Weekly:Stay connected with reflections, stories, and rebuild tools * Instagram: @hellonewme.official * TikTok: @hellonew.me * YouTube: Hello New Me Channel Chapters: 00:04 Introduction02:28 The Real Goal of Cost-Cutting03:02 The Three Currencies03:51 The ROI Test for Saving Money05:19 Big Structural Expenses06:58 Food Systems That Work08:08 Secondhand & Community Resources11:21 Beauty & Lifestyle Adjustments14:12 Therapy as a Smart Investment15:26 Legal Fees & Costly Mistakes16:49 Hidden Subscription Leaks18:20 The One Indulgence Principle20:12 Stop Over-Optimizing Small Things21:17 What to DIY vs What to Pay For22:44 Financial Baseline & Checklist23:22 Recap24:49 Final Thoughts This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit newmeweekly.substack.com

    26 min
  3. 09: When You’re Still Married… But Something Inside You Is Done

    Mar 18

    09: When You’re Still Married… But Something Inside You Is Done

    There’s a moment before divorce that no one really talks about. You’re still in the marriage. Nothing has officially changed.But something inside you has. You keep circling the same question:“Am I actually going to have to end this?” And just as quickly, you shut it down:“It’s not that bad. Other people have it worse. Maybe I’m overreacting.” In this episode, Mashav explores what she calls Stage 0 — the stage before separation, where you’re living your normal life on the outside, but internally questioning everything. You won’t be told whether you should stay or leave.This episode will help you see your situation clearly, without minimising, spiralling, or rushing into a decision you’re not ready for. You’ll walk through the real questions most women avoid asking themselves, about love, fear, resentment, self-worth, and the life you’re imagining on the other side. If you’ve been going back and forth in your head, feeling stuck, confused, or alone in this decision… this episode will meet you exactly where you are. Topics Covered * What “Stage 0” of divorce actually is * Why this stage feels so lonely and confusing * The trap of “for better or for worse” * Why “Do I have a good enough reason to leave?” is the wrong question * The better question: Do I have a good enough reason to stay? * Emotional patterns that signal deeper disconnection * The difference between staying from love vs staying from fear * The 10–20 year thought experiment * The Four Horsemen * “Staying for the kids.” * The sunk cost trap and why it keeps you stuck * When it’s actually wise to slow down instead of rushing * Listening to your body as a source of truth * What to do if you’re not ready to leave yet (Stage 0.5) Resources Mentioned “Is It Time to End Your Marriage?” FREE GuideA reflection-based guide with prompts from this episode to help you think through your situation without overwhelm 💌 Stay Connected * 🗞 New Me Weekly:Stay connected with reflections, stories, and rebuild tools * Instagram: @hellonewme.official * TikTok: @hellonew.me * YouTube: Hello New Me Channel Chapters: 00:47 Welcome to Stage Zero02:18 What Stage Zero Feels Like03:53 Rethinking the Vows05:33 Bad Enough?07:34 The Emotional Labor09:36 If Fear Was Gone11:03 Future Letter Test12:19 Gottman’s Four Horsemen14:22 “Staying for the Kids”16:31 Sunk Cost Trap18:13 When to Slow Down20:05 Notice Body Signals20:57 Stage 0.5 22:27 Closing Check In This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit newmeweekly.substack.com

    26 min
  4. Episode 8 - How to Better Survive the Four Stages of Divorce

    Mar 5

    Episode 8 - How to Better Survive the Four Stages of Divorce

    After separation or divorce, it can feel like you’re supposed to “move on” in a straight line: make the decision, sign the papers, rebuild, thrive. In reality, most women move through a series of overlapping stages: emotionally, practically, and even neurologically. In this episode, I introduce my four-stage model of divorce recovery (plus a Stage 0 before anything is official). Through a clear, stage-by-stage framework, this episode helps you: * Recognize which stage you’re actually in * Understand what your nervous system is trying to do in each phase * Stop demanding long-term clarity from yourself when you’re still in short-term survival * See what kind of support and focus is most realistic for this stage, not trying to tackle all at once Chapters: 00:00 Divorce Is Not a Movie00:39 Four Stages Overview02:56 Stage Zero The Limbo04:49 Stage One Crisis Mode07:24 Stage Two Transition10:41 Stage Three Recovery13:23 Stage Four Renewal16:12 Decision Fatigue Reality17:01 Find Your Stage Next Steps Resources Mentioned Stage 1: Crisis 📘 From Panic to Power - Financial ChecklistA step-by-step guide to rebuild safety, clarity, and confidence with money Stage 2: Transition 🗞 New Me Weekly:Stay connected with reflections, stories, and rebuild tools Stage 3: Recovery 📘 Build Your Compass (Free Core Values Exercise)A 5-minute exercise to identify your top core values and use them as a foundation for decision-making. Stage 4: Renewal 🪞 15-Day Self-Guided Roadmap Building ToolA structure for designing a bolder, more intentional life in just 5 minutes a day. 💌 Stay Connected * Instagram: @hellonewme.official * TikTok: @hellonew.me * YouTube: Hello New Me Channel This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit newmeweekly.substack.com

    19 min
  5. Episode 7 - Why Divorce Makes Everything Feel Urgent

    Feb 10

    Episode 7 - Why Divorce Makes Everything Feel Urgent

    After separation or divorce, it can feel like everything needs to be solved immediately: your money, your work, your identity, your health, your future. This episode explores why that urgency isn’t a willpower failure, but a nervous-system and sequencing problem. Mashav introduces the concept of “the collapse pile” — the moment when every concern collapses into one indistinguishable emergency, and shares a practical, grounding way to untangle it. Through personal experience and a clear four-step process, this episode helps you separate what’s truly urgent from what only feels urgent, regain orientation, and take the next right step without forcing clarity before you’re ready. This is an episode about slowing down without getting stuck, creating stability before big decisions, and learning how to rebuild your life one layer at a time. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to the Collapse Pile 01:27 Personal Story: Life After Divorce 02:45 Understanding the Collapse Pile 03:23 The Mistake of Cleaning Up the Pile 06:57 The Four-Step Process to Detangle the Pile 09:23 How I Actually Detangled the Pile 12:48 Conclusion and Recap Resources Mentioned 📝 Article on Medium.com: Why Divorce Makes Everything Feel Urgent 🗞 Weekly Newsletter: Stay connected with reflections, stories, and rebuild tools 📘 Build Your Compass (Free Core Values Exercise) A 5-minute exercise to identify your top core values and use them as a foundation for decision-making.→ Free Download 💌 Stay Connected * Instagram: @hellonewme.official * TikTok: @hellonew.me * YouTube: Hello New Me Channel This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit newmeweekly.substack.com

    14 min
  6. Episode 6 – Using AI as a Thinking Partner When You’re Starting Over

    Jan 27

    Episode 6 – Using AI as a Thinking Partner When You’re Starting Over

    When you’re starting over after separation or divorce, you’re often caught between too much advice and too little orientation. You’ve already reflected. You’ve journaled. You’ve asked the questions.And yet, decisions still feel murky, identity feels unstable, and self-trust hasn’t fully caught up. In this episode, Mashav explores a less talked-about use of AI: not as a productivity tool or an answer machine, but as a thinking partner. We talk about why many women hesitate to use AI for self-reflection, what’s actually happening beneath that resistance, and how reflective use can support self-leadership rather than replace it. This is a conversation about clarity, agency, and learning how to see yourself more clearly before the world decides who you are for you. Chapters 00:00 Introduction 00:21 Using AI for Self-Reflection 01:48 Challenges and Fears of Using AI 03:42 Gender Gap in AI Adoption 06:28 Practical Use of AI for Self-Reflection 11:14 Prompts and Practical Examples 13:35 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Resources Mentioned 📝 Articles on Medium.com: Part 1: Women Are Using AI for Self-Reflection. We Just Don’t Talk About It Yet Part 2: If You’re Starting Over, Ask ChatGPT These 10 Questions Try the FREE CustomGPT: Design Your Next Chapter Like A Main Character GPT 🗞 Weekly Newsletter:Stay connected with reflections, stories, and rebuild tools 📘 Build Your Compass (Free Core Values Exercise)A 5-minute exercise to identify your top core values and use them as a foundation for decision-making.→ Free Download 💌 Stay Connected * Instagram: @hellonewme.official * TikTok: @hellonew.me * YouTube: Hello New Me Channel This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit newmeweekly.substack.com

    14 min
  7. Episode 5 - Holding Your Ground When You No Longer Fit the Mold

    Jan 13

    Episode 5 - Holding Your Ground When You No Longer Fit the Mold

    Once you start making decisions for yourself after divorce, a new set of challenges appears. Your family reacts. Friends get uncomfortable. Old patterns of people-pleasing and approval-seeking resurface. And even when your choices are aligned, it can feel destabilizing to hold your ground without reassurance. In this episode, Mashav continues the conversation on decision-making after separation and divorce, focusing on what happens after the decision is made. We explore how to release the need for validation, rebuild trust in your own judgment, navigate other people’s expectations, and use small daily choices to reclaim agency. This is an episode about identity, self-trust, and learning how to lead your life on your own terms—without waiting for permission. Topics Covered * Why decision-making gets harder after you start choosing for yourself * How approval-seeking resurfaces after divorce and why it once felt necessary * Practical ways to stop outsourcing your decisions to others * Shifting from external validation to inner authority * Navigating family and social discomfort as your identity changes * Using small, everyday choices to rebuild confidence and agency * The fear of being “too late” and why it’s rooted in comparison and familiarity * Why starting over is not falling behind—but stepping outside the script Resources Mentioned Decision Making Part 1: 🗞 Weekly Newsletter: Stay connected with reflections, stories, and rebuild tools 📘 Build Your Compass (Free Core Values Exercise) A 5-minute exercise to identify your top core values and use them as a foundation for decision-making.→ Free Download 🪞15-Day Self-Guided Journey: A bite-sized roadmap to help you reconnect with who you are now and what comes next→ Who the F*ck Are You – 15-Day Self-Leadership Journey 💌 Stay Connected * Instagram: @hellonewme.official * TikTok: @hellonew.me * YouTube: Hello New Me Channel This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit newmeweekly.substack.com

    15 min
  8. Episode 4 - Now it’s All on Me? Making Decisions Alone After Divorce

    12/30/2025

    Episode 4 - Now it’s All on Me? Making Decisions Alone After Divorce

    After divorce or breakup, decision-making can feel terrifying. The reason is that you’re making major life choices while your nervous system is overloaded and your old decision-making structure is gone. In this episode, Mashav breaks down the most common fears women express about making decisions post-divorce; she shares reframes that reduce pressure, explains why mistakes are inevitable (and survivable), and teaches a simple step-by-step decision-making framework rooted in core values. This episode is Part 1; Part 2 will cover what happens after you make the decision: guilt, other people’s opinions, identity friction, and how to turn small choices into big forward momentum. Topics Covered * Why decision-making feels panicky after divorce, even with “small” choices * The fear of ruining your life or your kids’ lives with one decision * How to rebuild agency if you grew up relying on others to decide * A simple method to rebuild self-trust through follow-through * How to break out of overthinking and decision paralysis * A values-focused, step-by-step decision framework you can repeat anytime Resources Mentioned 🗞 Weekly Newsletter:Stay connected with reflections, stories, and rebuild tools 📘 Free Tool:Build Your Compass: A 5-minute clarity tool for women starting over.→ Free Download 📘 Free ChecklistPost-Divorce Financial ChecklistA step-by-step guide to rebuild safety, clarity, and confidence with money 🪞15-Day Self-Guided Journey:A bite-sized roadmap to help you reconnect with who you are now and what comes next→ Who the F*ck Are You – 15-Day Self-Leadership Journey 💌 Stay Connected * Instagram: @hellonewme.official * TikTok: @hellonew.me * YouTube: Hello New Me Channel This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit newmeweekly.substack.com

    20 min
  9. Episode 3 - From Money Panic to Financial Resilience

    12/17/2025

    Episode 3 - From Money Panic to Financial Resilience

    If you thought divorce was the hard part, no one really prepares you for what comes after - the Money Panic. The fear.The uncertainty.The quiet panic of realizing you’re responsible for financial safety now, often while you’re still emotionally rebuilding. In this episode, I talk about what money really represents after divorce. Not just numbers, but safety, nervous system regulation, and your ability to move forward with confidence instead of fear. I share my personal experience navigating financial instability after separation, and the practical, grounded steps that helped me rebuild a sense of stability and resilience, without overwhelm and without pretending it was easy. We talk about: * Why money is one of the biggest fears women carry after divorce * Why avoidance keeps your nervous system stuck in survival mode * The first number you need to know to feel financially grounded * How budgeting can create safety instead of restriction * The role of emergency funds in calming anxiety * Why seeing your worst-case scenario can actually be empowering * How small, intentional steps create long-term financial agency You don’t need to have everything figured out. You don’t need to be “good with money” all of a sudden to make it work.You just need the right sequence. If you’re ready to move from financial fear into agency and stability, I created a step-by-step checklist to help you take small, doable actions, no matter where you’re starting from. And when you’re ready to go deeper, there’s a next step to help you turn stability into a clear roadmap for your next chapter. 🔗 Resources Mentioned ✨ Create a budget with the help of the Copilot app. Use my referral code R6HRD9 to get 2 months free https://copilot.money/link/CXVSyXDNMkUDNaD89. ✨ Built an emergency fund in a high-yield cash account in Wealthfront. Use my referral link to get a 0.75% APY increase for 3 months. https://www.wealthfront.com/c/affiliates/invited/AFFA-Q9SS-P2LG-TOU8. 🗞 New Me WeeklyReflections, stories, and rebuild tools https://newmeweekly.substack.com/subscribe 📘 Financial ChecklistPost-Divorce Financial ChecklistA step-by-step guide to rebuild safety, clarity, and confidence with money https://mashavshelef.gumroad.com/l/financial-checklist 🪞 15-Day Self-Guided JourneyA bite-sized roadmap to help you reconnect with who you are now and what comes next👉 Who the Fck Are You – 15-Day Self-Leadership Journey https://mashav-s.systeme.io/wtfya 💌 Stay Connected * Instagram: @hellonewme.official * TikTok: @hellonew.me * YouTube: Hello New Me Channel This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit newmeweekly.substack.com

    23 min
  10. Episode 2 — The Clever Way Women Start Over After Divorce

    12/12/2025

    Episode 2 — The Clever Way Women Start Over After Divorce

    If you thought the divorce itself was a struggle, you’ll be shocked to find out how hard it is to figure out the aftermath.The in-between.The place where the old life is gone, but the new one hasn’t taken shape yet. In this episode, I break down the two paths women take when they’re starting over:the default reactive way that keeps you stuck…and the clever, intentional way that creates momentum, clarity, and self-trust. We talk about: * Why the hardest part isn’t the divorce, but everything that comes after * The trap of waiting for life to “settle down” * How clever women rebuild from the inside out * The four-phase sequence to start again with intention * Rediscover yourself * Allow yourself to want again * Relearn self-trust * Turn insight into aligned action This episode is your invitation to step out of fight-or-flight and into agency, identity, and possibility. You don’t need to have everything figured out; you just need the right sequence. If you’re ready to shift from the default way to the clever way of rebuilding, I created a 15-day self-guided journey to help you rediscover who you are now, what you want next, and how to take your first aligned steps toward a future that feels like yours again. 🔗 Resources Mentioned ✨ My Main Links Page:👉 https://mashav-s.systeme.io/ 🗞 Weekly Newsletter:Stay connected with reflections, stories, and rebuild tools 📘 Free Tool:Build Your Compass: A 5-minute clarity tool for women starting over.→ Free Download 🪞15-Day Self-Guided Journey:A bite-sized roadmap to help you reconnect with who you are now and what comes next→ Who the F*ck Are You – 15-Day Self-Leadership Journey 💌 Stay Connected * Instagram: @hellonewme.official * TikTok: @hellonew.me * YouTube: Hello New Me Channel This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit newmeweekly.substack.com

    13 min
  11. Episode 1: Welcome to the New Me Podcast

    12/03/2025

    Episode 1: Welcome to the New Me Podcast

    In this first episode, I introduce the heart behind Hello New Me, a space for women rebuilding after divorce, separation, or major life shifts. I share my own story of starting over again and again: across continents, careers, and identities. We talk about what it really means to rebuild your life piece by piece, and what you can expect from this podcast: honest conversations, practical tools, and moments that remind you you’re not alone in this process. Who This Is For This podcast is for women who are: * Rebuilding after divorce or separation * Navigating solo parenting, relocation, or career reinvention * Feeling exhausted by doing it all alone * Ready to find clarity, structure, and confidence in their next chapter If you’re craving peace, direction, and a sense of belonging while you design your next chapter, this is for you. What You’ll Hear in This Episode * My journey through multiple reinventions — from California to New York to Tel Aviv * How divorce, motherhood, and health challenges shaped Hello New Me * Why starting over is rarely linear — it’s messy, magical, and deeply human * What this podcast will explore: identity, finances, parenting, dating, routines, and finding joy again * How to access tools and resources to support your own rebuild 🔗 Resources Mentioned ✨ My Main Links Page:👉 https://mashav-s.systeme.io/ 🗞 Weekly Newsletter:Stay connected with reflections, stories, and rebuild tools 📘 Free Tool:Build Your Compass: A 5-minute clarity tool for women starting over.→ Free Download 🪞15-Day Self-Guided Journey:A bite-sized roadmap to help you reconnect with who you are now and what comes next→ Who the F*ck Are You – 15-Day Self-Leadership Journey 💌 Stay Connected * Instagram: @hellonewme.official * TikTok: @hellonew.me * YouTube: Hello New Me Channel This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit newmeweekly.substack.com

    11 min
  12. A Powerful Exercise for When Life Is Too Much

    11/11/2025

    A Powerful Exercise for When Life Is Too Much

    About a year ago, my therapist suggested something unexpected: record a voice memo to myself. Not a journal entry. Not a vent session. Just me, speaking directly to future-me, for the days I’d need a reminder that I’m strong, human, and allowed to fall apart. This episode is that recording. It’s raw, unfiltered, and emotional (yes, you’ll hear my voice crack *blush*). But more importantly, it’s an exercise I recommend everyone try. You don’t need to make a 20-minute monologue. A 3-5 minute check-in is enough. Or if hearing your own voice makes you cringe, write yourself a letter instead. The point is this: create something you can come back to when everything feels like too much. When you tune in, you’ll experience what that kind of self-recording can sound like: full of honesty, gentleness, and practical ways to survive the hard moments. You’ll hear: * A model for creating your own emotional SOS audio * What to say to yourself when your confidence disappears * How to ride out the “meh” days (that sneakier kind of hard) * Small, soothing rituals to help you feel safe and seen * A reminder that even if it all falls apart, you can rebuild, always So if you’re feeling off, press play. Or if you’re ready to make your own version of this exercise, you can use mine as a guide. P.S. Yes, the bath + wine + crackers and dip is very real. 10/10 recommend. Thanks for reading New Me Weekly! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit newmeweekly.substack.com

    13 min
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This is a space for women rebuilding after divorce or major transition. We focus on clarity, self-trust, and the slow, intentional work of creating a life you want to wake up to. newmeweekly.substack.com

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  • Creator
    Mashav Shelef
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    12
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Mashav Shelef
  • Show Website
    New Me Podcast