You Are the Answer

Naomi Mills
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"You are the Answer" is a podcast about returning to your body, regulating your nervous system and remembering your own inner wisdom. Each episode blends storytelling, science and spirituality to help you feel calmer, more connected and more empowered in your everyday life.

  1. 6d ago

    The PAUSE Framework For Teen Shutdown

    Your teenager’s face goes blank, their arms fold, and every question lands with a flat “no” or “I don’t know”. When that happens, most of us do the same thing: we push harder. We explain, persuade, bargain, shame, bribe, or beg and the more we push, the more they shut down. I’m sharing a calmer route that protects your relationship while still protecting what matters: your child’s long-term health, wellbeing, and future. We dig into what teen shutdown can look like and why it often shows up around big decisions such as school attendance, joining clubs, social situations, and medical appointments. Teenagers can think ahead, but their nervous system is often running the show in the moment, especially in high-pressure contexts. That difference matters because it changes what “reasonable” looks like during conflict, and it changes how we set boundaries without accidentally making them feel either overwhelmed by control or abandoned to figure it all out alone. You’ll learn the PAUSE framework: Pause the immediate demand (unless it’s an emergency), Acknowledge what you can see without labelling their emotions, Understand the barrier later when they’re more open, Shrink the next step so it’s manageable, and Establish what is fixed and what is flexible. We also talk about our own parent nervous system, because staying steady is often the hidden skill that makes everything else work. If you want practical parenting tools for teenagers, nervous system regulation, and boundary setting that builds real resilience, press play. Subscribe, share with a parent who needs it, and leave a review so more families can find support.

  2. Aug 6

    Practical Ways To Raise Resilient Young People

    Most of us say we want confident tweens and teens, but we often try to give them confidence by removing the very moments that create it. I take a bold look at resilience building for young people through the lens of nervous system wiring, everyday parenting choices, and one unforgettable example: a Brazilian initiation ritual involving bullet ants. Extreme, yes, but it makes the point crystal clear. A community signals, “You can do hard things, and you belong while you do them.” From there, I unpack a tricky edge of gentle parenting. Naming emotions and building emotional literacy helps children feel safe and seen, yet we can miss the mark when we work too hard to protect them from disappointment, sadness, or social discomfort. Resilience is built in that exact territory. When we allow avoidance, a teen’s nervous system can learn that challenge is danger, whether that’s a difficult conversation, a new club, a camp, or walking into a room without friends. We then get practical. I share micro ways to build resilience and teen confidence without grand stunts: ordering at a restaurant, paying for something themselves, asking the question, speaking up, taking the small role in assembly, and showing up even when it feels edgy. I also explain the elastic band model: stretch capacity without breaking it, using just enough stress for growth and enough support for safety. If you want calmer, braver young people and you want to feel steadier as the adult beside them, press play. Subscribe, share with someone raising teens, and leave a review so more people can find their way back to their body.

  3. Jul 30

    An Almost 11-Year-Old’s Guide To Feeling Safe And Calm

    If you want to understand your child’s nervous system, start by listening to their ordinary day. I’m joined by my daughter Beatrix, almost 11, for a gentle, honest chat about what it feels like to be her age and why the “small” things adults overlook can feel huge to children.  We talk about school pressure and tests, how quickly boredom can kick in, and the quiet worry of what classmates might think. Beatrix shares what she wishes could change at school, why respect matters so much, and what a good friend looks like when you’re trying to figure out where you belong. You’ll hear real child language around anxiety, emotional regulation, and the everyday social stress that can build up without anyone meaning for it to.  We also get practical about calm and overwhelm. Beatrix describes how calm feels in her body, what makes her tense, and what adults might notice when she’s stressed, including going quiet and losing that playful energy. She names what genuinely helps after a hard day, reading, sleep, tea, laughing with friends, and she explains how parents can accidentally make things worse by pushing for a talk before a child is ready. We touch on social media boundaries, the move towards senior school, and what children need from home to feel safe, encouraged, and free to be themselves.  If this conversation sparks something in you, subscribe, share it with a parent friend, and leave a review. What’s one question you’ll ask your child today, then give them time to answer?

  4. Jul 23

    Perfection Pressure And The Teenage Nervous System

    Perfectionism doesn’t arrive as a neat little personality trait. It arrives as a nervous system that never quite unclenches and a quiet belief that love, safety, and belonging must be earned. I’m back from a short summer break and I’m going deep into what I’ve seen over 15 years of supporting families and young people: the pressure to be perfect is growing, and it’s shaping how children feel in their bodies long before they can explain it in words.  We talk about that delicate stage around ages 10 to the mid-teens, especially the transition from Primary 7 into secondary school, where children can swing between needing comfort and pushing back with big emotions. I unpack why comparison is not “just in their head”. The nervous system compares feelings, not facts, which is why filtered lives, cultural standards, advertising, and the endless drip feed of online success can still hit as if it’s proof that you’re behind. If you’ve ever wondered “When did I stop being enough?”, you’re not alone.  Then we get practical. I share parenting and communication tools that support nervous system regulation and emotional resilience, including a key reframe from Brené Brown’s work: reward effort, not results. You’ll hear simple phrases to use after school, ways to highlight character over achievement, and how to hold disappointment without rushing to fix it, so children learn they can rest, make mistakes, and still belong. If this lands with you, subscribe, share with a parent or friend, and leave a review so more people can find their way back to feeling safe in themselves.

  5. Jul 16

    What If Boredom Is The Missing Link To Wellbeing

    Rest should feel like relief, so why does it sometimes feel like danger? When we finally stop, many of us reach straight for our phones, food, noise, or “one more” episode, not because we are weak, but because our nervous systems have been trained to run fast for a long time. I talk honestly about what happens when you try to create a calmer home and meet unexpected pushback from your own brain, your family, and the chemistry of change itself. We dig into dopamine in a grounded way. Dopamine is not the villain; it helps us learn, connect, and pursue goals. But modern screen time, notifications, and constant stimulation make us brilliant at chasing the next hit of anticipation. That is why boredom feels so uncomfortable for adults and teenagers, and why stillness can bring up irritation, fear of missing out, or emotions we have been numbing. We also touch on parenting, co-regulation, and how children, including neurodiverse kids, can get pulled into stimulation loops that look like “rest” but keep the body stuck in stress. You will leave with practical tools for nervous system regulation that do not rely on quick fixes: a simple timer exercise to practise doing nothing, alternatives that count as real rest through movement and connection, and a family-friendly challenge called the five-minute gap. If you want a calmer, more purposeful life, this is a gentle place to start. Subscribe, share with someone you care about, and leave a review so more people can find their way back to their body.

  6. Jul 9

    How To Create A Calmer Home (And Feel Better)

    Your nervous system is listening to your home long before your mind has an opinion. The light in the hallway, the constant hum of the telly, the buzz of notifications, the piles that never quite get put away all of it adds up to a simple internal question: do I feel safe here? When the answer is “not really”, you can end up feeling edgy, exhausted, reactive, or stuck in that background stress that makes everything harder, including sleep, digestion and pain. I’m Naomi Mills, chiropractor, author and mum, and I walk you through a down-to-earth way to think about nervous system regulation using the one place you often have the most control over: your home environment. I share a personal story about caring for my sister and how her lower back pain became a clear signal of overwhelm rather than “just” a mechanical problem. From there, we explore what safety cues look like in real homes, including sound, clutter, temperature, smell, technology, and why silence can feel uncomfortable at first but still be exactly what your body needs. You’ll leave with five practical, low-effort steps you can try straight away: removing screens from bedrooms, reducing background noise, creating a daily moment of connection, adding more nature indoors, and building a calm corner that anyone in the family can use. If you want better sleep hygiene, less stress at home, and a more grounded way to support teens and adults alike, press play, then subscribe, share, and leave a review so more people can find their way back to their body.

  7. Jul 2

    Co-Regulation: The Secret To Borrowed Calm

    You can schedule the board game, line up the film, even promise yourself you will be calm this time, and still end up in a tense, snappy, everyone-is-annoyed mess. There is a reason that has nothing to do with your teenager being “difficult” and everything to do with nervous system regulation.  We talk about co-regulation and “borrowed calm”: the idea that our bodies constantly read each other for cues of safety, then respond automatically. I share a simple metaphor of the parent as the personal hotspot in the home. If I arrive stressed, rushed, or braced for an argument, my teen is not just hearing my words, they are feeling the nervous system behind them. That is why connection can collapse before we even start, and why shouting so quickly becomes more shouting.  We also dig into what helps. A dysregulated nervous system cannot create regulation in another, so the most powerful move is not the perfect script, it is finding a steadier state in your own body. We cover what “calm” looks like in real life: slower pace, softer voice, breathing, curiosity, and the skill of repair when you do lose it. Those small choices create emotional safety, help teens ride out big feelings, and gradually build a more resilient family culture.  If this resonates, subscribe, share the episode with a parent who needs it, and leave a review so more people can find their way back to their body.

  8. Jun 25

    Why Your Teen Is Not Overreacting: Their Nervous System Is Protecting Them

    The moment your child says something cruel about your body can hit like a shock, even when you thought you’d built a kind, shame-free home. We start there: a real family story, a clear boundary, and the baffling aftermath where the child storms off, sulks, and seems to make it all about them. If you’ve ever thought, “Why is this so dramatic?” or “Am I getting it wrong?”, you’re not alone. We unpack that reaction through nervous system regulation, not blame. A firm correction can land as a threat to belonging, approval, and identity, especially for pre-teens and teenagers who are wired for pack safety. We talk fight flight freeze in everyday language, why shutdown and “I don’t know” are protective responses, and how overwhelm from life factors like poor sleep, end-of-term pressure, and constant stimulation can make small feedback feel huge. From there we zoom out into teenage brain development: the adolescent brain is literally being remodelled, with emotional intensity often arriving before planning, impulse control, and long-term decision making are fully online. We explore dopamine, novelty, and why modern life and screens can hook the reward system so easily, then bring it back to what actually helps at home: more movement, better sleep, real-world connection, and a compassionate, curious approach that supports safety and repair. If you want a calmer way to understand teen behaviour and support wellbeing without quick fixes, press play, subscribe, and share this with a parent or caregiver who needs it. If it resonates, leave a review so more people can find their way back to trusting their body.

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"You are the Answer" is a podcast about returning to your body, regulating your nervous system and remembering your own inner wisdom. Each episode blends storytelling, science and spirituality to help you feel calmer, more connected and more empowered in your everyday life.

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  • Creator
    Naomi Mills
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    40
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © 2026 You Are the Answer
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