The LOVE>hate Podcast

Melissa Etzler
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How do we not just survive trauma, but redefine our lives afterward? The LOVE > hate Podcast is a trauma-informed space where survivors of assault and interpersonal violence can share their experiences and journey to healing and reclaiming their lives. Join us for deeply respectful conversations with survivors, advocates, experts, and more who transform devastating experiences into powerful purpose.

  1. 6d ago

    From Woundedness to Wholeness: Reclaiming Your Power & Co-Creating Your Reality | Gina’s Story Part Two

    What happens when you stop reacting to life out of your woundedness and start choosing from your wholeness? In Part 2 of this inspiring conversation on the LOVE > hate podcast, host Melissa Etzler continues her interview with Gina as she shares her journey of self-advocacy, overcoming personal crisis, and stepping into her authority as a conscious creator. Picking up from her inner healing work, Gina details how she began putting therapy into practice by standing up for herself in high-stress dynamics. When an unexpected pregnancy coincided with a severe medical emergency (HHT and extreme edema), Gina found herself facing cognitive dissonance and escalating relationship stress. As her physical vulnerability grew, so did the clarity that her marriage was no longer aligned with her emotional well-being. Turning to Dr. Joe Dispenza’s Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself, Gina shifted her perspective from survival to intentional creation. After asking the universe for clarity, she experienced a remarkable three-part lucid dream that gave her the "green light" to make a life-changing decision. In this episode, we explore: Practical tools for setting firm boundaries in toxic relationship dynamics.Navigating high-risk pregnancy, health scares, and medical trauma with resilience.The mindset shift from expecting disappointment to asking, "God, show me how good it can get."Using dream symbolism and intuition to make aligned, courageous life changes.How to approach conscious uncoupling and peaceful co-parenting after divorce.Gina’s powerful story is a testament to the fact that external circumstances often break down so that our lives can finally come together. Whether you are navigating a difficult life transition, healing after a divorce, or seeking spiritual growth, this episode will empower you to trust your intuition and consciously create from your innate wholeness. Click here to donate to LOVE>hate now National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-4673 (HOPE) Loveisrespect Teen Dating Violence Hotline: 1-866-331-9474 National Human Trafficking Hotline: 1-888-373-7888

    From Woundedness to Wholeness: Reclaiming Your Power & Co-Creating Your Reality | Gina’s Story Part Two

  2. Sep 22

    Unconscious Patterns & Breaking Free from Intergenerational Trauma | Gina’s Story Part One

    Can childhood trauma secretly dictate the choices, relationships, and career environments you step into as an adult? In Part 1 of this moving two-part conversation on the LOVE > hate podcast, host Melissa Etzler sits down with guest Gina to explore the complex journey of processing intergenerational trauma, setting boundaries, and decoupling inherited shame. Gina opens up about growing up in a high-conflict home shaped by domestic chaos and emotional abuse. As she navigated survival mode in her early adulthood, she realized how unhealed childhood wounds were manifesting as nervous system patterns—leading to maladaptive coping mechanisms, financial stress, and toxic workplace dynamics. A major turning point arrived when Gina realized that the shame and guilt she carried were never hers to begin with. By seeking divine guidance and turning to Marianne Williamson’s A Return to Love, she learned to view both herself and her caregivers through a lens of compassion while maintaining hard, necessary boundaries. In this episode, you’ll discover: How to identify subconscious nervous system loops that attract dysfunctional environments.The critical difference between intellectualizing trauma and truly processing emotional wounds.How to break free from family guilt and establish healthy, permanent boundaries without remorse.Understanding intergenerational trauma and learning to parent your inner child.If you have ever felt stuck in repetitive life cycles, struggled with setting boundaries with toxic family members, or sought self-compassion on your personal development journey, this episode offers a roadmap toward breaking free from survival mode and stepping into healing. Tune in to discover how honoring your own self-worth can transform your internal world—and set the foundation for creating a life aligned with your true purpose. Click here to donate to LOVE>hate now National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-4673 (HOPE) Loveisrespect Teen Dating Violence Hotline: 1-866-331-9474 National Human Trafficking Hotline: 1-888-373-7888

    Unconscious Patterns & Breaking Free from Intergenerational Trauma | Gina’s Story Part One

  3. Sep 15

    How Churches Can Recognize Covert Abuse & Support Survivors | with Liberty Steele Part Three

    How can faith communities become places of true refuge rather than silent spaces of isolation? In the final installment of our three-part series on the LOVE>hate podcast, author Liberty Steele and host Melissa Etzler address church leaders, pastors, and community members on how to spot covert abuse and effectively support victims. Liberty breaks down eye-opening statistics regarding domestic abuse in Christian pews and explains why traditional marital advice often harms victims of emotional and psychological control. She offers actionable indicators that friends and ministry leaders can look for—from subtle shifts in body language to quiet isolation—and provides simple, supportive ways to reach out without causing further risk. To conclude the series, Liberty defines what peace feels like today and introduces her new book and digital toolkit, designed to help survivors find freedom, safety, and lasting spiritual restoration. Key Topics: Domestic abuse awareness in churches, covert emotional abuse signs, Christian divorce and healing, supporting trauma survivors, faith-based abuse resources.Resources Mentioned: Redeemed Years: From Narcissistic Darkness to Light by Liberty Steele, shinefromyourshadows.com. Buy Liberty's Book Here! Click here to donate to LOVE>hate now National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-4673 (HOPE) Loveisrespect Teen Dating Violence Hotline: 1-866-331-9474 National Human Trafficking Hotline: 1-888-373-7888

    How Churches Can Recognize Covert Abuse & Support Survivors | with Liberty Steele Part Three

  4. Sep 8

    Winning the Legal Battle & Rebuilding After Abuse | with Liberty Steele Part Two

    Leaving a toxic relationship is only the first step on the road to freedom. In Part 2 of our three-part series, Liberty Steele joins host Melissa Etzler on the LOVE>hate podcast to discuss the complex legal, emotional, and psychological reality of rebuilding your life after emotional abuse. Liberty details her experience navigating high-conflict divorce court and custody proceedings with a narcissistic partner. She breaks down practical self-defense strategies for survivors, including the "Gray Rock" method, rigorous documentation, and maintaining emotional composure under cross-examination. Liberty also explores the physiological toll of trauma, sharing how EMDR therapy and nervous system regulation helped her brain and body realize she was finally safe. Closing this chapter with profound hope, Liberty shares her experience finding genuine, unconditional love in a healthy second marriage—proving that healing, peace, and restorative relationships are possible after trauma. Key Topics: High-conflict divorce court, gray rock method, EMDR trauma therapy, custody battles with a narcissist, healing after toxic relationships, healthy love after divorce.Resources Mentioned: Splitting by Bill Eddy, One Mom’s Battle by Tina Swithin. Buy Liberty's Book Here! Click here to donate to LOVE>hate now National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-4673 (HOPE) Loveisrespect Teen Dating Violence Hotline: 1-866-331-9474 National Human Trafficking Hotline: 1-888-373-7888

    Winning the Legal Battle & Rebuilding After Abuse | with Liberty Steele Part Two

  5. Sep 1

    Unmasking Abuse: Red Flags & Silent Manipulation | with Liberty Steele Part One

    What happens when emotional and verbal abuse hides behind the doors of a faith-based marriage? In Part 1 of this powerful three-part series on the LOVE>hate podcast, host Melissa Etzler sits down with author and advocate Liberty Steele to unmask the early warning signs of toxicity, covert manipulation, and love bombing within Christian relationships. Liberty candidly shares her personal journey—from meeting her ex-husband online and entering ten months of church premarital counseling to navigating escalating emotional abuse, control, and spiritual gaslighting. She reveals the subtle red flags many well-meaning believers miss and describes the critical breaking point that compelled her to take her young son and seek safety. Before diving into Liberty’s story, Melissa celebrates local community heroes with a special recap of their partner Etzler Events' Community Pillar Award announcements hosted at the Richfield Farmers Market, thanking generous sponsor businesses across Washington and Waukesha counties. Whether you are evaluating your own relationship, supporting a friend, or seeking clarity on spiritual abuse, this episode offers vital insights into identifying covert control and trusting your instincts. Key Topics: Narcissistic abuse in marriage, church culture and spiritual gaslighting, love bombing red flags, emotional abuse recovery, domestic abuse awareness.Resources Mentioned: Redeemed Years by Liberty Steele. Buy Liberty's Book Here! Click here to donate to LOVE>hate now National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-4673 (HOPE) Loveisrespect Teen Dating Violence Hotline: 1-866-331-9474 National Human Trafficking Hotline: 1-888-373-7888

    Unmasking Abuse: Red Flags & Silent Manipulation | with Liberty Steele Part One

  6. Aug 25

    Carly's Story Part Two

    In Part 2 of this inspiring episode of the Love is Greater Than Hate podcast, host Melissa Etzler picks up the conversation with Carly to explore the transformative journey of healing, self-discovery, and post-traumatic growth after escaping domestic violence. Shifting the focus from survival to thriving, Carly opens up about what it takes to rebuild your life and cultivate unshakeable internal peace. Carly reflects on her journey from childhood to adulthood, sharing how growing up in strict, unpredictable environments made her hyper-adaptable—a quality that became her superpower in overcoming trauma. She discusses the critical work of breaking generational cycles, navigating chronic health challenges, and choosing to forgive not for the perpetrator’s benefit, but to reclaim her own personal power and freedom. This episode offers tangible, actionable strategies for anyone navigating heavy emotional days or seeking to improve their relationship with themselves. Carly and Melissa dive into practical daily practices for mental wellness, including the physiological benefits of physical movement, body language, daily mindset shifts, and surrounding yourself with a uplifting support network. Carly also shares what it feels like to finally use her voice to inspire others, choosing gratitude over bitterness, and finding quiet solitude in a busy world. Her powerful final message serves as a beacon of hope for anyone standing at a crossroads in their own life. Click here to donate to LOVE>hate now National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-4673 (HOPE) Loveisrespect Teen Dating Violence Hotline: 1-866-331-9474 National Human Trafficking Hotline: 1-888-373-7888

    Carly's Story Part Two

  7. Aug 18

    Carly's Story Part One

    In this deeply moving episode of the Love is Greater Than Hate podcast, host Melissa Etzler sits down with Carly to discuss the nuanced realities of domestic abuse, survival, and the courage it takes to break free. Sharing her powerful story, Carly sheds light on a critical truth that many survivors face: the time you decide to leave an abusive relationship is often the most dangerous. Carly takes listeners through her personal journey, beginning with a seemingly stable marriage that quickly transformed into a terrifying situation involving substance addiction, severe control, stalking, and life-threatening escalation. She details the pivotal mindset shift that prompted her to start gathering evidence, the terrifying moments when her safety was compromised, and the complex legal battles that followed. This conversation tackles the harsh realities survivors navigate—from unsupportive family dynamics and victim-blaming to law enforcement intervention, restraining orders, and physical danger even after escaping. Beyond the trauma, Carly shares how she began breaking the cycle of abuse, processing grief, and choosing self-empowerment through forgiveness and support systems. Whether you are looking for hope, seeking to understand the psychological complexities of toxic relationships, or searching for domestic violence resources, this episode offers a profound look at human resilience and safety. Click here to donate to LOVE>hate now National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-4673 (HOPE) Loveisrespect Teen Dating Violence Hotline: 1-866-331-9474 National Human Trafficking Hotline: 1-888-373-7888

    Carly's Story Part One

  8. Aug 11

    Jason's Story Part Two

    What does life look like after the survival mode ends and the silence sets in? In the powerful conclusion of our two-part conversation, host Melissa Etzler sits down with advocate and survivor Jason to discuss the long, profound journey of emotional healing, overcoming trauma, and breaking down the stigma surrounding male vulnerability. Picking up 16 years after escaping an abusive relationship, Jason opens up about the invisible scars left behind. He shares the raw reality of the post-trauma timeline, from spending an entire decade avoiding his own reflection in the mirror, to navigating the subconscious "fight or flight" mode that leaves your body tense long after the chaos has passed. Jason discusses how he broke through toxic societal expectations of masculinity to embrace his emotions, proving that crying isn't a sign of weakness, but a reminder that you are alive. Discover the simple, life-changing grounding techniques that helped Jason rebuild his self-worth and retrain his mindset. From practicing meditation and moving closer to the coast to feel the ocean breeze, to finding deep peace in nature through gardening and reclaiming irreplaceable time with his children, this episode serves as a practical roadmap for anyone looking to heal from generational or relational trauma. Jason's final words of encouragement offer a beautiful beacon of hope for anyone currently walking on eggshells: on the other side of the madness, there is beauty. Tune in to learn how to separate fact from fiction in your own mind, discover the therapeutic power of nature, and find out why learning to breathe freely again is the greatest gift you can give yourself. Click here to donate to LOVE>hate now National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-4673 (HOPE) Loveisrespect Teen Dating Violence Hotline: 1-866-331-9474 National Human Trafficking Hotline: 1-888-373-7888

    Jason's Story Part Two
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How do we not just survive trauma, but redefine our lives afterward? The LOVE > hate Podcast is a trauma-informed space where survivors of assault and interpersonal violence can share their experiences and journey to healing and reclaiming their lives. Join us for deeply respectful conversations with survivors, advocates, experts, and more who transform devastating experiences into powerful purpose.

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  • Creator
    Melissa Etzler
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    37
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    The LOVE>hate Podcast

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