I find myself in a liminal space and I want to invite you along as I journey the path ahead. And it’s why I want to share with you about what’s new coming to my Substack… The heavens were open as I stepped into the woods with a crunch underfoot, and the mostly-bare branches sketched across a stratus sky. It will be months again till a canopy covers me on my walks. I sensed a liminal space – not just in between fall and winter with a crispness in the air but still 50 degrees, not just dusk with distant lights appearing, not just breaths closer to the atmosphere thanks to the leave-less trees, but something happening in my soul too. My past is still there, but I’m longing to leave it behind. As I descended a steep incline, deeper into my woodland trail, the trees releasing left me feeling exposed, open. And then in a flash out of nowhere – and I’ll never know if those moments are to be blamed on my brain or a dart from the devil – the date dawned on me. This is the day your marriage unraveled, I remembered, the day the Lord’s light came to your husband’s indiscretions in the darkness. The beginning of a fortnight’s onslaught of information so devastating, of lies so licentious, and my awakening to powerful people cowering and covering, leaving me exposed, traumatized, and trying to contact an attorney after hours on a Friday night for help. “He reveals deep and hidden things; he knows what is in the darkness, and the light dwells with him.” - Daniel 2:22 I paused as a doe bounced through the woods ahead of me, her tail white against the umber palette, and the sound of the creek below provided a humming-like peace. I’m not there anymore, I said aloud, looking out from the top of the hill. I could have picked up speed rolling towards the bottom, along with descending into the memories, the trauma of my chaos eight years ago. But as I felt my brain start to spin, and my stomach twist, I stood athwart to my thoughts. Again aloud even if it was as whisper I declared, Your blood covers me, Father. I’m not going back. Today I am safe. I am moving ahead. Fallen sycamore leaves, curling and crushing lay before me, as I admired puffs of gone-to-seed golden rod, little wisps I’d like to let loose into the wind like a prayer. The small footbridge where I often find myself pausing, led me across the creek, a rush of water constantly running, always there for me on every one of my walks with sounds of serenity to drown out internal noise. Then a patch of sweetgum trees greeted me, still holding doggedly to their vibrant crimson and aubergine star-like leaves in the open meadow where wild black-eyed susans delighted me months ago while suffering from a triggering episode that left me dysregulated and drowning. Today was different, thank you God, I chirped along with sparrows and other cheery birds. If you’re new here to my little Substack corner of the world, welcome. I’m Bethany, and I’m so glad you’re here. I just spent the last year documenting turning 40, and wrestling with shades of suffering after divorce, and the ensuing years of recovery from that destructive marriage. Then there were other layers, the loneliness of singleness and unfulfilled dreams of motherhood. Some days over the past decade I didn’t want to go on, but God always provided wildflowers through the wilderness – glimpses of beauty and healing moments that showed me his love and his healing power. Now it’s a new season. I enter the next decade with no connection to that past life, aside from my firebranded self, stronger yet softer, wiser yet more wildly ready for adventure, happier and hungrier for only the things of God than ever. There on that late fall walk I noticed the openness, how much farther I could see because of what the trees lost, and I feel their releasing deeply: I can see moreclearly, fartherbecause of what’sbeen lost.Like the leavesreleased,I’ve learned to let go,to look beyond my canopy,to feel safewith just my open arms Yes, I have lost a lot, and ghosts of the past still haunt. But I’m turning a corner from the days when shame silenced me. Even this fall, I experienced something that could have sent me spiraling, but I’m sensing the shift in me thanks to God’s strengthened armor. My identity is beloved. No stain, abuse, divorce, or sin can steal that from me. I long to live loved, joyfully, noticing every wildflower in this wilderness exile of life where I walk with heartache and external circumstances I didn’t expect. But my heart is singing a new song, even if some days are a little softer, hope is holding me afloat. What does that mean for you, my dear readers? I will be sharing stories, poems, and resources on living loved, our true identity as followers of Christ, particularly through the lens of overcoming disappointment, grief, trauma, and abuse. Not from a “how-to” perspective like I have it all together, but “here’s how I’m handling the threats” to my identity and leaning into this new season, as a friend jogging alongside you. You can also continue to find me on Instagram, my little corner there called Beautiful Purpose Writing, where I share beauty from creation, poems, prose, and thoughts that invite you closer to God to find healing and peace through nature. PLUS, I’m starting a podcast! In the Beautiful Purpose Podcast we’ll explore how God brings healing and peace through his creation. When we tend to our bodies and rest in the beauty of nature, our hearts can awaken to the steadfast love God has for us. That’s the beautiful purpose I believe he invites each of us into – and I hope you’ll find it meaningful! The first season will look at pairing the contemplative practices of attentiveness and noticing in nature with the spiritual discipline of writing. Those open arms I referenced in my poem are ones that I have grieved for many years. But open arms also mean they are ready to be filled, to stretch out and reach others in ways that otherwise may not have been possible. Mostly, I’m ready to receive God’s love. I’m tired of being weighed down by shame. I want to step into his light more and more. Advent feels the perfect season to do that – one of waiting. One of darkness, ready to be pierced by the light. Friend I hope my writing, podcasting, photography, my very life is a light to you too. All glory to God. “If I say, “Surely the darkness will hide me and the light become night around me,” even the darkness will not be dark to you; the night will shine like the day, for darkness is as light to you.” - Psalm 139:11-12 Get full access to Wildflowers in the Wilderness at wildernesswildflowers.substack.com/subscribe