Rewired & Desired Podcast: Where Intimacy, Mindset and Disability Intersect

Rewired & Desired

Rewired & Desired is a bold, refreshing, and deeply human conversation where intimacy, mindset, and disability finally come together without shame, limits, or apology. Hosted by Trina Ricketts, The Intimate Ostomate and Nicole Richards of Ostomy Innovations.

  1. 2d ago

    Is an Ostomy an Invisible Disability?

    What if the hardest part of disability is that nobody can see it? In this episode, we talk honestly about ostomy life, invisible disability, chronic illness, medical trauma, and the exhausting pressure to prove you are really struggling. Today on Rewired and Desired, Trina Ricketts and Nicole Richards discuss whether having an ostomy can be considered a disability, why the answer is not the same for everyone, and how underlying illness, fatigue, dehydration, pain, leaks, food restrictions, bathroom access, and medical dismissal can deeply affect daily life. We also talk about the emotional side of invisible illness: being told “but you look fine,” being judged for using disability accommodations, being dismissed by doctors, feeling like a burden in relationships, and trying to live your life while managing symptoms other people may never see. This conversation is honest, personal, and a little raw because invisible disability is not always about what the world can see. Sometimes it is about everything you are quietly managing just to get through the day. 📌 Connect With Us Trina Ricketts – The Intimate Ostomate Website: intimateostomate.com Instagram:   / intimateostomate  Youtube:    / @intimateostomate  Books, guides, coaching & resources Coaching • Books / Guides • Resources • Intimacy Advocacy Nicole Richards - Ostomy Innovations Website: ostomyinnovations222.com Instagram:   / ostomyinnovations  Youtube:    / @ostomyinnovations222  Coaching • Wellness • Disability advocacy • Ostomy Clothing

    39 min
  2. May 19

    The Impact of Porn on Intimacy After Surgery

    Porn. Fantasy. Desire. Addiction. Emotional intimacy. This episode goes way deeper than “porn bad” takes. In this honest conversation, Trina Ricketts and Nicole Richards unpack how porn culture may be shaping real-life intimacy, relationships, attraction, confidence, and expectations around sex, especially for people navigating disability, ostomies, surgery, body image, and emotional vulnerability. From erectile dysfunction and emotional disconnection to unrealistic expectations and online entitlement culture, this episode explores the growing gap between performance-based sexuality and genuine human connection. Trina also shares her unique perspective from years in the adult entertainment industry, while both hosts discuss: ●      porn and reward centers in the brain ●      intimacy versus performance ●      emotional connection during sex ●      desensitization and compulsive scrolling ●      “nofap” communities ●      consent and entitlement culture ●      fetishization within disability and ostomy communities ●      why awkwardness in real intimacy is normal ●      the difference between fantasy and connection This is not a shame-based conversation. It’s a nuanced discussion about awareness, moderation, consent, emotional safety, and what healthy intimacy actually looks like in the real world. 📌 Connect With Us Trina Ricketts – The Intimate Ostomate Website: intimateostomate.com Instagram:   / intimateostomate  Youtube:    / @intimateostomate  Books, guides, coaching & resources Coaching • Books / Guides • Resources • Intimacy Advocacy Nicole Richards - Ostomy Innovations Website: ostomyinnovations222.com Instagram:   / ostomyinnovations  Youtube:    / @ostomyinnovations222  Coaching • Wellness • Disability advocacy • Ostomy Clothing

    44 min
  3. Apr 28

    How to Rewire Fear Before Ostomy Surgery (Proven Method)

    What if you could remove fear before it ever takes over your life? In this episode of Rewired and Desired, we dive into the real-world power of visualization—not as a vague “positive thinking” tool, but as a structured, repeatable process that can shift your mindset fast. Trina shares her personal experience preparing for ostomy surgery, facing overwhelming fear around intimacy, body image, and identity… and how a simple daily visualization practice changed everything in less than a week. This conversation explores: ●      How visualization actually works (without the fluff) ●      Why most people fail to get results from it ●      How to use it to prepare for surgery, life changes, or fear-based situations ●      The role of repetition, emotion, and clarity ●      How to rebuild confidence—even when your body changes If you're navigating fear around intimacy, health, disability, or identity… this episode gives you a tool you can actually use. 📌 Connect With Us Trina Ricketts – The Intimate Ostomate Website: intimateostomate.com Instagram:   / intimateostomate  Youtube:    / @intimateostomate  Books, guides, coaching & resources Coaching • Books / Guides • Resources • Intimacy Advocacy Nicole Richards - Ostomy Innovations Website: ostomyinnovations222.com Instagram:   / ostomyinnovations  Youtube:    / @ostomyinnovations222  Coaching • Wellness • Disability advocacy • Ostomy Clothing

    44 min
  4. Apr 21

    Why Hard Lives Create Deeper Love

    Why Hard Lives Create Deeper Love  What if the hardest moments of your life didn’t break you… but rewired how you love? In this episode of Rewired and Desired, we go beyond surface-level advice and talk about the real, lived lessons that come from illness, caregiving, heartbreak, and rebuilding your life from nothing. From losing everything… to redefining what actually matters… to learning how to love again without losing yourself. This isn’t theory. This is what happens after life humbles you. 🧠 In This Episode: ●      Why “nothing matters except the people you love” becomes real after loss ●      How illness reshapes your standards in relationships ●      The difference between needing love vs. being ready for it ●      Why attraction is about energy, not entitlement ●      The hidden danger of negative partners (and how to spot it fast) ●      How to maintain desire and intimacy in long-term relationships ●      Why being happy alone is the foundation of healthy love 📌 Connect With Us Trina Ricketts – The Intimate Ostomate Website: intimateostomate.com Instagram:   / intimateostomate  Youtube:    / @intimateostomate  Books, guides, coaching & resources Coaching • Books / Guides • Resources • Intimacy Advocacy Nicole Richards - Ostomy Innovations Website: ostomyinnovations222.com Instagram:   / ostomyinnovations  Youtube:    / @ostomyinnovations222  Coaching • Wellness • Disability advocacy • Ostomy Clothing

    40 min
  5. Apr 14

    Looking Good With an Ostomy (Our Take)

    Looking good with an ostomy isn’t about perfection… it’s about perspective. This episode is our honest take on what actually helps you feel attractive again—after your body has changed. We’re not here to tell you what you should do. We’re sharing what’s worked for us, what didn’t, and the small shifts that made the biggest difference in how we show up in our bodies. Because confidence doesn’t come from hiding. It comes from understanding how to work with yourself again. In this episode, we talk about: ●      Clothing choices: hiding vs highlighting (and why both are valid) ●      How posture instantly changes how people perceive you ●      Hygiene habits that reduce anxiety and build confidence ●      The truth about “feeling sexy” after surgery ●      Small, realistic ways to present yourself that actually make a difference ●      The mindset shift that changes everything This isn’t about becoming someone else. It’s about reconnecting with the version of you that still exists underneath all of it. 📌 Connect With Us Trina Ricketts – The Intimate Ostomate Website: intimateostomate.com Instagram:   / intimateostomate  Youtube:    / @intimateostomate  Books, guides, coaching & resources Coaching • Books / Guides • Resources • Intimacy Advocacy Nicole Richards - Ostomy Innovations Website: ostomyinnovations222.com Instagram:   / ostomyinnovations  Youtube:    / @ostomyinnovations222  Coaching • Wellness • Disability advocacy • Ostomy Clothing

    50 min
  6. Apr 7

    Mental Health, Trauma & Healing With Disability

    Mental health does not exist in a separate room from disability, trauma, chronic illness, or intimacy. In this episode of Rewired and Desired, Trina Ricketts and Nicole Richards have an honest conversation about anxiety, depression, PTSD, emotional triggers, healing tools, and what it takes to rebuild yourself when life has cracked you wide open. Nicole shares parts of her story she has never spoken publicly about before, including childhood trauma, abuse, hospitalization, and the diagnosis she has struggled to talk about. Together, Trina and Nicole explore how mental health can be shaped by disability, chronic stress, family history, medical trauma, and the stories we keep telling ourselves. This episode also dives into what has actually helped them cope: self-awareness, repetitive self-talk, affirmations, boundaries, structure, spiritual tools, micro goals, and learning how to respond differently when life gets hard. This is not a conversation built on perfection or toxic positivity. It is about responsibility, compassion, inner work, and the possibility of healing, even when you still have hard days. If you live with an ostomy, chronic illness, disability, trauma history, or simply feel overwhelmed by the weight of life, this conversation is for you. 📌 Connect With Us Trina Ricketts – The Intimate Ostomate Website: intimateostomate.com Instagram:   / intimateostomate  Youtube:    / @intimateostomate  Books, guides, coaching & resources Coaching • Books / Guides • Resources • Intimacy Advocacy Nicole Richards - Ostomy Innovations Website: ostomyinnovations222.com Instagram:   / ostomyinnovations  Youtube:    / @ostomyinnovations222  Coaching • Wellness • Disability advocacy • Ostomy Clothing

    57 min
  7. Mar 17

    Burnout, Feminine Energy & Chronic Illness

    What happens when you’re the strong one for everyone else, but your body, emotions, and nervous system are running on fumes? In this episode of Rewired and Desired, Trina and Nicole talk honestly about burnout, feminine energy, chronic illness, motherhood, entrepreneurship, dating, and the pressure of holding everything together. In this raw follow-up conversation, Trina opens up about what it feels like to build a business, support a family, manage chronic illness, and still carry the emotional weight of other people’s needs. Nicole and Trina unpack the tension between feminine and masculine energy, the guilt many women feel around ambition, and the reality of trying to pursue purpose while exhausted. They also explore secure attachment, dating after healing, emotional overwhelm, chronic illness fatigue, and the challenge of staying grounded in a world that constantly pulls at your nervous system. If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing your best while quietly falling apart, this episode is for you. 📌 Connect With Us Trina Ricketts – The Intimate Ostomate Website: intimateostomate.com Instagram:   / intimateostomate  Youtube:    / @intimateostomate  Books, guides, coaching & resources Coaching • Books / Guides • Resources • Intimacy Advocacy Nicole Richards - Ostomy Innovations Website: ostomyinnovations222.com Instagram:   / ostomyinnovations  Youtube:    / @ostomyinnovations222  Coaching • Wellness • Disability advocacy • Ostomy Clothing

    57 min

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Rewired & Desired is a bold, refreshing, and deeply human conversation where intimacy, mindset, and disability finally come together without shame, limits, or apology. Hosted by Trina Ricketts, The Intimate Ostomate and Nicole Richards of Ostomy Innovations.