Lead to Soar

Michelle Redfern & Mel Butcher

Lead to Soar is the podcast where ambitious women get strategic, evidence-based guidance to reach their full potential and reshape the systems that hold them back. Each episode delivers practical leadership insights grounded in Business, Emotional and Social Intelligence so women can lead with impact and advance their careers on their own terms. leadtosoarpodcast.substack.com

  1. 4D AGO

    The Life Audit: A Simple Way for Ambitious Women Leaders to Reset

    We’re told (too often in our opinion) that the new year is about resolutions. Do more. Be better. Fix yourself. In this episode, we challenge that narrative and talk about what genuinely supports change over time. Reflective practice sits at the heart of effective leadership, yet many women are rarely given the space or structure to do it well. Michelle introduces The Life Audit, a practical tool she has developed and refined over many years to help ambitious women pause, recognise what feels out of alignment, and decide where to focus. The Life Audit begins with an honest assessment of key areas of life, including work and career, finances, relationships, physical wellbeing, time management, joy, social connection, and sense of contribution. Using a spider graph and a scale from crap to awesome, patterns emerge quickly. Those patterns often reveal where energy has been overextended, misplaced, or neglected. From there, the work becomes intentional and contained. Rather than trying to change everything at once, listeners select two to four priority areas and commit to a twelve-week reset. Each week includes a short reflection on what to stop, start, and continue, creating momentum through consistent, deliberate action rather than bursts of motivation. As we discuss in the episode, many women reach a point when life looks fine on paper, yet something feels off. When those signals are ignored, they tend to intensify. The Life Audit provides a structured way to notice earlier and respond with intention, before dissatisfaction turns into exhaustion or disengagement. This episode invites women to approach self-leadership with the same seriousness they bring to leading others, using reflection as a practical skill rather than a vague aspiration. Leave a comment If this episode was useful, there are three simple ways to go further: Subscribe on Substack This is now the home of the Lead to Soar podcast. Subscribers get new episodes, curated guidance from the back catalogue, and written insights to help you navigate leadership and career decisions with sound judgement. Subscribe now Explore the Lead to Soar Network Lead to Soar is a leadership development network for ambitious women and for organisations serious about closing the leadership gender gap. Members get access to group coaching, practical leadership tools, and a network of women actively advancing their careers. Explore Share the episode If this resonated, share it with a colleague, manager, or friend who might need it. Leadership is shaped by what we notice, name, and talk about. Share About Lead to Soar Lead to Soar is a podcast and leadership platform for ambitious women and for organisations serious about closing the leadership gender gap. Hosted by Michelle Redfern and Mel Butcher, the podcast goes beyond surface-level career advice to explore what it really takes to lead with clarity, credibility, and impact. Conversations are grounded in research, lived experience, and practical leadership frameworks, including The Leadership Compass. Lead to Soar is about fixing systems, not women, and supporting leaders to do work that matters, in ways that are sustainable and deeply human. Get full access to Lead to Soar Podcast at leadtosoarpodcast.substack.com/subscribe

    18 min
  2. FEB 8

    What Smart People Do When Life Gets Messy and Work Gets Complicated

    Subscribe now “Be authentic at work” is some of the most commonly given career advice, and some of the most dangerous, especially for women and others without structural power. In this episode Michelle Redfern and Mel Butcher call b******t on the idea that honesty and openness are always safe or rewarded at work. Instead, they explore what smart people actually do when life collides with work, and the stakes are high. From bereavement and illness to caring responsibilities and personal identity, this conversation examines how disclosure decisions are shaped not by good intentions but by power, culture, and psychological safety. Michelle reflects on her own career experiences of assimilation, self-protection, and learning when openness helps and when it harms. Rather than pushing performative authenticity, this episode offers a grounded framework for deciding what to share, what to withhold, and how to protect your credibility without disappearing or pretending. The episode also challenges leaders directly. When life inevitably intrudes on work, are you creating conditions where people feel safe asking for support, or are your systems and behaviours teaching them to stay silent? This is essential listening for women navigating complex career moments and for leaders serious about trust, retention, and humane workplaces. Leave a comment If this episode was useful, there are three simple ways to go further: Subscribe on Substack This is now the home of the Lead to Soar podcast. Subscribers get new episodes, curated guidance from the back catalogue, and written insights to help you navigate leadership and career decisions with sound judgement. Subscribe now Explore the Lead to Soar Network Lead to Soar is a leadership development network for ambitious women and for organisations serious about closing the leadership gender gap. Members get access to group coaching, practical leadership tools, and a network of women actively advancing their careers. Explore Share the episode If this resonated, share it with a colleague, manager, or friend who might need it. Leadership is shaped by what we notice, name, and talk about. Share Get full access to Lead to Soar Podcast at leadtosoarpodcast.substack.com/subscribe

    28 min
  3. FEB 1

    How to Steer Your Review to Be About Results, Not Personality

    Performance reviews are meant to assess contribution, results, and business impact. Yet for many women, they become subjective conversations about tone, confidence, or how they “come across.” In Episode 204, Michelle Redfern and Mel Butcher discuss why women are disproportionately judged on personality rather than performance, and what that means for career progression. Drawing on research and lived experience, they explore how biased feedback shows up in reviews and why it persists, even for high-performing women. This episode reframes the performance review as a business conversation, not a personal evaluation. Michelle shares practical language women can use to bring evidence to the table, ask for specific examples, and redirect vague or loaded feedback back to measurable outcomes. They also cover how to respond when feedback is unclear, unhelpful, or biased, including when to pause, take feedback on notice, or refuse to sign off on written comments that lack substance. This is a must-listen for women who want fair, strategic career progression and for leaders who want performance reviews that actually develop and retain talent. Below is the performance review checklist Michelle promised. Use it to prepare, stay anchored in evidence, and redirect the conversation back to outcomes when it drifts into personality or perception. You can also download a .pdf version. Performance Review Prep Checklist A business-first guide for women 1. Treat your review like a business meeting * This is about outcomes, not likeability * You are entitled to clarity, evidence, and specificity 2. Prepare your evidence * Objectives and how you met or exceeded them * Results, metrics, milestones, risks reduced, problems solved * Examples of impact beyond your role * Written feedback gathered during the year 3. Anchor the conversation to outcomes Use phrases like: * “The outcomes I delivered this year include…” * “Here’s where I moved the needle against priorities…” 4. Redirect personality-based feedback Ask: * “Can you give me a specific example?” * “How did that impact outcomes?” * “What would you like me to do differently, in practical terms?” 5. Ask for advice, not vague feedback * “Where would you advise me to focus next year?” * “What should I stop, start, or continue?” 6. Don’t respond on the spot You can say: * “I’d like to take that on notice.” * “I need time to reflect before responding.” 7. Debrief with your network * Sense-check feedback * Separate development from bias * Decide what to act on and what to discard Bottom line: You are not there to be liked. You are there to be assessed on impact. If this episode was useful, there are three simple ways to go further: Subscribe on Substack This is now the home of the Lead to Soar podcast. Subscribers get new episodes, curated guidance from the back catalogue, and written insights to help you navigate leadership and career decisions with sound judgement. Explore the Lead to Soar Network Lead to Soar is a leadership development network for ambitious women and for organisations serious about closing the leadership gender gap. Members get access to group coaching, practical leadership tools, and a network of women actively advancing their careers. Explore  Share the episode If this resonated, share it with a colleague, manager, or friend who might need it. Leadership is shaped by what we notice, name, and talk about. Get full access to Lead to Soar Podcast at leadtosoarpodcast.substack.com/subscribe

    26 min
  4. 5 Ways to Be a Better Ally to the Rainbow Community

    JAN 30

    5 Ways to Be a Better Ally to the Rainbow Community

    As Pride Month 2026 approaches, we wanted to resurface this episode and send it to everyone so that they know exactly how to be a great ally to the rainbow community. If you consider yourself supportive of the LGBTIQA+ community but aren’t always sure what meaningful allyship looks like in practice, this episode is for you. In this solo episode of Lead to Soar, Michelle Redfern speaks directly to leaders, managers, and colleagues who want to move beyond passive support and take responsibility for creating safer, more inclusive workplaces for people who are trans, gender diverse, non-binary, and queer. This is not about perfect language or performative gestures. It’s about noticing harm, calling it out, and using your position to reduce others' risk. Michelle shares five practical ways leaders can be better allies at work, including how silence can cause harm, how power operates in everyday moments, and why allyship is a leadership behaviour, not a personal identity. In this episode What allyship actually looks like in workplace behaviour Why “supporting diversity” is meaningless without action How leaders can interrupt exclusion without making it about themselves The risks faced by trans and gender-diverse people at work, and why leadership matters What it means to step in, speak up, and set standards This episode is a call to action for leaders who say they care about inclusion to demonstrate it consistently, publicly, and responsibly. Resources LGBTIQA+ glossary of common terms – Australian Institute of Family Studies GLAAD – Advancing acceptance through media and storytelling Wear It Purple – Creating safe, supportive environments for rainbow young people PFLAG – Supporting, educating, and advocating for LGBTQ+ people and their families Leave a comment If this episode was useful, there are three simple ways to go further: Subscribe on Substack This is now the home of the Lead to Soar podcast. Subscribers get new episodes, curated guidance from the back catalogue, and written insights to help you navigate leadership and career decisions with sound judgement. Subscribe now Explore the Lead to Soar Network Lead to Soar is a leadership development network for ambitious women and for organisations serious about closing the leadership gender gap. Members get access to group coaching, practical leadership tools, and a network of women actively advancing their careers. Explore Share the episode If this resonated, share it with a colleague, manager, or friend who might need it. Leadership is shaped by what we notice, name, and talk about. Share Get full access to Lead to Soar Podcast at leadtosoarpodcast.substack.com/subscribe

    9 min
  5. 12/21/2025

    Who Are You Called to Become as a Leader?

    This isn’t your average leadership pep talk. In this episode, Michelle Redfern invites you into a quiet, reflective, and deeply practical session designed to help you pause, breathe, and think intentionally about the leader and the woman you are called to become. Drawing on her personal experience and the powerful Ikigai framework, Michelle shares the exact questions, journaling prompts, and mindset shifts that helped her shift from living on autopilot to leading with purpose. Whether you’re at a career crossroads, feeling a loss of joy in your current role, or sensing it’s time for a bold next move, this session is your invitation to step off the hamster wheel and reconnect with your future self. Before You Hit Play: This session is intentionally slower-paced. It’s quiet. Thoughtful. Michelle leaves space for you to reflect, write, pause and breathe. To get the most out of this episode:•: • Grab a notebook or journal • Bring a pen (and maybe a cuppa) • Give yourself space to think • Pause the episode when needed to reflect or write You’ll Explore:•: • The question that cracked Michelle wide open: Who are you called to become? • How to identify what still serves you—and what needs to be left behind • The difference between what you’re good at vs. what gives you joy • The power of listening to your inner coach instead of your inner critic • How to sketch and activate your personal Ikigai • A practical 30-day challenge to turn your insights into action. Take the Next Step: • Journal your answer to: Who are you called to become? • Complete your Ikigai sketch using the four prompts: • What do you love? • What are you good at? • What does the world need? • What can you be paid for? • Choose your bold 30-day move and write it down • Ask: What will future-me thank me for doing today? This session is part of Michelle’s ongoing commitment to help women stop shrinking and start soaring. If you’re not yet a member of the Lead to Soar Network, join us because the leadership journey is better when you’re not doing it alone. Links:On Ikigai: https://www.japan.go.jp/kizuna/2022/03/ikigai_japanese_secret_to_a_joyful_life.htmle The Lead to Soar Network: https://leadtosoar.network/landing Get full access to Lead to Soar Podcast at leadtosoarpodcast.substack.com/subscribe

    48 min
  6. 12/10/2025

    Why LinkedIn Is No Longer Enough — Our Revised Career Advice for Ambitious Women

    Women are heading into the end of 2025 more stretched, more visible, and more scrutinised than ever. At the same time, the platforms we once relied on to build our reputations have shifted under our feet. This 200th episode names what’s changed, what no longer works, and what ambitious women actually need to take themselves seriously in 2026. In this milestone conversation, Mel and I get real about the three things women cannot outsource: your online presence, your strategic network, and your boundaries. We cover: * Why LinkedIn is no longer the only serious option for your professional presence * How to think about your own domain, simple websites and being Google-ready * Strategic networking that feels meaningful, not sleazy in a bar with name tags * Designing your own gatherings so you control the format, energy and purpose * Moving from passive “I hope they notice me” to active targeted outreach * Michelle’s “I do not” list and how to build your own for 2026 * End-of-year exhaustion, gendered expectations and what women can stop doing * How Lead to Soar and the podcast will evolve, including the move to Substack * A listener request for more fierce, forthright, offensive—not defensive—career advice What you’ll walk away with: * Clarity on where to invest your time online * How to build a professional presence you actually control * The truth about networking that works * The boundary-setting that protects your energy and career * What to stop doing in 2026 * Permission to go on the offensive in your leadership This episode also marks a significant shift. Lead to Soar now lives here on Substack. New episodes and supporting resources will land directly in your inbox. No algorithm decides whether you see them. (with a giant middle finger to unethical platforms that muzzle women’s voices) Perfect listening for ambitious women who are ready to stop leaving their careers to chance and start leading with intention. Listen with a pen in hand. There will be at least one thing you decide to stop doing — and one thing you’ll be ready to start — by the time the episode ends. If this episode was useful, there are three simple ways to go further: Subscribe on Substack This is now the home of the Lead to Soar podcast. Subscribers get new episodes, curated guidance from the back catalogue, and written insights to help you navigate leadership and career decisions with sound judgement. Explore the Lead to Soar Network Lead to Soar is a leadership development network for ambitious women and for organisations serious about closing the leadership gender gap. Members get access to group coaching, practical leadership tools, and a network of women who are actively working on their careers. JOIN HERE Share the episode If this resonated, share it with a colleague, manager, or friend who might need it. Leadership is shaped by what we notice, name, and talk about. Get full access to Lead to Soar Podcast at leadtosoarpodcast.substack.com/subscribe

    46 min

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Lead to Soar is the podcast where ambitious women get strategic, evidence-based guidance to reach their full potential and reshape the systems that hold them back. Each episode delivers practical leadership insights grounded in Business, Emotional and Social Intelligence so women can lead with impact and advance their careers on their own terms. leadtosoarpodcast.substack.com