Don't Tell Me To Calm Down

Lisa Petty
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A podcast for women reclaiming their power. Join me for soul-stirring conversations about being real in a world that rewards women for pretending we're quiet and agreeable while hiding our spark. I’m Lisa Petty, a reformed good girl turned soul-led fire-starter. There's no fluff here. No fakery. Just real talk about waking up, burning through the BS, and becoming the woman you were meant to be. Equal parts neuroscience, spiritual growth, energy medicine and PhD-level research - with a sprinkle of practical magic.

Episodes

  1. JAN 29

    Why You Keep Doing It When You Know Better

    You're self-aware. You've done the therapy. You can explain exactly why you people-please, overwork, or struggle with boundaries. So why are you STILL saying yes when you mean no?  Why do those boundaries keep dissolving?  In this episode, Dr. Lisa explores why understanding your patterns isn't the same as healing them. She breaks down what core wounds are, why they live in your nervous system (not your thinking mind), and how the false identity you built as a child is suffocating you as an adult.  Plus, a vulnerable personal story about Dr. Lisa's own core wound and how it shaped decades of her life without her realizing it.  In This Episode: What core wounds actually are (hint: not just thoughts)Why your identity organized around protecting you from painWhere wounds live in your body—not your mindWhy dismantling your defenses feels so scaryWhy most healing approaches try to fix the false self instead of dissolving itA simple practice: witnessing your wound without fixing it Key Quote: "We don't want to improve the false self. We're here to dissolve it so your true self can return." RESOURCES: • Free Quiz: What Is Your Burnout Telling You? ⁠Click here.⁠ • Soul-Aligned Success Audit ⁠Book now⁠. • Convergence ⁠Learn more.⁠ CONNECT WITH LISA: Website: ⁠soulgardening.ca ⁠ ⁠LinkedIn⁠ ⁠Facebook⁠ Join the Wisdom Portal free private community for women off social media! ⁠Join here.⁠ ABOUT LISA I'm a PhD social psychology researcher in women’s wellbeing and a trained shamanic practitioner. My doctoral research confirmed what I had witnessed for decades: modern success culture rewards over-functioning and self-silencing, then punishes women for realizing that the internal cost we're paying is unsustainable. I help women who've outgrown who they've had to be see who they're becoming, and create soul-aligned success through deep healing.

    37 min

  2. JAN 22

    Care Less: How to Stop Depleting Yourself

    You’ve been told to put others first your whole life. It's led to depletion—and it's a survival strategy that may be distracting you from living your own purpose. This episode isn't just listening. This is doing. In this workshop episode, you'll learn that – yes – you *can* care less. And that’s a good thing. You’ll identify ONE thing that's been depleting you that you've been forcing yourself to care about. And you'll get permission—real permission—to let it go. Grab something to write with and 30 minutes where you won't be interrupted. Get instant access to this episode’s free companion workbook through the Soul Gardening portal here. If hyper link doesn't work, go here: https://members.soulgardening.ca/courses/dont-tell-me-to-calm-down-podcast-club/ What you'll discover in this podcast workshop: • Why over-caring is actually a trauma response   • How people-pleasing kept you safe as a child but depletes you as an adult • The questions to filter what's actually yours to carry –or care about • A step-by-step practice to identify and release one depleting obligation RESOURCES MENTIONED: • Free Quiz: What Is Your Burnout Telling You? Click here. • Soul-Aligned Success Audit Book now. • Convergence Learn more. CONNECT WITH LISA: Website: soulgardening.ca LinkedIn Facebook Join the Wisdom Portal free private community for women off social media! Join here. ABOUT LISA I'm a PhD social psychology researcher in women’s wellbeing and a trained shamanic practitioner. My doctoral research confirmed what I had witnessed for decades: modern success culture rewards over-functioning and self-silencing, then punishes women for realizing that the internal cost we're paying is unsustainable. I help women who've outgrown who they've had to be see who they're becoming, and create soul-aligned success through deep healing.

    29 min

  3. 12/10/2025

    The Hidden Rules You Didn't Know You Inherited: Understanding Internalized Bias

    In this episode of Don’t Tell Me To Calm Down, we’re diving into the invisible rulebook almost every woman inherits — the one that shapes how you speak, how you show up, how you judge yourself, and even how you judge other women. If you’ve ever wondered why you apologize too much, policeyour body, downplay your success, or feel triggered by women who are loud, bold, or unapologetic… There’s a reason — and it’s not your personality.  It’s internalized cultural programming.  And today, we’re bringing it into the light.   In this episode, you’ll discover: *What internalized misogyny actually is (and why most women swear they don’t have it) *The subtle ways cultural conditioning becomes your innervoice *A 7-question quiz to reveal where internalized bias isrunning your life *How women learn to distrust their own intuition, emotions,and power *Why judging other women is usually self-protection, notmalice *How body image is shaped by patriarchy, media, andinherited beliefs *The truth about why so many women feel “too much,” “notenough,” or both *Why recognizing internalized misogyny is not shameful —it’s liberating You’ll also hear a personal story about beautystandards, aging, and how appearance-based conditioning can live inside us for decades without being questioned.  What makes this episode different:  We’re not blaming women. We’re tracing the source back to systems, culture, conditioning, and generational patterns — and showing you how to reclaim your voice from all of it. This week’s actionable practice: When a self-critical thought appears, don’t argue with it. Simply name it for what it is: “That’s conditioning.” “That’s the good girl script.” “That’s the body-policing culture talking.” Naming the source creates separation. Separation createssovereignty. This is where your reclamation begins.  If this episode resonates… Share it with a woman who’s tired of performing, tired ofshrinking, and ready to understand the rules she never agreed to follow.  Follow the show and leave a review — it helps this workreach more women who need it. Take the free quiz: What Your Burnout is Telling You here:https://members.soulgardening.ca/what-your-burnout-is-telling-you/ Join the free Wisdom Portal community here: https://members.soulgardening.ca/sf-category/the-wisdom-portal/ Learn about Forged By Fire here: https://soulgardening.ca/forged-by-fire/

    33 min

  4. 12/08/2025

    Divine Feminine Energy Myth Busting

    You’ve been taught your whole life that the feminine issoft, irrational, emotional, or fragile.And you’ve been taught that real power is logical, productive,linear, and fast.   But what if everything you learned about feminine energy isbackwards?   In this episode of Don’t Tell Me To Calm Down,we’re dismantling the myths about divine feminine energy — and exploring why so many women feel disconnected, burned out, or “too much,” when in truth, their feminine intelligence is the source of their deepest power.   This is the episode for you if you’re feeling exhausted,misaligned, or like you’re living from performance rather than truth.   In this episode, we explore: * Why feminine energy has been misunderstood, mocked, orfeared *The real definition of divine feminine energy (and why ithas nothing to do with being passive or “soft”) *How cultural conditioning pushes women into masculineoverdrive *Why intuition, emotion, and cyclical living are forms ofdeep intelligence *How suppressing feminine energy leads to burnout, boredom,and soul exhaustion *The rise of feminine leadership — and why you may feelcalled to something more *The sacred fire of feminine rage (and why it’s actuallyclarity, not chaos) *How to begin reconnecting to your feminine wisdom today You’ll also hear how my PhD research, shamanic training, andthe Wisdom Protocol come together to help women reclaim their intuition, alignment, and inner authority — without abandoning their ambition or drive.   Your actionable takeaway this week: *Pause before you perform.*Notice the moment you override your intuition, swallow your emotion, or pushyourself past your own boundaries.*Create a breath of space to listen.  That’s where feminine wisdom returns.   If you love this conversation…  Be sure to follow the show, leave a review, and share thisepisode with a woman who’s ready to reclaim her power. And if this episode stirred something in you, send me a message — I’d love to hear what landed.   Register for my email list for weekly insights & resources here:https://soulgardening.ca/news/ Learn What Your Burnout is Telling You (free quiz): https://members.soulgardening.ca/what-your-burnout-is-telling-you/ Join the free Wisdom Portal community here: https://members.soulgardening.ca/sf-category/the-wisdom-portal/

    40 min

  5. 12/06/2025

    Why Being “Too Much” Was Never the Problem

    Welcome to the first ever episode of Don't Tell Me To Calm Down: Why Being “Too Much” Was Never the Problem — And How You Learned to Shrink in the First Place  You’ve been told to calm down your whole life. To soften, toshrink, to be easy, agreeable, polite. But what if your “too muchness” was never the issue?What if the real problem is the good girl programming thattrained you to disconnect from your soul-level self?  In this premiere episode of Don’t Tell Me to CalmDown, we’re pulling apart the cultural scripts that teach women to silence their intuition, disconnect from their desires, and perform the version of womanhood that’s most convenient for everyone else.  This is where your reclamation begins.  In this episode, we explore: *The truth about why women shrink — and why it’s not yourfault *What too much really means (and why it’sactually your power) *Why women with sacred ambition hit soul burnout —not just exhaustion *What happens when you finally stop living from “should” andreturn to who you are at soul level *The first belief shift every woman needs to reclaim heridentity and intuition   You’ll walk away with: *A powerful reframe that dissolves shame around being “toomuch” *A new lens for understanding your burnout, boredom, orinner frustration *Permission to stop performing and start returning to yourtruth *A preview of the reclamation journey this podcast willguide you through    Want to go deeper? If this episode stirred something awake in you… good. That’syour inner self saying, “It’s time.”  I teach the deeper healing and identity work behind thisshift — through energy, embodiment, feminine wisdom, and the research from my PhD on women’s wellbeing. To stay connected: Follow the podcast so you don’t miss new episodes Register for my email list for weekly insights & resources here Learn What Your Burnout is Telling You (free quiz) here. Join the Wisdom Portal free community here.These are the channels where I share the tools, stories, andpractices that support your reclamation journey.

    34 min
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A podcast for women reclaiming their power. Join me for soul-stirring conversations about being real in a world that rewards women for pretending we're quiet and agreeable while hiding our spark. I’m Lisa Petty, a reformed good girl turned soul-led fire-starter. There's no fluff here. No fakery. Just real talk about waking up, burning through the BS, and becoming the woman you were meant to be. Equal parts neuroscience, spiritual growth, energy medicine and PhD-level research - with a sprinkle of practical magic.

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