The Real Kiz Podcast

Annabelle
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Saying what everyone else is thinking. Deep thoughts and hot takes about everything Kizomba and dance related. Highlighting those who bring value to the community and advocate for positive change. @the_real_kiz_podcast on IG

  1. Dating in the Dance Scene: The right way

    6D AGO

    Dating in the Dance Scene: The right way

    The dance floor is more than just a place to showcase moves; it's often a stage for blossoming romances and unexpected heartbreaks. In this episode of The Real Kiz Podcast, host Annabelle, along with relationship coach Marianne and dancer Jordan Jungle Rose, delve into the complexities of dating within the dance community. They explore why love can flourish or falter, offering valuable insights for dancers seeking meaningful connections. Dating in the dance scene is unique, characterized by physical closeness and emotional connections. The podcast begins with the question: "Why do some people find love on the dance floor while others experience heartbreak?" Marianne suggests that successful dating starts with clarity about one’s values and relationship goals. She emphasizes the importance of knowing what you want in a partner, highlighting that dancers should consider factors such as life goals and whether long-distance relationships are acceptable. A popular notion in the dance community is the joke about dancers being undateable. Annabelle and Marianne challenge this stereotype, discussing the importance of individual responsibility in dating. Marianne points out that it's not about being a dancer but rather about understanding oneself and what one seeks in a relationship. This perspective encourages dancers to reflect on their dating habits and attitudes. Connection in dance goes beyond the physical. Annabelle discusses the different levels of connection—physical, emotional, mental, spiritual, and sexual. Each level serves its own purpose, and it's crucial for dancers to identify what type of connection they are seeking with others on the dance floor. This understanding can prevent conflating a momentary dance connection with deeper romantic feelings. Jordan provides insight into the social dynamics of dance events, likening them to club culture. He encourages listeners to remember that dancing is a social activity and to treat it as such. Many people may find themselves caught up in the moment of dancing, feeling a rush of emotions and validation, but Jordan reminds them that this can lead to misconceptions about the meaning of those connections. He highlights the importance of separating casual encounters from serious dating intentions. The trio emphasizes the significance of clear communication in the dance community. Marianne notes that many dancers fear discussing their intentions, which can lead to misunderstandings. She stresses that it's essential to express desires openly—whether seeking a casual relationship or something more serious. Jordan adds that the vulnerability experienced during intimate dances can complicate these conversations, but acknowledging this vulnerability is crucial for healthy interactions. Navigating the dance scene's romantic landscape requires self-awareness, clarity of intention, and effective communication. Dancers should take the time to understand their own goals and values while recognizing the importance of clear dialogue with potential partners. By doing so, they can foster meaningful connections and avoid the pitfalls of miscommunication and emotional confusion. Join the conversation @the_real_kiz_podcast on IG and connect with @a_belle94, @danceofrelationship and @mr_jungle_rose and as always please comment, rate, review, like, follow and subscribe to help us get the message out to more people!!!

    55 min
  2. How Do We Actually Keep Dance Events and Communities Safe for Everyone?

    FEB 5

    How Do We Actually Keep Dance Events and Communities Safe for Everyone?

    In the world of dance, safety often takes a backseat to the fun and social atmosphere of parties. However, as conversations around safety in the dance community grow, it’s crucial to address these issues head-on. In this episode, we dive into an enlightening conversation with Lara, the founder of @be.a.safe.place, an initiative dedicated to providing prevention education, safety protocols and support around incidents in the dance scene. Lara’s journey began from a deeply personal experience. As a victim of violence and abuse within the dance community, she realized that she was not alone in her struggles. "When I shared my story, I found many others who had similar experiences, but there was a prevailing sense of shame that prevented people from speaking up," Laura explains. This realization became the catalyst for the creation of Be a Safe Place, aimed at fostering open conversations and providing support to victims. Lara emphasizes the importance of trainings for event organizers and staff. "We provide training that reminds them of their legal rights and duties to ensure participant safety," she shares. This training includes trauma-informed listening skills, which are essential for anyone who may be the first point of contact for victims. Be a Safe Place is committed to creating an environment where victims can feel comfortable sharing their experiences. Lara notes, "It’s not enough to have a safety team; there must be a clear protocol for how to respond to incidents." This highlights the necessity for transparency in what safety teams can offer to victims. One of the key challenges Lara faces is the reluctance of some organizers to implement safety measures. Many fear that addressing safety concerns could harm their reputation or business. This misalignment in perspectives underscores the critical need for education and awareness within the dance community. Interestingly, Lara highlights that many organizers are unaware of their legal obligations concerning participant safety. "In France, event organizers have a legal duty to ensure the physical, emotional, and psychological safety of participants," she informs. This includes taking action when a risk is identified, whether it’s addressing a report of inappropriate behavior or creating an environment that fosters open communication. The conversation with Lara sheds light on the urgent need for safety in the dance community. Key takeaways include the importance of trauma-informed training for organizers, the necessity for clear communication and protocols for safety teams, and the legal responsibilities that event organizers must acknowledge. By fostering a culture of safety and accountability, we can create a dance community where everyone feels secure and valued. As always, please follow, subscribe, comment, rate, review and join the conversation on our IG @the_real_kiz_podcast

    1h 15m
  3. Disrupting the Dance Industry: It’s a Revolution

    JAN 29

    Disrupting the Dance Industry: It’s a Revolution

    In this solo episode, Annabelle takes us on a journey through the evolving landscape of the dance industry, urging listeners to embrace change and promote equality. The empowerment of female artists and the reevaluation of community values are vital for the future of dance. Key takeaways include the importance of educating oneself as a consumer, the ongoing revolution for equality, and the need for a supportive community. Together, we can foster a dance culture that celebrates artistry, equality, and connection. Annabelle opens the episode by acknowledging the shift from a vibrant community of dancers to a business-driven industry. She notes how events have become more focused on marketing and profit rather than fostering genuine connections. The dance industry has become an industry that employs people and puts on big events, selling products rather than focusing on community. Annabelle draws a distinction between teachers and performers in the dance community, emphasizing the importance of passion and service over fame and personal gain. As dancers now find themselves in the role of consumers, Annabelle stresses the importance of being informed about the products and events they support. She highlights the need for ethical practices in sourcing and organizing dance events. "As customers and consumers, we need to be educated and smart about what we are consuming. Is this all fair trade? Is this all organic and good for us?" The conversation shifts to the ongoing revolution within the dance community, where issues of safety, equality, and fair treatment of artists are being addressed. Annabelle passionately emphasizes the need for dancers to stand up for their rights and establish boundaries. "People are refusing to accept things that are no longer serving them, such as poor quality events and overcrowded spaces." A significant portion of the episode focuses on the challenges women have faced in the Kizomba and urban Kiz scenes. Annabelle shares her observations on how historically, the industry has been male-dominated, often sidelining talented female artists. She believes this narrative is changing, with more women rising to prominence and taking charge of their careers. Women are really rising up and taking back their power and agency. They’re saying, I don’t need a man to stand next to me to be relevant in this dance scene. Join the revolution by joining the conversation on IG @the_real_kiz_podcast and @a_belle94 And as always, rate, review, comment, subscribe and share to spread the word :)

    22 min
  4. The Alchemy of Rupture: Breaking up with dance friends, lovers, partners and teachers

    JAN 11

    The Alchemy of Rupture: Breaking up with dance friends, lovers, partners and teachers

    Heartbreak is a universally understood pain, yet it often feels isolating, especially within close-knit communities like the dance scene. In this episode of The Real Kiz Podcast, Annabelle and Genevieve delve into the tender topic of relational ruptures in the dance world—discussing breakups with dance partners, friends, and mentors, and exploring the emotional and communal impact of these experiences. Heartbreak in the dance community can be particularly poignant. When a dancer experiences a breakup, especially with a partner or close friend, the emotional fallout extends beyond personal pain—it can ripple through the entire dance community. Many talented dancers have disappeared from the scene after relationships fell apart, leaving a void in the community. The need for open conversations about these experiences is crucial. Discussing the emotional struggles of breakups openly can help dismantle the stigma surrounding them. This is not just about individual pain; it's about collective healing and support within the dance community. The dance community has a unique responsibility when it comes to supporting its members through heartbreak. Individuals should take ownership of their choices about whom they support and engage with, highlighting the importance of seeking both sides of a story before jumping to conclusions. This means actively participating in conversations about dynamics within the community—whether it’s addressing unhealthy relationships or supporting those who need encouragement. The dance scene operates on a pyramid hierarchy, where certain “celebrities” hold more influence. This structure can lead to blind support for individuals who may not uphold the community's values. Students and community members should be aware of where they invest their energy and financial support, as this shapes the community’s overall health. Dating in the dance community comes with its risks. Unlike conventional relationships where individuals can easily separate after a breakup, dancers often find themselves in a situation where they must continue to interact with their ex-partners. This can lead to painful encounters that transform what should be a joyful space into a source of stress and anxiety. Emotional fallout can be exacerbated when one partner appears to move on quickly, a situation that can lead to feelings of inadequacy and hurt. The importance of self-care during these times, including the need for personal reflection and energetic clearing after a breakup to avoid carrying emotional baggage into future relationships is vital. A supportive dance community is one where high-quality relationships stem from high-quality relating. Dance can foster deep connections when approached with respect and care. However, the opposite can also be true. Poor relational dynamics can lead to a toxic atmosphere, affecting everyone involved. Both hosts advocate for awareness and accountability within the dance community to ensure that it remains a safe and supportive environment for all. Rupture in the dance community is a complex issue that affects not just individuals but the collective as well. It’s essential to foster open dialogues about these experiences and to support one another through the healing process. By being mindful of the relationships we cultivate and the dynamics we engage with, we can create a healthier dance community where everyone feels valued and respected. Genevieve Kayra is a frequency artist, urban kiz teacher and energy healer originally from Australia, she has been teaching and weaving her dance and spiritual paths together for the past ten years, and has been dancing since age three. Her message on and off the dance floor is that we are all one, and becoming a conscious co-creator is how we can remember our essence. @genevieve.kayra Share your thoughts and connect with us on socials to continue the conversation! @the_real_kiz_podcast

    45 min
  5. What The F#%^ Is Happening In The Kiz Scene: Let's talk about it

    JAN 4

    What The F#%^ Is Happening In The Kiz Scene: Let's talk about it

    Welcome to the latest episode of The Real Kiz Podcast, where we dive into the intricacies of the Kizomba dance scene. In this engaging discussion, host Annabelle is joined by seasoned dancers, Dori and Kaycee, to explore the pressing issues currently affecting the dance community, particularly the need for genuine connection and accountability. Understanding Community in Dance The dance community serves as a vital support system, yet it often falls short in fostering genuine connections. Dori highlights that there are two main types of communities within the dance scene: local communities and festival communities. While both have their merits, the local community is where true connections can flourish. Dori emphasizes that a community should be a place where individuals share interests and values, and are willing to invest their time and energy into each other’s well-being. The Importance of Genuine Relationships Annabelle adds that a thriving dance community is built on relationships that extend beyond the dance floor. It’s essential for members to care for one another, especially during tough times. This sentiment is echoed by Kaycee, who points out that not everyone in the community has the same role. Everyone should strive to give more than they take, creating a culture of mutual support. A community should not only serve personal ambitions but also uplift others. Building Connections Outside the Dance Floor To strengthen community ties, Annabelle suggests organizing non-dance-related activities such as game nights or volunteering together. These experiences help deepen relationships and create a sense of belonging. Dori reflects on her journey, stating that her understanding of community evolved over time as she built relationships with fellow dancers. Addressing Accountability Issues Moving on to the topic of accountability, Kaycee stresses the need for individuals, especially those in positions of power, to uphold standards of behavior. Organizers, instructors, and DJs hold significant influence and must take responsibility for their actions. This includes speaking out against misconduct, such as the disturbing practice of some event organizers in Europe allegedly blackmailing individuals. The Call for Change The conversation takes a serious turn as the trio acknowledges the need for transparency and accountability in the dance scene. Kaycee emphasizes the importance of calling out harmful behavior and standing up for what is right. Annabelle reinforces this notion, advocating for a community that protects its members and fosters a safe environment for everyone. The Kizomba dance community faces significant challenges, but by prioritizing genuine connections and accountability, it can grow stronger and more inclusive. It’s essential for each member to contribute positively to the community, ensuring that it remains a safe and welcoming space for all dancers. Key takeaways include the importance of building relationships off the dance floor, the necessity of accountability among those in power, and the need for each member to actively participate in nurturing the community. Subscribe, comment, rate, review and connect with us on socials - @the_real_kiz_podcast @a_belle94 @doritheexplori85 @kaceoria

    57 min
  6. Toxic Behavior in the Dance Scene: And what we can all do about it

    12/21/2025

    Toxic Behavior in the Dance Scene: And what we can all do about it

    Welcome back to The Real Kiz podcast! In this episode, host Annabelle and her co-host, Ollie the Octopus, welcome a special guest, Hamza, a dancer from Tunisia. Together, they explore the intricacies of the dance community, touching on personal experiences, challenges faced by dancers, and the importance of inclusivity and kindness on the dance floor. Hamza shares his unique path into the world of dance, starting with his first Bachata class in 2020. Despite the challenges posed by the COVID-19 pandemic, he was determined to pursue his passion. After an unexpected injury and a shift to Kizomba, he discovered a new love for dance, highlighting the importance of resilience and adaptability in the face of obstacles. The conversation shifts to the different learning styles in dance classes. Hamza notes the significance of class dynamics and how they affect the learning experience for both leaders and followers. He emphasizes the need for a supportive environment where everyone can thrive, regardless of their skill level. As they dive deeper, Annabelle and Hamza discuss the transition from classes to social dancing. Hamza reflects on his hesitations and the importance of finding supportive peers. The duo emphasizes the necessity of treating every dancer with respect, regardless of their experience level, and the potential repercussions of toxic behavior within the dance community. The discussion turns to the more serious topic of toxicity in the dance world. Annabelle and Hamza candidly address how both men and women can perpetuate negative behaviors. They argue for the need to cultivate kindness and empathy, urging dancers to be mindful of their actions and the impact they have on others. The importance of communication is highlighted, especially in giving and receiving feedback during dances. Towards the end of the episode, Hamza and Annabelle brainstorm ways to create a healthier dance environment. They advocate for a culture of inclusivity, suggesting that all dancers, regardless of skill level, should feel welcome and supported. They also propose establishing channels for reporting misconduct, ensuring that everyone can enjoy dancing without fear of negativity. In this enlightening episode, Hamza's journey and insights shed light on the dance community's complexities. The key takeaways are clear: foster a supportive environment, treat every dancer with respect, and strive for kindness in all interactions. As the dance community continues to grow, it’s crucial to remember that everyone shares the same love for dance, and together, we can create a more inclusive space for all. Subscribe, follow, review, rate and let us know your thoughts! @hamzayazidbelkhiria @a_belle94 @the_real_kiz_podcast

    42 min
  7. The Introverted Dancer: Social anxiety, awkwardness & putting yourself out there

    12/14/2025

    The Introverted Dancer: Social anxiety, awkwardness & putting yourself out there

    This episode with Miranda Kittie explores the contrasting experiences of introverts and extroverts in the dance scene, highlighting personal journeys of confidence and self-expression. The conversation delves into how dance serves as a social activity that fosters connection and vulnerability, ultimately building confidence and self-awareness. In the vibrant world of dance, introverts and extroverts alike find a unique space to express themselves. Dance is a social activity that builds confidence. For introverts, dance offers a safe space to express themselves without words, while extroverts thrive in the social interactions it fosters. The dance floor becomes a stage where vulnerability leads to personal growth. Kittie shares her personal journey with dance, illustrating how it has shaped her confidence and self-awareness. Vulnerability in dance leads to personal growth and emphasizes the transformative power of dance. Dance connects people with different personalities, fostering kindness and understanding, highlighting the importance of empathy and connection in the dance community. Whether you're an introvert or an extrovert, dance offers a path to self-awareness and personal growth. Join us as we explore the social side of dance and discover how it can transform your life. Subscribe now to stay updated on our latest episodes and join us on this journey of confidence and self-expression through dance. Miranda Kittie, cancer survivor and engineer turned full time dancer, is a professional dancer born with passion and purpose for dance. In her 27 years of dancing she has competed, choreographed, performed, and coached many dance styles and considers herself a Jill of all trades. As a teacher, Kittie’s specialty is empowering people to find their confidence through dance. At the heart of her passion is the liberation of both the body and mind from societal expectations and predetermined narratives around feminine sensual expression. As a performer, Kittie lures you into her sensuous world to connect you with your voice within that also yearns to be unleashed. @miranda.kittie.dance @a_belle94 @the_real_kiz_podcast

    45 min
  8. The Lead's Perspective - An Honest Take

    12/14/2025

    The Lead's Perspective - An Honest Take

    In this episode of The Real Kiz Podcast, Annabelle engages in a vibrant conversation with Tudor, an urban kiz dancer from Romania. They explore Tudor's dance journey, the challenges faced by new dancers, the importance of connection and respect in dance, and the dynamics of taxi dancing at festivals. Tudor shares insights on the role of dance teachers, the pros and cons of festival workshops, and the ongoing issue of lead-follow imbalance in the dance community. The conversation emphasizes the need for patience, understanding, and mutual respect among dancers to create a positive and enjoyable dance experience. In this conversation, Tudor and Anna explore various aspects of dance, particularly focusing on the emotional and social dynamics involved in partner dancing. They discuss the impact of music on the dance experience, the etiquette surrounding ending a dance, the importance of aftercare, and the potential for romantic connections that can arise from dancing. Tune in to gain a deeper understanding of the lead's experience and the art of dance. Subscribe now to stay updated on our latest episodes! @kamarad_kizz @a_belle94 @therealkizpodcast

    1h 20m
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