Real Conversations About Power, Desire & Control

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Real, unfiltered conversations about power, desire, and control in the world of BDSM. We dive into psychology, consent, and lived experiences to uncover what truly drives kink—beyond fantasy and taboo. creativebliss.substack.com

  1. Last Longer in Bed: Guide to Controlling Premature Ejaculation (Episode 6)

    1H AGO

    Last Longer in Bed: Guide to Controlling Premature Ejaculation (Episode 6)

    Welcome to Episode 6: Guide to Controlling Premature Ejaculation. This is the “put it all together” episode: a clear framework you can follow to move from unpredictable reflex to repeatable control. In this episode, we cover: * Step 1: Map your arousal curve — spotting early signals before the point of no return * Step 2: Regulate the nervous system — breath, tempo, and downshifting out of “rush mode” * Step 3: Master pacing tools — stop–start, stimulation changes, strategic pauses, position shifts * Step 4: Pelvic floor awareness — relaxing vs. clenching, and why tension often speeds you up * Step 5: Sensitivity management — lube, condoms, delay options, and how to avoid over-numbing * Step 6: Partner communication — making this collaborative instead of a secret struggle * Step 7: When to add support — therapy/CBT approaches, clinician-guided medical options, and signs it’s time to talk to a professional * Step 8: Make it consistent — training frequency, tracking what works, and realistic expectations This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit creativebliss.substack.com

    14 min
  2. Last Longer in Bed: Why Distraction Worsense Premature Ejaculation (Episode 5)

    1D AGO

    Last Longer in Bed: Why Distraction Worsense Premature Ejaculation (Episode 5)

    Welcome to Episode 5: Why Distraction Worsens Premature Ejaculation. This episode focuses on a truth most people miss: lasting longer isn’t only a body skill—it’s an attention skill. When your mind is scattered (worrying, performing, checking out, racing), your arousal curve becomes harder to read, and the body tends to default to fast reflex. In this episode, we explore: * Distraction vs. awareness: why you can’t regulate what you don’t notice * The point of no return: how distraction makes you recognize it too late * Performance anxiety loops: how “monitoring yourself” can actually speed things up * Porn-style conditioning: how novelty and rapid stimulation can train fast escalation * Nervous system state: why mental noise keeps you in “go mode” instead of “slow mode” * Practical tools: attention anchors, breath timing, pacing cues, and strategic pauses * Partner communication: how to stay connected without turning sex into a scoreboard * Training habits: short practice sessions that build presence and arousal mapping over time – Long-term chastity & control → https://www.oxy-shop.com/collections/all-products Produced by Oxy-Shop https://www.oxy-shop.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit creativebliss.substack.com

    15 min
  3. Last Longer in Bed: Hacking Your Biology with Delay Condoms (Episode 4)

    1D AGO

    Last Longer in Bed: Hacking Your Biology with Delay Condoms (Episode 4)

    Welcome to Episode 4: Hacking Your Biology with Delay Condoms. This episode is a practical guide to a simple tool that often gets misunderstood. Delay condoms work by reducing penile sensitivity (usually via a mild desensitizing agent and/or thicker material), which can slow the arousal curve and buy you more time—especially when combined with pacing and breath. In this episode, we cover: * How delay condoms work: sensitivity reduction + friction management + pacing support * What to expect: more control, sometimes less intensity—how to balance that trade-off * How to use them correctly: timing, fit, lubrication, and not overdoing the numbing effect * Partner safety: preventing transfer of numbing agents (and what to do if irritation happens) * Choosing the right option: thicker vs. desensitizing vs. “regular + technique” * Common mistakes: stacking multiple desensitizers, skipping lube, rushing, or relying on condoms alone * Best results: combining delay condoms with arousal awareness, breath, and communication * When to consider alternatives: if sensation loss affects pleasure or if symptoms persist despite tools This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit creativebliss.substack.com

    18 min
  4. Last Longer in Bed: Science Based Treatments for Premature Ejaculation (Episode 3)

    4D AGO

    Last Longer in Bed: Science Based Treatments for Premature Ejaculation (Episode 3)

    Welcome to Episode 3: Science Based Treatments for Premature Ejaculation. If Episode 1–2 explained the “why,” this one is the toolkit: a clear overview of evidence-informed options—from training methods you can start today to professional and medical supports when needed. In this episode, we explore: * Behavioral techniques: stop–start, squeeze method, pacing, changing stimulation patterns, and strategic pauses * Arousal regulation skills: breath work, nervous-system downshifting, and learning your “point of no return” earlier * Pelvic floor training: why relaxation matters as much as strength, and how tension can backfire * Condoms & topical anesthetics: how desensitizing options work, and how to use them without numbing connection * Medication options: common categories used for PE (including certain antidepressants prescribed for delay, and other clinician-guided choices) and what to discuss with a professional * Sex therapy / CBT approaches: performance anxiety, attention control, and communication tools that reduce pressure * Combination approaches: why many people do best with skills + support rather than a single “hack” * When to seek help: persistent distress, sudden onset, pain, erection changes, or relationship impact – Long-term chastity & control → https://www.oxy-shop.com/collections/all-products Produced by Oxy-Shop https://www.oxy-shop.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit creativebliss.substack.com

    16 min
  5. Last Longer in Bed: The Biological Fix for Premature Ejaculation (Episode 2)

    6D AGO

    Last Longer in Bed: The Biological Fix for Premature Ejaculation (Episode 2)

    Welcome to Episode 2: The Biological Fix for Premature Ejaculation. This episode is about what “fix” really means: not a miracle hack, but working with the body’s systems—arousal regulation, reflex control, and nervous-system balance—so control becomes trainable. In this episode, we explore: * The ejaculation reflex: why it’s fast, automatic, and highly sensitive to stress * Sensitivity + stimulation patterns: how intensity, friction, and pacing change your timeline * Nervous system state: sympathetic “go” mode vs. parasympathetic “slow” mode—and why anxiety accelerates everything * Breath as a control tool: using exhale length, rhythm, and downshifting to reduce urgency * Pelvic floor mechanics: why clenching can push you closer, and how relaxation training can help * Arousal curve timing: learning your “point of no return” and steering earlier * Training habits: short practice sessions, stop–start pacing, and consistency over intensity * Lifestyle inputs: sleep, stress load, alcohol, and recovery—why stamina isn’t only a bedroom skill * When to seek support: if PE is sudden, distressing, or paired with pain or erection changes, a clinician can help This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit creativebliss.substack.com

    18 min
  6. Last Longer in Bed: The Science Behind Lasting Longer (Episode 1)

    FEB 11

    Last Longer in Bed: The Science Behind Lasting Longer (Episode 1)

    Welcome to Episode 1: The Science Behind Lasting Longer in Bed. This episode is a reality check (and a roadmap): lasting longer usually isn’t about “being tougher”—it’s about understanding your arousal curve, regulating your nervous system, and using repeatable techniques that retrain response patterns. In this episode, we explore: * Arousal mapping: how to recognize your build-up points before it’s “too late” * The arousal curve: why timing matters more than intensity * Nervous system regulation: how stress, pressure, and performance anxiety speed things up * Breath + pacing: why slowing down physically often speeds up control * Technique tools: stop–start pacing, changing stimulation patterns, strategic pauses, and refocusing * Body skills: pelvic floor awareness (including relaxing vs. clenching) and why tension can backfire * Communication: how partners can help without turning it into a “test” * When to get support: how to think about underlying factors (stress, sleep, sensitivity, relationship tension) and when a clinician might help – Long-term chastity & control → https://www.oxy-shop.com/collections/all-products Produced by Oxy-Shop https://www.oxy-shop.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit creativebliss.substack.com

    17 min
  7. Feminization: Forced Feminisation BDSM (Episode 6)

    FEB 9

    Feminization: Forced Feminisation BDSM (Episode 6)

    Welcome to Episode 6: “Forced Feminisation BDSM.” This episode is about a common fantasy theme that can be misunderstood on purpose: “forced” scenarios only work when they’re fully consensual, pre-negotiated, and supported with clear safety tools. In this episode, we explore: * What “forced” means in kink contexts: scripted resistance, consensual non-consent (CNC), and agreed-upon roles * Non-negotiable consent: the difference between “role no” and real-world no * Negotiation essentials: limits, triggers, language boundaries, privacy, and intensity pacing * Safety systems: safewords/traffic lights, nonverbal signals, and planned check-ins * Why it’s psychologically compelling: taboo, surrender, permission, and “contained loss of control” * Aftercare and debrief: grounding, reassurance, and unpacking emotions—especially if shame or fear gets activated * Red flags to avoid: vague agreements, pressure, escalation, humiliation-as-default, or ignoring aftercare/repair – Long-term chastity & control → https://www.oxy-shop.com/collections/all-products Produced by Oxy-Shop https://www.oxy-shop.com Source: https://www.lovehoney.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit creativebliss.substack.com

    14 min
  8. Feminization: Rewiring Identity through Sissy Training (Episode 5)

    FEB 8

    Feminization: Rewiring Identity through Sissy Training (Episode 5)

    Welcome to Episode 5: “Rewiring Identity through Sissy Training.” This episode looks at identity change as a psychological process: the stories we repeat, the rituals we practice, and the rewards/punishments that shape what the mind starts to expect. When it’s done ethically, “rewiring” isn’t coercion—it’s a mutually agreed framework that uses structure to create consistency and intimacy. In this episode, we explore: * What “rewiring identity” actually means: conditioning, association, and self-story (not hypnosis or mind control) * Why it can feel powerful: permission, surrender, vulnerability, devotion, and belonging * Ritual as a lever: language, routines, symbols, and protocols that deepen the role over time * Reinforcement loops: praise, rewards, consequences, and why consistency matters more than intensity * Consent at depth: limits, safewords, check-ins, and the ongoing right to pause or renegotiate * Emotional safety: aftercare, debriefs, grounding, and how to handle shame spikes without using shame as the engine * Common pitfalls: escalation-by-pressure, secrecy-driven spirals, comparison, and “testing” worthiness – Long-term chastity & control → https://www.oxy-shop.com/collections/all-products Produced by Oxy-Shop https://www.oxy-shop.com * Source: https://www.adameve.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit creativebliss.substack.com

    16 min
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