Allan&Eve: Marriage Is Not a Game

Allen&Eve

We are a Christian couple with a heart to see marriages restored and built to last. Our mission is simple: to help couples make it down the aisle and reduce divorce through honest, faith-based conversations. From singleness and dating to marriage, divorce, and remarriage, we’re tackling it all with biblical wisdom and real-life stories.

  1. May 22

    When Plan A Fails: The 3-Step Backup Plan for Marriage Fights

    Hey believers, what do you do when you hit a wall in your marriage, a disagreement gets heated, and your go-to strategy completely fails? Most couples rely on a "Plan A" that leaves them trapped in the same frustrating cycles over and over again. In this episode of the Allen and Eve podcast, we are getting incredibly raw about a recent, real-life disagreement that put our own communication tools to the test. When avoidance started creeping in, and our usual strategies broke down, we had to instantly shift to a powerful 3-step "Plan B" framework to save the conversation from spinning out of control. We are introducing the core concepts behind this backup plan, including: 1. The essential mindset shift required to halt the negative momentum of a fight before it riles you up inside. 2. The hardest thing a spouse can do to genuinely drop their armor and see the real issue. 3. The "slam dunk" anchor of communication that completely breaks down walls and stops the blame game in its tracks. When you hold a mirror up to the situation, healthy communication becomes contagious—but you have to know how to open that door. Stop letting the enemy create distance between you and your spouse. Pull up a chair, find out exactly how we navigated the heat of the moment, and learn how to build a backup plan that actually works for your marriage. Because when things get real, you can't rely on a broken plan—and remember, marriage is not a game! If this conversation challenges or blesses you, hit that subscribe button, slam the like button, and let us know your thoughts in the comments below       🔥Remember, it's Allan & Eve here to help you believe that marriage is not a game!!!🔥

    20 min
  2. May 1

    Blended Families: You Can’t Force Love – Dealing with Step-Parenting Challenges

    Hey everybody. Today, we’re diving into the complexities of blended families and why you simply can’t force love into existence. In this episode, Allen and Eve discuss the intense pressure coming from culture, the church, and social media to present a "perfect" family dynamic that often does not match the reality of many households. We explore why it is vital to focus on building authentic, genuine relationships rather than striving for a "Brady Bunch" ideal that may not fit your specific family situation. The conversation heats up as we tackle the difference between immediate respect and the long-term process of bonding. While we believe respect and authority are essential for a functional household, we discuss how forcing titles like "Mom" or "Dad" can often lead to more friction than connection. We also dive into the difficult reality that compatibility between a stepparent and a child is not always guaranteed, and why being at peace with that truth is often the healthiest path forward for the entire family. Finally, we examine the importance of keeping the marriage as the foundation of the home, adhering to the principle of God, Marriage, then Kids. If you are struggling with a dynamic where a child is attempting to dictate the relationship or cause confusion within the marriage, it may be time to step back and re-evaluate your approach. Join us as we share our perspectives on navigating the challenges of blending families with peace and clarity.

    27 min
  3. Apr 17

    When You’re Caught Between Your Child and Your Partner (what would you do?)

    Hey Believers, being caught in the middle of a conflict between your partner and your child is one of the most painful and challenging positions in a blended family. In this episode of the Allen and Eve Podcast, we dive deep into the difficult conversations around parenting, discipline, and the hierarchy of relationships within a marriage. We explore the reality that while some blended families are "blessed" with a smooth transition, many others face unpredictable emotional hurdles and constant friction. If you feel pressured to choose a side, this conversation is for you. Key Discussion Points The Relationship Hierarchy: Why we believe putting marriage first—right after God—is essential for a stable household. The Discipline Divide: How to handle situations where one partner is seen as "too harsh" while the other is "too soft".Bonding Boundaries: What to do when a child refuses to connect with a step-parent and how to maintain respect in the home.Avoiding the "Choice" Trap: Why you should address your child's emotional needs or behavioral issues before entering a new marriage covenant.The Consequence of "Picking Sides": How constantly choosing the child over the spouse can lead to the eventual dissolution of the marriage. Connect With Us If you found this conversation helpful, please abuse that like button and subscribe to join the crew. We believe marriage is the key to families, and we are here to have the difficult conversations that help you navigate yours. "Don't get into a covenant if you feel like you're going to choose your child."

    29 min

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We are a Christian couple with a heart to see marriages restored and built to last. Our mission is simple: to help couples make it down the aisle and reduce divorce through honest, faith-based conversations. From singleness and dating to marriage, divorce, and remarriage, we’re tackling it all with biblical wisdom and real-life stories.