Allan&Eve: Marriage Is Not a Game

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We are a Christian couple with a heart to see marriages restored and built to last. Our mission is simple: to help couples make it down the aisle and reduce divorce through honest, faith-based conversations. From singleness and dating to marriage, divorce, and remarriage, we’re tackling it all with biblical wisdom and real-life stories.

  1. 5d ago

    Is It Okay to Compliment Someone Else When You're Married?

    Send us Fan Mail          Hey everybody!  Welcome back to the Allen & Eve Podcast! Come on in, bring it in, and join the family. Today, we are tackling a super hot, highly requested topic in marriage: Is it okay to compliment other people when you're married? Every marriage is built on unique boundaries, personalities, and seasons. In this episode, we open up about our own dynamic—where Eve is naturally outgoing and encouraging, while Allen takes a more laid-back, hyper-focused approach. We dive deep into why intent versus impact matters, how unaddressed insecurities or past traumas affect boundaries, and why your spouse should NEVER feel like they're competing for your attention. At the end of the day, it's all about doing the work, honoring your covenant, and ensuring that the love, grace, and encouragement you give out to the world starts right at home first. Grab a cup of coffee, sit back, and let's grow together!

  2. Jul 24

    Stop Judging What You Don't Understand in Someone Else's Marriage

    Send us Fan Mail           Hey everybody! How are you doing? Welcome back to the show! Today, we are diving deep into a topic that so many couples and singles struggle with: why you should stop judging what you don't understand in someone else's marriage. It is so easy to catch a quick glimpse of how another couple interacts, misread the situation, and jump to conclusions. But the truth is, every single marriage develops its own unique language, rhythm, boundaries, and level of grace. What looks "unhealthy" or "harsh" from the outside might just be an inside joke, a personality trait, or a season where two spouses are actively extending grace and working through things together under God. Join us as we keep it raw, honest, and unpolished about our own mistakes with judging others, how we navigate communication in our own relationship, and why it’s so vital to focus on building up your own home rather than gossiping about someone else’s. Stay tuned all the way to the end for a beautiful prayer over your relationship!

  3. Jul 20

    When Family Relationships Are Difficult: Growing Through the Season

    Send us Fan Mail Navigating in-law relationships and family tension can put a massive strain on a marriage—especially when distance, silence, or unresolved conflict creep in. In this episode, we share a deeply personal story about a three-year season of distance with a sister-in-law, what it actually takes to navigate family hurt, and how married couples can walk through tough family dynamic seasons without letting bitterness take root. Instead of asking "When are they going to change?", we dive into the shift that changes everything: asking God, "What are You trying to teach me?" In this episode, we discuss: Navigating In-Law Dynamics: How to handle distance, silence, and difficult seasons without keeping score.The Role of the Spouse: Why your main job is to be a safe place—not to fuel bitterness or defend by creating a bigger divide.Personal Accountability over Pointing Fingers: How shifting focus to your own heart (humility, patience, and grace) accelerates true personal growth.Moving Forward vs. Reliving the Past: Why healing doesn't always mean re-hashing every detail, but choosing not to let past hurt define your future.Trusting God's Timing: How trials produce steadfastness and maturity (James1:2−4) while you wait for restoration.If you’re currently in a quiet, frustrating, or painful season with family, this episode is a gentle reminder that you can't force reconciliation—but you can allow God to transform your heart while you wait. 💬 Join the Conversation: Have you ever had to navigate a tough season with in-laws or extended family? How did you and your spouse support each other through it?

  4. Jul 17

    I Have a Problem with Cheating Pastors—Here’s Why the Church Needs to Wake Up

    Send us Fan Mail           Hey everybody! How you doing? Look, I had to get some things off my chest today because I am just so tired of seeing marriage treated like a game. You know how much I love you all and how much I care about the body of Christ, but we’ve got to talk about what’s happening with these pastors and church leaders who are living double lives. It breaks my heart and frankly, it makes me sick to watch men stand on the pulpit, preaching the rules to us, while secretly hiding lustful acts and cheating on their beautiful, caring wives behind the scenes.           In this episode, I’m diving deep into the total lack of accountability we're seeing in the church today. I’m calling out the tired old excuses—because no, you can’t just blame the devil or a fast woman when you get caught, and then cry crocodile tears just because your secrets finally came to light. We need to look at what God’s word actually says about cutting sin off at the root before it destroys your family and infects the whole congregation. If you've been feeling frustrated by this too, pull up a chair and let's get into the real truth.

  5. Jul 3

    The First Look vs. The Second Look: Drawing the Line in Marriage

    Send us Fan Mail             Hey everybody! How you doing? Welcome back to the podcast! Today, we are diving deep into a topic that a lot of couples try to avoid, but we're putting it all on the table: the first look versus the second look, and where we draw the line in marriage. We’re getting completely real about temptation, boundaries, and how our pasts can affect how we navigate our relationships today. Allen opens up about his past struggles with lust and how staying grounded in the Word helps him protect our marriage covenant. We also break down the difference between being a friendly person who loves to uplift others and crossing the line into flirting or lustful intent. It all comes down to trust, honesty, and making sure you aren't leaving any open doors for the enemy to work inside your relationship. Grab your spouse or your favorite beverage, and let’s digest this together!

  6. Jun 26

    Why a Sex Fast Might Be Exactly What Your Relationship Needs. (Completely Changed Our Marriage!)

    Send us Fan Mail            Hey everybody!  In this episode, I am getting completely raw and transparent with you about a major turning point in my marriage: the day I realized we needed to go on a 40-day fast from sex. I’m breaking down the serious problems we were facing early on, from my own struggles with body changes and self-entitlement to how I had to deep dive, pray, and completely break free from a heavy porn addiction.           I want to share the lightbulb moment God gave me when I finally stopped worrying about my own needs and started focusing on how to be a real helper to my queen. We’re talking about the mental load our wives carry with the kids, the house, and the bills, and how lifting that weight changes the entire dynamic of your relationship. If you’re ready to learn what it truly means to be a selfless spiritual leader and build a foundation that can last a lifetime, let's get right into it—because marriage is definitely not a game.

  7. Jun 19

    Does Adultery MEAN Automatic Divorce? (Our Honest Conversation About Cheating)

    Send us Fan Mail           Is a Christian marriage automatically over after the very first instance of infidelity? When the sacred vows are broken, is packing your bags the only scriptural response, or does grace demand a harder path? 💔 In this episode, we are diving deep into a heartbreaking marital crisis we stumbled across on Reddit. A devastated wife discovered her husband's infidelity, but instead of finding repentance, she was met with gaslighting—her husband turned the blame back on her, making her feel like she was the one destroying the marriage. When she turned to the internet for advice, the comment section gave her one loud, unanimous ultimatum: pack your bags, get an automatic divorce, and walk away. This Reddit thread sparked a massive, incredibly raw debate between the two of us right here in the studio. We face the hardest questions head-on: Is cheating an automatic, first-time dealbreaker? If it happened to us, would we stay and fight to rebuild the trust, or would we walk out the door? Join the Conversation We don't entirely agree on this one, and we want to know where you stand. If you are listening on Spotify, use the Q&A feature below to leave your thoughts. If you are listening on Apple Podcasts, leave us a review and tell us your perspective! 📌 Connect with Us & Support the Show: If this honest conversation brought value to your life or your marriage, please Leave a 5-Star Rating and Review on your favorite podcast app! It helps other couples find these tough conversations.Share this episode with a friend, a spouse, or someone who needs to hear this raw breakdown today.Disclaimer: We are not licensed marriage counselors or pastors; we are a husband and wife having real, unfiltered conversations about faith, relationships, and the hard realities of keeping a covenant alive.

  8. Jun 12

    You can't tell him to take the lead as a husband if you're always challenging his leadership.

    Send us Fan Mail             Hey everybody! How you doing? Welcome back to the podcast. Today, we are diving deep into a topic that gets a little uncomfortable but is so necessary for a healthy marriage: leadership and submission. We're breaking down what it really looks like to trust your husband's leadership, especially when he's made some bad decisions or is just trying to figure things out. We talk about the struggle wives face when they want to take the wheel out of fear, the pride men battle when it comes to admitting they don't have all the answers, and why biblical submission isn't about being silent—it's about trusting God's order. We also discuss the power of communication, why husbands need to include their wives in decision-making, and how to stop letting past mistakes dictate your future. Grab your coffee and let's get into it!

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We are a Christian couple with a heart to see marriages restored and built to last. Our mission is simple: to help couples make it down the aisle and reduce divorce through honest, faith-based conversations. From singleness and dating to marriage, divorce, and remarriage, we’re tackling it all with biblical wisdom and real-life stories.

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