Loved Without Losing Yourself A podcast for high-achieving women who are done abandoning themselves.

Penelope Magoulianiti
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Loved Without Losing Yourself is a podcast for capable, high-achieving women who look strong on the outside but feel disconnected, emotionally drained, or quietly exhausted on the inside.Hosted by Penelope Magoulianiti, this podcast explores what happens when a woman has spent years holding everything together and realises she has slowly stopped listening to herself.These are grounded, honest conversations about identity, over-functioning, emotional responsibility, self-leadership, and the subtle ways women lose themselves while doing everything “right.”This is not a space for fixing yourself.It’s a space for remembering who you are and learning how to come back to yourself without burning your life down.Short episodes. No noise. No performance.Just clarity, truth, and a return to what actually matters.

Episodes

  1. 2D AGO

    Why You Keep Getting Irritated

    Send a text You’re not “an irritable person.” If you’ve been snapping, withdrawing, or feeling emotionally tight, there’s usually a deeper reason: your system is keeping score. In this episode, we talk about the kind of irritation women experience when they’ve been carrying too much for too long, and why “just communicate better” often doesn’t fix it. You’ll learn: ·         Why irritation is often a cover emotion for resentment ·         The 3 ways resentment disguises itself ·         A simple tool to translate irritation into one clean boundary ·         A micro-action you can take today to reduce emotional load Next step: Take the Burnout Assessment here to pinpoint where you’re overgiving and what needs to change. If this episode resonated with you, don’t rush past it. This podcast is part of a deeper body of work supporting women who are capable, accomplished, and emotionally exhausted from overgiving. If you’d like to explore what this work looks like in a more personal way, you’ll find the next step below. Take the Burnout Assessment here. Learn more about my book Claws Out, Thriving in a World That Wants You Tamed on this link.

    9 min

  2. FEB 4

    The 5 Seconds That Decide Your Whole Day

    Send us a text The 5 Seconds That Decide Your Whole Day Those five seconds, when you say “sure,” smile, or say “it’s fine,” can set your emotional baseline for the entire day. In this episode, I cover 6 emotional signs you may be paying for those moments: low-grade dread, irritability, numbness, feeling emotionally responsible for everyone, resentment (and guilt), and rumination/quiet loneliness. You’ll also learn a simple 5-second reset to stop the emotional hangover and respond with self-trust rather than reflexively. Next step: If you want support to rewire this in one real situation, book a 70-minute Reset Session on this link. We’ll pinpoint the exact moment you override yourself and build one clear response you can hold without guilt or overexplaining. If this episode resonated with you, don’t rush past it. This podcast is part of a deeper body of work supporting women who are capable, accomplished, and emotionally exhausted from overgiving. If you’d like to explore what this work looks like in a more personal way, you’ll find the next step below. Take the Burnout Assessment here. Learn more about my book Claws Out, Thriving in a World That Wants You Tamed on this link.

    14 min

  3. JAN 28

    Too Much? Or Finally Honest?

    Send us a text There’s a specific kind of silence that high-achieving women master. Not the “I have nothing to say” silence, the strategic silence. The polished one. The one that keeps things smooth. Because somewhere along the way, you learned that being fully expressed comes with a risk: misunderstood, judged, rejected, or labeled “too much.” In this episode, we’re naming the pattern behind self-silencing: how capable women start editing their emotions, minimizing their needs, and softening their truth until they can’t feel themselves clearly anymore. You’ll hear: Why “too much” is often a signal of someone else’s limited capacity—not your flawThe subtle ways self-silencing shows up (even when your life looks successful)What it creates over time: resentment, distance, numbness, and the feeling of carrying love aloneA simple practice to stop over-explaining and start speaking with clean clarity: The One-Sentence TruthIf this hit close to home, don’t rush past it. Next step: Take the Burnout Assessment linked in the show notes. It will show you exactly where you’re leaking yourself, and what needs to shift first.   If this episode resonated with you, don’t rush past it. This podcast is part of a deeper body of work supporting women who are capable, accomplished, and emotionally exhausted from overgiving. If you’d like to explore what this work looks like in a more personal way, you’ll find the next step below. Take the Burnout Assessment here. Learn more about my book Claws Out, Thriving in a World That Wants You Tamed on this link.

    12 min

  4. JAN 21

    Guilt; The Emotional Tax of Being "Good"

    Send us a text If you’ve been carrying mom guilt, partner guilt, or work guilt lately, this episode will feel familiar. Guilt has a way of sounding like responsibility. Like love. Like maturity. But when guilt is driving your decisions, you’re not choosing, you’re negotiating. In this episode, I’m naming the emotional tax of being “good.” Not good as in kind or ethical; good as in conditioned to prioritise everyone else, to keep the peace, to stay useful, to avoid disappointing people. You’ll hear three common ways guilt traps high-achieving women:  You over-function to pre-empt criticism. You avoid desire because it feels “selfish.” And you confuse self-sacrifice with love until it turns into emotional distance and a quiet loss of self.I also grounded this in real stories from Claws Out; women who were taught that guilt equals duty and what it cost them in terms of identity, relationships, wellbeing, and fulfilment. And at the end, I’ll give you a simple 2-minute tool you can use immediately: Guilt vs Truth, so guilt stops running the conversation in your head, and you can make one small, clean choice today. If guilt has been calling the shots, consider this your reset. If this episode resonated with you, don’t rush past it. This podcast is part of a deeper body of work supporting women who are capable, accomplished, and emotionally exhausted from overgiving. If you’d like to explore what this work looks like in a more personal way, you’ll find the next step below. Take the Burnout Assessment here. Learn more about my book Claws Out, Thriving in a World That Wants You Tamed on this link.

    14 min

  5. JAN 14

    The Invisible Contract: The Rules You Keep Living By (And Never Agreed To)

    Send us a text If you’ve been feeling tired, flat, or quietly resentful, and you can’t fully explain why, this episode will help you name it. In this episode, we expose four of the most common contracts: The Good Woman Contract: “If I’m good, I’ll be loved.”The Useful Woman Contract: “If I’m needed, I matter.”The Peacekeeper Contract: “If I keep the peace, I’ll be safe.”The Approval Contract: “If they approve of me, I can relax.”And I share a powerful metaphor from my book Claws Out: Thriving in a World That Wants You Tamed; the moment you realise you’ve been dimming your own light one “reasonable” choice at a time. You’ll leave with one simple practice to rewrite the contract and open one window back to yourself this week. Next step: If you want personal, practical support to break the pattern, book a 70-minute Reset Session here.  (And if you want to go deeper, I’ll link Claws Out in the show notes.) If this episode resonated with you, don’t rush past it. This podcast is part of a deeper body of work supporting women who are capable, accomplished, and emotionally exhausted from overgiving. If you’d like to explore what this work looks like in a more personal way, you’ll find the next step below. Take the Burnout Assessment here. Learn more about my book Claws Out, Thriving in a World That Wants You Tamed on this link.

    17 min

  6. JAN 7

    The Automatic Yes That Costs You

    Send us a text If you find yourself saying yes before you’ve even checked in with yourself, don’t miss this episode. Many competent women don’t lose themselves in one big moment. They lose themselves through an automatic yes, the small reflex that looks responsible on the outside, but slowly trains you to disappear on the inside. In this episode, I’m naming what’s really happening beneath the surface: When your nervous system chooses safety over truth When “being easy” becomes your way of avoiding conflict When your needs become optional—and your self-respect starts to erode And why love that requires you to disappear becomes a transactionThen I’ll guide you through one simple 24-hour practice to interrupt the pattern without burning your life down: Pause → Name the truth → Make one aligned choice. Self-trust doesn’t begin with a dramatic transformation. It starts with one clean moment of loyalty to yourself. My wish for you this week: that you stop paying for love with self-abandonment and you come back to yourself in one honest moment.  If this episode resonated with you, don’t rush past it. This podcast is part of a deeper body of work supporting women who are capable, accomplished, and emotionally exhausted from overgiving. If you’d like to explore what this work looks like in a more personal way, you’ll find the next step below. Take the Burnout Assessment here. Learn more about my book Claws Out, Thriving in a World That Wants You Tamed on this link.

    12 min

  7. 12/31/2025

    The Year-End Reset: The One Question That Brings You Back to Yourself

    Send us a text If you’re ending this year feeling tired, disconnected, or strangely numb, don't miss this episode. Many competent women don’t lose themselves in a single big moment. They lose themselves in a thousand small choices: duty over truth, peace over honesty, approval over self-respect. In this Year-End Reset, I’m naming what’s really happening beneath the surface: When pleasing starts to feel like loveWhen overgiving becomes your identityWhen you love everyone else… but stop receiving love from yourselfAnd I’m giving you one question to sit with as the year ends: What is the truest thing about me that I keep betraying? You’ll also receive four journaling prompts to help you see the pattern clearly and choose one small act of self-love to carry into January. May 2026 be the year you come home to yourself with honesty. If this episode resonated with you, don’t rush past it. This podcast is part of a deeper body of work supporting women who are capable, accomplished, and emotionally exhausted from overgiving. If you’d like to explore what this work looks like in a more personal way, you’ll find the next step below. Take the Burnout Assessment here. Learn more about my book Claws Out, Thriving in a World That Wants You Tamed on this link.

    11 min

  8. 12/17/2025

    The Quiet Moment You Realize You’ve Lost Yourself

    Send us a text There’s a moment that doesn’t come with a breakdown or a big decision.  It arrives quietly, in the middle of an ordinary day. In this episode, we explore the subtle moment when you realise you’ve been living on autopilot. Still functioning, still showing up, but no longer fully present in your own life. We talk about: How women slowly lose themselves without noticingWhy this disconnection isn’t a failure, but awarenessThe emotional cost of constantly adapting, giving, and holding everything togetherWhat begins to shift when you stop normalising disconnectionThis episode isn’t here to push you into action. It’s an invitation to honesty. If you’ve ever felt capable and accomplished, yet quietly distant from yourself, this conversation will feel familiar. The next step—if and when you’re ready—is in the show notes. If this episode resonated with you, don’t rush past it. This podcast is part of a deeper body of work supporting women who are capable, accomplished, and emotionally exhausted from overgiving. If you’d like to explore what this work looks like in a more personal way, you’ll find the next step below. Take the Burnout Assessment here. Learn more about my book Claws Out, Thriving in a World That Wants You Tamed on this link.

    6 min

  9. 12/16/2025 · BONUS

    Why Loved Without Losing Yourself Exists

    Send us a text There are moments when nothing is “wrong,”  yet something feels off. This episode is the beginning of a different kind of conversation. Loved Without Losing Yourself exists for women who are capable, intelligent, and accomplished, yet quietly exhausted from holding everything together. In this opening episode, we explore: Why so many high-functioning women lose themselves without realizing it.How responsibility, overgiving, and “doing everything right” slowly create disconnection.The emotional cost of living from duty instead of truth.What it actually means to come back to yourself without burning your life down.This is not a podcast about fixing yourself. It’s about honesty, self-respect, and remembering who you are beneath the roles you’ve learned to carry. If you’ve ever felt successful on the outside but distant on the inside, this space was created for you.  If this resonates and you want a quiet way to explore it further, you’ll find something supportive in the show notes.  If this episode resonated with you, don’t rush past it. This podcast is part of a deeper body of work supporting women who are capable, accomplished, and emotionally exhausted from overgiving. If you’d like to explore what this work looks like in a more personal way, you’ll find the next step below. Take the Burnout Assessment here. Learn more about my book Claws Out, Thriving in a World That Wants You Tamed on this link.

    5 min
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Loved Without Losing Yourself is a podcast for capable, high-achieving women who look strong on the outside but feel disconnected, emotionally drained, or quietly exhausted on the inside.Hosted by Penelope Magoulianiti, this podcast explores what happens when a woman has spent years holding everything together and realises she has slowly stopped listening to herself.These are grounded, honest conversations about identity, over-functioning, emotional responsibility, self-leadership, and the subtle ways women lose themselves while doing everything “right.”This is not a space for fixing yourself.It’s a space for remembering who you are and learning how to come back to yourself without burning your life down.Short episodes. No noise. No performance.Just clarity, truth, and a return to what actually matters.

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