Rooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal

Hali Roderick
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Rooted and Rising Healing is a safe space for women healing from betrayal trauma—whether you’re staying, leaving, or in the messy middle. Here, your pain is seen, your story matters, and your healing is possible. I'm Hali Roderick, and as a Certified Partner Coach (APSATS), I’ll help you root into your truth, identity, and power, and rise into your future with strength and clarity. Betrayal may be part of your story, but it will not define your future.

  1. 3D AGO

    #20 Trauma Bonds Explained: Why Letting Go Is So Hard (And What Actually Helps)

    Trauma bonds are one of the most misunderstood concepts in healing and relationship conversations — and often one of the most painful to confront. In this episode, I’m joined by my friend and colleague Staci Somes, and together we slow this conversation way down. Rather than framing trauma bonds as weakness, addiction, or a failure to “just leave,” we explore what trauma bonds really are: a nervous system survival response to attachment under threat. We talk about how trauma bonds form, why they can feel so powerful and confusing, and why insight alone is rarely enough to break them. We also explore the difference between trauma bonding and authentic love — helping you distinguish intensity from safety, survival from choice. If you’ve ever found yourself asking, “Why is this so hard to let go of?” or “Why do I still feel attached even after everything that’s happened?” — this episode is for you. In this episode we mentioned the follow two resources:  A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal Trauma Bonding by Lauren Kozlowski Connect With Me + Continue Your Healing If today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair. Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing: Join me at a Retreat or Intensive If you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate two upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place March 17–20 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Later this year, the Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 13–18, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community.  Free Resources & Downloads Access free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal 👉Your First Steps to Rising After Betrayal Upcoming Course: Reclaiming You After Betrayal If you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving. This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system. 👉 Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist to be the first to Register! Listen to My Other Podcast If you are still in your relationship—or in the process of discerning whether you want to stay—I invite you to also follow my podcast, Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, where I speak to both partners about healing, accountability, and rebuilding trust. 👉 Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal Join My Newsletter Stay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences. 👉 Rooted and Rising Weekly Connect With Me Between Episodes Join me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram: @rootedandrising.healing 👉 Facebook: Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick 👉 Website: www.rootedandrisinghealing.com

    37 min

  2. FEB 9

    #19: How to Know What You Need After Betrayal (When You Don’t Trust Yourself Anymore)

    After betrayal, many women find themselves asking, Why don’t I know what I need anymore? This episode explores why that loss of clarity isn’t a personal failure — it’s a nervous system response to relational trauma. When trust is broken, your body shifts into survival mode. Instead of tuning in to yourself, your system starts scanning for danger, trying to stay safe. Over time, this can make your own feelings, needs, and desires feel distant, confusing, or even inaccessible. In this episode, Hali explains what’s really happening inside your body and brain, and why it makes so much sense that you feel disconnected right now. You’ll learn how to begin reconnecting with yourself in a gentle, grounded way — not by forcing answers, but by creating safety in your nervous system first. Hali shares a simple three-layer model for understanding needs (nervous system, emotional, and relational), along with practical ways to start listening to your body again after betrayal. CONNECT WITH ME & CONTINUE YOUR HEALING If today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair. Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing: Join me at a Retreat or Intensive If you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate two upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place March 17–20 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Later this year, the Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 13–18, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community.  Free Resources & Downloads Access free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal 👉Your First Steps to Rising After Betrayal Upcoming Course: Reclaiming You After Betrayal If you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving. This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system. 👉 Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist to be the first to Register! Listen to My Other Podcast If you are still in your relationship—or in the process of discerning whether you want to stay—I invite you to also follow my podcast, Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, where I speak to both partners about healing, accountability, and rebuilding trust. 👉 Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal Join My Newsletter Stay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences. 👉 Rooted and Rising Weekly Connect With Me Between Episodes Join me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram: @rootedandrising.healing 👉 Facebook: Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick 👉 Website: www.rootedandrisinghealing.com

    15 min

  3. FEB 2

    #18 When Betrayal Lives in the Body: How Breathwork Supports Healing

    In this special shared episode, Hali Roderick joins Amie Woolsey on the Empowered Divorce Podcast for a powerful conversation about betrayal trauma, the nervous system, and the role of somatic breathwork in healing what talking alone often can’t reach. Betrayal doesn’t just live in the story — it lives in the body. When shock, fear, rage, and heartbreak don’t get a chance to move through, they become stored survival energy that continues to drive anxiety, hypervigilance, and emotional overwhelm. In this episode, Hali explains how SomatIQ-style activating breathwork creates a safe pathway for the body to release what was never allowed to finish. This conversation is especially meaningful for betrayed partners who feel stuck despite therapy, insight, or years of effort — and who know their body is still holding the impact. Connect With Me + Continue Your Healing Join me at one of the Upcoming Betrayal Trauma Conferences:  The Betrayal Healing Conference on January 26-30, 2026. (Virtual) Together We Rise: Collaboration, Care, and Community in Recovery in person in Dallas, TX on Feb. 4-6, 2026 If today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair. Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing: Join me at a Retreat or Intensive If you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate two upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place March 17–20 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Later this year, the Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 13–18, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community.  Free Resources & Downloads Access free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal 👉Your First Steps to Rising After Betrayal Upcoming Course: Reclaiming You After Betrayal If you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving. This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system. 👉 Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist to be the first to Register! Listen to My Other Podcast If you are still in your relationship—or in the process of discerning whether you want to stay—I invite you to also follow my podcast, Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, where I speak to both partners about healing, accountability, and rebuilding trust. 👉 Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal Join My Newsletter Stay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences. 👉 Rooted and Rising Weekly Connect With Me Between Episodes Join me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram: @rootedandrising.healing 👉 Facebook: Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick 👉 Website: www.rootedandrisinghealing.com

    37 min

  4. JAN 26

    #17 Staying When You’re the Only One Doing the Work — with Tammy Gustafson, MA, LPC

    What does it really mean to stay grounded in yourself when you’re the one doing the emotional work in the relationship? In this episode, I’m joined by Tammy Gustafson, MA, LPC - trauma-informed licensed professional counselor, coach, speaker, founder of Betrayal Healing and LiveFree Counseling, host of the annual Betrayal Healing Conference, and author of Broken to Brave: Your Courageous Act of Healing from Intimate Betrayal. Together, we explore one of the most painful and confusing realities many betrayed partners face: being committed to healing while your partner is slow, avoidant, or inconsistent in their growth. This conversation is not about abusive dynamics. It’s for the woman who is trying to stay anchored in herself while navigating a relationship that still feels uneven—and who is wondering how to do that without resentment, self-abandonment, or losing herself in the process. Connect With Me Join me at one of the Upcoming Betrayal Trauma Conferences:  The Betrayal Healing Conference on January 26-30, 2026. (Virtual) Together We Rise: Collaboration, Care, and Community in Recovery in person in Dallas, TX on Feb. 4-6, 2026 If today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair. Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing: Join me at a Retreat or Intensive If you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate two upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place March 17–20 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Later this year, the Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 13–18, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community.  Free Resources & Downloads Access free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal 👉Your First Steps to Rising After Betrayal Upcoming Course: Reclaiming You After Betrayal If you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving. This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system. 👉 Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist to be the first to Register! If you are still in your relationship—or in the process of discerning whether you want to stay—I invite you to also follow my podcast, Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, where I speak to both partners about healing, accountability, and rebuilding trust. 👉 Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal Stay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences. 👉 Rooted and Rising Weekly Join me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram: @rootedandrising.healing 👉 Facebook: Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick 👉 Website: www.rootedandrisinghealing.com

    44 min

  5. JAN 19

    #16 How Betrayal Breaks Self-Trust - and How to Begin Rebuilding It

    One of the most painful and disorienting effects of betrayal isn’t just losing trust in your partner - it’s losing trust in yourself. After deception, gaslighting, and emotional manipulation, many women begin to question their instincts, their memories, and their inner knowing. You may find yourself wondering, How did I not see this? Can I trust myself again? What if I’m wrong? In this episode, Hali Roderick, Certified Partner Coach and founder of Rooted & Rising Healing, explores how betrayal disrupts self-trust - not because you were weak, but because your reality was made unsafe. You’ll learn why self-doubt is a trauma response to being lied to, how boundaries support clarity, and how to begin reconnecting with your inner compass in a grounded, gentle, and empowering way. This episode also includes a trauma-informed guided Inner Compass practice to help you tune back into yourself without pressure, urgency, or self-abandonment. Stay Connected with Me: Join me at one of the Upcoming Betrayal Trauma Conferences:  The Betrayal Healing Conference on January 26-30, 2026. (Virtual) Together We Rise: Collaboration, Care, and Community in Recovery in person in Dallas, TX on Feb. 4-6, 2026 Join me at a Retreat or Intensive If you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate two upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place March 17–20 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Later this year, the Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 13–18, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community.  Sign up for my Newsletter: Rooted and Rising Weekly Join the waitlist: Rooted and Rising: Reclaiming You Course Download my free Guide Book:⁠⁠ Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠⁠ Download my free ebook:⁠ ⁠Your First Steps to Rising From Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠ RootedAndRisingHealing.com⁠⁠ Connect on Instagram:⁠ ⁠ @rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠ Follow on Facebook:⁠ ⁠ Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠ Contact: ⁠rootedandrisinghealing@gmail.com⁠

    27 min

  6. JAN 12

    #15 The Difference Between a Boundary and a Threat

    If you’ve ever set a boundary after betrayal and immediately questioned yourself — Was that too harsh? Was that a threat? Am I being controlling? — this episode is for you. After betrayal, boundaries often feel confusing, heavy, or even shame-inducing. Many women fear that setting limits means issuing ultimatums, threatening the relationship, or trying to control their partner’s recovery. But boundaries aren’t about control — they’re about self-respect, safety, and agency. In this episode, we clearly break down the difference between a boundary and a threat, why this confusion is so common after betrayal trauma, and how to set boundaries that are rooted in clarity rather than fear. You’ll learn how to protect yourself without self-abandoning — and without trying to manage someone else’s choices. Stay Connected with Me: Join me at one of the Upcoming Betrayal Trauma Conferences:  The Betrayal Healing Conference on January 26-30, 2026. (Virtual) Together We Rise: Collaboration, Care, and Community in Recovery in person in Dallas, TX on Feb. 4-6, 2026 Join me at a Retreat or Intensive: If you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate two upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place March 17–20 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Later this year, the Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 13–18, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community.  Sign up for my Newsletter: Rooted and Rising Weekly Join the waitlist: Rooted and Rising: Reclaiming You Course Download my free:⁠⁠ Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠⁠ Download my free ebook:⁠ ⁠Your First Steps to Rising From Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠RootedAndRisingHealing.com⁠⁠ Connect on Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠ Follow on Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠ Contact: ⁠rootedandrisinghealing@gmail.com⁠

    16 min

  7. JAN 10

    BONUS Episode: Rise, Renew Restore: A Transformative Women’s Retreat in Costa Rica

    In this special bonus episode, Hali Roderick is joined by her friends and trusted colleagues Amie Woolsey and Alana Gordon for a shared conversation about the heart, vision, and deeper purpose behind the Rise, Renew, Restore Women's Retreat in Costa Rica coming in July 2026. Together, we explore why this retreat is about so much more than getting away — it’s about creating true nervous-system relief, embodied healing, and a felt sense of safety that many women have been longing for after betrayal, burnout, and chronic emotional stress. We also unpack the meaning behind the name Rise, Renew, Restore, and how each part reflects the journey women move through when they step into a space designed not just for insight, but for deep, body-level change. Stay Connected with Me: Join me at one of the Upcoming Betrayal Trauma Conferences:  The Betrayal Healing Conference on January 26-30, 2026. (Virtual) Together We Rise: Collaboration, Care, and Community in Recovery in person in Dallas, TX on Feb. 4-6, 2026 Join me at a Retreat or Intensive If you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate two upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place March 17–20 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Later this year, the Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 2026, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community.  Sign up for my Newsletter: Rooted and Rising Weekly Join the waitlist: Rooted and Rising: Reclaiming You Course Download my free:⁠⁠ Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠⁠ Download my free ebook:⁠ ⁠ Your First Steps to Rising From Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠RootedAndRisingHealing.com⁠⁠ Connect on Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠ Follow on Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠ Contact: ⁠rootedandrisinghealing@gmail.com⁠

    19 min

  8. JAN 5

    #14: Three Questions to Ask Yourself When You Get Triggered

    If you’ve experienced betrayal, being triggered doesn’t mean you’re broken - it means your nervous system is trying to protect you. In this episode of the Rooted & Rising Healing Podcast, we’re talking about what actually happens when you get triggered after betrayal and how to respond in a way that builds self-trust instead of shame. Rather than asking, “What’s wrong with me?”, you’ll learn three grounding questions that help you pause, regulate, and reconnect with your body, your discernment, and your power. These questions are designed to help you: Understand your triggers without minimizing themSeparate past trauma from present realityRespond from safety instead of survival modeStop gaslighting yourself about your reactionsMake empowered choices when emotions feel overwhelmingStay Connected with Me: Join me at one of the Upcoming Betrayal Trauma Conferences:  The Betrayal Healing Conference on January 26-30, 2026. (Virtual) Together We Rise: Collaboration, Care, and Community in Recovery in person in Dallas, TX on Feb. 4-6, 2026 Join me at a Retreat or Intensive If you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate two upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place March 17–20 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Later this year, the Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 13–18, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community.  Sign up for my Newsletter: Rooted and Rising Weekly Healing isn’t about never being triggered again—it’s about learning how to trust yourself when you are. Join the waitlist: Rooted and Rising: Reclaiming You Course Download my free:⁠⁠ Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠⁠ Download my free ebook:⁠ ⁠Your First Steps to Rising From Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠ RootedAndRisingHealing.com⁠⁠ Connect on Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠ Follow on Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠ Contact: ⁠rootedandrisinghealing@gmail.com⁠

    16 min
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Rooted and Rising Healing is a safe space for women healing from betrayal trauma—whether you’re staying, leaving, or in the messy middle. Here, your pain is seen, your story matters, and your healing is possible. I'm Hali Roderick, and as a Certified Partner Coach (APSATS), I’ll help you root into your truth, identity, and power, and rise into your future with strength and clarity. Betrayal may be part of your story, but it will not define your future.

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