Doing The Work from Naples Integrated Recovery

Brian Granneman, LMHC, CAP, CCTP
  • 5.0 (3)
  • Mental Health

Psychotherapist Brian Granneman examines the patterns that keep people stuck — the ones that show up in relationships, conversations, habits, conflict, addiction, avoidance, and everyday decisions. Each episode breaks down the emotional, behavioral, and relational dynamics underneath those patterns through long-form, clinically informed conversations grounded in real life instead of performance, slogans, or surface-level advice.

  1. 3d ago

    How Sexual Assault Survivors Reclaim Their Lives -- Healing Loudly with Sarra Lashhaab

    Sexual assault can leave survivors questioning what happened, blaming themselves for how they responded, and wondering whether their experience was serious enough to deserve help. Brian Granneman is joined by Sarra Lashhab, LCSW, EMDR therapist and founder of Healing Loudly, who shares her own experience of sexual assault at 17 and the importance of being believed. They explore why survivors freeze or comply during an assault, how shame and self-blame develop, and what happens when family members dismiss or minimize a disclosure. The conversation also examines how childhood emotional injuries shape identity, attachment, boundaries, and the ability to trust others. Brian and Sarra discuss sexual intimacy after trauma, genuine consent, coercion within relationships, anger, forgiveness, and the difficult process of surrendering the search for justice or accountability that may never come. They explore EMDR therapy, self-compassion, substance use as a coping mechanism, and the gradual work of rebuilding safety and autonomy. Sarra also shares the story behind her Dear Survivor Campaign, her personal experience with EMDR, and how self-defense helped her reclaim confidence in her body. Throughout the conversation, they examine what meaningful recovery looks like and how survivors can develop lives that extend beyond what happened to them. Connect with Sarra Lashhab: Healing Loudly: https://www.healingloudly.com Dear Survivor Campaign: https://www.healingloudly.com/dear-survivor-campaign Instagram: @sessionswithsarra   Check out the website for articles published weekly: www.naplesintegratedrecovery.com Want to work together? I see psychotherapy clients in Florida: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/brian-granneman-naples-fl/1153470 I also offer accountability, coaching, and sober companion services. Send an email: brian@naplesintegratedrecovery.com

  2. 5d ago

    You Cannot Love Someone You're Looking Down On—or Looking Up To | Grandiosity, Shame & Relationship Patterns

    Contempt, defensiveness, shame, and superiority can gradually destroy emotional intimacy. Drawing on Terry Real's Relational Life Therapy (RLT), this discussion explores the one-up and one-down positions in relationships. One partner may become critical, controlling, or dismissive, while the other minimizes their needs, seeks approval, or avoids conflict. These patterns often develop through childhood experiences, attachment wounds, and learned survival strategies that continue shaping adult relationships. Grandiosity and shame can also exist within the same person. Someone who routinely criticizes their partner may collapse into self-hatred when confronted about their own behavior, making accountability and relationship repair difficult. Recognizing contempt, people-pleasing, emotional withdrawal, and defensive reactions creates opportunities to interrupt destructive relationship patterns. Through practical examples, this discussion explores healthy remorse, relational mindfulness, boundaries, and the work of developing mutual respect and emotional intimacy. Check out the website for articles published weekly: www.naplesintegratedrecovery.com Want to work together? I see psychotherapy clients in Florida: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/brian-granneman-naples-fl/1153470 I also offer accountability, coaching, and sober companion services. Send an email: brian@naplesintegratedrecovery.com

  3. Oct 25

    Why Should I Change When My Partner is the Problem?

    Many couples get stuck arguing over who is right, who is responsible, and who needs to change. Over time, criticism, defensiveness, resentment, and withdrawal become patterns that keep both partners frustrated. This episode explores how relational thinking helps couples recognize these cycles, take responsibility for their contributions, and move beyond blame. Drawing on couples therapy and relational psychology, we examine emotional accountability, intimacy, communication, and the limits of personal empowerment. We also explore why insight alone rarely changes a relationship, how partners develop negative assumptions about each other, and how small behavioral changes can rebuild trust and connection. Check out the website for articles published weekly: www.naplesintegratedrecovery.com Want to work together? I see psychotherapy clients in Florida: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/brian-granneman-naples-fl/1153470 I also offer accountability, coaching, and sober companion services. Send an email: brian@naplesintegratedrecovery.com

  4. Oct 22

    Once the Fantasy Dies, the Relationship Can Finally Start

    Falling in love involves idealization, projection, and expectations we may barely recognize. As relationships mature, disappointment emerges when the person we imagined becomes the person we actually know. Childhood attachment wounds and unfinished emotional business can quietly shape what we expect our partners to provide. This episode explores relationship disillusionment, emotional dependency, resentment, and the grief of letting go of romantic fantasy. Lasting intimacy requires seeing our partners clearly, taking responsibility for our own emotional needs, and deciding whether the relationship we actually have is one we want to build. Check out the website for articles published weekly: www.naplesintegratedrecovery.com Want to work together? I see psychotherapy clients in Florida: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/brian-granneman-naples-fl/1153470 I also offer accountability, coaching, and sober companion services. Send an email: brian@naplesintegratedrecovery.com

  5. Oct 18

    Your Nervous System Isn’t an Excuse to Act Like an A*****e

    Nervous system dysregulation can explain why conflict feels overwhelming, why your body goes into fight-or-flight, and why old relationship patterns can take over fast. In this episode, I look at the reactive inner child—my term for what Terry Real calls the adaptive child—and the ways earlier survival strategies can show up as defensiveness, control, retaliation, withdrawal, overexplaining, and the need to be right. We also get into how to recognize activation before your range of choice disappears, use practical emotional regulation skills, and take a structured timeout without turning distance into punishment. This episode also looks at the difference between understanding your nervous system and using it to excuse harmful behavior. Therapy language, recovery language, boundaries, and years of insight mean very little if the people closest to you still experience contempt, hostility, manipulation, or emotional volatility. Emotional regulation means learning how to tolerate disagreement, disappointment, uncertainty, and another person’s “no” while still behaving with basic respect. Your nervous system gets a vote. It does not get the final say. Check out the website for articles published weekly: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/brian-granneman-naples-fl/1153470 I also offer accountability, coaching, and sober companion services. Send an email: brian@naplesintegratedrecovery.com

  6. Oct 15

    Offending from the Victim Position: Why Feeling Wronged Can Make You Act Worse

    This episode looks at what happens when hurt becomes a relational stance—when a legitimate frustration starts giving us permission to lecture, control, withdraw, retaliate, or keep pushing long after the original problem has been addressed. Drawing from Terry Real and Pia Mellody, I explore offending from the victim position, resentment, dysfunctional relational stances, and the ways childhood experiences can shape how we handle conflict, power, closeness, and frustration in adult relationships. We also get into relational trauma, the Trauma Grid, false empowerment, grandiosity, boundaries, and the family patterns we absorb even when we spend years telling ourselves we will never become like the people who raised us. The goal is to recognize the sequence: what happened, what meaning you gave it, what your reaction then felt entitled to do, and what the person on the receiving end actually experienced. Understanding where a pattern came from matters. Taking responsibility for what you do with it now is where the work begins. Check out the website for articles published weekly: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/brian-granneman-naples-fl/1153470 I also offer accountability, coaching, and sober companion services. Send an email: brian@naplesintegratedrecovery.com

  7. Oct 11

    The Dragon in Your House: How Families Learn to Tiptoe Around Addiction

    This episode uses bibliotherapy and the children’s story There’s No Such Thing as a Dragon to explore how addiction can gradually reshape an entire family system. Addiction may involve alcohol, drugs, misuse of prescription medication, gambling, pornography or compulsive sexual behavior, workaholism, or other compulsive patterns that become increasingly difficult to control and continue despite meaningful consequences. Through the story of a small dragon that grows while a family refuses to acknowledge it, this episode examines denial, secrecy, accommodation, damaged trust, changing family roles, hypervigilance, and the ways people gradually reorganize their lives around addiction. It also explores why stopping the addictive behavior is only the beginning of recovery. Families may still need to rebuild trust, change long-standing roles, address control and avoidance, and learn how to function after years of adapting to the addiction. Check out the website for articles published weekly: www.naplesintegratedrecovery.com Want to work together? I see psychotherapy clients in Florida: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/brian-granneman-naples-fl/1153470 I also offer accountability, coaching, and sober companion services. Send an email: brian@naplesintegratedrecovery.com

  8. Oct 8

    What Porn Is Doing to Your Sex Drive and Relationship

    Porn addiction and compulsive porn use can affect sexual desire, relationships, intimacy, and emotional regulation. This episode looks at how pornography can shift from occasional use into something tied to stress relief, masturbation, secrecy, control, and increasingly specific sexual stimulation. We also look at desire narrowing, difficulty staying aroused with a real partner, hiding porn use, and the difference between casual pornography use and a pattern that is starting to interfere with sex, relationships, work, sleep, or personal values. The goal is to assess porn use without shame, moralizing, or minimizing the consequences. Check out the website for articles published weekly: www.naplesintegratedrecovery.com Want to work together? I see psychotherapy clients in Florida: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/brian-granneman-naples-fl/1153470 I also offer accountability, coaching, and sober companion services. Send an email: brian@naplesintegratedrecovery.com

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Psychotherapist Brian Granneman examines the patterns that keep people stuck — the ones that show up in relationships, conversations, habits, conflict, addiction, avoidance, and everyday decisions. Each episode breaks down the emotional, behavioral, and relational dynamics underneath those patterns through long-form, clinically informed conversations grounded in real life instead of performance, slogans, or surface-level advice.

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