Sexy After 50: Improve Sex & Intimacy by Healing Your Nervous System

Dr. Julie Merriman
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Sexy After 50 is the podcast for women over 50 who are done pretending they don’t miss feeling turned on, confident, and alive in their bodies. If sex feels confusing, inconsistent, painful, or nonexistent…If your desire disappeared and no one explained why…If you’re tired of being told it’s “just hormones” or that this is “normal aging”… You’re in the right place. I’m Dr. Juls, licensed therapist, nervous-system specialist, and midlife expert—and this show is about waking up what never left. Each episode explores how intimacy, sex, pleasure, and desire after 50 are shaped not just by hormones, but by your nervous system, stress load, emotional labor, body confidence, and lived experience. We go beneath surface-level sex tips and into somatic healing, feminine energy reconnection, and nervous-system regulation so your body can feel safe enough to want again. This is for women navigating: • Low libido • Painful or disconnected sex • Sexless marriage or mismatched desire • Weight gain and body shame • Hormonal changes • Feeling invisible, unwanted, or alone Sexy After 50 shows you how to rebuild pleasure, emotional connection, intimacy, and confidence—without forcing yourself, fixing yourself, or faking desire. Because your fire never left. It went into protection. And we’re waking it up—gently, powerfully, and on your terms. If your body is saying, “Yes—this is what I’ve been needing to hear,”download the Desire & Fire Reset—a free nervous-system practice designed to bring intimacy and desire back from shutdown.  The link is in the show notes. Sexy After 50 is a podcast for women over 50 navigating intimacy struggles, low libido, hormonal changes, weight gain, and feeling disconnected or alone—using nervous system–based somatic healing, feminine energy reconnection, and sexual healing to restore pleasure, desire, emotional connection, and confidence after painful sex or sexless marriage.

Episodes

  1. 5D AGO

    When Sex Starts to Hurt After 50: Why “Sandpaper Sex” Happens and How to Heal It Without Shame

    If you’ve started flinching when your partner reaches for you—not because you don’t love them, but because sex has started to hurt—this episode may save your intimacy. Painful sex after 50 isn’t rare. And it’s not “just menopause.” But it is something most women were never warned about. In this episode of Sexy After 50, I name the experience so many women silently endure: “sandpaper sex." Burning. Dryness. Pain. Avoidance. Shame. I explain what’s actually happening in your body, including: Genitourinary Syndrome of Menopause (GSM) and why it affects up to 50% of womenWhy estrogen alone is not the full answer—and where testosterone fits inHow chronic stress and a guarded nervous system amplify physical painWhy “just use more lube” fails most women over 50This is women’s health and intimacy education without dismissal, embarrassment, or minimizing your experience. You’ll also hear a real client story that shows what becomes possible when: Pain is taken seriouslyPenetration pressure is removedThe nervous system is allowed to feel safe againI introduce The Silk Road, a somatic, non-penetrative intimacy practice that helps retrain the body away from pain and toward pleasure—without forcing desire or overriding your body’s signals. Because your body isn’t rejecting intimacy. It’s protecting itself. If sex has become painful, avoidant, or emotionally loaded, this episode gives you a new path forward—one rooted in safety, consent, and healing.Listen now. Share this with a woman who needs language for what she’s experiencing. And remember: You are allowed to feel good. I’m Dr. Juls and this is Sexy After 50. We don’t normalize suffering here. We restore pleasure. Sexy After 50 is a podcast for women over 50 navigating low libido, painful sex, intimacy struggles, sexless marriage, hormonal changes, vaginal dryness, feeling disconnected or unwanted, and loss of desire—using nervous-system–based somatic healing, women’s health education, feminine energy reconnection, and sexual healing to restore pleasure, emotional connection, and confidence. Subscribe now. Let’s wake up what never left. The Reignite Your Desire & Fire Reset™ The A 72-Hour Erotic Awakening for Women Over 50 Who Refuse to Be Tamed, Dimmed, or Told That Their Fire Has an Expiration Date. 👉 Download Reignite Your Desire & Fire™ Contact Dr. Juls. - info@juliemerrimanphd.com New Episodes drop every Wednesday at 5am.

    34 min

  2. JAN 1

    The Somatic Desire Mapping to Reconnect with Your Libido & Fire Up Intimacy

    Feeling numb below the waist? Your body isn't broken—it's protecting you. After decades of managing everyone else's needs, your nervous system has shut down the "pleasure center" to conserve energy. But here's what no one tells you: You can't think your way back to desire. You have to feel your way back. In this episode, I'm revealing the exact science behind why "trying harder" to want sex is the fastest way to kill your libido—and the 5-minute Somatic Desire Mapping practice that moves you from frozen to feeling again. What You'll Learn:  The Biological Brake: Why your nervous system literally blocks blood flow to your pelvis when it detects "threat" (yes, even if that threat is just your mental to-do list) The Vagus-Sacral Bridge: The hidden connection between your throat, your gut, and your pelvic floor that controls your capacity for pleasure The Desire Map: A gentle, body-led practice to locate where sensation lives in YOUR body (not where porn or romance novels say it should be)This isn't about "fixing" you. This is about rewilding you. About remembering that your body knows exactly how to feel pleasure—it's just been waiting for the all-clear signal from your nervous system. Ready to stop guessing and start feeling? Download the FREE Desire & Fire Reset in the show notes below. It includes the complete Somatic Desire Mapping practice from today's episode PLUS two bonus nervous system regulation techniques. Sexy After 50 is a podcast for women over 50 navigating intimacy struggles, low libido, hormonal changes, weight gain, and feeling disconnected or alone, offering nervous system–based somatic healing, feminine energy reconnection, and sexual healing to restore pleasure, desire, emotional connection, and confidence after painful sex, sexless marriage experiences, or years of feeling unwanted or ashamed. Subscribe now. Let’s wake up what never left. The Reignite Your Desire & Fire Reset™ The A 72-Hour Erotic Awakening for Women Over 50 Who Refuse to Be Tamed, Dimmed, or Told That Their Fire Has an Expiration Date. 👉 Download Reignite Your Desire & Fire™ Contact Dr. Juls. - info@juliemerrimanphd.com New Episodes drop every Wednesday at 5am.

    13 min

  3. 12/30/2025

    Sexy After 50 Trailer: Why Your Nervous System—Not Your Hormones—Is Blocking Sex, Intimacy, and Desire

    When was the last time you felt real desire? Not obligation. Not “I should want this.” But actual, embodied, I want you desire. If you can’t remember, this podcast is for you. For women over 50, low libido isn’t just about hormones. It’s about a nervous system that’s been stuck in survival mode for decades. Chronic stress, caregiving, professional responsibility, emotional labor, and burnout quietly shut down the body’s capacity for sex, intimacy, and pleasure. When your nervous system doesn’t feel safe, arousal becomes biologically impossible. Welcome to Sexy After 50—the podcast for women who refuse to believe numbness, painful sex, or sexless marriages are “just what happens” with age. Dr. Juls, a PhD-trained counselor and midlife expert. This show blends nervous system healing, somatic work, and honest conversations about sex and intimacy after 50—without shame, pressure, or quick fixes. In this trailer, you’ll discover: Why your libido didn’t die—it went into protective shutdownHow “trying harder” actually blocks desireWhy nervous system healing, not willpower, restores pleasureWhat functional freeze is—and why so many women over 50 live thereWhat this podcast will (and will not) offer youThis is not about spicing things up. It’s about helping your body feel safe enough to want again. If you’re done blaming hormones If you’re ready to stop forcing sex and start feeling intimacy again Sexy After 50 is a podcast for women over 50 navigating low libido, sexless marriage, painful sex, and intimacy struggles, teaching nervous system healing, somatic practices, and emotional reconnection to restore desire, pleasure, and confident sexuality after menopause. Subscribe now. Let’s wake up what never left. The Reignite Your Desire & Fire Reset™ The A 72-Hour Erotic Awakening for Women Over 50 Who Refuse to Be Tamed, Dimmed, or Told That Their Fire Has an Expiration Date. 👉 Download Reignite Your Desire & Fire™ Contact Dr. Juls. - info@juliemerrimanphd.com New Episodes drop every Wednesday at 5am.

    7 min
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Sexy After 50 is the podcast for women over 50 who are done pretending they don’t miss feeling turned on, confident, and alive in their bodies. If sex feels confusing, inconsistent, painful, or nonexistent…If your desire disappeared and no one explained why…If you’re tired of being told it’s “just hormones” or that this is “normal aging”… You’re in the right place. I’m Dr. Juls, licensed therapist, nervous-system specialist, and midlife expert—and this show is about waking up what never left. Each episode explores how intimacy, sex, pleasure, and desire after 50 are shaped not just by hormones, but by your nervous system, stress load, emotional labor, body confidence, and lived experience. We go beneath surface-level sex tips and into somatic healing, feminine energy reconnection, and nervous-system regulation so your body can feel safe enough to want again. This is for women navigating: • Low libido • Painful or disconnected sex • Sexless marriage or mismatched desire • Weight gain and body shame • Hormonal changes • Feeling invisible, unwanted, or alone Sexy After 50 shows you how to rebuild pleasure, emotional connection, intimacy, and confidence—without forcing yourself, fixing yourself, or faking desire. Because your fire never left. It went into protection. And we’re waking it up—gently, powerfully, and on your terms. If your body is saying, “Yes—this is what I’ve been needing to hear,”download the Desire & Fire Reset—a free nervous-system practice designed to bring intimacy and desire back from shutdown.  The link is in the show notes. Sexy After 50 is a podcast for women over 50 navigating intimacy struggles, low libido, hormonal changes, weight gain, and feeling disconnected or alone—using nervous system–based somatic healing, feminine energy reconnection, and sexual healing to restore pleasure, desire, emotional connection, and confidence after painful sex or sexless marriage.

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