The Salty Hoes Podcast. The Real Lives of Ex-Mormon Ex-Wives

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The Salty Hoes Podcast dives headfirst into the messy, brilliant, and often hilarious real lives of ex‑Mormon ex‑wives. With sharp minds, sharper wit, and zero interest in reverence, the Salty Hoes, Mel & Claire, unpack the cultural quirks, psychological twists, and unexpected freedoms that come with rewriting your life from scratch. Wade through the emotional debris of living as an ex-Mormon in Utah, and midlife dating with a boldness that says “therapy helped, but not enough to stop this.” It’s incisive, unfiltered, thoughtful, and irreverent; bound together with the existential comedy of

  1. 4d ago

    The Odyssey: Woke or Broke? A Non-Manosphere Review

    Hey all, have you seen The Odyssey? Did Mel pester you to see it at any point? You may be entitled to compensation! Claire and Mel dissect The Odyssey from the womanosphere with a fresh, feminist take. Join our discussion about why the Hero's Journey is old and busted, what we thought about each character, and who the real hero of the Odyssey is. Bonus -- men turning into pigs. Or pigs turning into men. It's a little unclear. We will be discussing spoilers, so if you haven't had the chance to pick up a copy of The Odyssey in the last 2,700 years... well, you have been warned.

  2. Aug 11

    When Your Mormon ‘Truths’ Expire: The Salty Hoes' Guide to Better Beliefs

    Unfollow the Prophet, Jerk in Peace, Embrace ImpermanenceMel and Claire return to the Salty Hoes podcast, share updates (Claire had two dates; one bad, one good... Mel visited family in San Diego), and briefly discuss Utah heat and nearby wildfires before tackling “horrible truths” in the LDS Church and healthier alternatives. They challenge the claim that “the prophet will never lead you astray,” citing failed prophecies, reversed doctrines and policies (including priesthood/Black members, temple changes, Adam-God, blood atonement, and political interventions), and critique obedience culture (“when the prophet speaks, the debate is over”) and “common consent” as performative. Their alternative is critical thinking, trusting intuition, and not placing blind faith in institutions. They then address masturbation as a condemned “sin,” describing shame-based teachings, intrusive worthiness interviews, and related harms, advocating bodily autonomy and normalizing sexual self-exploration. Finally, they discuss Mormon permanence/eternity (“families are forever”) as psychologically damaging, encouraging acceptance of impermanence and a fuller focus on life now.00:00 Podcast Welcome00:53 Claire Dating Recap03:33 Mel San Diego Weekend04:56 Utah Heat and Fires08:14 Topic Setup LDS Truths08:49 Prophet Never Astray22:44 Critical Thinking Alternative28:18 Masturbation Is Sin29:00 War Against Masturbation29:52 Little Factory Talk30:29 Tying Hands Warning31:56 Bodily Autonomy Clash36:10 Temple Touching Concerns38:22 Worthiness Interview Abuse41:45 Healthy Sexuality Reframe45:00 Mormon Permanence Myth52:40 Impermanence and Attachment56:45 Life After Letting Go

  3. Aug 4

    The Holiest Hustle: The Mormon Church and Free Labor.

    The Holiest Hustle: The Mormon Church and Free Labor. Claire and Mel reunite in person after months apart and catch up on summer. stuff. They swap bleak dating-app observations from Australia and New Zealand, mock “still figuring it out” middle-aged profiles, and dissect a man who tried to reject Claire after she politely ended a mismatch. Mel then recounts a Bumble date that devolved into a near two-hour political monologue, guaranteeing no second date. The episode’s main topic is “free labor” in the LDS/Mormon Church: unpaid callings, gendered leadership, lack of training and mishandling of abuse, heavy tithing pressure despite wealthy leadership stipends and vast church assets, and time burdens like moving help and missions that function to lock members in via sunk-cost fallacy. 00:00 Reunited In Person 01:22 Summer Catch Up 03:31 Cat Cameo 03:56 Tinder Abroad Blues 05:42 Still Figuring It Out Rant 07:12 The 21 Miles Guy 10:54 Dating Burnout And ROI 14:05 Bumble Date Disaster 26:18 Talking Yourself Into Dates 27:22 Topic Intro Free Labor 28:47 Callings And Lay Ministry 29:22 Tithing Salaries And Wealth 35:22 Tithing Pressure Trap 36:35 Pre Tax Tithing Debate 38:29 Where Tithing Really Goes 39:54 Callings Explained 41:04 Patriarchy In Leadership 44:06 Safety And Abuse Reporting 46:55 Bishop Burden At Home 57:53 Ward Labor And Lost Weekends 01:01:55 Missions Pay To Serve 01:12:45 Sunk Cost Keeps You In 01:16:09 Airport Missionary Culture 01:18:22 Final Thoughts And Wrap Up ex mormon divorced Utah SLC Mormon Secret Lives Ex Mormon Ex Wife

  4. Jul 28

    Reunited and It Feels So Good!

    The Sun Never Sets on the Salty Hoe Empire (Jet Lag, Whales & In-Flight Chaos)Mel and Claire reunite in the same city (now fully wired to fix audio issues) and record a catch-up episode after being scattered across hotels and Airbnbs worldwide, joking that “the sun never sets on the Salty Hoe empire.” Mel returns from a month-long trip to Australia, Fiji, and New Zealand, including a Neptune Divers resort buyout in Fiji and a Great Barrier Reef live aboard that successfully found dwarf minke whales, despite 30-knot winds and widespread seasickness. They swap horror stories about flights and bodily fluids: three medical events on Mel’s 12-hour Auckland-to-San Francisco flight, a passenger vomiting across multiple rows, drunken vodka-fueled antics, farty flights, and travel diarrhea/parasite tales, plus practical tips like Imodium and meclizine. They also discuss disrupted weather and heat records in Utah, travel styles, packing mishaps, upcoming trips, Pioneer Day’s history, and plans for bonus episodes, events, and a Tinder-themed Salty Bite, urging listeners to follow, rate, and review.00:00 Back Together Again02:10 No Agenda Catch Up03:06 Jet Lag And Homecoming05:30 Medical Emergencies Midair08:30 Scary Flight Body Moments11:39 Exorcist Vomit Storytime16:46 Farts Parasites And Imodium26:16 Trip Itinerary Down Under29:01 Minke Whales And Rough Seas32:34 Seasickness Meds And Liveaboards33:53 Winter Down Under Heat Shock35:40 Wind Hail Heat Whiplash37:14 Climate Change Signs38:24 Snowbird Traditions38:55 Europe Heat Wave40:34 Finding Your Travel Style43:48 Anchor Events and Rest50:57 Packing Habits and Mishaps52:41 Diving Gear Logistics56:59 Airline Weight Drama01:01:33 Next Trips and Empty Nesting01:05:20 Lagoon Rollercoaster Chaos01:10:31 Pioneer Day Backstory01:12:46 Wrap Up and Whats Next

  5. Jul 21

    Neuro, but Make it Spicy. Women and Late ADHD Diagnosis

    Does the Plumbing Still Work? Women’s Health, Being Ignored, and a Late ADHD Glow-UpClaire hosts a solo Salty Hoes episode while Mel is still on vacation, apologizes for prior audio issues, and tees up a return to the duo format next week. Sparked by a Love Island comment doubting whether a 52-year-old woman’s plumbing still "works that way," and a scene from The Pitt about misdiagnosing a woman’s heart attack due to misplaced EKG leads, she discusses how women’s symptoms are minimized or misattributed to hormones, periods, pregnancy, or postpartum. She shares late-life diagnoses discovered around age 49–50... an extra rib, scoliosis, a connective tissue disorder, adenomyosis, and ADHD, and a postpartum blood clot that wasn’t taken seriously. She describes how ADHD is often missed in women due to a lack of research centered on women, inattentive presentation, masking, and diagnostic overshadowing. Claire shares her testing, symptoms, shame spirals, and the immediate benefits and side effects of stimulant medication, along with coping tools like lists, alarms, and planning outfits.00:00 Solo Episode Setup01:21 Love Island Spark03:36 TV Misdiagnosis Moment06:44 Not Listening to Women08:30 Late Health Discoveries14:57 Hopeful OBGYN Story18:15 ADHD in Women Explained21:04 Testing and Diagnosis22:38 Childhood Signs29:07 Adult Struggles and Shame40:46 Meds and Mind Quiet47:57 Strengths and Coping Tools57:58 Wrap Up and Goodbye

  6. Jul 14

    Actually, Let Us Finish. A History of Mansplaining.

    Claire and Mel reunite virtually from opposite sides of the world, comparing dating-app scenes in Ireland, Australia, America, and Italy (beards help, fish pics persist, and follow-through is rare), and swapping travel/food notes, including long Sydney dinners and barramundi. They pivot to a deep dive on mansplaining, sparked by Mel’s 11-hour Australian bus tour where a confident male guide delivered extensive, factually incorrect lectures on evolution, climate, indigenous health, cancer, and even urged people to lick a lemony ant “butthole.” They discuss how mansplaining relies on confidence, unsolicited advice, presumed inferiority, and condescension, sharing examples from dates, gyms, yoga, and a Swedish man explaining the North of Ireland to Claire. They explore causes from social conditioning and implicit bias to power moves, and suggest asking questions, using flowcharts, or calling it out.00:00 Long Distance Catch Up03:26 Dating Apps Abroad06:27 Italy Retreat Dreams07:10 Food Tours and Mussels08:53 Today’s Topic Mansplaining09:34 Eleven Hour Tour Guide18:25 Confidence and Gender24:36 Mansplaining on Dates31:38 Explaining Your Own Home34:36 Bread Tour Mansplain35:17 Unsolicited Advice Stories38:07 Gym and Yoga Boundaries41:04 Presumed Inferiority Responses43:47 Condescending Tone on Dates47:46 Why Mansplaining Happens48:56 Benign Praise Conditioning52:26 Bias and Confidence Myths58:09 Power and Dominance Plays01:00:20 Flowcharts and Calling It Out01:03:21 Final Stop Mansplaining exmormon midlife dating divorced

  7. Jul 7

    The ultimate Love Island, which has nothing to do with the TV show

    The Ultimate Love Island: Survival Skills (Patriarchy Edition)Claire hosts solo while Mel is away, recording late due to travel and jet lag after trips to Kraków, Belfast, Galway, and the Aran Islands (Inishmaan). Reflecting on a decade of solo travel, she connects the isolation and “coupling” premise of Love Island to patriarchal relationship dynamics through the 1890s eco-feminist novel Gránia: The Story of an Island, which critiques marriage as a transaction, women’s exploited labor, and women being labeled “too much.” She links the book’s themes to her experiences as a young Mormon wife juggling motherhood, a PhD, paid work, and unequal domestic/emotional labor, and to a later relationship where a man leveraged her resources. She cites an Oprah interview with Rachel Louise Snyder (No Visible Bruises) noting domestic violence is rising and argues blame is wrongly placed on women; change comes from saying no to intolerable partnerships, demanding men step up, and addressing systemic harm.00:00 Welcome and Setup01:47 Travel Recap and Solo Trips05:09 Grania and Inishmaan06:45 Love Island 08:30 Ecofeminism and Marriage Critique15:02 Dark Domestic Scene Excerpt & being a Mormon Wife20:18 Honor and Being Consumed25:05 Screaming at the Cliff27:18 Benevolent Sexism and Mormon Life32:16 Not Enough and Too Much37:38 Domestic Violence and Blame44:24 What Do We Do Now & Ex-Mormon & Ex-Wife Life49:45 Closing Thoughts and Hope Mormon Exmormon Divorce Emotional Labor

  8. Jun 30

    Tales from Tinder

    Join Mel as she dives into her Tinder likes queue and looks through the many exciting local profiles! From ethical non-monogamy to weird kinks, there is something here for everyone!

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The Salty Hoes Podcast dives headfirst into the messy, brilliant, and often hilarious real lives of ex‑Mormon ex‑wives. With sharp minds, sharper wit, and zero interest in reverence, the Salty Hoes, Mel & Claire, unpack the cultural quirks, psychological twists, and unexpected freedoms that come with rewriting your life from scratch. Wade through the emotional debris of living as an ex-Mormon in Utah, and midlife dating with a boldness that says “therapy helped, but not enough to stop this.” It’s incisive, unfiltered, thoughtful, and irreverent; bound together with the existential comedy of

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