Her Path Her Pace: Where Growth Meets Grace

Reshae
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Her Path, Her Pace is a safe space for anyone figuring life out one step at a time. Hosted by Reshae, a 25 year old black woman navigating adulthood. This show is all about sharing real opinions, honest experiences, and the lessons that come with growing, stumbling, and starting again. From post college freeze, career pivots, friendships, faith, self-love, and those everyday “Am I the only one?” moments. It’s about finding clarity in the chaos, grace in growth, and confidence in moving at your own speed. Whether you’re tuning in for laughs, encouragement, or just to know you’re not alone in the process, Her Path, Her Pace is here to remind you to honor the path, and embrace your pace.

  1. 5d ago

    When the Light Came Back

    There was a time in my life when I thought I was living… but looking back, I realize I was surviving. Not because I was falling apart or completely disconnected from reality. In fact, from the outside looking in, I was functioning. I was showing up. I was handling responsibilities. I was doing what needed to be done. But somewhere along the way, I stopped feeling fully connected to my life. The laughter wasn't quite reaching me. The joy felt distant. The days started blending together, and I found myself on a hamster wheel of simply trying to make it to tomorrow. It wasn't intentional. It wasn't something that happened overnight. I had been in survival mode for so long that it became normal. In this episode, I'm reflecting on what it looked like to slowly come out of that season and realize that many of the things we've talked about in previous episodes—control, unforgiveness, hurt, fear, and carrying burdens that were never mine to carry—were all feeding into that survival mindset. I share how learning to be present, paying attention again, and allowing myself to actually feel instead of performing feelings began to change things. Not overnight, but little by little. Most importantly, I talk about how God became the center of that shift. For a long time, there was so much noise, chaos, pressure, and distraction pulling me in every direction that I couldn't see what was happening. But now I can look back and recognize that every lesson, every challenge, every moment of growth was leading me back to Him. God became my anchor. That doesn't mean life suddenly became easy. It doesn't mean the problems disappeared or that I stopped having questions. Life is still life. The difference is that I'm no longer trying to carry it all by myself. I'm no longer excluding God from the day-to-day moments of my life. And somewhere along the way, the light came back. — 🎧 Her Playlist  "Be Still" — Yolanda Adams  "Good Days" — SZA  "Beautiful Day" — India.Arie — 💌 Letters Along the Way Have a story, experience, question, or something on your heart you'd like to share? Send it to:  lettersalongtheway@gmail.com — ✨ 75 Day Challenge Reminder As we continue growing together, remember to give yourself grace through the process. Use #HPHP75DayChallenge or #HPHP75Days so we can encourage each other along the way. — 📲 Stay Connected Follow the podcast:  Instagram: @herpathherpace  TikTok: @her.path.her.pace Follow me:  Instagram: @reshae____  TikTok: @reshae__ — If this episode resonated with you, don't forget to follow the podcast, leave a review, share it with someone who may need it, and subscribe on YouTube. And as always... Honor your path.  Honor your pace.  Give yourself grace. 🤍

    37 min

  2. May 19

    Operation: Go Outside

    This episode is a little lighter, a little more playful, and honestly… a reminder to myself to actually practice what I preach. For so long, life felt heavy, serious, structured, and honestly a little survival-mode coded. And while healing, growth, and self-work are all important, I’m realizing that joy matters too. So this summer? We’re going outside 😭 In this episode, I’m sharing my summer bucket list—things I’ve never done, things I haven’t done in years, random adventures, experiences that push me outside of my comfort zone, and moments that simply sound fun. From horseback riding and waterfall hikes to pool days, solo adventures, random experiences, and saying yes to life a little more… this episode is really about learning to enjoy life again. Not every moment has to be deep.  Not everything has to be productive.  Sometimes healing looks like laughter, fresh air, trying something new, and allowing yourself to fully experience joy without guilt. This episode is your reminder that you don’t have to have everything figured out to start living your life. Maybe this summer isn’t about becoming a whole new person…  maybe it’s just about letting yourself experience life as you are. So yeah… welcome to Operation: Go Outside 😭☀️ — 🎧 Her Playlist  “Don’t Cha” — The Pussycat Dolls  “Freakum Dress” — Beyoncé  “Booty Wurk” — T-Pain — 💌 Letters Along the Way  Have a story, experience, or something on your heart? Send it in:  lettersalongtheway@gmail.com — ✨ 75 Day Challenge Reminder  Stay consistent, stay intentional, and give yourself grace.  Use #HPHP75DayChallenge or #HPHP75Days so we can grow together 🤍 — 📲 Stay Connected  Follow the podcast:  Instagram: @herpathherpace  TikTok: @her.path.her.pace Follow me, your host:  Instagram: @reshae____  TikTok: @reshae__ — If this episode spoke to you, don’t forget to like, comment, share, and subscribe—especially on YouTube. It helps this message reach who it’s meant for 🤍 And as always… give yourself some grace.

    30 min

  3. May 12

    They're Just Girl Too

    In this episode, I’m honoring both of my moms. The one who gave birth to me… and the one who stepped in and chose to be my mom when she didn’t have to. And if I’m being honest, my relationships with both of them have come with different layers, emotions, lessons, and moments of healing. For a long time, I only saw things through my own perspective—through my hurt, my confusion, and the experiences I had to grow through. And those feelings were real. They still are. But as I’ve gotten older, healed, and started navigating life as a woman myself… I’ve gained a different kind of understanding. I’ve started to see them not just as “moms,” but as women. Women who were experiencing life for the first time too. Women carrying responsibilities, pressures, insecurities, sacrifices, expectations, and emotions that I couldn’t fully understand until I started facing some of those same things myself. This episode isn’t about pretending everything was perfect or dismissing my own experiences. It’s about acknowledging that both truths can exist at the same time. My feelings were valid.  And so were theirs. I talk about the complicated emotions surrounding divorce, abandonment, womanhood, motherhood, stepping into a role that wasn’t originally yours, and the grace that comes from finally seeing people fully. Because understanding them differently didn’t erase my feelings… It helped me heal them. And ultimately, this episode is a thank you. To the women who shaped me, protected me, loved me, sacrificed for me, and helped make me who I am—even in ways I couldn’t fully recognize at the time. They were just girls too… trying to figure it out. — 🎧 Her Playlist (Ep. 19)  https://music.apple.com/us/playlist/her-playlist-ep-19/pl.u-BNA6Xq6C16Y8D1 — 💌 Letters Along the Way  Have a story, experience, or something on your heart? Send it in:  lettersalongtheway@gmail.com — ✨ 75 Day Challenge Reminder  Stay consistent, stay intentional, and give yourself grace through the process. Use #HPHP75DayChallenge or #HPHP75Days so we can grow together 🤍 — 📲 Stay Connected  Follow the podcast:  Instagram: @herpathherpace  TikTok: @her.path.her.pace Follow me, your host:  Instagram: @reshae____  TikTok: @reshae__ — If this episode spoke to you, don’t forget to like, comment, share, and subscribe—especially on YouTube. It helps this message reach who it’s meant for. And as always… give yourself some grace 🤍

    45 min

  4. May 5

    Loving Me...As I Learn Me

    In this episode, I’m getting honest about something I’m still learning in real time… what it actually means to love yourself. Because if I’m being real, it wasn’t that I didn’t love myself… I just didn’t fully understand myself. As I’ve been on this journey of dating myself and pouring back into me, I’ve realized that what I was lacking in my past relationships wasn’t just effort or care—it was intimacy. Not the way the world defines it, but the kind of intimacy that comes from being truly seen, understood, and known. And the truth is… how could I expect someone else to know me like that, when I didn’t even fully know myself? In this episode, I talk about what it’s been like learning a new version of me. Not because I was completely out of touch, but because I’m growing, evolving, and being stretched in ways that require me to meet myself again. I’m opening up about the moments where I had to face myself—the good, the not so good, and everything in between. The times I realized I didn’t have the answers I thought I did. The times I had to stop placing blame outward and start looking inward. And through it all, I’m learning how to love me… as I learn me. This episode is about self-partnering. About grace. About understanding that growth doesn’t mean you had it all wrong—it just means you’re becoming more aware. And maybe… it’s not that you don’t know yourself. Maybe you’re just meeting a new version of you. — 🎧 Her Playlist  “Bleeding Love” — Leona Lewis  “Best Part” — Daniel Caesar ft. H.E.R.  “Good as Hell” — Lizzo — 💌 Letters Along the Way  Have a story, experience, or something on your heart? Send it in:  lettersalongtheway@gmail.com — ✨ 75 Day Challenge Reminder  Stay consistent, stay intentional, and give yourself grace.  Use #HPHP75DayChallenge or #HPHP75Days so we can grow together 🤍 — 📲 Stay Connected  Instagram: @herpathherpace  TikTok: @her.path.her.pace Follow me:  Instagram: @reshae____  TikTok: @reshae__ — If this episode spoke to you, don’t forget to like, comment, share, and follow. And as always… give yourself some grace 🤍

    47 min

  5. Apr 28

    This One Is For the Graduates

    First things first… congratulations 🤍 Whether you’re graduating from high school or college, this is a moment to celebrate. You made it to a milestone that required discipline, growth, and perseverance—and you deserve to be proud of that. In this episode, I wanted to take a moment to speak directly to you as you step into this next phase of life. For my college graduates… I know that transition into the “real world” can feel overwhelming. The pressure, the uncertainty, the job search, the feeling of “what now?”—it’s real. And there is nothing wrong with acknowledging that. It doesn’t make you weak, it makes you human. Sometimes things will work out exactly how you planned… and other times they won’t. You might not land the job you expected right away. You might hear things like “you don’t have enough experience,” and start questioning everything you worked for. Take a breath. The reality is, a lot of people don’t end up working in the exact field they got their degree in—and that’s okay. Be open to pivoting. Be open to the flow of life. Trying to control every detail will only create more pressure. Trust that things can still work out for your good, even if it doesn’t look how you imagined. And don’t let imposter syndrome stop you from taking a chance on yourself. You’ve put in the work. You’ve learned the skills. Now it’s time to use them. Everybody starts somewhere—this is just your beginning. And for my high school graduates… you’re stepping into something completely new, and I know that can feel just as scary. Whether you’re going to college, trade school, or stepping straight into the world, all of those paths are valid. This is your life, your journey. You might get somewhere and realize… this isn’t for you. And that’s okay. You are allowed to change your mind. You are allowed to pivot. You are allowed to figure it out as you go. If you feel like you need time to learn yourself a little more, take it—but use it intentionally. Explore. Try new things. Get to know who you are and what you actually want. Don’t let fear or outside opinions keep you from going after the life you want to live. This is a new beginning. You’re not behind… you’re just starting. — 🎧 Her Playlist  “All I Do Is Win” — DJ Khaled — 💌 Letters Along the Way  Have a story, experience, or something on your heart? Send it in:  lettersalongtheway@gmail.com — ✨ 75 Day Challenge Reminder  Stay consistent, stay intentional, and give yourself grace.  Use #HPHP75DayChallenge or #HPHP75Days so we can grow together 🤍 — 📲 Stay Connected  Instagram: @herpathherpace  TikTok: @her.path.her.pace Follow me:  Instagram: @reshae____  TikTok: @reshae__ — If this episode spoke to you, don’t forget to like, comment, share, and subscribe—especially on YouTube. It helps this message reach who it’s meant for. And as always… give yourself some grace 🤍

    25 min

  6. Apr 21

    The Voice I Was Running From

    There was a time in my life where I felt completely lost. Not just a little confused… but truly didn’t know where to start to even begin finding myself again. And in that space, I made a choice. I decided I wasn’t going to stay there. So I went looking for my purpose. But what I didn’t realize at the time was this… I wasn’t lost because I didn’t have purpose. I was lost because I couldn’t see it. In this episode, I’m talking about how my need to control everything—how it looked, how it showed up, how it was supposed to happen—actually kept me from recognizing that I was already living in my purpose. I had this very specific idea of what it was supposed to be, and because of that, I missed all the ways it was already showing up in my life. The truth is… sometimes your purpose doesn’t look how you imagined it would. Sometimes it shows up in the things you do naturally. In the moments you speak up. In the times you advocate—for others and for yourself. In the patterns that follow you no matter where you go. And if I’m being honest… sometimes your purpose can scare you. Sometimes you don’t want to see it. Or you can’t see it yet. I’m sharing real moments from my life where I was using my voice—without even realizing that was the very thing pointing me back to what I’m here to do. And how, over time, I’ve refined my understanding of my purpose to this: To be a voice for the voiceless… even if that voice is just for me. Because that still matters. This episode is also a reminder that even when you start to understand your purpose, you’re still human. You’re still going to misstep. You’re still going to have moments where you question it, where you fall back into old patterns, where you don’t get it “right.” And that’s okay. This podcast… this space… is a part of me walking in that purpose. It’s me creating a place where people can feel seen. Where the thoughts, emotions, and experiences the world tries to minimize can be spoken out loud. A reminder that you are not alone. And if this reaches millions… that’s beautiful. But if the only voice that’s healed in the process is my own… that still matters too. — 🎧 Her Playlist (Ep. 16)  https://music.apple.com/us/playlist/her-playlist-ep-16/pl.u-leylWD8tjd91rj — ✨ Glow Up Goals Reminder  We’re still in the 75 Day Challenge—stay consistent, stay intentional, and give yourself grace through the process. No matter what your version looks like, keep showing up. Use #HPHP75DayChallenge or #HPHP75Days so we can grow together 🤍 — 💌 Letters Along the Way  Have something on your heart? A story, experience, or something you’re navigating? Send it in and you might be featured in an upcoming episode:  lettersalongtheway@gmail.com — 📲 Stay Connected  Follow the podcast:  Instagram: @herpathherpace  TikTok: @her.path.her.pace Follow me, your host:  Instagram: @reshae____  TikTok: @reshae__ — If this episode spoke to you, don’t forget to like, comment, share, and subscribe—especially on YouTube. It helps this message reach who it’s meant for. And as always… give yourself some grace 🤍

    48 min

  7. Apr 14

    Built in the Small Moments

    In this episode, we’re talking about something I’m still learning in real time… slowing down long enough to actually recognize the growth that’s happening. Because if I’m being honest, I’ve spent a lot of time rushing. Rushing to get to the next thing, the next version of myself, the next level… and in doing that, I was skipping right past the very moments that were building me. This episode is about those moments. The “small” wins that don’t always feel like much in the moment… but over time, they become everything. Whether it’s learning how to be genuinely grateful and not just saying it, finding your voice again after losing it, speaking up even when you’re nervous, or simply making it through a hard season… a win is a win. And I’m learning that those wins? They’re my pause button. They ground me. They bring me back to the present. They remind me that I am growing… even when it doesn’t feel like it. I’m also being honest about the fact that I don’t always get it right. I still find myself rushing. I still have to remind myself to slow down, to pause, to take a breath. But every time I do… I see a little more clearly. So if you’ve been feeling like you’re not doing enough, not moving fast enough, or like your progress doesn’t “count” because it doesn’t look big… this is your reminder that it does. You’re being built in the small moments. And they matter more than you think. 🎧 Tap into Her Playlist for this episode:  https://music.apple.com/us/playlist/her-playlist-ep-15/pl.u-RRbVLpVT3DZLY3 💌 Letters Along the Way  Got a story, experience, or something you’ve been navigating? I’d love to hear from you. Send in your letters, questions, or advice and you might be featured in an upcoming episode:  lettersalongtheway@gmail.com ✨ Glow Up Goals Reminder  We’re still in our 75 Day Challenge, so stay consistent, stay intentional, and give yourself grace through the process. Use #HPHP75DayChallenge so we can grow together. 📲 Stay Connected  Follow the podcast and keep up with all things Her Path, Her Pace:  Instagram: @herpathherpace  TikTok: @her.path.her.pace Follow me, your host:  Instagram: @reshae____  TikTok: @reshae__ If you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to like, comment, share, and subscribe—especially on YouTube. It truly helps the podcast grow and reach the people who need it. And as always… give yourself some grace. 💙

    43 min

  8. Apr 7

    Freeing Them...Freed Me

    Freeing Them… Freed Me Ep. 14 Her Path, Her Pace: Where Growth Meets Grace We’ve all heard it before… “forgiveness is for you.” And if I’m being honest, for a long time I didn’t fully understand that. Because in my mind, forgiving felt like letting people off the hook. Like saying what they did didn’t hurt… like it didn’t matter. But that’s not what forgiveness is. In this episode, I’m talking about what it really looked like for me to confront my unforgiveness—towards people who hurt me, people who disappointed me, and even myself. Because the truth is, I was holding on to a lot… and it was keeping me stuck, isolated, and disconnected. What I didn’t realize at the time was that everything I was holding onto… was holding me. Unforgiveness hardened my heart. It clouded my perspective. And it blocked me from fully seeing God, peace, and the blessings that were right in front of me. And once I finally started doing the work—truly releasing it, not just saying I forgave but actually letting it go—I experienced a level of freedom and peace I didn’t even know I was missing. This episode is about that journey. The tension. The truth. The process. And the freedom that comes when you finally release what was never yours to carry. Whether you’re forgiving others, forgiving yourself, or trying to understand what forgiveness even looks like for you… this conversation is for you. ⸻ ✨ In this episode: • What unforgiveness was doing to me without me realizing it • The difference between saying you forgive and actually releasing it • How unforgiveness can block your peace and perspective • What it looks like to truly let go and move forward ⸻ 🎧 Listen to Her Playlist for this episode: https://music.apple.com/us/playlist/her-playlist-ep-14/pl.u-RRbVLGWF3DZLY3 ⸻ 💌 Letters Along the Way Have a story, experience, or something on your heart? Send it in: lettersalongtheway@gmail.com ⸻ ✨ Glow Up Goals: 75 Day Challenge We’re still going strong—this is your reminder to stay committed, stay intentional, and keep showing up for yourself. Use #HPHP75DayChallenge so we can grow together 🤍 ⸻ 📱 Stay Connected Follow the podcast: Instagram: @herpathherpace TikTok: @her.path.her.pace Follow me: Instagram: @reshae____ TikTok: @reshae__ ⸻ As always… Honor your path. Honor your pace. Always give yourself grace 🤍

    42 min
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Her Path, Her Pace is a safe space for anyone figuring life out one step at a time. Hosted by Reshae, a 25 year old black woman navigating adulthood. This show is all about sharing real opinions, honest experiences, and the lessons that come with growing, stumbling, and starting again. From post college freeze, career pivots, friendships, faith, self-love, and those everyday “Am I the only one?” moments. It’s about finding clarity in the chaos, grace in growth, and confidence in moving at your own speed. Whether you’re tuning in for laughs, encouragement, or just to know you’re not alone in the process, Her Path, Her Pace is here to remind you to honor the path, and embrace your pace.

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