Touching Grass

Sofia Natasha

Questioning the beliefs social media gave you about: identity, relationships, community, gender, & internet culture. Welcome to Touching Grass, your escape from the digital noise. We're constantly exposed to other's opinions online and it's hard to notice when we've subconsciously absorbed somebody else's world view. This podcast is for those who are sick of the lack of nuance online and how extreme and polarizing the internet is getting. Here we have grounded, empathetic, and nuanced conversations with the goal of helping you reclaim your own perspective, not just trying to give you mine.

  1. 5d ago

    why do we treat love like a formula, it’s not math

    Social media tells us what love looks like and requires, so then why are we all still miserable? In this episode I discuss what social media tells us about love, how applying universal love rules is harmful, what my parents’ 30-year marriage taught me about love, how to define compatibility for yourself, and how to figure out what you want in a partner. ⸻ 🎧 LISTEN ON THE PODCAST Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5FTgpj6cCI3POMvuo9M31yListen on Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/touching-grass/id1868714114 Listen anywhere else: https://pod.link/1868714114 ⸻ ⏱️ CHAPTERS & TIME STAMPS 00:00 how social media shapes our idea of love 01:20 welcome to touching grass 01:44 what social media tells us about love 04:13 why we want rules for love 06:45 how we adopt other people's standards 07:56 what my parents’ 30-year marriage taught me about love 10:55 what makes a relationship work 12:01 finding your own definition of compatibility 15:22 do you actually want what you want? 16:25 figuring out what you want in a partner 18:12 deciding what's right for you 19:38 please subscribe and engage ⸻ 📌 FOLLOW ME Linktree → linktr.ee/touchinggrasspod Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/thetouchinggrasspod?utm_source=qr TikTok → https://www.tiktok.com/@thetouchinggrasspod?_r=1&_t=ZT-99NvTuP60Wk Substack → https://open.substack.com/pub/thetouchinggrasspod#datingadvice #datingadviceforwomen #compatability #relationshipstandards

  2. Oct 20

    why does everyone want to be a tradwife now? | Unfinished Thoughts

    Are tradwives desperate pick me's or is there something deeper to the appeal? In today's episode, I explore the hidden emotions that might be driving the appeal of traditional gender roles, from the desire to feel chosen and find purpose to the burnout of modern life. As part of my new Unfinished Thoughts series, I question my own assumptions to explore why more women are drawn to this lifestyle, what it reveals about our society, and how we might be blaming the wrong things for the struggles we share. ⸻ 🎧 LISTEN ON THE PODCAST Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5FTgpj6cCI3POMvuo9M31y Listen on Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/touching-grass/id1868714114 Listen anywhere else: https://pod.link/1868714114 ⸻ ⏱️ CHAPTERS & TIME STAMPS 00:00 why are women becoming tradwives? 01:17 introducing unfinished thoughts (new series) 02:29 what makes the tradwife lifestyle so appealing? 04:02 are tradwives just desperate to feel chosen? 06:21 what is the draw to submission? 07:45 how traditional gender roles give identity and purpose 09:13 what does ‘men are the protectors’ even mean? 10:39 from girlboss to tradwife: did women get lied to? 12:44 maybe this is about burnout, not feminism? 13:54 we’re more similar to tradwives than we think 14:36 understanding matters more than criticizing 15:34 why do you think the tradwife life is appealing? ⸻ 📌 FOLLOW ME Linktree → linktr.ee/touchinggrasspod Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/thetouchinggrasspod?utm_source=qr TikTok → https://www.tiktok.com/@thetouchinggrasspod?_r=1&_t=ZT-99NvTuP60Wk Substack → https://open.substack.com/pub/thetouchinggrasspod#tradwife #girlboss #genderroles #internetculture #gender

  3. Oct 13

    women’s dating advice is a little too similar to the manosphere

    Dating coaches are using your vulnerabilities to make you subconsciously absorb harmful dating advice. We've all been left hurt at some point while dating, but if dating advice is supposed to make dating easier, why are people lonelier and struggling more than ever in the current dating market? In today's episode I discuss how trying to minimize your dating pain can start with genuine advice but slowly lead you toward a harmful and transactional way of viewing relationships, how this can create a dangerous cycle with the manosphere, and what we can do instead. 🎧 LISTEN ON THE PODCAST Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5FTgpj6cCI3POMvuo9M31y Listen on Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/touching-grass/id1868714114 Listen anywhere else: https://pod.link/1868714114 ⸻ ⏱️ CHAPTERS & TIME STAMPS 00:00 why dating advice turns toxic 01:07 how pain shapes dating beliefs 03:28 when good advice turns harmful 05:27 “you are the prize” 06:14 the ego band-aid 08:53 turning off your emotions 10:17 when dating becomes transactional 11:14 from transaction to resentment 12:28 the manosphere disclaimer 13:30 how the manosphere pulls you in 14:27 the “sigma male” ego band-aid 15:39 emotional numbness to transaction 17:00 how both sides fuel each other 18:44 handling rejection without losing yourself 19:35 you are not the prize 20:41 how to deal with dating pain 21:42 comment your perspective ⸻ 📌 FOLLOW ME Linktree → linktr.ee/touchinggrasspodInstagram → https://www.instagram.com/thetouchinggrasspod?utm_source=qr TikTok → https://www.tiktok.com/@thetouchinggrasspod?_r=1&_t=ZT-99NvTuP60Wk Substack → https://open.substack.com/pub/thetouchinggrasspod#datingadvice #datingadviceforwomen #manosphere #datingadvicepipeline #internetculture

  4. Oct 6

    even substack can’t make you think for yourself

    Is social media helping you gain more knowledge, or just making you reliant on someone else's thoughts? In this episode, we explore why consuming intelligent, nuanced content on platforms like Substack doesn’t necessarily make us independent thinkers, and how easily we can absorb someone else’s worldview without realizing it. We’ll unpack the psychology behind influence, the difference between gaining knowledge and forming your own perspective, and four ways to become a more critical, independent thinker online💚⸻⏱️ CHAPTERS & TIME STAMPS00:00 is substack helping us grow or making us reliant01:22 the illusion of being an intellectual03:13 why knowing more doesn’t make you a stronger thinker04:05 how social media subconsciously changes what you believe05:45 illusory truth effect: why repetition makes ideas feel true07:09 how to learn from others without outsourcing your thinking08:52 4 ways to become a more independent thinker11:42 when you stop thinking for yourself13:22 intelligence is not a performance⸻📌 FOLLOW MELinktree → linktr.ee/touchinggrasspodInstagram → https://www.instagram.com/thetouchinggrasspod?utm_source=qrTikTok → https://www.tiktok.com/@thetouchinggrasspod?_r=1&_t=ZT-99NvTuP60WkSubstack → https://open.substack.com/pub/thetouchinggrasspod#criticalthinking #intellectualism #digitalculture #medialiteracy

  5. Sep 29

    are you chasing the life of your dreams, or your algorithm’s dream?

    What if you spent your whole life chasing success, only to realize you never actually wanted the life you built? It’s easy to confuse money, luxury, social media aesthetics, and status with fulfillment. But what if the version of success you’re chasing was never actually yours? In this episode, we’re talking about social media, lifestyle expectations, self-improvement, self-discovery, and the pressure to build a life that looks successful instead of one that actually feels good. How do you figure out what you really want? And what happens if you achieve everything you thought you wanted, only to realize it doesn’t make you happy? Let’s rethink what success, fulfillment, and a good life can actually look like. ⏱️ CHAPTERS & TIME STAMPS00:00 do i actually want the life I'm chasing?01:56 why does everyone want the same life?03:54 are we chasing success or status?05:39 what actually makes life fulfilling?07:32 redefine the way you see success09:06 what if you get everything you wanted?10:44 success on your own terms

  6. Sep 22

    why looksmaxxing is so appealing yet makes dating harder

    Looksmaxxing promises to make dating easier, but looks can’t solve the parts of dating that actually matter. It’s tempting to believe that changing your appearance is the shortcut to attracting more women, but compatibility requires so much more than looking the part. In this episode, we’re talking about looksmaxxing, dating, self-improvement, attractiveness, social media, optimization culture, and why there are no shortcuts to genuine human connection💚 ⏱️ CHAPTERS & TIME STAMPS00:00 why is looksmaxxing so appealing?02:01 what are women actually looking for?03:28 are we optimizing the wrong thing?05:40 it’s easier to fix your jawline than yourself07:02 the illusion of having more dating options08:16 you can’t optimize your dating life10:07 why human connection has no shortcuts

  7. Sep 15

    convenience culture is killing our sense of community

    Convenience culture promises to make life easier, but what if all that convenience is making us lonelier? From food delivery and AI to friendships that require more effort than we’re used to, we’ve started treating inconvenience as something to avoid, even when that effort is what creates connection. Let’s talk about convenience culture, community, loneliness, social connection, optimization culture, and why building a meaningful life might require us to be inconvenienced💚 ⏱️ CHAPTERS & TIME STAMPS 00:00 why do i miss being exhausted? 01:08 why we’ve started treating effort like a problem 03:22 why community is inherently inconvenient 04:22 the problem with convenient socializing 05:50 how convenience culture is making us lonelier 07:05 why community might help you live longer 08:48 are we responsible for our own loneliness? 10:33 we create the culture we complain about 11:30 why convenience isn’t actually convenient 12:23 why we need to stop optimizing everything

  8. Sep 8

    saying 'all men are trash' lowered my standards

    Saying “all men are trash” might feel like a way to protect yourself from bad dating experiences, but what if it’s actually lowering your standards? When you’ve been treated badly enough, basic respect can start to feel like the world instead of a requirement. In this episode, we’re talking about dating standards, the bare minimum, unhealthy relationships, modern dating, and how your past experiences can shape what you expect from the people you date💚 ⏱️ CHAPTERS & TIME STAMPS 00:00 does “all men are trash” lower your dating standards? 00:41 why we even start saying “all men are trash” 02:34 safety vs dating standards 03:19 how your words shape your dating expectations 04:28 how bad dating experiences change your standards 05:25 basic respect is the bare minimum 06:07 do you even know what you should want? 07:49 why you need to believe better partners exist 08:25 how to change your dating standards 10:19 your past relationships shouldn’t define your future

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Questioning the beliefs social media gave you about: identity, relationships, community, gender, & internet culture. Welcome to Touching Grass, your escape from the digital noise. We're constantly exposed to other's opinions online and it's hard to notice when we've subconsciously absorbed somebody else's world view. This podcast is for those who are sick of the lack of nuance online and how extreme and polarizing the internet is getting. Here we have grounded, empathetic, and nuanced conversations with the goal of helping you reclaim your own perspective, not just trying to give you mine.

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  • Creator
    Sofia Natasha
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    42
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Sofia Natasha
  • Show Website
    Touching Grass