Jackie Faber: Inside My Journey

Jackie Faber
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This podcast is me showing up and speaking in real time. No scripts. No teaching. No performance. Just my lived experience as it unfolds — thoughts, realizations, identity shifts, and whatever wants to be spoken. These conversations explore healing, trauma, personal sovereignty, perception, energy, and what it means to stop performing growth and start living in alignment. Listen at your own pace.

  1. 1d ago

    S2 E4: Perception Changes Everything

    What if healing doesn’t always mean changing the people around you but changing the meaning your nervous system gives to their behavior? In this episode of Inside My Journey, I’m talking about one of the biggest shifts self-safety created for me: the outside world did not necessarily change, but my experience of it did. I share how this showed up in my relationship with my mom, in my marriage, in the way I handle being misunderstood online, and in the way I now think about attachment styles, behavior-based relationship frameworks, and the stay-or-leave binary. As I built more capacity to hold my own emotional experience, I stopped needing other people’s emotions and behavior to be so carefully controlled. Distance did not have to mean abandonment. Criticism did not have to mean inadequacy. Someone else being upset did not automatically become my emergency. The behavior could stay the same. The meaning could change. And when the meaning changed, my experience changed too. This episode is about perception, self-safety, nervous system capacity, and why other people’s patterns stop hooking us in the same way when they no longer meet the unresolved parts in us. Self-safety changes perception. Perception changes experience. And when experience changes, choice expands. Jackie Faber

  2. Oct 19

    S2 E3: The Moment We Give Our Safety Away: How I Learned to Recognize Self-Abandonment

    In this episode, I’m unpacking the moment we give our safety away. For me, that usually happened when something inside of me became uncomfortable and my attention immediately moved outward. I needed someone to understand me, validate me, apologize, give me clarity, behave differently, or somehow resolve the feeling for me. Once I started recognizing those movements, I realized they were all part of the same safety-seeking pattern. That eventually became the Recognition Framework — the process I now use to notice when I’m leaving myself, come back to what I’m actually feeling, and make a conscious choice instead of reacting from fear, urgency, obligation, or discomfort. I also talk about how this changed my relationships, why urgency became one of my biggest clues, and how learning to hold my own emotional experience gave other people much more freedom to be themselves. If you want the full breakdown of the seven common ways we give safety away, grab my free PDF here: 7 Subtle Ways We Give Safety Away

  3. Oct 5

    S2 E2: What Is Self-Safety? Why Emotional Safety Isn’t Something Someone Gives You

    What if emotional safety is not something another person gives you? In this episode of Inside My Journey, I’m exploring the difference between relational safety and what I call self-safety: the ability to remain connected to yourself and your own emotional experience, even when someone else is activated, defensive, disappointed, critical, distant, or simply different from you. I talk about how I used to locate safety in other people’s behavior, why that kept me managing my external world, and how learning to hold my own emotional experience changed the way I experience relationships, conflict, uncertainty, and activation. This episode also begins to lay the foundation for autonomy-centered relating: understanding what belongs to you, what belongs to someone else, and why another person’s feelings do not have to become your responsibility to manage. Read How to Stop Chasing Safety New episodes of Inside My Journey are released biweekly.

  4. Sep 21

    S2 E1: Why I Started Questioning Healthy Relationship Advice

    After taking the summer off, I’m back for Season 2 of Inside My Journey — and I’ve changed the way I think about relationships. For years, conventional “healthy relationship” advice made sense to me: communicate better, meet each other’s needs, compromise, repair, reassure, and learn how to show up as a healthy partner. But something shifted when I actually found myself in a relationship I experienced as healthy. I started noticing that so much relationship advice is still organized around managing how another person shows up so that we can feel okay. In this episode, I share where that realization began, why my lived experience started contradicting what I was being taught about healthy relationships, and how ideas around self-safety, emotional responsibility, autonomy, and coercive control began coming together into one relational framework. This episode also sets the stage for Season 2, where we’ll explore self-safety, the Recognition Framework, autonomy-centered relationships, emotional responsibility, needs, differentiation, coercion, and ultimately self-authorship.

  5. Jun 18

    S1 E19: The Deepest Form Of Intimacy

    If you remove sex from a relationship, all you have left is friendship. At least that's what people keep telling me. Over the last few weeks, I've found myself fascinated by the reactions to that idea. Not because I think sex doesn't matter, but because I can't seem to understand why friendship is so often treated like the consolation prize. What if friendship isn't what's left over when everything else disappears? What if it's the foundation that determines whether a relationship survives reality in the first place? In this episode, I explore the difference between attraction and friendship, intimacy and recognition, love and attachment. We talk about dead bedrooms, loneliness, emotional isolation, and why so many people feel unseen inside relationships that have lasted for years. Along the way, I found myself asking a question I can't stop thinking about: Did the relationship stop working when the sex stopped? Or did the sex stop because something in the relationship had already stopped working? This became a conversation about recognition, partnership, and what it means to have someone willing to face reality alongside you. Because maybe the deepest form of intimacy isn't sex. Maybe it's being truly known. Jackie Faber relationships | intimacy | emotional intimacy | dead bedroom | marriage | partnership | emotional connection | attachment | communication in relationships | personal growth

  6. Jun 5

    S1 E18: I Didn't Heal My Anxious Attachment — I Dissolved the Pattern

    For years, I deeply identified with anxious attachment. I believed distance meant danger.Space meant rejection.Uncertainty meant abandonment. And because of that, every relationship became organized around securing connection, preserving closeness, and preventing people from leaving. But what if anxious attachment isn't actually about love? What if it's a nervous system safety-seeking pattern? In this episode, I share how my perspective on attachment styles completely changed after understanding nervous system orientation, self-referencing, and recognition. We'll explore: • Why avoidant people no longer trigger me• The difference between self-referencing and other-referencing• How anxious attachment becomes organized around safety• Why managing triggers is different from dissolving patterns• The moment I stopped relating to people through the lens of abandonment I didn't heal by finding people who wouldn't trigger me. I healed by recognizing the pattern that was creating the trigger in the first place. Resources mentioned in this episode: 📘 Permission to BeA book about trauma, identity, spirituality, and returning to your authentic self. 📖 Recognition ManualLearn how to identify nervous system patterns in real time instead of after they've already taken over. 🔄 Orientation ShiftA deeper dive into how your nervous system organizes around safety, relationships, and self-abandonment. If this episode resonates, subscribe, share it with someone who is tired of repeating the same relationship patterns, and leave a review. It helps more people discover the show. anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, attachment styles, attachment theory, nervous system healing, self safety, self referencing, abandonment wounds, fear of abandonment, relationship anxiety, healing attachment wounds, nervous system regulation, trauma healing, emotional healing, codependency, anxious attachment recovery, relationship patterns, emotional triggers, recognition work, orientation shift, self abandonment, personal growth, spirituality and healing, nervous system patterns, attachment trauma, secure attachment, emotional regulation, inner child healing, healing journey, Jackie Faber

  7. May 29

    S1 E17: Why I Couldn’t Finish My Book Until I Changed

    Today is a really big day for me because my book, Permission to Be, is officially out on Amazon. But this episode isn’t just about the release of the book.It’s about the evolution behind it. What started as a book about loving an addict slowly transformed into something much deeper as I moved through divorce, emotional abuse, spirituality, nervous system healing, and ultimately — embodiment. Every single time I tried to finish this book before I had fully lived the lesson, the book stopped. In this episode, I talk about: why the original book never got writtenthe abusive relationship that changed everythingrealizing I was still self-abandoning in real timethe shift from abuse content into spiritualityhow the chakra system became a mirror for my own fragmentationwhy I couldn’t fully write about the higher chakras yetthe difference between understanding healing and embodying itwhat finally allowed me to complete Permission to BeThis episode is less of a teaching episode and more of an honest reflection on the last few years of my life and the journey that shaped this book. Permission to Be is now available on Amazon in paperback and ebook format. Signed copies are also available in limited quantities through my Stan Store. Jackie Faber Stan Store permission to be, self abandonment, self trust, spirituality podcast, healing journey, emotional abuse recovery, chakra healing, embodiment, nervous system healing, spiritual awakening, codependency recovery, self healing, trauma healing, people pleasing, authenticity, personal growth podcast, healing podcast, spiritual growth, conscious relationships, shadow work, self worth, finding authenticity, inner healing, emotional healing, reiki, self responsibility, spiritual transformation, healing after abuse, chakra system, nervous system regulation

  8. May 22

    S1 E16: What If Most Harmful Behavior Is Unconscious?

    There was a time when I viewed harmful behavior almost entirely through the lens of unconscious survival. Then I entered online abuse discourse… and suddenly everything became intentional, calculated, toxic, narcissistic, manipulative. In this episode, I talk about my own experience moving between those two extremes — from over-humanizing harmful behavior to briefly dehumanizing human behavior altogether — and how understanding the nervous system changed the way I see relationships, trauma, manipulation, healing, and consciousness itself. This conversation explores: black-and-white thinkingnervous system organizationtrauma and unconscious behaviorcertainty as emotional regulationpolarity in healing spacesself-reference and relational dynamicswhy nuance feels threatening onlineand why human behavior is often far more complex than “good vs evil”This is not a conversation about excusing harm. It’s a conversation about moving beyond simplistic frameworks and understanding what actually drives human behavior. Explore my work #healing #trauma #nervoussystem #selfawareness #relationships #consciousness #attachmentstyles #selftrust #personalgrowth #psychology

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This podcast is me showing up and speaking in real time. No scripts. No teaching. No performance. Just my lived experience as it unfolds — thoughts, realizations, identity shifts, and whatever wants to be spoken. These conversations explore healing, trauma, personal sovereignty, perception, energy, and what it means to stop performing growth and start living in alignment. Listen at your own pace.

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