In Between Them

Shannon Darrow
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Divorce shapes childhood in ways parents often can’t see—especially when they’re in the middle of an emotional fog, fear or in survival mode. Hosted by a entrepreneur and mother who navigated her own divorce with a newborn, this podcast brings forward the voices we rarely hear: the children of divorce, now grown, reflecting on the experiences that shaped them. Raised in a traditional nuclear family, but later thrust into a co-parenting dynamic, the host brings personal understanding and professional insight to every conversation. She believes every story matters, because children don’t choose divorce, yet they feel its ripples the most. Each episode features honest, vulnerable storytelling from people who lived through their parents’ divorce. Some stories are painful. Some healing and inspiring. All of them reveal what truly impacts a child when a family changes—and what helps them thrive. This podcast offers a new angle beyond legal advice and therapy perspectives. It centers on the lived experiences of the children themselves, the impact, providing clarity for parents who want to make better, more thoughtful, child-centered decisions. Whether you’re a parent, professional, or someone who lived it yourself, you’ll find wisdom, compassion, and guidance in these conversations. Because understanding the child’s perspective might just be the key to doing divorce better. If you or someone you know is contemplating divorce, or are in the midst of it, the impact of these stories can change a child's life forever. If you or someone you know would like to contribute by sharing a story please contact me directly sdarrow@onward-mc.com. New episodes weekly.

  1. 6D AGO

    Rashelle - 15 years old - She Applied Her Childhood Experience and Did Divorce Better for Herself

    The Long Shadow of a Divided Home: Rashelle's Story When Rashelle was just 5 years old, she lost her biological father. By 6, her mom had remarried, and by 15, that marriage was ending too. But the divorce itself wasn't the hardest part — it was everything that came with it. A house filled with constant fighting. The instinctive, bone-deep urge to shield her two younger siblings from the storm. The quiet weight of being the oldest in a home where the adults couldn't hold it together. In this episode, Rashelle takes us back to moments that still sting — like senior night, when her parents struggled to stand together to take a single photo with her. That animosity didn't fade with time. Now in her 40s, she still can't mention one parent in front of the other without everything going sideways. But this is where her story turns. Rashelle opens up about how the pain of her childhood became the blueprint for one of the most intentional choices of her adult life: building a united co-parenting front with her ex-husband for their daughter. It isn't always easy. There are hard days, hard conversations, and moments where it would be easier to let the wall go up. But Rashelle does the work — every single time — because she's giving her daughter the very thing she longed for and never received: two parents who can stand together, even after standing apart. Connect with Rashelle: Instagram: @realtorrashelleRealtor serving the Willamette Valley, OregonListen to her podcast, The Realtor Who Wines, on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Book Recommendation from this episode: The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins Takeaways Family dynamics impact childhoodManaging parental conflict as a childLong-lasting impact of parental divorce Impact of Divorce on Parent-Child RelationshipsParenting Through Divorce Setting BoundariesLetting Go of Control Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Background05:54 Impact of Parental Divorce14:51 Coping Strategies and Impact20:57 Parental Conflict and Impact on Relationships56:08 Supporting Children's Relationships with Step-Parents01:05:43 The Long-Term Journey of Co-Parenting01:12:35 Clothing and Material Matters01:19:05 The Power of Boundaries

    1h 18m

  2. APR 27

    *Expert Alert* Ilian Alchehayed - Family Law Attorney in Orange County, CA - Keeping Kids First

    In this episode, Ilian Alchehayed, a Certified Family Law Specialist in Orange County, California, shares insights from his experience working with families navigating divorce. He explores the challenges parents face during separation and emphasizes why understanding the impact on children is essential. Ilian discusses how parenting time schedules have shifted over the years—from flexible arrangements to more structured and rigid systems—and what that means for families today. He highlights the importance of truly putting children first, noting that outcomes for kids are closely tied to the decisions and behaviors of their parents. He also breaks down how divorce affects children differently depending on their age, and why greater awareness of these developmental differences can help parents better support their kids through the transition. The conversation dives into the realities of co-parenting, including common pitfalls and strategies for doing it effectively. Ilian shares real-world examples of how fear-driven decisions can negatively impact children—and how parents can instead make thoughtful, child-centered choices. Ultimately, Ilian reinforces that while divorce is difficult, children can adapt and even thrive when parents remain intentional, cooperative, and focused on their well-being. Ilian practices at Tustin Law Group. He also recommends the book The Whole-Brain Child as a valuable resource for parents seeking to better understand and support their children at various stages of development. For information on this podcast or if you want to be a guest you can find more details at my website. Takeaways Certified Family Law SpecialistImpact of Divorce on Children Parenting after divorceImpact of divorce on children Chapters 00:00 Becoming a Certified Family Law Specialist10:28 The Evolution of Parenting Time and Parenting Schedules36:48 Co-Parenting and Parenting Styles51:39 Parenting After Divorce01:04:09 Co-Parenting and Child Support01:19:13 The Reality of Divorce01:28:06 Making Decisions from a Fear-Based Position

    1h 30m

  3. APR 20

    Carly - Part 3 - The Final Part - Mother of Kate and Stepmother of Sydney and Her Reflections

    Carly is the mother of Kate (episode 14) and stepmother to Sydney (episode 15) and in this episode she reflects on their episodes and what she heard, what surprised her and what resonated with her. She covers a wide range of topics, including her own speech pathology and how that impacted her step-parenting, personal experiences with illness and parenting, her divorce, difficult co-parenting and positive step-parenting. Takeaways Resilience and support play a crucial role in recovery and coping with life-changing experiences.Step-parenting and co-parenting dynamics have a significant impact on children and their perspectives. Respectful co-parenting relationships are crucial for the well-being of children.Parental support and independence play a significant role in children's development. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Background05:08 Impact on Children During Illness10:27 Impact of Divorce on Children16:58 Step-Parenting and Co-Parenting Dynamics23:05 Step-Parenting and Co-Parenting Dynamics with Teenagers28:42 Step-Parenting and Co-Parenting Reflections on Parenting34:33 Step-Parenting and Co-Parenting Challenges and Responsibilities47:21 Navigating Co-Parenting Relationships53:50 Parental Influence and Independence01:03:12 Reflections on Parenting and Co-Parenting01:26:49 Community Support and Impact on Children

    1h 13m

  4. APR 13

    Sydney - 5 years old - Part 2 of a 3-part series, Daughter, Step-Daughter and Mom, The Overlap

    Sydney shares the story of growing up through two pivotal family transitions—her parents’ divorce and the arrival of a stepmother who would become a defining figure in her life. She reflects on the early years of that relationship, the bond they built before her half-siblings were born, and how that connection later unraveled as her father and stepmother went through their own divorce—marking a second major upheaval in her childhood. In the midst of that instability, Sydney stepped into a caregiving role for her younger step-siblings while navigating difficult and sometimes inappropriate dynamics at home. She also explores how her stepmother became a key advocate in understanding her ADHD diagnosis—support that has evolved into a strong and lasting relationship they still share today. Sydney speaks candidly about the ways she sought her father’s attention by molding herself around his interests, and the lasting impact that had on her sense of self. She also reflects on how financial stress and communication within her family shaped her beliefs and behaviors in adulthood, particularly in her own marriage. Ultimately, Sydney’s story is one of resilience and self-awareness—illustrating how childhood experiences can both challenge and motivate us. Today, she maintains close relationships with her mother, stepmother, and siblings, and uses the insight she’s gained to guide her decisions and embrace the growth that came from it all. Takeaways Impact of divorce on childhood memoriesRole of step-parent in coping and support The impact of divorce on children is long-lasting and can influence their adult life and relationships.Positive parental interactions and involvement are crucial for mitigating the impact of divorce on children. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Personal Background06:05 Financial Impact of Divorce21:32 Transition and Changes in Custody32:52 Therapy and Coping Mechanisms42:41 Parental Relationships and Impact on Children56:02 Coping with Divorce and Career Choices01:03:23 Personal Growth and Overcoming Adversity01:09:26 Reflections and Book Recommendations Follow the pod on Instgram and TikTok Find me for Mediation or Coaching on www.onward-mc.com Contact with questions or if you want to be a guest: sdarrow@onward-mc.com

    1h 3m

  5. APR 6

    Kate - 3 years old - Part 1 of a 3-part series, Daughter, Step-Daughter and Mom, The Overlap

    This is Part 1 of a 3-part series featuring a daughter, stepdaughter, and mother reflecting on their shared and overlapping childhood experiences. In this episode, Kate—17 and preparing to graduate high school—shares her perspective on growing up in a split household, beginning with her parents’ divorce when she was just three years old. With honesty and insight, she explores what it was like to have no memory of her parents together, and how early she realized her family looked different from others around her. Kate opens up about the challenges of transitioning between two homes, explaining how frequent switches were especially difficult when she was younger, and how moving to a week-on/week-off schedule as a teenager brought some relief—while still presenting its own struggles. She also speaks candidly about the impact of her parents having no contact with each other, and how that often left her feeling caught in the middle. It’s something she reflects on deeply, offering thoughtful advice to parents navigating co-parenting dynamics and strongly advises against this dynamic. The conversation also touches on the logistical challenges of living between homes—especially when one parent lives much farther from school—and how that can affect a child’s daily life. Kate closes the episode by sharing how her upbringing has shaped her views on relationships, dating, and marriage. With intention and clarity, she expresses her hope to build a lasting marriage—something deeply influenced by her own family experience. This episode is a powerful, personal look at divorce through the eyes of a child who lived it—and is now making meaning of it as she steps into adulthood. Takeaways Impact of Divorce on ChildrenParental CommunicationPersonal Growth and Reflection Chapters 00:00 Early Years and Realization06:00 Parental Communication and Relationships11:49 Parental Involvement and Co-parenting24:47 Reflection on Future Relationships

    34 min

  6. MAR 30

    Dustina - 5 years old - Her Instable Childhood Created Stability for Her Kids and Stepkids

    In this powerful and deeply personal episode, Dustina Hall opens up about her experience growing up in a divorced family marked by instability, emotional strain, and complex family dynamics. From being placed in the middle of her parents’ conflict at a young age to navigating her father’s revolving door of relationships—and the constant uncertainty that came with it—Dustina shares how these experiences shaped her sense of safety and belonging. She also speaks candidly about her mother’s struggles with mental illness and how that contributed to an unpredictable home environment. Carrying the weight of these challenges into her own life, Dustina reflects on developing an “always waiting for the other shoe to drop” mentality, as well as her battle with an eating disorder. Through it all, Dustina’s story is one of resilience, growth, and healing. She offers thoughtful insight into the lasting impact divorce can have on children, while emphasizing the critical role of empathy, stability, and open communication in co-parenting relationships. Now a step-parent herself, Dustina shares how her childhood experiences have informed a healthier, more intentional approach to parenting—one she is deeply proud of. This episode is a heartfelt reminder that even in the face of dysfunction, it is possible to break cycles, create safety, and build stronger, more compassionate family connections. Takeaways Senior living advisors provide valuable support to families and seniors during the transition to assisted living and care facilities.The impact of divorce on children can be profound, leading to a lack of stability, predictability, and safety in their lives. ResilienceImpact of Divorce on Children Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Career as a Senior Living Advisor09:12 Realization of Non-Normative Family Structure30:01 Trauma and Abuse in the Family35:07 Navigating a Split Household41:21 Impact of Divorce on Children01:02:50 Healing and Values

    1h 11m

  7. MAR 23

    Devin - 5 years old - Ended up with Dad After Mom Went to Jail - A Rocky Road But He Has Made Good

    In this episode, Devin reflects on life after his parents’ divorce when he was just five or six years old, growing up alongside his younger brother. He shares what it was like navigating childhood primarily with his dad, especially during a period when his mom disappeared and later resurfaced, facing time in jail. Devin opens up about the early years of moving back and forth between parents, and how a series of major life events eventually led him to live full-time with his dad. He speaks candidly about seeing his mom intermittently, and how her later relationship with his stepfather brought additional challenges and emotional strain. With striking self-awareness, Devin connects his childhood experiences to the person he is today. Now a teacher, he explains how those formative years allow him to connect with students on a deeper level—offering empathy, presence, and understanding that might not have been possible otherwise. Throughout the conversation, Devin highlights the growth, accountability, and perspective he’s gained from navigating difficult circumstances. His story is a powerful reflection on resilience, self-discovery, and the lasting impact of childhood experiences. Takeaways Impact of Divorce on ChildrenCoping Mechanisms for Children of Divorce ResilienceParental Impact Chapters 00:00 Parental Response and Coping Mechanisms31:35 Early Family Dynamics and Stepfather Influence38:01 Relationship with Parents as an Adult43:37 Navigating Adulthood and Coping Mechanisms58:48 Book Recommendations and Personal Interests

    1h 7m

  8. MAR 16

    Tysen - 8th grade - Her New Life Felt Normal - Thanks to Friends Going Through It Too

    Tyson shares how her parents’ divorce in eighth grade felt surprisingly normal. With several relatives already divorced and family friends going through the same thing at the time, the transition into a new family dynamic felt easier and smoother than it might have otherwise. She reflects on how her parents’ ability to remain cordial with one another played a major role in keeping life peaceful and stable. While there was never a clear explanation for the divorce—only speculation about a possible affair—her parents continued to maintain a respectful relationship that carried into her adulthood. Their cooperation helped make important milestones like college and marriage feel supported and manageable. Looking back, Tyson acknowledges that some of her parents’ choices may have had more complicated effects on her sibling than on her. Still, her story highlights how parents who keep their adult conflicts separate from their parenting can create a sense of stability for their children, even during major family changes. Takeaways Supportive friendshipsCordial co-parenting Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Background07:02 Tandem Divorcing22:56 Impact on Children

    34 min
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Divorce shapes childhood in ways parents often can’t see—especially when they’re in the middle of an emotional fog, fear or in survival mode. Hosted by a entrepreneur and mother who navigated her own divorce with a newborn, this podcast brings forward the voices we rarely hear: the children of divorce, now grown, reflecting on the experiences that shaped them. Raised in a traditional nuclear family, but later thrust into a co-parenting dynamic, the host brings personal understanding and professional insight to every conversation. She believes every story matters, because children don’t choose divorce, yet they feel its ripples the most. Each episode features honest, vulnerable storytelling from people who lived through their parents’ divorce. Some stories are painful. Some healing and inspiring. All of them reveal what truly impacts a child when a family changes—and what helps them thrive. This podcast offers a new angle beyond legal advice and therapy perspectives. It centers on the lived experiences of the children themselves, the impact, providing clarity for parents who want to make better, more thoughtful, child-centered decisions. Whether you’re a parent, professional, or someone who lived it yourself, you’ll find wisdom, compassion, and guidance in these conversations. Because understanding the child’s perspective might just be the key to doing divorce better. If you or someone you know is contemplating divorce, or are in the midst of it, the impact of these stories can change a child's life forever. If you or someone you know would like to contribute by sharing a story please contact me directly sdarrow@onward-mc.com. New episodes weekly.

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  • Creator
    Shannon Darrow
  • Years Active
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  • Episodes
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  • Rating
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