OkayishAF Does Whatever She Wants

OkayishAF

This is OkayishAF Does Whatever She Wants a weekly podcast where I say the things some folks might be afraid to say, or can't say, with a mix of humor, chaos, and honesty. All I have is my time and my reputation. Come hang out with me while I spend my time talking about things I love and things that suck while doing my best to use my Karen powers for good. Expect talks on mental health, politics, gaming, books, creative work, and why corporate America can kiss my Okayish ass. If you’re here for realness, community, and maybe some rants that sound like your inner monologue during that meeting that could have been an email you’re in the right place. Hate listeners welcome. Patreon plugs inevitable. Intro music by Rob Panico.

  1. Ep 12: B is for Bimboification (Apparently)

    Apr 6

    Ep 12: B is for Bimboification (Apparently)

    Welcome to another episode of OkayishAF Does Whatever She Wants and yeah… this one is silly and I'm sorry in advance. Today we’re talking about: Kristi Noem’s husband, Byron Noem, and the bimboification scandal The hypocrisy inside conservative politics Matt Gaetz claiming alien-human hybrids are real How to actually find your ballot and prepare to vote (do it! it's easy!) And Chesney the kangaroo escaping into the wild like the icon he is If you’ve ever felt like we’re living in the weirdest timeline possible… you’re not wrong. Resources mentioned: Ballotpedia.org (find your ballot + upcoming elections) Vote.org (check registration + polling location) Matt Gaetz Makes Out-Of-This-World Claim About Government Secrets: https://www.huffpost.com/entry/matt-gaetz-claims-aliens-mating-humans_n_69cc46dee4b0332f12c038bf Reddit - What is Bimbofication?: https://www.reddit.com/r/BimboficationHub/comments/1fribbb/what_is_bimbofication/ Kristi Noem’s lover Corey Lewandowski is standing by her after pics of husband’s cross-dressing fetish leak: https://nypost.com/2026/04/01/us-news/kristi-noems-lover-corey-lewandowski-is-standing-by-her-after-pics-of-husbands-cross-dressing-fetish-leak/ Kristi Noem's Husband Allegedly Told Model His Wife Was Having Affair with Her Adviser: 'There's Nothing I Can Do About It': https://people.com/bryon-noem-told-model-wife-kristi-affair-11940419 Chesney the kangaroo scales tall fence and flees petting zoo for three days on the lam: https://apnews.com/article/kangaroo-petting-zoo-wisconsin-escape-e5368b274706c2051fab54a73de8c777 Find Me: Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@okayishaf Instagram:: https://www.instagram.com/okayishaf/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/OkayishAF Hire me: https://okayishaf.com/vibes Support the show: Join the Patreon (link below) — best way to support and keep this chaos going. https://www.patreon.com/OkayishAF

    31 min
  2. Mar-a-Lago Flipped Blue, Saint Patrick Was Just a Guy, and You Need to Chill (Respectfully)

    Mar 26

    Mar-a-Lago Flipped Blue, Saint Patrick Was Just a Guy, and You Need to Chill (Respectfully)

    Mar-a-Lago just flipped to a Democrat…And I'm EXCITED. In this episode, we’re breaking down the real history of Saint Patrick’s Day (spoiler: it’s not just about green beer i'm so sorry), what just happened in Florida with two major Democratic wins, and why voting is the bare minimum if you actually care about your community. We’re also going to chat about burnout, activism, and why being emotionally overwhelmed doesn’t help anyone if it stops you from taking action. In this episode:The real history of Saint Patrick’s Day (and how America turned it into a party) Who Saint Patrick actually was Why the first Saint Patrick’s Day parade was in Florida Irish immigrants, resistance, and the origin of wearing green Emily Gregory flipping a district that includes Mar-a-Lago Another Democratic win in Hillsborough County Why voter turnout matters more than anything Reframing voting: not perfect, but necessary Why leftists, liberals, and everyone in between need each other How to stay engaged without burning yourself out Practical ways to support your community right now Resources & Links:Socials: Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/OkayishAF YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@OkayishAFGaming Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@okayishaf Instagram:: https://www.instagram.com/okayishaf/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/OkayishAF Hire me: https://okayishaf.com/vibes Check your voter registration: https://www.vote.org/ Mutual aid in your area: https://www.mutualaidhub.org/ My favorite organization: https://www.depressedwhileblack.com/ Sources: https://www.history.com/articles/history-of-st-patricks-day https://www.britannica.com/topic/Why-Is-St-Patricks-Day-Celebrated-on-March-17th https://www.pbs.org/newshour/world/why-the-color-of-st-patricks-day-changed-from-blue-to-green https://www.pbs.org/newshour/politics/florida-democrat-flips-seat-in-special-election-in-district-that-includes-trumps-mar-a-lago https://www.wtsp.com/article/news/politics/florida-special-elections-democrats-win-mar-a-lago-hillsborough-county/67-acc02d0a-9bbc-4b93-8b15-5aca6a2010be

    32 min
  3. Ep 10: Daylight Saving Time Is Ruining Your Life, That Dumb Thing Timothée Chalamet Said, and Black Ballerina Spotlight

    Mar 12

    Ep 10: Daylight Saving Time Is Ruining Your Life, That Dumb Thing Timothée Chalamet Said, and Black Ballerina Spotlight

    Daylight Saving Time is messing with your sleep, your mood, and honestly… probably your entire life. At least it is messing with mine and I hate it. In this episode of OkayishAF Does Whatever She Wants, I break down: The chaotic history of Daylight Saving Time and why “springing forward” is actually terrible for your health. How time changes impact mental health, sleep, and productivity (science-backed, not just me whining I promise) Timothée Chalamet’s stupid take on ballet and using that as an excuse to hype up Black Ballet dancers Celebrating Black ballerinas who broke barriers, including Misty Copeland, Arthur Mitchell, Raven Wilkinson, and more If you love deep dives into history, mental health, pop culture, and arts, this episode is for you. LinksSources CU of Boulder: The History of Daylight Saving Time - https://www.colorado.edu/coloradan/2022/11/07/history-daylight-saving-time CU of Boulder: Why permanent daylight saving time is a bad idea - https://www.colorado.edu/today/2022/03/28/why-permanent-daylight-saving-time-bad-idea Cu of Boulder: ‘Spring forward’ to daylight saving time brings surge in deadly crashes https://www.colorado.edu/today/2020/01/30/spring-forward-daylight-saving-time-brings-surge-deadly-crashes Why does daylight saving time exist? - https://usafacts.org/articles/why-does-daylight-saving-time-exist/ Harvard Health: The dark side of daylight saving time - https://www.health.harvard.edu/healthy-aging-and-longevity/the-dark-side-of-daylight-saving-time Marie Soledad Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itsmariesoledad PBS: Breaking Barriers on Stage: African American Ballet Dancers Who Made History - https://www.pbs.org/independentlens/blog/breaking-barriers-on-the-stage-african-american-ballet-dancers-history/ Cincinnati Ballet: Celebrating Black Ballet History - https://cballet.org/behind-the-scenes/celebrating-black-ballet-history/ Boston Ballet: Celebrating Black Dance History - https://www.bostonballet.org/stories/celebrating-black-dance-history/ The International Association of Black in Dance - https://www.iabdassociation.org/ Other Links & Socials Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/OkayishAF YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@OkayishAFOpinions Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@okayishaf Instagram:: https://www.instagram.com/okayishaf/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/OkayishAF Hire me: https://okayishaf.com/vibes

    25 min
  4. Voter Suppression, Church Battles, and Why You Shouldn’t Read the Comments

    Mar 5

    Voter Suppression, Church Battles, and Why You Shouldn’t Read the Comments

    Hello. It is Wednesday. And for those of you who are new here, I’m Laura and I’ve officially reached the point in my life where I get to do whatever I want. The video / audio is available to you, but below the bullet points is also the readable version for the babes who like to read words on the screen. In this episode, we’re talking about: The Texas Senate primary and what went down between Jasmine Crockett and James Talarico The backlash creator Morgan faced after calling out comments about Colin Allred Voter suppression in Texas, and why that conversation matters nationally Why misogynoir keeps showing up when Black women run for higher office How Senate seats in “red states” still impact your “safe blue state” The Anglican Communion split, GAFCON, and conservative churches pushing back against women and LGBTQ inclusion We learn about the Episcopal Church’s progressive policies on gender identity protections Why you absolutely should not read the comments if you go viral (seriously don't) Plus yes, we’re talking (I mean, I'm ranting) about patriarchy in the church and how you should just leave Black women alone. Because apparently that fight is still very much alive. And before you spiral in a comment section somewhere: protect your energy. You are not required to argue with strangers on the internet. If the algorithm benefits from them yelling? Cool. Let them type. I got laid off. I applied to hundreds, maybe thousands, of jobs I was overqualified for. Nothing stuck. I'm not a super woo-woo girlie but I am a little woo-woo. At some point I thought... Maybe that’s s sign. Maybe I don’t belong in corporate spaces anymore. F**k 'em. The financial stress of not having a big girl corporate job with big girl corporate money is real. But outside of that it’s so f*****g freeing not answering to a corporate overlord. If you have a traditional job, you can’t just hop on LinkedIn and say whatever you want. I can. (I call Rick Scott a little bitch every day.) That’s why this exists. I’m going to say the things not everyone else can. We need people who can start conversations and push ideas forward. And we need community to support that work. That’s how this is supposed to function. And I am so grateful for those of you who are here reading my words. Thank you. The Texas Senate Primary HappenedLet’s talk about the Texas Senate primary between Jasmine Crockett and James Talarico. There is a creator, Morgan, who has been doing serious on-the-ground and online civic education work in Texas. I love her. Morgan (you can find her social links below) has been motivating people to register, vote, and understand how the system works. She breaks down complicated civic processes in ways that make sense to folks who haven't been as active as they probably should or could have been. I highly suggest following her on your social platform of choice. But if you harass her in any way I will hire an Etsy witch to poop in the top part of your toilet. You've been warned. Anyway, during the campaign, she posted about Talarico referring to Colin Allred as a “mediocre Black man.” In trying to relate to Black voters, and a Black woman specifically, he disparaged a Black man. It was weird and gross. Here’s the video. The harassment she received after posting was intense and she had to turn off comments. And yes, much of it came from white folks. Most of it. Here’s what frustrates me most... Black voters will still show up for Talarico in the general election because he is better than any Republican option. Black people have historically voted for their survival which, spoiler alert, benefits us ALL. If the roles were reversed? If Jasmine Crockett had committed a similar misstep? White voters would not offer that same grace. I hate that for all of us and we need to keep having conversations with fellow white folks about their misogynoir when it relates to our votes. Talarico won the primary. From what I’ve read, he’s considered progressive and I truly I hope that holds up. Texas deserves meaningful, progressive change. Republicans have ruined that state. One of the most encouraging parts of the primary was Morgan in Dallas County and Black Girls Who Brunch in Harris County creating a friendly competition to drive voter turnout. That energy was inspiring and has me eying my own nearby counties to see who wants to do the same for Florida's upcoming Senate and Governor's races. Texas now has more than 18.6 million registered voters for the March 2026 primary which is a record high. Harris County alone added nearly 195,000 voters over four years. Let's. F*****g. Go. Morgan also made it clear that voter suppression, not identity, is the real barrier. A Black woman could absolutely win in Texas and the reason people assume she can’t is because they don’t show up. We need to all show up. When Black women push for more power the tone shifts. People loved Jasmine Crockett when she was sparring with Marjorie Taylor Greene in a delightfully petty way. But he moment she ran for higher office the perception of her shifted. It's not an accident. Here’s Morgan speaking directly on voter suppression in Texas. If you’re in a blue state thinking this doesn’t affect you, it does. Senate seats shape national policy. The decisions ripple across state lines and it matters who is elected for national seats even in your safe blue progressive state. And if you want states like Texas to shift, you must amplify the voices already doing the work. You register, you show up, you vote based on who makes your community safer and stronger and make sure that your family and friends and church members and whoever are all doing the same. We ow it to our neighbors to set aside the apathy and vote in a way that helps them. The Anglican Girlies are Fighting! Progress vs. PatriarchyA coalition of conservative Anglican churches is meeting to elect a leader to rival the Archbishop of Canterbury (a woman!), deepening the theological split within the Anglican Communion. I found this fascinating and I wanted to know more. It wasn't what I assumed. The Global Anglican Future Conference (GAFCON), formed in 2008, represents many conservative churches, primarily in Africa and Asia. They do not like the liberal shifts in parts of the Communion, including the ordination of women and greater LGBTQ inclusion. They protested the Church of England’s appointment of its first woman Archbishop of Canterbury, Sarah Mullally. Which is... weird? Why isn't a woman qualified to hold that position? I also learned that the Church of England is called the Mother Church which is definitely not weird at all. Meanwhile, the Episcopal Church has taken progressive steps toward inclusion and affirming LGBTQ members. They've even incorporated gender identity protections into church law including mandating that preferred names and pronouns are included on church forms. I was surprised to read about this but pleasantly so! So the conflict is about non-traditional patriarchal leadership. It’s about LGBTQ inclusion. It’s about whether institutions evolve or double down on their outdated conservative b******t. Patriarchy doesn’t help anyone (even men) but it’s deeply embedded into our world and when progress happens, there’s always backlash. Good on the Episcopalians and I hope to see more progressive change happen within all religious spaces. Don’t Read the CommentsLast point. If you go viral, do not read the comments. No seriously, don’t. It's not worth your energy I promise. The insults are recycled, tired, and frankly not even insults. The labels don’t make sense (liberal and communist are not synonyms, Timothy). Sure some accounts are bots and some are influenced by coordinated astroturfing campaigns designed to flood comment sections with repetition until it feels like consensus. The repetition is powerful and it can trick the brain into thinking something is widely accepted, even when it’s manufactured. No one is immune to it but man to the conservatives really fall for it. And hard. You are not required to argue with strangers on the internet. In fact I encourage you not to. If you are a content creator and the engagement pays your bills, fine, do what you gotta do. But if you’re a regular person with limited energy I urge you to use it not on internet strangers. They don't care about your logical and rational explanations. You will not change the mind of someone who does not respect you and how can they when they're slinging lame school yard insults your way? Protect your energy and instead se it to register people to vote. Talk to the relatives who actually know you. Invest your time where influence for progressive change in people (even if it is incremental) is possible. And if the comments boost the algorithm? Let them type. My analytics look great, actually. And if that's what it takes to pay my bills y'all can call me a Lesbian Poet (whatever that means) all day. So here’s the real question: Where are you putting your energy right now? LinksPatreon: https://www.patreon.com/OkayishAF Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@okayishaf Instagram:: https://www.instagram.com/okayishaf/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/OkayishAF Hire me: https://okayishaf.com/vibes Morgan Threads: https://www.threads.com/@morganbetalkin IG: https://www.instagram.com/morganbetalkin/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@morga_tt Articles referenced: Conservative Anglicans to pick rival leader, widening Church rifts Anglican Communion Mission Anglican Communion on Gender Justice HRC Stances of Faiths on LGBTQ+ Issues: Episcopal Church Texan James Talarico becomes a fresh face of Democrats’ midterm hopes after Senate primary win Live results: Allred seeks to oust Johnson in Texas House primary Your Local Election HQ: How many people are registered to vote in your county?

    38 min
  5. Ep 08: The Kākāpō Episode

    Feb 25

    Ep 08: The Kākāpō Episode

    In This EpisodeThis week’s episode is a heartfelt deep dive into the world’s cutest, and most lovable flightless parrot. In fact, it is the only flightless parrot! Inspired by reporting from the Associated Press and conservation work led by New Zealand’s Department of Conservation, this episode explores how a rare bumper berry season is giving the critically endangered kākāpō a shot at population growth. We talk about what makes these birds so adorable, why their survival depends on very specific environmental conditions, and how humans are actively working to keep them from disappearing. Let's just cut to the chase here this is me gushing over a bird for like 10 minutes with some education sprinkled in. You're welcome. LinksAP Article: https://apnews.com/article/kakapo-flightless-parrot-breeding-new-zealand-birds-9b3e6532cd17331831b0fd3aa41ee41fgl=1ch3idaup*MQ..gs*MQ..&gclid=CjwKCAiA2PrMBhA4EiwAwpHyC5vGFpaNAVs6P-4QfU0QklHe3LqenGNwZn9yi-lOvqHzUOQktHjh2hoCOlsQAvDBwE&gbraid=0AAAAAC5L6PA0GB64MMHZ9kC4vJQjoTgJL Department of Conservation: https://www.doc.govt.nz/our-work/kakapo-recovery/what-we-do/kakapo-cam-live-from-the-nest/ Rakiura Live Feed: https://www.youtube.com/live/BfGL7A2YgUY?si=FRbQPPyawri6GHkI Kākāpō mating call: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6IEk57nYb8o Bumper crop info: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bumper_crop Readable version: Nobody talk to me. The kakapo are breeding. Hello everyone. I am very tired. Having a uterus is a scam and I will never forgive my father for not giving me a Y chromosome. Coco wasn’t eating for a few days so I had to take her to the emergency vet, which sucked, and my depression has been intense. Everything’s fine now, she’s eating, her bloodwork was fine, and she’s taking her meds. I just want her to be okay. I’m still in pain, still tired, and this is a one-woman show, so please forgive the lack of content lately. I sometimes scroll the AP oddities section because we need news that isn’t doom and gloom, and I found an article about New Zealand’s flightless parrot being in a rare mood for romance thanks to a bumper berry harvest. A bumper crop just means an unusually large harvest of wild berries, which matters because baby kakapo rely on them to survive. Somehow the birds know when this will happen and time their breeding around it. They can go years, even decades, without successful breeding and almost went extinct partly because humans introduced predators like cats and dogs etc to their islands. The kakapo is the only flightless parrot in the world, it lives on the forest floor, and it’s f*****g adorable. I just love it so much. People thought they were extinct in the 1970s, but small populations were found on remote islands and conservationists began tracking them and protecting the species. They’ve moved many to predator-free islands and are carefully managing breeding to keep genetic diversity strong. Over the last thirty years the known population has grown from around fifty birds to over two hundred, and with this bumper berry season things are looking hopeful. They monitor the eggs, track the birds, and even run live nest cams. I love love love watching this little girlie pop in her burrow. It's my new favorite thing to do. Okay so bird mating is weird. We know this. The males dig shallow bowls in the ground and make these deep booming sounds to attract females, followed by metallic chirping noises that supposedly sound like rusty springs. It’s so silly and I love them. You can watch them online and learn their stories, and honestly it is the best thing that's happened all day. There are still humans doing good things. Sometimes you just have to read about birds and bumper crops and badly pronounce names until you find a little joy. It really can be that simple thought it isn't always. I know this is short. I’m still dealing with pain, depression, life, finances, and parenting, and I’m trying to stop isolating, which is so very very hard. Going forward, the podcast and newsletter are being combined so the newsletter will be a readable version of the podcast each Wednesday. Patreon members will also get early access to upcoming videos before they go public. Editing takes time and energy and I’m just one person doing it all so thank you for being here and for understanding when I need a break. Before you go, tell me your favorite animal. Mine is now the kakapo. I will be obsessed with this bird forever. Thanks for being here. I appreciate you and I’ll see you next time.

    13 min
  6. Ep 07: I Don't have Any Answers At All

    Feb 10

    Ep 07: I Don't have Any Answers At All

    In this episode I talk about my new ADHD YouTube fixation, CC Suarez and how some of her videos got me thinking about what the line is for what you will tolerate from people you associate with. Is buying from Amazon a deal breaker for you? Is someone going to Starbucks or Target or still drinking Coke something you can't look past? I also talk about Discord's announcement that they will require age verification or default you to a teen level setting starting in March. I read a bunch of policies to you but alas, I have no answers. For any of it. It's all one big thought experiment and I am just here on this ride with you. For the folk who prefer to read rather than listen: I will have a paragraph style format up of this podcast shortly. Thank you for your patience! Links mentioned in the episode: Discord Launches Teen-by-Default Settings Globally: https://discord.com/press-releases/discord-launches-teen-by-default-settings-globally How Discord Works with Law Enforcement: https://discord.com/safety/360044157931-working-with-law-enforcement BBC Article ID photos of 70,000 users may have been leaked, Discord says: https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/c8jmzd972leo The Verge Article Discord will require a face scan or ID for full access next month: https://www.theverge.com/tech/875309/discord-age-verification-global-roll-out?utm_content=buffer67be9&utm_medium=social&utm_source=bsky.app&utm_campaign=verge_social CC Suarez YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@IAMCCSuarez Social LinksYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@OkayishAFGaming Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@okayishaf Instagram:: https://www.instagram.com/okayishaf/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/OkayishAF Hire me: https://okayishaf.com/vibes

    30 min

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This is OkayishAF Does Whatever She Wants a weekly podcast where I say the things some folks might be afraid to say, or can't say, with a mix of humor, chaos, and honesty. All I have is my time and my reputation. Come hang out with me while I spend my time talking about things I love and things that suck while doing my best to use my Karen powers for good. Expect talks on mental health, politics, gaming, books, creative work, and why corporate America can kiss my Okayish ass. If you’re here for realness, community, and maybe some rants that sound like your inner monologue during that meeting that could have been an email you’re in the right place. Hate listeners welcome. Patreon plugs inevitable. Intro music by Rob Panico.