What if you could remember something painful without your body responding as though it were happening all over again? In this episode of Riding the Trauma Train, Lydia is joined by husband-and-wife team Kim and Carl Dourish, co-creators of The MANSE Method®, for a conversation about trauma, memory, triggers, grief and emotional responses. Kim and Carl describe The MANSE Method® as a psycho-sensory approach that explores the emotional intensity connected with difficult memories, without requiring someone to repeatedly retell what happened. Lydia also shares her own experience of using The MANSE Method® with a distressing childhood memory. WHAT WE COVER How The MANSE Method® developed Carl’s background in counselling and psycho-sensory techniques Tapping, eye movements, breath, sensory input and language The difference between memory and emotional intensity Why someone may not need to share the details of a painful memory How sights, sounds, smells and sensations can act as triggers Childhood trauma, grief, bullying, veterans and emergency services Carl’s experience of grief following the sudden death of his son Kim’s lived experience of trauma Lydia’s personal experience of The MANSE Method® Why different approaches can exist alongside each other Kim and Carl’s vision for creating a ripple of transformation LYDIA’S EXPERIENCE Lydia went into her experience of The MANSE Method® sceptical. She chose a childhood memory that initially carried an emotional intensity of around nine out of ten and describes feeling as though she was seven years old again. As she went through the process, that intensity changed. Lydia describes it as being like watching a film and then turning the television off. Nearly five months later, she still knew what had happened, but could no longer access the memory with the same emotional attachment. The practitioner guiding her never knew what the memory was. This is Lydia’s personal experience and is not a prediction of how somebody else will respond. GRIEF, MEMORY AND LOVE Carl speaks openly about losing his son suddenly at the age of 28. He describes working with some of the painful memories around his son’s death, not to forget him or remove the love connected to him, but to make more space for happier memories of his life. YOU CAN’T CHANGE HISTORY At the heart of the episode is a simple question: You cannot change what happened, but can you change how it feels? Kim and Carl are careful not to promise healing or a cure. Instead, they explore whether the emotional charge connected with an experience can change while the memory itself remains. The episode also reinforces that trauma is personal. If an experience continues to affect your life, your response matters. CONTENT NOTE This episode includes discussion of childhood sexual abuse, bereavement, child loss, stillbirth, PTSD, suicide, bullying and other traumatic experiences. Please listen in the way that feels right for you. Pause, skip a section or return another day if needed. This episode is for information and conversation and is not a replacement for personalised medical, psychological or therapeutic support. CONNECT WITH KIM AND CARL The MANSE Method®: www.themansemethod.com TikTok: @themansemethod LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/kim-dourish/ Email: contact@themansemethod.com CONNECT WITH LYDIA Riding the Trauma Train: www.ridingthetraumatrain.co.uk Right Track Wellbeing: www.righttrackwellbeingltd.com Instagram: @ridingthetraumatrain | @right.track.wellbeing TikTok: @ridingthetraumatrain Email: hello@ridingthetraumtrain.com | hello@righttrackwellbeingltd.com Grab your ticket, take a seat, and remember: you are not on this journey alone.
