It's You. Oh F*ck. It's ME. In Session with a Psychotherapist.

Chad Taylor
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It’s You. Oh F*ck. It’s ME.In Session with a PsychotherapistThis podcast isn’t about self-improvement.It’s about unconscious self-avoidance.I’m Chad Taylor — psychotherapist and author of It’s You, Oh F**k, It’s ME.The book sits behind these conversations, not ahead of them. It's the reason this Podcast exists.These sessions explore relationships, addiction (the obvious ones and the socially acceptable ones), therapy, and the patterns we keep calling “healing” so we don’t actually have to change.No advice.No tools.No pretending insight equals growth.Just real conversations — solo episodes, sessions with other therapists, clients, and readers — sitting in the gap between what we understand and how we actually live.If you want reassurance, this isn’t it.If you want honesty, you’re in the right place.Book: It’s You, Oh F**k, It’s ME. https://chadtaylorpsychotherapy.com.au/book-sales

Episodes

  1. 4D AGO

    Me - Victim

    In today's episode I am on my own. Last week Toni Will left the next guest a question. What have you changed your mind about lately? Usually my guests get hit with that question without warning. This time it landed on me. For most of my life I believed the problem in my relationships was the other person. The partner. The boss. The coworker. Different people. Same story. Eventually something uncomfortable happened. I ran out of people to blame. This episode sits inside that turning point. The moment where I started to realise that if the same dynamic keeps happening with different people, the common denominator might actually be me. I talk about how easy it is to build an identity around being the victim of your story. How we walk around repeating the same narrative about what happened to us, who hurt us, and why things never seem to work out. And how confronting it is when that story starts to fall apart. I also talk about a moment that landed for me recently through a simple Japanese haiku. Barn burns down. Now I can see the moon. Sometimes the thing we thought was protecting us is actually what was blocking us. When the structure collapses it feels terrifying. But sometimes that collapse is exactly what lets us see something deeper that was always there. This episode also touches on something that gets missed in a lot of personal development conversations. Responsibility sounds mature. It sounds enlightened. But responsibility can also be dangerous if you offer it in the wrong places. If you start owning your behaviour around people who will not look at themselves, that responsibility can quickly be turned into a weapon against you. So the work is not just about looking in the mirror. It is also about knowing where it is safe to do that work. Because if only one person in a relationship starts waking up, the dynamic often cannot survive the shift. We do not solve it. We sit inside the discomfort of recognising our own patterns, our own ego, and the ways we keep repeating the same story. The question I leave for the next guest is this. Have you ever admitted you were wrong or at fault in a relationship and had it used as a weapon against you? It’s You, Oh F**k, It’s ME In Session with a Psychotherapist Hosted by Chad Taylor No tips. No fixing. Just real conversations. You can find my book here- https://chadtaylorpsychotherapy.com.au/book-sales Instagram- https://www.instagram.com/chadtaylor.itsyou/?hl=en Email- chadtaylorpsychotherapy@gmail.com

    11 min

  2. MAR 3

    Toni W - Relief

    In this episode, I’m joined by Toni Will. Toni is the General Manager of a men’s professional hockey team in Michigan. She is one of the few women in the world in that role. She is five and a half years sober, runs a coaching business helping high functioning professionals reduce or remove substances from their lives, hosts a podcast, and has a book coming out this year. We sit inside pressure, identity, and relief. Not as ideas. As lived experience. We talk about high performance environments. What happens when success breeds more pressure. What it means to be at the top of your field and still be human. We move into sobriety. Not as a badge. Not as a moral high ground. But as something that can start as armor. Toni speaks openly about using sobriety as protection at first. Living it out loud. Hiding inside the identity so she would not slip back into who she used to be. We sit with the tension between pride and self righteousness. Between healing and ego. Between growth and performance. Then we land on something deeper. Relief. Not just addiction to substances. Addiction to relief. The search for dopamine. The escape through food, shopping, achievement, busyness, validation. We ask the harder question. What are you actually trying to escape? This is not a conversation about fixing addiction. It is about noticing where relief has quietly replaced presence. We do not resolve it. We leave it where it lives. The question Toni leaves for the next guest is this. What have you changed your mind about lately? It’s You, Oh F**k, It’s ME In Session with a Psychotherapist is a podcast about relationships, self avoidance, and the shit we pretend is not us. Hosted by Chad Taylor, psychotherapist and author of It’s You, Oh F**k, It’s ME. No tips. No fixing. Just honest conversations. Toni is a Coach and Author and can be found at: Website: toniwill.com (empowHER 2026 - conference, Rebellious Success - book) Insta - imtoniwill LinkedIn - Toni Lentini Will You can find my book here- https://chadtaylorpsychotherapy.com.au/book-sales Instagram- https://www.instagram.com/chadtaylor.itsyou/?hl=en Email- chadtaylorpsychotherapy@gmail.com

    16 min

  3. FEB 25

    Claire W - Blame

    In this episode, I’m joined by Claire. Claire is a counsellor, a mother, a wife, and someone I studied with. She understands this work from the inside, not just professionally, but personally. We sit inside authenticity, over responsibility, and rejection. Not as concepts. As lived relationship dynamics. We talk about the illusion that therapy is about fixing other people and the reality that it becomes a mirror. A constant confrontation with your own patterns. Your own defences. Your own subtle violence. We sit with what it costs to be fully authentic. Not the cost of hiding. The cost of actually showing up. Claire shares something uncomfortable. In trying not to reject her husband, she was rejecting him in micro ways. Correcting. Reframing. Telling him what he really meant. Gaslighting without intending to. We stay inside that tension. How good intentions still wound. How perfection creates distance. How taking too much responsibility can become another defence. This is not a conversation about getting it right. It is about noticing where we create the very dynamic we say we do not want. We do not fix it. We do not wrap it up. We leave it where it lives. In the complexity of two imperfect people trying to meet each other without weapons. The question Claire leaves for the next guest is this. What do you blame your partner for but secretly it suits you? It’s You, Oh F**k, It’s ME In Session with a Psychotherapist is a podcast about relationships, self avoidance, and the shit we pretend is not us. Hosted by Chad Taylor, psychotherapist and author of It’s You, Oh F**k, It’s ME. No tips. No fixing. Just honest conversations. Claire is a Clinical Psychotherapist and can be found at: Website - https://www.holisticcounselling.co.nz Insta - holistic_counselling_cwelch You can find my book here- https://chadtaylorpsychotherapy.com.au/book-sales Instagram- https://www.instagram.com/chadtaylor.itsyou/?hl=en Email- chadtaylorpsychotherapy@gmail.com

    22 min

  4. FEB 17

    Me - Accountability

    In this episode, I’m on my own. Solo episodes are different. Harder. There’s nowhere to hide when there’s no guest sitting across from you. This one sits inside resentment, projection, and accountability — not as theory, but as lived history. I speak about Pam, my former mother-in-law, and a period of my life where I was reactive, resentful, and convinced someone else was the problem. Messages were sent. Blame was projected. Stories were told — and believed. And then came the moment that this podcast is named after: Where I thought it was her. Oh f**k — it’s me. We sit inside what it costs to hold a story for decades. The bar stool version of 1982 that never ends. The righteousness of being wronged. The protection of staying the victim. Not to fix it. Not to rewrite it. But to notice how strong the pull is to look out instead of in. Amy’s message from the previous episode was simple: The next time you think about judging somebody, stop — and ask yourself why. This episode sits inside that. Where do I still judge? Where do I still protect? Where do I still tell stories that keep me safe but disconnected? We move through social media envy. Engagement frustration. Expectation inside relationships. Even a recent engagement and the quiet tension between authenticity and performance. What does it cost to wear the mask? What does it cost to remove it? We don’t land it neatly. We don’t resolve it. We leave it where it actually lives — inside the tension between awareness and embodiment. The message left for the next guest is this: What is the cost of being fully accountable to yourself — and fully authentic? And how does that cost you in your life? It’s You, Oh F**k, It’s ME — In Session with a Psychotherapist is a podcast about relationships, self-avoidance, and the shit we pretend isn’t us. Hosted by Chad Taylor, psychotherapist and author of It’s You, Oh F**k, It’s ME. No tips. No fixing. Just honest conversations. You can find my book here- https://chadtaylorpsychotherapy.com.au/book-sales Instagram- https://www.instagram.com/chadtaylor.itsyou/?hl=en Email- chadtaylorpsychotherapy@gmail.com

    10 min

  5. FEB 10

    Amy S - Judgement

    In this episode, I’m joined by Amy. Amy had read It’s You, Oh F**k, It’s ME and reached out to sit in a conversation. It’s her first time on a podcast, and we don’t make a story out of that. We stay with what’s actually there. We sit inside judgment — not as a concept, but as a lived pattern that shows up automatically, often before it’s noticed. We talk about how judgment starts early. Learned in families. Normalised as personality. Used as protection. And how it quietly follows us into adult life — into relationships, work, parenting, and intimacy — especially with the people we feel safest with. We stay with what it’s like to catch yourself after the judgment has already happened. Mid-thought. Mid-reaction. And to feel the discomfort of seeing it without immediately defending it, justifying it, or turning it into someone else’s fault. This isn’t a conversation about stopping judgment. It’s about noticing the cost. The cost of distance. The cost of righteousness. The cost of staying protected instead of present. We don’t clean it up. We don’t resolve it. We leave it where it actually lives. The episode ends with something left for the next guest to carry forward: The next time you think about judging somebody, stop, turn it around and ask yourself that question. Why am I about to judge them? That's it. It’s You, Oh F**k, It’s ME — In Session with a Psychotherapist is a podcast about relationships, self-avoidance, and the shit we pretend isn’t us. Hosted by Chad Taylor, psychotherapist and author of It’s You, Oh F**k, It’s ME. No tips. No fixing. Just honest conversations. You can find my book here- https://chadtaylorpsychotherapy.com.au/book-sales Instagram- https://www.instagram.com/chadtaylor.itsyou/?hl=en Email- chadtaylorpsychotherapy@gmail.com

    15 min

  6. FEB 3

    Sophie A - Mirroring

    In this episode, I’m joined by my partner, Sophie. We sit inside mirroring, masking, and perfectionism — not as ideas or frameworks, but as lived patterns playing out in real time. We talk about how mirroring starts early: fitting in, staying safe, learning how to belong. And how those same strategies quietly follow us into adult relationships, work, intimacy, and even the way we “do the work.” Not to fix it. Not to resolve it. But to notice the cost. The cost of staying palatable. The cost of hiding emotions. The cost of rejecting parts of yourself before anyone else gets the chance. We don’t land a takeaway. We leave it where it actually lives — inside the tension of seeing a pattern and still feeling pulled to repeat it. The episode ends without answers, but with a question worth sitting in. It’s You, Oh F**k, It’s ME — In Session with a Psychotherapist is a podcast about relationships, self-avoidance, and the shit we pretend isn’t us. Hosted by Chad Taylor, psychotherapist and author of It’s You, Oh F**k, It’s ME. No tips. No fixing. Just honest conversations. Sophie is a Therapist and can be found at www.thewolfyoufeed.com You can find my book here- https://chadtaylorpsychotherapy.com.au/book-sales Instagram- https://www.instagram.com/chadtaylor.itsyou/?hl=en Email- chadtaylorpsychotherapy@gmail.com

    16 min

  7. JAN 27

    This Isn’t a Self-Help Podcast

    This is the first episode, and I want to be clear from the start. This isn’t self-help. It’s not advice. And it’s definitely not about fixing yourself so you can be more tolerable in relationships. I’m introducing why this podcast exists, why I wrote It’s You, Oh F**k, It’s ME, and why I’m done with the performance of “doing the work” while nothing actually changes. I explain the structure going forward: Solo episodes where I speak honestly about addiction, self-avoidance, unconsciousness and my own patterns of repeated behavioursConversations with other therapists who aren’t interested in teaching, just in being vulnerable and honestReal sessions with readers and clients, sitting in the middle of what’s actually happening for them — not the polished versionThis podcast is about the moments we usually rush past. The discomfort we rename as growth. And the ways we keep choosing the same outcomes while blaming different people. No tips. No transformation tricks. No neat ending. Just a place to stop lying to yourself. You can find my book here- https://chadtaylorpsychotherapy.com.au/book-sales Instagram- https://www.instagram.com/chadtaylor.itsyou/?hl=en Email- chadtaylorpsychotherapy@gmail.com

    13 min
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It’s You. Oh F*ck. It’s ME.In Session with a PsychotherapistThis podcast isn’t about self-improvement.It’s about unconscious self-avoidance.I’m Chad Taylor — psychotherapist and author of It’s You, Oh F**k, It’s ME.The book sits behind these conversations, not ahead of them. It's the reason this Podcast exists.These sessions explore relationships, addiction (the obvious ones and the socially acceptable ones), therapy, and the patterns we keep calling “healing” so we don’t actually have to change.No advice.No tools.No pretending insight equals growth.Just real conversations — solo episodes, sessions with other therapists, clients, and readers — sitting in the gap between what we understand and how we actually live.If you want reassurance, this isn’t it.If you want honesty, you’re in the right place.Book: It’s You, Oh F**k, It’s ME. https://chadtaylorpsychotherapy.com.au/book-sales

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