Two Anxious Girls

Dabeyri Torres-Estevez & Kristina Paolini
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Hi! We’re Dabby and Kristina, two psychotherapists who… are very anxious about everything in life, work, kids, fertility… and basically everything else. Each week on Two Anxious Girls, we’ll talk about life, work, motherhood, fertility, relationships, and all the chaos in between, from the perspective of therapists who are very aware of their own dysregulated selves. New episodes every Monday! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  1. Why Anxiety Makes You Need Control | Control Is the Anxious Girl’s Love Language

    6d ago

    Why Anxiety Makes You Need Control | Control Is the Anxious Girl’s Love Language

    Why anxiety makes us plan, micromanage, and struggle to let go. In this episode of Two Anxious Girls, we are talking about the sneaky way anxiety disguises itself as “being responsible,” “having it together,” or simply “caring a lot.” We are unpacking the connection between anxiety and control, including: Why planning can feel emotionally protectiveThe urge to micromanage partners, kids, schedules, and outcomesWhy uncertainty feels so uncomfortable for anxious mindsThe illusion of safety that control gives usWhat healthy surrender actually looks like Twoanxiousgirlspodcast@gmail.com @TwoAnxiousGirlsPodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    15 min
  2. Why Your Nervous System Is Addicted to Chaos

    May 25

    Why Your Nervous System Is Addicted to Chaos

    Why does calm sometimes feel uncomfortable… or even wrong? In this episode of Two Anxious Girls, we explore a powerful and often overlooked concept: how your nervous system can become conditioned to chaos and why stability can feel unfamiliar or even unsafe. We break down the clinical patterns behind this experience, including nervous system conditioning, attachment dynamics, and how early or repeated relational experiences shape what feels “normal” in adulthood. We also explore how healing actually works, not by eliminating your reactions, but by retraining your nervous system to tolerate and eventually trust calm, consistency, and emotional safety. Because healing doesn’t always feel exciting… sometimes it feels quiet. And that quiet is where safety begins. Twoanxiousgirlspodcast@gmail.com @TwoAnxiousGirlsPodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    14 min
  3. The Anger Beneath Anxiety: Why Anxiety Can Make You Irritable

    May 18

    The Anger Beneath Anxiety: Why Anxiety Can Make You Irritable

    Why do so many anxious women feel overwhelmed, but never angry? In this episode of Two Anxious Girls, we explore a powerful and often overlooked truth: sometimes anxiety isn’t just anxiety, it’s unexpressed anger. Many of us were never taught how to safely feel or express anger. Instead, we learned to stay agreeable, accommodating, and “easy to be around.” But when anger gets pushed down, it doesn’t disappear. It often shows up as overthinking, tension, people-pleasing, and emotional exhaustion. Twoanxiousgirlspodcast@gmail.com @TwoAnxiousGirlsPodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    16 min
  4. Did I Say Too Much? The Anxiety After Socializing

    May 11

    Did I Say Too Much? The Anxiety After Socializing

    Did you leave a social event feeling fine… only to spend the next 24 hours replaying every conversation in your head? In this episode of Two Anxious Girls, we are talking about the anxiety that shows up after socializing, the overthinking, the self-criticism, the “Did I say too much?” spiral, and the emotional exhaustion that can follow even positive interactions.  We explore: Why anxious brains replay conversationsPost-event rumination and fear of judgmentOversharing anxiety & rejection sensitivitySocial masking and emotional exhaustionIntroversion vs social anxietyHow to respond with more self-compassion instead of self-criticismIf you have ever analyzed a conversation for hours afterward or worried you were “too much,” this episode may interest you! Twoanxiousgirlspodcast@gmail.com @twoanxiousgirlspodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    14 min
  5. Why You People-Please (And How It’s Affecting Your Anxiety)

    May 4

    Why You People-Please (And How It’s Affecting Your Anxiety)

    In this episode of Two Anxious Girls, we break down the truth about people-pleasing, and why it’s not a personality trait, but often a learned anxiety response rooted in hypervigilance, fear of conflict, and the need to stay emotionally safe. We also get real about something not often talked about: even therapists struggle with people-pleasing. In this episode, we discuss: Why is people-pleasing often linked to anxiety and nervous system patternsHyper-awareness of others’ moods and emotional statesFear of conflict and avoiding difficult conversationsThe belief: “I don’t want to be too much.”The emotional cost of self-abandonmentWhy people-pleasing can lead to burnout, resentment, and overthinkingHow to start setting boundaries without guilttwoanxiousgirlspodcast@gmail.com @twoanxiousgirlspodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    15 min
  6. Things We Would Tell Our Younger Anxious Selves

    Apr 27

    Things We Would Tell Our Younger Anxious Selves

    In this episode, we are getting reflective and a little emotional as we talk about what we would say to our younger anxious selves. You know those moments… lying awake at night, overthinking everything you’ve ever said? Or those shower realizations that hit a little too hard? We explore what it felt like growing up with anxiety before we had the language for it, when everything felt like a catastrophe, and we quietly wondered if something was wrong with us. In this episode, we discuss:The anxious thought spirals we had growing up (and… still have sometimes)The belief that everyone else had life figured out except usHow anxiety can make everything feel urgent, overwhelming, and permanentLearning to replace self-criticism with self-compassionUnderstanding anxiety as a protective (but overactive) systemTwoanxiousgirlspodcast@gmail.com@twoanxiousgirlspodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    17 min
  7. The Depression Diet (and Anxiety Diet)

    Apr 20

    The Depression Diet (and Anxiety Diet)

    In this episode, inspired by Shrinking, we are exploring the idea of a “depression diet”… and what we are calling the anxiety version of it too. Not a diet with food but emotional patterns that lead to restrictions. Because when you are struggling, something starts to shift. You might begin pulling away from things that once felt easy. Or, on the flip side, trying to control everything just to feel okay. In this episode, we discuss:What a “depression diet” really looks likeHow depression can slowly shrink your world, your energy, your joy, your connectionThe “anxiety diet”, overthinking, overanalyzing, and trying to control uncertaintyWhy are both anxiety and depression actually protective responsesHow these patterns quietly reinforce themselves over timeThe difference between a temporary low mood and something deeper Twoanxiousgirlspodcast@gmail.com@Twoanxiousgirlspodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    11 min
  8. Trying, Waiting, Hoping... Anxiety & Fertility Struggles

    Apr 13

    Trying, Waiting, Hoping... Anxiety & Fertility Struggles

    In this episode, we are having a more vulnerable conversation about the emotional reality of trying to conceive, the waiting, the uncertainty, and the quiet grief that often goes unseen. Dabby shares part of her personal journey with infertility, opening up about how excitement slowly shifted into anxiety, questions, and a deep loss of control. Together, we explore what it means to hold hope while also navigating disappointment, triggers, and the pressure to “stay positive.” We talk about: The emotional weight of uncertainty and waitingGrieving a timeline that doesn’t unfold as expectedThe loss of control and identity shifts that can come with fertility strugglesNavigating triggers like pregnancy announcements and social situationsHow to hold hope without falling into toxic positivityInfertility is often experienced in silence, but you are not alone in this. If you’re in a season of trying, waiting, or hoping, this episode is a space for all of it: the hope, the grief, the anger, and everything in between. Your feelings are valid. Your story is still unfolding. Disclaimer: Although we are therapists, this podcast is not therapy and does not replace working with your own therapist. This episode is for educational and conversational purposes only. Twoanxiousgirlspodcast@gmail.com @Twoanxiousgirlspodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    20 min
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Hi! We’re Dabby and Kristina, two psychotherapists who… are very anxious about everything in life, work, kids, fertility… and basically everything else. Each week on Two Anxious Girls, we’ll talk about life, work, motherhood, fertility, relationships, and all the chaos in between, from the perspective of therapists who are very aware of their own dysregulated selves. New episodes every Monday! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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  • Creator
    Dabeyri Torres-Estevez & Kristina Paolini
  • Years Active
    2K
  • Episodes
    18
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © Dabby & Kristina
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