The Self-ish Me Podcast

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Self-ish Me is for women who spent years ticking all the right boxes in life, only to realise it never quite felt like theirs. Whether it is burnout, a life transition, or a quiet sense that something is missing — Self-ish Me is a resource and community that empowers women to put themselves first. Because starting with yourself is not selfish, it’s powerful. Our host Kamila Turek is a business psychologist, coach, and self-confessed late bloomer. This podcast is built on 8 years of personal experimentation, after burnout forced Kamila to rebuild her life from scratch. You will find science-backed research on psychology and behaviour change, and tested frameworks that Kamila used to build a life aligned with her own values, instead of someone else’s expectations. Join Kamila every Thursday for honest conversations and practical tools, plus one monthly expert conversation with psychologists, coaches, and women leaders to discuss how you can stop living by default and start living by choice — across careers, relationships, health, and sexuality. New here? Start with Episode 9: Rebuilding Self-Trust in World That Taught Women to Please, or Episode 20: Burnout Recovery for Women — The Five Stages, the Red Flags and What Actually Helped Me Rebuild.

  1. Oct 28

    Everyone Is Moving Forward. Why Do I Feel So Behind in My 30s?

    Have you ever felt like you’re behind in life because your career or relationships haven’t followed the timeline you thought they would? In this episode, Kamila and Lia talk about what it really means to them to be a late bloomer and why so much of that feeling comes from comparing your life to someone else’s. What does it actually mean to be a late bloomer? Kamila and Lia both know what it feels like to take a different path from the one you thought you were supposed to follow. From starting university and careers later than their peers to navigating relationships, confidence and changing expectations in their 30s, they explore why feeling “behind” can be so powerful, especially when everyone around you seems to be hitting the milestones before you. They talk honestly about life in your 30s, comparing yourself to others, career changes, relationships, confidence and the pressure to have it all figured out. They also explore the grief that can come with letting go of the life you thought you would have by a certain age, and the freedom that can come from realising you might not actually want that life anymore. You’ll hear practical ways to: Stop comparing your whole life to someone else’s highlight reelAsk yourself whether you actually want the life you’re envious ofUse knowing what you don’t want as a starting pointRecognise that you never truly start from scratch, because your experience and skills come with youSet boundaries instead of automatically saying yesExperiment with new choices before deciding whether they’re right for youBecause maybe being a late bloomer isn't about being behind at all. Maybe it's about giving yourself permission to grow, change and figure things out on your own timeline. If you're in your 30s or 40s and wondering, “Am I behind in life?”, this episode is for you. Enjoyed this conversation? 🎧 Listen to Rebuilding Self-Trust in a World That Taught Women to Please, another episode about learning to trust yourself, honour what you truly want, and stop putting everyone else first. https://open.spotify.com/episode/37DzZtiLB6CLoBTWLdeY9D?si=p9kSjQIvRCGokbkJTamgoA Connect with Kamila Insta @coachingwithkam Email Hello@selfishme.co.uk LinkedIn Kamila Turek | LinkedIn Connect with Lia Insta @apo_lua LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/apostolia-fotoglou/ Ready to put yourself first? Choose yourself, take action, and create a life that feels more like you. Explore coaching with Kam https://tr.ee/IuHai5qdzF

  2. Sep 23

    Career Pivot in Your Late 30s: Where Do You Even Start?

    You have been told a career pivot means starting from nothing, that stepping away from climbing the career ladder means throwing away everything you have built. And if you’re in your late 30s, changing careers can sound like an especially risky decision. But what if it isn’t starting over at all? What if you’re simply taking everything you’ve learned and using it differently? This episode dismantles that script for good. Kamila is joined by Kim Taylor to explore portfolio careers, career confidence, and a self discovery journey that shows why chasing the next promotion is not always the goal, and why good enough really is good enough. You will walk away with: A reframe for the fear of starting over, with proof your existing skills transfer further than you thinkA practical way to test a career pivot before you commit, from part time work to small side projectsLanguage to explain career gaps, short contracts or non-traditional paths with confidence at interview, and permission to let go of societal expectations about what a 'proper' career should look likeA clear way to weigh the financial trade offs of any career changePermission to stop climbing a ladder you never wanted, and redefine career growth for women on your own termsKim is an independent leadership and management trainer, facilitator and coach with over ten years in learning and development, whose own career pivot took her from blue chip corporates to teaching swimming. Kamila is a business psychologist and career coach who has built her own portfolio across learning and development, people management and yoga teaching. Press play if you are ready to stop living by someone else's script. This podcast is for women in the middle of rewriting their own story, looking for honest, research-backed conversations across relationships, sexuality, career and health. You will learn how to separate conditioning from choice, know what is truly yours, and build a life that actually feels like it belongs to you. If this episode has inspired you to go after the job you really want, here’s how to prepare for your interview and put your best foot forward. Interview Preparation That Actually Works: What Hiring Managers Never Tell You Connect with Kamila Insta @coachingwithkam Email Hello@selfishme.co.uk LinkedIn Kamila Turek | LinkedIn Connect with Kim Website www.withkim.co.uk LinkedIn www.linkedin.com/in/kimtaylormcr Insta @swimwithkimmcr Ready to put yourself first? Choose yourself, take action, and create a life that feels more like you. Explore coaching with Kam https://tr.ee/IuHai5qdzF

  3. Sep 3

    Choosing Myself: What’s Next for Self-ish Me

    What do I actually want? This episode is a little different. After spending the summer thinking about what I want Self-ish Me to become, I’m finally sharing a decision about the future of the podcast — and why it feels like such a fitting next step for everything Self-ish Me has always been about. I’m taking you back to why I started this podcast in the first place: questioning the expectations we’ve been given, choosing ourselves, and figuring out what actually feels like us. I’m also sharing what’s changing, why I’m moving to one guest episode a month, and the slightly scary new chapter I’m creating alongside the podcast. And throughout it all, there’s one question I’ve been coming back to again and again: What do I actually want? Not what should I want. Not what makes the most sense on paper. Not what everyone else thinks I should do. What do I actually want? Maybe that’s a question worth sitting with yourself. Here’s to being a little more selfish, and a lot more ourselves. 🤍 Insta @coachingwithkam Email Hello@selfishme.co.uk LinkedIn Kamila Turek | LinkedIn Linktree https://linktr.ee/selfishme Ready to put yourself first? Choose yourself, take action, and create a life that feels more like you. Explore coaching with Kam https://tr.ee/IuHai5qdzF

  4. Aug 26

    Letting Go of Shame: Stop Shrinking, Start Living

    Shame is something most of us have experienced, but we don’t always talk about where it comes from. Sometimes we feel shame about our bodies. About our choices. About the things that happened to us. And sometimes, we carry shame for things that were never ours to carry in the first place. Dr. Connie Kerali spent years in silence after being raped before choosing to speak her story publicly. In this deeply honest conversation, we explore the shame that surrounds sexual violence, the myths that make women question themselves, and the long, non-linear journey of finding your voice again. You will walk away with: A clear understanding of rape myths and how societal conditioning keeps survivors silent and self-blamingThe reminder that there is no 'right' timeline for sharing your story or starting therapyAn honest look at what therapy really feels like in the early stages and why things often get harder before they get easierPractical anchors for self-compassion and rebuilding self-trust when shame is loudestThe belief that the healing begins when the hiding endsDr. Connie Kerali is a medical doctor with over 15 years of experience, a transformational life coach, clinical hypnotherapist, and host of the Speak Shame podcast, where she creates a safe space for women to speak their truth. In this episode, Kamila opens up about her own relationship with shame — from staying quiet about painful periods to the shame that came with burnout and feeling like she should have known better. She shares what therapy felt like in those first months and the slow, unglamorous process of rebuilding. This one is personal, and that is exactly what makes it worth pressing play. This podcast is for women in the middle of rewriting their own story, looking for honest conversations that give them the courage to take the first step. You will learn how to separate conditioning from choice, understand what is truly yours, and build a life that actually feels like it belongs to you. If you have been a victim of sexual assault or violence, you can contact: The Survivors TrustNO MORE Global DirectoryRape Crisis England & Wales Connect with Kamila Insta @coachingwithkam Email Hello@selfishme.co.uk LinkedIn Kamila Turek | LinkedIn Connect with Dr Connie LinkedIn https://drconniekerali.com/links Podcast Speak Shame with Dr Connie Kerali Ready to put yourself first? Choose yourself, take action, and create a life that feels more like you. Explore coaching with Kam https://tr.ee/IuHai5qdzF

  5. Aug 19

    Identity Exploration: Do You Belong or Fit In?

    Somewhere between becoming a manager, becoming a parent, getting divorced, changing careers or simply moving somewhere new, you stopped feeling entirely like yourself, and never talked about it. In this episode, Kamila is rediscovering identity out loud, using her own move to Kenya as the entry point into a question most of us quietly live with: who are we when the ground shifts. She unpacks what happens to our sense of self when a role, relationship or environment changes, why this self discovery journey rarely gets named, and how the fear of not belonging quietly steers decisions we don't notice we're making. You will walk away with: A clear psychological definition of identity, and why it depends on continuity rather than staying the same.Brené Brown's distinction between fitting in and belonging, and why confusing the two is exhausting.The idea of social identity, and why your roles shape your self-identity more than you realise.A simple experiment for rediscovering identity after any life transition, without needing everyone's approval.A new question to ask before adjusting yourself for a group: can I be fully myself here, not just accepted.Kamila is a Business Psychologist with ten years in Learning and Development, living her own rediscovering identity journey in real time. If you have been trying to impress people instead of expressing who you are, press play, this one might reframe belonging and authenticity for good. This podcast is for women in the middle of rewriting their own story, looking for honest, research-backed conversations across relationships, sexuality, career and health. You will learn how to separate conditioning from choice, know what is truly yours, and build a life that actually feels like it belongs to you. Check out the Values and Decision Making episode. Connect with Kamila Insta @coachingwithkam Email Hello@selfishme.co.uk LinkedIn Kamila Turek | LinkedIn

  6. Aug 12

    Values and Decision Making: The Compass You Never Chose

    We all make decisions based on something, most likely our values. But what if we told you the values running your biggest decisions were never yours to begin with? They might be coming from your parents', your culture's, or your religion's, values you inherited so early you never thought to question whether they were actually yours. This week, Kamila unpacks values and decision making as her personal framework for navigating hard choices, sparked by a listener question on burnout recovery. It's part of her wider work on untangling societal conditioning from the choices that are actually yours. You will walk away with: A three-question exercise to identify your own top five values, fast and without overthinkingHow to spot which of your "values" are conditioning in disguise, and which are genuinely yoursA reframe of burnout recovery as a forced pause rather than a personal failureA repeatable way to use values and decision making together as your internal compass for whatever comes next Kamila is a Business Psychologist and coach whose work centres on reclaiming personal power and practical tools for women navigating change. Press play if you are ready to put values and decision making into practice in your own life. This podcast is for women in the middle of rewriting their own story, looking for honest, research-backed conversations across relationships, sexuality, career and health. You will learn how to separate conditioning from choice, know what is truly yours, and build a life that actually feels like it belongs to you. Connect with Kamila Insta @coachingwithkam Email Hello@selfishme.co.uk LinkedIn Kamila Turek | LinkedIn

  7. Aug 5

    The Messy Middle: Why Change Feels Like Failing

    Whether the change you are making is big or small, there is a messy middle waiting for you, full of doubt, low confidence, and uncertainty. It can make you feel like you are failing, or like you should have stayed with what you knew, the old job, the home, the friendship, the relationship, the belief. But deep down you knew it was no longer serving you, and that is why you chose to change. Today, Kamila takes you through the part of change nobody talks about, the messy middle, using Lewin's three stage model, unfreeze, change, refreeze, to explain why it exists. She is speaking from inside it herself, five days into moving from London to Nairobi. You will walk away with: A simple framework for understanding why the messy middle exists and feels so uncomfortablePermission to grieve what you are letting go of, even when you chose the changePractical tools for self-discovery that rebuild self trust when confidence dipsOne or two grounding habits to anchor you when everything else feels uncertain Kamila is a Business Psychologist and coach with ten years in learning and development, bringing that lens to her own experience of the messy middle. Press play if you need someone to tell you that what you are feeling is normal, and that you are not failing, you are becoming. This podcast is for women in the middle of rewriting their own story, looking for honest, research-backed conversations across relationships, sexuality, career and health. You will learn how to separate conditioning from choice, know what is truly yours, and build a life that actually feels like it belongs to you. If you would like more practical ways to boost your joy and happiness, check out this episode: https://open.spotify.com/episode/001BaK7DXAcV3FlU2gSvi3?si=GPXRgKzRRTePk4LSCf4xKA Connect with Kamila Insta @coachingwithkam Email Hello@selfishme.co.uk LinkedIn Kamila Turek | LinkedIn

  8. Jul 29

    Women's Careers and Relationships: Define Success Your Way

    Ready to put yourself first? Choose yourself, take action, and create a life that feels more like you. Explore coaching with Kam https://tr.ee/IuHai5qdzF You can be lonely in a relationship and happy single. You can take a step back in your career and feel more like yourself than ever. The world has a script for what success looks like for women, and this episode is about tearing it up. Alice helps people get brave enough to define success on their own terms and actually go after it. As a TEDx speaker, keynote and facilitator who has worked with teams at Google, Deliveroo and Tesco, she brings that same spirit of women's empowerment and honesty about women's careers, motherhood and navigating relationships to this conversation with Kamila. Nothing is off limits. You will walk away with: A reframe on why staying in the wrong relationship (or the wrong role) is conditioning, not weaknessHow Alice turned a career demotion into the pivot that changed everything, by choosing authenticity over the safe pathWhat trade-offs in motherhood and women's careers can look like when you stop following someone else's timelineA self-compassion practice rooted in gratitude that the research says actually makes you happierWhy showing up as yourself, online and at work, is both the bravest and most strategic thing you can doIn this episode, Kamila also shares her own experience of walking away from a seven-year relationship, freezing her eggs to take the pressure off the biological clock, and stepping back from career momentum for burnout recovery and to prioritise her own wellbeing. Alice brings her own version of that story: how staying too long in the wrong relationship, a demotion at Deliveroo and the courage to finally define success on her own terms became the beginning of a completely new chapter, and the fuel for everything that followed, including the TEDx stage. This podcast is for women in the middle of rewriting their own story, looking for honest, research-backed conversations across relationships, sexuality, career and health. You will learn how to separate conditioning from choice, know what is truly yours, and build a life that actually feels like it belongs to you. Connect with Kam Insta @coachingwithkam LinkedIn Kamila Turek | LinkedIn Connect with Alice Website www.badassunicorn.co.uk, LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/alice-ter-haar/

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Self-ish Me is for women who spent years ticking all the right boxes in life, only to realise it never quite felt like theirs. Whether it is burnout, a life transition, or a quiet sense that something is missing — Self-ish Me is a resource and community that empowers women to put themselves first. Because starting with yourself is not selfish, it’s powerful. Our host Kamila Turek is a business psychologist, coach, and self-confessed late bloomer. This podcast is built on 8 years of personal experimentation, after burnout forced Kamila to rebuild her life from scratch. You will find science-backed research on psychology and behaviour change, and tested frameworks that Kamila used to build a life aligned with her own values, instead of someone else’s expectations. Join Kamila every Thursday for honest conversations and practical tools, plus one monthly expert conversation with psychologists, coaches, and women leaders to discuss how you can stop living by default and start living by choice — across careers, relationships, health, and sexuality. New here? Start with Episode 9: Rebuilding Self-Trust in World That Taught Women to Please, or Episode 20: Burnout Recovery for Women — The Five Stages, the Red Flags and What Actually Helped Me Rebuild.

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  • Creator
    Kamila Turek
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    38
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Kamila Turek
  • Show Website
    The Self-ish Me Podcast