I'm Not Gon Be Before You Long

Shanita

Stories, lessons, curiosities… and yeah, just random stuff. Childhood memories, marriage, motherhood, careers, friendships, boundaries, the music I love, and the things I’m learning along the way. Conversational, authentic, and multifaceted. I trust it will reach exactly who it’s meant for.

  1. May 20

    Reclaiming My Time - Ep. 15

    I'm currently on a social media detox — and in this episode I'm talking about what led me there and what stepping away from the noise does for me. But this isn't just about social media. It's about taking inventory of whatever is quietly consuming our time, our energy, and our focus, and asking ourselves if it's actually serving us. Everybody's thief looks different. What's yours? Let's reclaim what's ours.🖤

    17 min

  2. May 5

    You Da Birthday! - Ep. 14

    Since 2010 I've been showing up to concerts, comedy shows, and everything in between — sometimes with people, sometimes completely alone. And I wouldn't change a thing. In this episode I'm talking about what we give up waiting on somebody to go with us, why we do it, and what starts to happen when we finally just... show up for ourselves anyway. "You da birthday." Act accordingly. 🎂 Email: ingbbylpodcast@gmail.com

    24 min

  3. Apr 20

    Talk It Out Before You Walk It Out - Ep.. 13

    We've all been there — somebody does or says something, nobody addresses it directly, and suddenly the whole family is treating somebody differently based on a story that's been passed around so many times it barely resembles what actually happened. In this episode I'm talking about why we avoid hard conversations, what it costs us when we do, and what's actually possible on the other side of one. Inspired by a real moment in my own family. 🌱

    34 min

  4. Apr 12

    Trust the Process. The Results Don't Have a Choice. - Ep. 12

    We love a fresh start. A grand gesture. A Monday reset. But what if the thing that actually changes your life is a lot less dramatic than that? In this episode I'm talking about the power of consistency and what happens when you just keep showing up — even when it doesn't feel like anything is happening. From my Spanish journey to compound interest to the small daily choices that quietly shape who we become. The results don't care about your timeline. They just compound. For better or worse.

    15 min

  5. Mar 30

    Storytime: Ma'am...Why Is You Here? - Ep. 11

    Senior year of college, four bedrooms, three roommates, and one unexpected note on the door. We were getting a new roommate — and she was not what any of us anticipated. I had thoughts. A lot of them. But how I see it now versus how I saw it then is vastly different.

    19 min

  6. Mar 18

    I Realized I've Been Living in Survival Mode - Ep. 10

    In this episode, I’m unpacking what it looks like to live in survival mode even when life is “good.” From always expecting something to go wrong, to struggling to rest, to operating from scarcity no matter how much you have—I’m sharing how this mindset shows up in my everyday life and where it may have come from.

    32 min

  7. Mar 8

    Say Sorry Wit Yo Ugly Ass: The Art of Apologizing

    In this episode, we’re breaking down the art of apologizing—what it really takes and why some of us struggle with doing it. From intent versus impact to the psychology behind avoidance, I share insights, examples, and a simple framework to help you apologize effectively and thoughtfully. Email me at ingbbylpodcast@gmail.com

    23 min

  8. Feb 24

    Forty and Figuring It Out - Ep. 8

    I’m turning 40 and talking about what that means to me. Discussing how two things can be true at once, nervous system awareness, embracing every version of ourselves, protecting our peace, and how awareness sometimes costs us proximity. I’m also honest about areas where I still struggle, things I'm proud of, and stuff I’m still figuring it out. Email topics, questions, and thoughts to ingbbylpodcast@gmail.com or comment below!

    30 min
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Stories, lessons, curiosities… and yeah, just random stuff. Childhood memories, marriage, motherhood, careers, friendships, boundaries, the music I love, and the things I’m learning along the way. Conversational, authentic, and multifaceted. I trust it will reach exactly who it’s meant for.

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