Been there, done that, now what?

Terry and Clair
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Unfiltered. Unfinished. Real. This isn’t a guru podcast. It’s two people who’ve lived through chaos, survival mode, addiction, identity shifts and rebuilding from the ground up — now asking the question most people avoid: Now what? We talk about growth without pretending we’ve mastered it. Outgrowing old versions of yourself. Trusting calm when your nervous system prefers drama. ADHD brains. Relationships after chaos. The uncomfortable side of becoming better. It’s deep — but it’s not dull. There’s laughter. There’s calling each other out. There’s real talk without the fake motivation. Street experience meets self-development. Hard truths, proper humour, and conversations for people who’ve earned their growth. If you are treading water in life you’ve survived something and you’re ready for the next level — welcome.

Episodes

  1. 3h ago

    Been there - Ate that

    The conversation delves into the complex relationship between food and mental health, exploring the impact of #dopamine, #addiction, and emotional eating. It also addresses body image, self-esteem, and the challenges of food preparation and planning. Strategies for managing food cravings are discussed, emphasizing the importance of support and understanding. #mentalhealth #adhd #life Takeaways Food addiction is influenced by dopamine and can have a significant impact on mental health.Binge eating and emotional eating are linked to unresolved emotional issues and can affect self-esteem and body image. Chapters 00:00 The Food Dilemma08:26 The Impact of Food on Mental Health22:12 Body Image and Self-Esteem34:52 Strategies for Managing Food Cravings

    40 min

  2. May 22

    Fixes that didn't fix you

    The conversation delves into the reality of living life with ADHD and addiction, exploring the messy middle of the journey. It discusses the search for external fixes and the role of spirituality in recovery, providing insights into the challenges and experiences of individuals navigating these complex issues. Takeaways Seeking external fixesThe role of spirituality in recovery Chapters 00:00 The Role of Spirituality in Recovery #ADHD #Recovery #Mentalhealth

    36 min

  3. Apr 28

    Social Anxiety

    This week's podcast conversation delves into the challenges of #social anxiety, #negative self-talk, #addiction, #alcoholism and the impact on #relationships. It explores the factors contributing to social anxiety, #copingmechanisms, and the struggle with #self-esteem and addiction. Terry and Clair discuss the need for understanding, support, and the complexity of #mentalhealth. Takeaways Navigating #socialanxiety and self-judgmentImpact of childhood experiences on mental health Chapters 00:00 Navigating Peaks and Troughs05:14 Factors Contributing to Social Anxiety10:14 Impact of Childhood Experiences15:24 Seeking Understanding and Support21:10 Struggle with Taking Action

    23 min

  4. Apr 18

    Celebrating Seven Years of Sobriety

    As they discuss Terry's 7-year sobriety birthday, the conversation covers the journey of #sobriety, personal growth, and the challenges faced in maintaining a #soberlifestyle. It delves into the #emotional and identity-related aspects of sobriety, as well as the impact on #relationships and experiences. The speakers reflect on the changes and #growth they have experienced over the years. Takeaways Seven years of sobrietyPersonal growth and maturity#addiction#recovery#alcoholism Chapters 00:00 Setting Up and New Beginnings10:12 Challenges and Growth23:31 Dealing with Feelings and Identity32:45 Personal Growth and Maturity

    36 min

  5. Apr 11

    Coming back swinging

    The conversation explores the positive attributes of #recovery and the concept of #ADHD as a superpower. It delves into the #resilience and strength associated with ADHD, highlighting the highs and lows of the condition. The hosts share personal experiences and insights, emphasizing the transformative nature of ADHD and its impact on their lives. Takeaways ADHD as a SuperpowerResilience and Strength Chapters 00:00 ADHD as a Superpower

    33 min

  6. Mar 27

    ADHD Love Bombing

    The conversation delves into the complexity of relationships, exploring the impact of ADHD, addiction, attachment wounds, and the search for love and trust. It also highlights the phenomenon of love bombing and hyperfocus in relationships, shedding light on the challenges and dynamics of romantic connections. Takeaways Love bombingHyperfocus in relationships #ADHD #ADDICTION #PODCASTING #PODCAST Chapters 00:00 The Role of Hyperfocus in Relationships

    30 min

  7. Mar 15

    Rejection Sensitivity

    Terry and Clair discuss rejection sensitivity and its impact on their lives, relationships, and personal growth. They explore the connection between rejection sensitivity, trauma, attachment, and ADHD, and the challenges of self-improvement and self-acceptance. Takeaways Rejection sensitivity impacts relationshipsSelf-improvement can be a lifelong journey Chapters 00:00 Understanding Rejection Sensitivity06:21 Self-Improvement and Self-Acceptance18:14 The Pursuit of Contentment

    19 min

  8. Mar 6

    Sober dancing

    The conversation delves into the themes of self-discovery and acceptance, exploring the journey of #findingoneself, evolving, navigating #sobriety, and embracing the process of self-acceptance. It also touches on unlearning societal expectations and embracing the aging process. The dialogue provides insights into the complexities of personal growth and the challenges of self-acceptance. Takeaways #Selfdiscovery#Acceptance Chapters 00:00 Finding Ourselves12:26 Navigating Sobriety and Identity30:15 The Journey of Self-Acceptance44:13 Unlearning and Embracing Aging

    45 min

  9. Feb 27

    Enmeshment?

    The conversation delves into the impact of #ADHD on #addiction, #self-sabotage, and #selfacceptance. It also explores the experiences of #ADHDdiagnosis, childhood #trauma, #grief, and #hyperfixations. The theme of understanding oneself and finding acceptance is prevalent throughout the discussion. Takeaways ADHD and its impact on addiction and self-sabotageThe struggle with acceptance and understanding oneself Chapters 00:00 ADHD and Self-Sabotage06:36 ADHD Diagnosis and Childhood Experiences11:51 ADHD and Books16:57 ADHD and Childhood Experiences23:32 ADHD and Grief29:23 ADHD and Self-Acceptance

    34 min

  10. Feb 21

    Think like Tel

    The conversation delves into Terrys childhood trauma, family dynamics, and early introduction to alcohol and drug use. It then explores encounters with Alcoholics Anonymous and the Young Offenders Institution, followed by a discussion on rehabilitation and determination to change. The impact on family and personal growth is also highlighted. The conversation covers Terry's journey of transformation, from meeting Elena to overcoming addiction and finding purpose. It explores the impact of sobriety on his life, the challenges he faced, and the positive changes he experienced. Terry's reflections on his past behavior and personal growth are highlighted, along with the role of visualization and manifestation in his life. Takeaways Childhood trauma and its impactStruggles with addiction and self-medication VisualizationOvercoming addiction Chapters 00:00 Childhood Trauma and Family Dynamics08:00 Rehabilitation and Determination to Change13:13 Impact on Family and Personal Growth22:09 New Beginnings and Meeting Eleanor28:21 Transition to a Sober Lifestyle35:54 Manifestation and Life Changes

    45 min

  11. Feb 12

    Clair from where?

    The conversation delves into Clair's journey of recovery and the struggles with addiction. It explores the challenges faced, the turning points, and the reflections on the recovery journey. Takeaways Recovery JourneyStruggles with Addiction Chapters 00:00 Reflecting on the Recovery Journey

    33 min
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Unfiltered. Unfinished. Real. This isn’t a guru podcast. It’s two people who’ve lived through chaos, survival mode, addiction, identity shifts and rebuilding from the ground up — now asking the question most people avoid: Now what? We talk about growth without pretending we’ve mastered it. Outgrowing old versions of yourself. Trusting calm when your nervous system prefers drama. ADHD brains. Relationships after chaos. The uncomfortable side of becoming better. It’s deep — but it’s not dull. There’s laughter. There’s calling each other out. There’s real talk without the fake motivation. Street experience meets self-development. Hard truths, proper humour, and conversations for people who’ve earned their growth. If you are treading water in life you’ve survived something and you’re ready for the next level — welcome.

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