The RealHER Podcast

Kristina Fusco

If you found this show, I genuinely don't think it was by accident. The RealHER is the podcast for ambitious women who know they want more out of life and are figuring out what the hell that means. Every Tuesday your hype woman and wisest bestie Kristina Fusco gets into the real stuff. The heartbreak and the healing. The identity shifts and the plot twists. The big dreams and the messy beautiful middle of becoming the woman you actually want to be. This is not a highlight reel. This is not a five steps to fix your life situation. This is the conversation you needed to have with your most honest, most loving, most hyped up best friend. The one who has been through it, became HER, and came back to walk you through yours. Real relationships, real success, and a real life you actually love are not just possible for other women. They are waiting for you on the other side of this. New episodes drop every Tuesday. Ready to stop doing this alone and get into the actual room with women who are becoming right alongside you? Come find us at therealher.co/society. Follow along on Instagram at @therealherpod and @kristina_fusco and join the RealHER Inner Circle for new episodes straight to your inbox at the link in our bio.

  1. 2d ago

    (#TBT): Getting the Degree and Not Wanting the Job

    This week, we're throwing it back to one of the very first conversations of The RealHER Podcast. My sister Ari finished her master’s degree in early education, walked out of her kindergarten practicum, and called our dad crying because she knew teaching was not for her. Today she walks into a law firm every morning looking like Elle Woods, and I could not be prouder of her. Ari was the first Fusco to sit in the chair with me, and there was no better person to start with than my #1 bestie from day one. In this episode we are getting into what it was really like growing up as sisters who almost never fought, why comparison is the thief of joy, and how I made it through high school with glasses, acne, braces, and a whole lot of delusional confidence. We talk about ending up at the same college, being raised by immigrant parents who wanted us to get all the degrees, and how neither of us ended up doing what we went to school for. Ari walks us through her full career pivot from education to childcare director to partnership manager to client and business development in corporate America. She also shares how she started posting her outfits online with about 20 followers, and why the $18.99 veil from her wedding still lives rent free in my head. Some people know exactly what they want to do from day one, and that is amazing. For the rest of us, the path is not a straight line, and that is more than okay. You are allowed to try something, realize it is not for you, and pivot as many times as it takes. Wanting something new does not mean you will never be happy. It means you are still growing, babe. Follow Ari on Instagram: https://instagram.com/arianasullivan_ Topics we get into: nonlinear career path, career change in your 20s, leaving teaching, sister relationships, comparison is the thief of joy, confidence in high school, not peaking in high school, immigrant parents, degrees you do not use, starting a fashion page, budget wedding tips, becoming HER New Here? 🩷 Come join us at The RealHER Society | Social Membership for Women Stay Connected Follow along: 👉 Podcast IG: https://instagram.com/therealherpod 👉 Personal IG: https://instagram.com/kristina_fusco Get new episodes delivered straight to your inbox, plus behind the scenes, updates, and a little weekly hype from your bestie: 👉 Join the RealHER Inner Circle: https://app.flodesk.com/form/69925a10baefbaf8795580de

  2. Oct 6

    "Not All Men" Doesn't Change Anything

    Content note: This episode contains discussions of sexual assault and sexual violence against women. Please take care of yourself and use your own discretion before listening. Something hit the news this past week that I could not shake, and when I sat down to record a totally different episode, my brain would not let me do it. Another woman drugged, another woman sexually assaulted, and I have been upset and angry ever since. I know this is not a political platform or a news outlet, but this one affects women. It affects me, and it affects you. In this episode I am getting into why "not all men" completely misses the point, and why I would love to see good men getting angrier when this sh*t happens instead of getting defensive. I am sharing what me and my girlfriends did time and time again when we found a guy too drunk to get himself home in college, and why taking advantage of him would never cross a single woman's mind. We are talking about why my doctor told me to go on birth control at 18 before I left for university, why women are taught to watch our backs while nobody is teaching men consent, and why silence and passiveness are just as bad. To my women listening, I see you, I love you, and I will always believe you. To my men, I do not hate you, but I need you to start stepping up. Because 'not all men' does not change anything. Men changing men does. If you or someone you love needs support, the National Sexual Assault Hotline is available 24/7 at 1-800-656-4673. Topics we get into: not all men, believing women, teaching consent, sexual assault awareness, men holding men accountable, the bro code, raising sons, women's safety, speaking up New Here? 🩷 Come join us at ⁠The RealHER Society | Social Membership for Women⁠ Stay Connected Follow along: 👉 Podcast IG: ⁠https://instagram.com/therealherpod⁠ 👉 Personal IG: ⁠https://instagram.com/kristina_fusco⁠ Get new episodes delivered straight to your inbox, plus behind the scenes, updates, and a little weekly hype from your bestie: 👉 Join the RealHER Inner Circle: ⁠https://app.flodesk.com/form/69925a10baefbaf8795580de⁠

  3. Sep 29

    #TBH: I Went Full FBI on My Ex's New Girlfriend

    The Bestie Hotline is back, and my roommate Makenna is finally in the chair after this entire year of hearing me record through our bedroom wall. Bittersweet does not even begin to cover it because this is also her farewell episode before she packs up and moves to Washington. Two years, one penthouse, a million memories, and we are going out with a bang! In this episode Makenna and I are getting into your most honest anonymous submissions and besties; you did not hold back. We are talking about how to move forward when you know you want something different but have no idea what that something is yet, why you are probably FBI stalking your ex's new girlfriend right now and what that actually means, what to do when a casual situationship suddenly gives you very non-casual feelings, and how to show up for a friend who seems committed to staying stuck without losing yourself in the process. We are all going through the same stuff at the core. The messy middles, the unknown chapters, the changes nobody warned us about. That is exactly why we talk about it. Submit your own question to the Bestie Hotline: https://forms.gle/r8wt33FtayeisN3h7   New Here? 🩷 Come join us at The RealHER Society | Social Membership for Women   Stay Connected Follow along: 👉 Podcast IG: https://instagram.com/therealherpod 👉 Personal IG: https://instagram.com/kristina_fusco   Get new episodes delivered straight to your inbox, plus behind the scenes, updates, and a little weekly hype from your bestie: 👉 Join the RealHER Inner Circle: https://app.flodesk.com/form/69925a10baefbaf8795580de

  4. Sep 22

    It's Okay to Crash Out. It's Not Okay to Stop.

    I had a full breakdown on a call with my mentor yesterday and I am telling you about it anyway because that is exactly what this show is for. In this episode I am getting completely real about the messy middle I am currently in. Managing five businesses, accidentally launching two of them this year, holding back tears on a mentor call, and realizing that at some point multitasking stops being a superpower and starts being self-abandonment. We are talking about the law of neutralization and why learning to find neutral on both your highest highs and your lowest lows is the single most important skill you can develop when you are in a season of level up. Plus, Georgia Fusco makes her official podcast debut and honestly, she steals the show. It is okay to crash out. It is not okay to stop. And sometimes the crash out is the most important data point you have that something incredible is about to happen. Topics we get into: the crash out as a growth signal, law of neutralization, multitasking vs self-abandonment, managing overwhelm, enjoying the journey not the destination, becoming HER, stop trading short term dopamine for long term triumph New Here? 🩷 Come join us at ⁠therealher.co/society⁠ Stay Connected Follow along: 👉 Podcast IG: ⁠https://instagram.com/therealherpod⁠ 👉 Personal IG: ⁠https://instagram.com/kristina_fusco⁠ Get new episodes delivered straight to your inbox, plus behind the scenes, updates, and a little weekly hype from your bestie: 👉 Join the RealHER Inner Circle: ⁠https://app.flodesk.com/form/69925a10baefbaf8795580de⁠

  5. Sep 15

    Luck Is a Crock of Sh*t

    A friend told me I was the luckiest person she knew and something about it made me want to scream. In this episode I am getting into why luck is a crock of sh*t and why every time you accept that narrative you are shrinking yourself to make other people more comfortable. We are talking about why luck is not a personality trait or a superpower — it is what happens when preparation meets opportunity. I am sharing the full story of how I got to California, how I made myself findable, and why none of it was luck. It was vision, intention, and showing up every single day even when it was hard. The next time someone tells you that you are lucky, you do not have to reject it. But you do not have to accept it as the whole story either. Because you are not just a lucky girl. You are a brave girl who did the work. Maybe you do not need more luck. Maybe you need more clarity, more intention, and more vision. And then you go dream, plan, and do. Topics we get into: luck vs intention, manifestation and action, getting clear on your vision, making yourself findable, betting on yourself, becoming HER, ambition and clarity New Here? 🩷 Come join us at therealher.co/society Stay Connected Follow along: 👉 Podcast IG: https://instagram.com/therealherpod 👉 Personal IG: https://instagram.com/kristina_fusco Get new episodes delivered straight to your inbox, plus behind the scenes, updates, and a little weekly hype from your bestie: 👉 Join the RealHER Inner Circle: https://app.flodesk.com/form/69925a10baefbaf8795580de

  6. Sep 1

    You're Not Incapable. You're Just Unfamiliar.

    Six months in, fresh out of nose surgery, sweating through a Southern California heat wave, and having a full identity crisis. Just a normal Tuesday around here. In this episode I am getting completely real about where I am right now; the uncomfortable, unfamiliar, unsettling season of becoming the next version of myself. We are talking about why the version of you that got you here cannot be the version that carries you further, the difference between arriving and actually thriving, the passed down beliefs about money and success that I am actively unpacking, and the most important reframe I can offer you right now: you are not incapable. You are just unfamiliar. And that changes everything. If you are in a season where you can feel the next version of yourself but cannot quite reach her yet, this one is going to feel like I recorded it just for you. Topics we get into: identity crisis and becoming, arrive mode vs thrive mode, old beliefs about money and success, the identity gap, making decisions aligned with your higher self, choosing your hard, personal development and growth. New Here? 🩷 Come join us at therealher.co/society Stay Connected Follow along: 👉 Podcast IG: https://instagram.com/therealherpod 👉 Personal IG: https://instagram.com/kristina_fusco Get new episodes delivered straight to your inbox, plus behind the scenes, updates, and a little weekly hype from your bestie: 👉 Join the RealHER Inner Circle: https://app.flodesk.com/form/69925a10baefbaf8795580de

  7. Aug 25

    #TBH: Men Make Me Nauseous

    The Bestie Hotline is back and Dallas is back with it for the six month anniversary episode and we almost did not make it because sushi and one glass of wine nearly took us out. In this episode Dallas and I are answering your most honest anonymous submissions and getting into everything from dating app overwhelm and why swiping can feel like shopping for a person, to the butterflies versus anxiety conversation that just will not quit, to the lantern versus floodlight metaphor that stopped us both in our tracks. You only need to see five feet in front of you. You do not need to see the whole path. Just take the next step. We also get into values journaling after a breakup, why talking to men on the apps made me nauseous again in real time, and what to do when you genuinely cannot tell if you like someone or if your nervous system is just doing its thing. Plus Dallas officially gets her third contract terminated. She takes it well. Submit your own question to the Bestie Hotline: https://forms.gle/r8wt33FtayeisN3h7 Topics we get into: dating apps and overwhelm, butterflies vs anxiety, trusting yourself, values after a breakup, dating while healing, becoming HER, female friendship   Not an affiliate but if it tickles your fancy.. Get my Tarot Deck: https://a.co/d/06pq708H Get my Toothpaste: https://a.co/d/0hg1ma0S   New Here? 🩷 Come join us at therealher.co/society Stay Connected Follow along: 👉 Podcast IG: https://instagram.com/therealherpod 👉 Personal IG: https://instagram.com/kristina_fusco Get new episodes delivered straight to your inbox, plus behind the scenes, updates, and a little weekly hype from your bestie: 👉 Join the RealHER Inner Circle: https://app.flodesk.com/form/69925a10baefbaf8795580de

  8. Aug 18

    Are You Actually Healed Enough to Date?

    ⁠ How do you know when you are actually healed enough to date again? In this episode I am getting into one of the most common questions I hear from women who are doing the work: how do I know when I am ready? And the honest answer is that some things you simply cannot heal alone. We are talking about what you CAN heal by yourself, what actually requires another person to heal, why dating is basically physical therapy for your nervous system, and how to learn to love without abandoning yourself in the process. I recorded this episode while personally living every single word of it. Back on the apps for the first time in two years, recovering from surgery, and figuring out how to be a new version of myself in real time. If that is not the most RealHER thing I have ever done I do not know what is. This is the final episode in our August relationship arc. Start with Episode 23 if you are in heartbreak. Come back to this one when you are ready to get back out there. Topics we get into: healing after heartbreak, how to know when you are ready to date, dating after heartbreak, nervous system and relationships, attachment styles, self abandonment in relationships, becoming HER, love and healing   New Here? 🩷 Come join us at ⁠therealher.co/society⁠ Stay Connected Follow along: 👉Podcast IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://instagram.com/therealherpod⁠⁠⁠ 👉Personal IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://instagram.com/kristina_fusco⁠⁠⁠   Get new episodes delivered straight to your inbox, plus behind the scenes, updates, and a little weekly hype from your bestie: 👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠Join the RealHER Inner Circle

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About

If you found this show, I genuinely don't think it was by accident. The RealHER is the podcast for ambitious women who know they want more out of life and are figuring out what the hell that means. Every Tuesday your hype woman and wisest bestie Kristina Fusco gets into the real stuff. The heartbreak and the healing. The identity shifts and the plot twists. The big dreams and the messy beautiful middle of becoming the woman you actually want to be. This is not a highlight reel. This is not a five steps to fix your life situation. This is the conversation you needed to have with your most honest, most loving, most hyped up best friend. The one who has been through it, became HER, and came back to walk you through yours. Real relationships, real success, and a real life you actually love are not just possible for other women. They are waiting for you on the other side of this. New episodes drop every Tuesday. Ready to stop doing this alone and get into the actual room with women who are becoming right alongside you? Come find us at therealher.co/society. Follow along on Instagram at @therealherpod and @kristina_fusco and join the RealHER Inner Circle for new episodes straight to your inbox at the link in our bio.